Emilio
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Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
And I've heard you talk about that in relationships as well. You know, when someone is trying to discern at what point should I continue being with this partner or not and really just doing your work because then clarity comes from that place and that aliveness that you're speaking of comes when we're less burdened by all of our stories, our resistance, our judgments.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
And what have you discovered as you've worked through your triggers? Like what's one big belief that somehow has really been hard to unlock?
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
Am I? Okay, good.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
We're here with Alyssa Noriega on her podcast. I have the privilege today of interviewing this incredible human being. I am deeply grateful for all the ways you've touched my life. And I'm excited to get to put you in that chair for a little bit.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
Love it. And it sounds like you've found ways that sort of reshaped your narrative and you were able to use all these other superpowers of yours that were actually now really more aligned with the things that you wanted to be doing. Exactly. How did you... pull at the thread or unravel that misunderstanding that as a young one, you probably bought into, right?
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
This, this idea that you weren't smart. Did you still have to do work around that? Or was it just realizing that you learned differently? Was that enough?
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
Beautiful. Because I know how tough some of those early misunderstandings can be to unravel. And sometimes there's things that happen in our early childhood that just become these huge pivotal moments.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
Is there one that comes forward for you that was just like a big moment in your life?
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
You were close friends.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
So it was not just the social breakup of sort of your core group, but also a physical threat.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
So how does it feel to be on that side?
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
Yeah, I can imagine that being so challenging, particularly at that time. You know, it's probably something that happens to many people in terms of learning, particularly women, I would imagine that shining is not safe. Yep. And I know that you've navigated that and you've had a journey with it even since the time that we've been together where sometimes you have a tendency to want to play small.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
Yep. Just that little girl thinks it's safer.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
How do you navigate that when it feels like all she wants to do is be small, not stand out?
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
Yeah. And one of the things I'd love for you to explore, because I think it's easy to see... When people hear how you navigate through life, it can be like, okay, that sounds great. But I get to see all of you or a lot of you.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
No, no. I guess what I would love you to break down for people is how do you navigate a trigger? How do you navigate when you're upset? Because you make it sound really easy and you make it look really easy.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
Most of the time.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
So how, what happens inside of you?
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
Somatically means in the body.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
Beautiful.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
Well, I do find myself continuously amazed at how you navigate life. Thank you. And I have a front row seat to that. And I'm grateful that we get to share more of that.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
So I'm hearing somatic, emotional, mental, behavioral.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
But you'll access it wherever it's presenting inside of yourself. That's right.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
Where can someone learn more about the sort of the door of somatic, the door of emotional, the door of mental? Because I think there's probably tools in each one of these categories, right?
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
On that note, how do you find yourself navigating things that come up for you, like failure or things of that nature?
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
And sort of relationally, right? Because you get triggered, it's likely someone, you get upset, something happened with someone. Do you first, how much clearing do you do within yourself before you bring it to the other person?
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
And ideally, you do your work before setting that boundary, right?
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
That makes sense. Yeah, we all have our grooves and our go-tos often, right?
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
And sort of, I think, bringing that back, sort of the relational piece of getting upset and then working your process. Yeah. And then you talked about discernment and truth and knowing that truth. Can you give an example? Sometimes knowing your truth is not congruent with your thoughts, right? Like, there's a part that really wants to convince you otherwise.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
How, like, what's an example of you really getting clear on a truth of yours that made no sense, for example?
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
Yeah. Yeah. I think a lot of people are like, well, this is my truth, but I've had it myself with like business opportunities. I was like, this doesn't feel right. And, and there's a lot of convincing evidence, right. Of why, you know, this is so alluring, appealing. Yeah.
Healing + Human Potential
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I can imagine how hard that must have been because the way you speak about him is with so much love. So not having something have to go wrong in order for you to choose a different path. I know that requires a particular kind of inner resolve. How can someone nurture that resolve, nurture that relationship with their clarity?
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
And what's like one of those things that when you look at your life has been most transformative for your journey? Like what are those one of those like nuggets that just transformed your healing?
Healing + Human Potential
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When you speak, it almost makes it seem like there's these two different approaches, right? There's the psychological side. And then there's the, what could be called spiritual, but it's really just sort of almost existential in one way or another. And it sounds like they're both integral or have been integral to your journey.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
And what's one thing that this human character, Alyssa, is still struggling with? Like, what do you find yourself still working through?
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
Warm leads.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
I shouldn't care how I seem.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
So your access point for that one is the somatic.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
By the way, I know nothing about worm leaves. I just, this is symbiosis here from all these years.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
One of the fun practices that I know we've done in the past sometimes is when we're looking for something from someone other than giving it to ourselves, we also have played with imagining what they would tell us, right? Like what did we want to hear? Here's your audience who you feel like, oh, I want to look a certain way. I want to be seen a certain way.
Healing + Human Potential
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What do you want to hear from all of them?
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
This is the audience talking to your little girl, the one that really wants to be seen.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
I do see your life as that, as an invitation, as a way to model what's possible. So I am truly grateful that you get to share in this way.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
Especially given everything that you've shared today around your background of wanting to play small or not thinking that you were smart or good enough and all of a sudden here you are super exposed.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
Thank you.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
I'm very grateful for you.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
I get to benefit a lot from your orientation towards life. When we have something, it's remarkable how quick you are to take your part of responsibility and to not take things personally. And what I'm hearing about failure is you take the information and really the definition of failure, how I'm hearing it from you, is when things don't go as expected.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
And then it's you're either reevaluating your expectations or taking feedback and course-correcting.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
And it's so helpful to hear it because we tend to get the story of people when they've succeeded. And we have a relationship with failure that is... We make it mean something about ourselves so easily. And I'm grateful you're bringing that forward because I've witnessed it with you and how you navigate it. And it feels like it's just like, okay, what next?
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
At what point... Do you say, okay, I need to definitely change directions? Yeah, like... Like, how do you discern when... To keep going? Yeah, keep going, or is this feedback that this is not the right way to go? Yeah. I think people can struggle with that inner decision, right? Totally. Because there's fear, there's all these things involved in there.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
And all of a sudden, this doesn't go as expected. No one stands up. You're standing there like a lone soldier. Stand up. Nobody stands up. If we took that moment, how do you know, oh, there's legs here. I should continue doing this or not.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
When you say work the trigger, what do you mean?
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
I've seen you continuously do versions of that where life seems to reflect where you're at and the moment that you clear something within yourself, which I guess is what you were referring to through working on the trigger first and then honoring your truth.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
It's like the moment that that contraction gets met, then life tends to just show up differently when we're no longer giving the outcome our power.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
Yeah. You said something about when you're in your truth, in this particular lunch, you felt spiritual energy.
Healing + Human Potential
The Truth About Failure: Why It’s the Secret to Success | EP 80
I'm curious, what's the experience of that for you when it happens?