Emma Grede

And so I think the absence of my father in my life is one thing, but I had a lot of really important male influences around me. You know, I had my granddad that was a Big part of my life, my granddad Reg, it's actually his birthday today, which is so crazy that he's coming up in conversation because he does it every day. And then I had like two uncles, Uncle Robbie, Uncle Joe.

And so I think the absence of my father in my life is one thing, but I had a lot of really important male influences around me. You know, I had my granddad that was a Big part of my life, my granddad Reg, it's actually his birthday today, which is so crazy that he's coming up in conversation because he does it every day. And then I had like two uncles, Uncle Robbie, Uncle Joe.

One uncle by marriage, one uncle, my blood uncle. And they were just such... like huge figures in my life and I had such a amazing male role models that I knew exactly what I needed in my life like I never I just I don't feel like I had that emptiness of not having my father around I really it just wasn't my experience anger management where do those roots stem from

One uncle by marriage, one uncle, my blood uncle. And they were just such... like huge figures in my life and I had such a amazing male role models that I knew exactly what I needed in my life like I never I just I don't feel like I had that emptiness of not having my father around I really it just wasn't my experience anger management where do those roots stem from

You know, it's really interesting because I really felt like I was raised in quite a blamey culture. Like everything was somebody else's fault. If you weren't making enough money, if you couldn't make ends meet, like whatever was happening, it was the government's fault, it was that person's fault.

You know, it's really interesting because I really felt like I was raised in quite a blamey culture. Like everything was somebody else's fault. If you weren't making enough money, if you couldn't make ends meet, like whatever was happening, it was the government's fault, it was that person's fault.

It was never about this idea that I've accepted as a kind of a radical part of my life, which is like self-responsibility. Like I truly believe that everything I want, who I am, Anything is within my reach if I choose it to be. But growing up, that really wasn't a... That just wasn't a part of my life. It was very much about what was happening over there and how that affected you.

It was never about this idea that I've accepted as a kind of a radical part of my life, which is like self-responsibility. Like I truly believe that everything I want, who I am, Anything is within my reach if I choose it to be. But growing up, that really wasn't a... That just wasn't a part of my life. It was very much about what was happening over there and how that affected you.

And so it was interesting, actually. I think I just got enraged thinking that... all the possibilities that weren't so obvious to me were the fault of somebody else. And I was, I think, just a bit of a hothead, you know. And what I saw in my family and what I saw around me over and over again was this ability to just kind of like lash out and not deal with things.

And so it was interesting, actually. I think I just got enraged thinking that... all the possibilities that weren't so obvious to me were the fault of somebody else. And I was, I think, just a bit of a hothead, you know. And what I saw in my family and what I saw around me over and over again was this ability to just kind of like lash out and not deal with things.

And I absorbed that as though it was just the default reaction to anything. But I knew pretty early on, I had a really fantastic boyfriend when I was 18, 19, and he was like, your reactions are just not normal. I was like, really? He said, yeah, I think you should try and deal with that. And I did.

And I absorbed that as though it was just the default reaction to anything. But I knew pretty early on, I had a really fantastic boyfriend when I was 18, 19, and he was like, your reactions are just not normal. I was like, really? He said, yeah, I think you should try and deal with that. And I did.

I went like into a community like anger management course and I was like, oh, like there's other ways to deal with this. Like I can breathe through it. I can like find these like tools and techniques and figure out how I can. react differently. And with that, it's going to come a different result. And with that, people will treat me in a different way.

I went like into a community like anger management course and I was like, oh, like there's other ways to deal with this. Like I can breathe through it. I can like find these like tools and techniques and figure out how I can. react differently. And with that, it's going to come a different result. And with that, people will treat me in a different way.

And it was like this insane moment of connection for me. I hadn't connected how my behavior might be impacting a lot of my relationships and what was happening around me. But you don't need to tell me things more than once. I was like, got it. I stayed in the program for like, I don't know, a couple of months.

And it was like this insane moment of connection for me. I hadn't connected how my behavior might be impacting a lot of my relationships and what was happening around me. But you don't need to tell me things more than once. I was like, got it. I stayed in the program for like, I don't know, a couple of months.

And it's something that throughout my life, like therapy in different ways, thankfully not group therapy anymore, but I've remained using therapists in different ways to unlock different things that for me become difficult. And I think about that as like a tool and the way that I grow. And when I had kids, I saw a therapist to really understand like,

And it's something that throughout my life, like therapy in different ways, thankfully not group therapy anymore, but I've remained using therapists in different ways to unlock different things that for me become difficult. And I think about that as like a tool and the way that I grow. And when I had kids, I saw a therapist to really understand like,

how I could be a great parent, how I would think about my own ambition balanced with my parenting. And so it's just something for me that I feel pretty good about using someone else to come and help me figure something out that I'm struggling with.

how I could be a great parent, how I would think about my own ambition balanced with my parenting. And so it's just something for me that I feel pretty good about using someone else to come and help me figure something out that I'm struggling with.