Dwayne
Appearances
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
How we doing? I'm doing good, been better, but I'm doing good right now.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
Absolutely. Thanks for taking my call. I just feel like the vision that my wife and I had for our life has been completely lost. I just want to know how we can start over because it seems like every time we start over, it gets derailed. And how can we get out of the downward cycle of just seems like we're waiting for the next thing to happen when we start our lives over again.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
Me, mostly short-tempered, angry a lot. Her, she feels with the family that I have on my side, she feels just very disconnected, unseen, unheard, not satisfied with how she's parenting the children. It feels like she's a failure all the time. It feels like she's not doing the right things. And partially, you know, that would be the question I travel. So I'm gone 10 months out of the year. Okay.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
Um, and they travel with me about 75% of the time, uh, maybe more depending on where I'm at. We have a, an RV that they, they stay with us. So homeschooled. Um, so there's a lot of moving parts. She's had a lot of, uh, trials in the past. We have, it's, we've, uh, you know, moved her dad onto the property. He wound up committing suicide on the, on our property.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
Um, we've had, uh, very various, uh, my child, oldest child was diagnosed with autism. We moved to Colorado to get ABA therapy, stayed there for three years, moved back. You know, there's just a, while she was out there house sitting, you know, the child that she was house sitting for got ran over by a truck.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
Um, you know, it was, it just seems like a lot of tragedy that seems to just reset us and we have these hopes, but a lot of it is just, you know, me being angry at, uh, the internet, uh, you know, and gaming and, you know, the things that, Um, I can't parent while I'm away. And when I come home, you know, I try to invest in the kids and their gaming.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
And whenever I want to suggest something that, you know, a drag, a, a Willie's Jeep out of my grandpa's basement, you know, Hey, let's go work on such and such and go take it around in the garage. go karts, you know, whatever, just to get them away from the computer.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
It's just, I just feel very deflated every time that I make a eight hour trip home, you know, on the weekend and I come back to work. I just, I just feel like I just can't figure out how to map our life out to get out of what I consider a bad rut.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
Um, and we're about 30,000 from paying the house off and having all of our bills paid off. And then my goal was to like slide back and work, you know, two jobs a year instead of, you know, six. Um, but you know, then that cuts out on retirement and investing in insurance hours and things like that. So it feels just like I can't do one or the other.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
Yeah, we're paying it off this year.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
Uh, I can retire at 55, fairly comfortable. So as far as retire.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
So how would I do that if I would change something? Obviously, they travel with me the majority of the time. This year has been... I say majority. They travel with me 100% of the time. I said 75% of that 10 months, but depending on medical bills or medical appointments and such.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
So how... With my son being, you know, lots of medical bills and my wife, lots of therapy and consistency needed to be around the house, you know, and lots of medical bills with her also. How do I... How do I...
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
make a decent living at the same time, feel like I'm providing healthcare and, you know, all the things without my family having to, you know, do without in this decision that her and I would make, obviously her and I would make it together. So we would have to be okay with it.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
See, I tried doing that a year, two years ago.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
No, I did. Like I quit my job so I could stay home for a year and start a business. And I did. It was kind of a turnkey business. And we wound up, she didn't enjoy, you know, being around the family. She was stir crazy at the house. She didn't like any of the churches that we tried. We had several churches that we went to, you know, I feel like I've tried it once.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
And if I try it again, you know, what's, what's going to make a fair point.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
Yeah. I think she does. And, you know, this is, this is the first time that she's really sat down and been consistent with, Hey, I'm, Hey, I'm staying home. I got to take care of this. You know, I got to get better, you know, so she is trying and I'm just trying to keep up with the funding.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
That's what we found out, you know, the year, year and a half that I had taken off is that we, we do no investing. We do no moving forward on finances. We just pay the bills and it was maddening for both of us.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
Right. That's the only thing I know what I can do.