Janet
Appearances
The Dr. John Delony Show
Dad Slept With My Wife’s Mom (It Ruined Everything)
Hey, John, how are you?
The Dr. John Delony Show
Dad Slept With My Wife’s Mom (It Ruined Everything)
good thank you what's up so my question so i'll tell you a little bit of backstory um so i'm married with kids and my friend is also married with kids she told me through text that she had something she wanted to tell me but was afraid that it was going to ruin our friendship she ended up sharing that she has feelings for me there's nothing on my end um but i'm wondering if i should end our friendship have y'all had an in-person conversation yet
The Dr. John Delony Show
Dad Slept With My Wife’s Mom (It Ruined Everything)
We did. After that initial text, we just drove to a parking lot and we sat there and talked.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Dad Slept With My Wife’s Mom (It Ruined Everything)
For me, it was incredibly awkward and a little bit uncomfortable. She just shared that she's never felt this way about a woman before. She is not sure why she feels attracted to me. I know she went through a really hard time she went through a miscarriage and I was there for her emotionally. I wanted to support her. And so I'm not sure if she's, if she's confusing, um, vulnerability with intimacy.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Dad Slept With My Wife’s Mom (It Ruined Everything)
Like, I'm not sure why she would get her wires crossed and think that there's something there.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Dad Slept With My Wife’s Mom (It Ruined Everything)
Well, I guess I just in my head, I'm like, will it be awkward now? Because like she said, she was worried telling me that would wreck our friendship. And so in my head, I'm like, I don't know that we can remain friends or like that it can go back to normal because now it's like, I know this thing. even though there is no issue on my end.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Dad Slept With My Wife’s Mom (It Ruined Everything)
Right, and then I feel like a jerk if it's like, oh, this fear that you just shared with me that this would end our friendship. Now I'm going to do that thing.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Dad Slept With My Wife’s Mom (It Ruined Everything)
Right, and that's what I don't know is like what was her expectation in telling you that. I would assume you tell somebody that because you would hope they would reciprocate.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Dad Slept With My Wife’s Mom (It Ruined Everything)
I mean, I feel like the right thing would be to end it. I guess I just struggle a lot with being a people pleaser and not wanting to hurt people.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Dad Slept With My Wife’s Mom (It Ruined Everything)
Obviously to say like, I don't feel that way. This is inappropriate. You know, I'm married. This can't continue. And just to cut off communication. And there we go.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Dad Slept With My Wife’s Mom (It Ruined Everything)
Right. I feel like it's also a little bit complicated because her husband is friends with my husband. We all know each other from church. So it's not just I'm ending the friendship with her. It's like it's all over. Um, and so like I told my husband what happened right away. I was like, Oh, Hey, I got this text. This is really odd. Like I was taken aback by it.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Dad Slept With My Wife’s Mom (It Ruined Everything)
And he, you know, I told him we were going to go meet up and talk. Um, but she has not told her husband and I don't know if that's my place. Um, I don't think so. I don't think so. Yeah. Cause I'm like, you know, what if she has a change of heart or she's like, I'm such an idiot. Like I don't want to be responsible for blowing up their marriage.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Dad Slept With My Wife’s Mom (It Ruined Everything)
After I told him that we had gotten together, my friend and I, I just told him what our conversation was. And, and yeah, I, he didn't say like, Oh, you must enter your friendship with her. He was just supportive and, um, it was like, it's good. You guys talked and,
The Dr. John Delony Show
Dad Slept With My Wife’s Mom (It Ruined Everything)
Yeah. I've been friends for a few years. And of course, you know, as girlfriends do, we talk about marriage and life and kids and all the things. And so we're pretty close.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Dad Slept With My Wife’s Mom (It Ruined Everything)
I can. I like to take my time and think about things and not rush to make actions or not be quick to speak. I like to take my time before I do or say something that I might regret. But for her, I think she's kind of pressuring me through text like, hey, what's happening? Where are we? Where do we stand? So I guess I feel pressure from her to make a decision.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Dad Slept With My Wife’s Mom (It Ruined Everything)
Yeah. You're thinking about having that conversation or just, telling her what direction I'd want her friendship to go just makes me like shake inside and makes me want to crumple in a heap on the floor. Yeah. I hate confrontation.