Dr. Julie Smith

For sure. And it's important for it not to become a kind of source of self-criticism in itself, right? That I judged someone. Ah, I judged someone. Oh, I'm such a bad person. Because like you say, it's part of being human. It's that shortcut that your brain makes for you. It's doing that for you. And there are times when you have to really trust your judgment and use it.

For sure. And it's important for it not to become a kind of source of self-criticism in itself, right? That I judged someone. Ah, I judged someone. Oh, I'm such a bad person. Because like you say, it's part of being human. It's that shortcut that your brain makes for you. It's doing that for you. And there are times when you have to really trust your judgment and use it.

And it's really great for that. You don't want to lose trust in your own ability to judge a situation because then you become really vulnerable to being exploited by other people. You then start to trust other people and their judgments more than your own. It's about kind of being able to trust it, but also not let it dictate impulsively.

And it's really great for that. You don't want to lose trust in your own ability to judge a situation because then you become really vulnerable to being exploited by other people. You then start to trust other people and their judgments more than your own. It's about kind of being able to trust it, but also not let it dictate impulsively.

And it's really great for that. You don't want to lose trust in your own ability to judge a situation because then you become really vulnerable to being exploited by other people. You then start to trust other people and their judgments more than your own. It's about kind of being able to trust it, but also not let it dictate impulsively.

you know let's let's talk about that and so you're you're looking down on that thought process with a bird's eye view so you can kind of see what's going on in your mind

you know let's let's talk about that and so you're you're looking down on that thought process with a bird's eye view so you can kind of see what's going on in your mind

you know let's let's talk about that and so you're you're looking down on that thought process with a bird's eye view so you can kind of see what's going on in your mind

Yeah, do you know, it's a big thing that... And I often get asked about it in kind of work environments as well, in sort of corporate settings, where people are trying to take care of a colleague even.

Yeah, do you know, it's a big thing that... And I often get asked about it in kind of work environments as well, in sort of corporate settings, where people are trying to take care of a colleague even.

Yeah, do you know, it's a big thing that... And I often get asked about it in kind of work environments as well, in sort of corporate settings, where people are trying to take care of a colleague even.

And what happens is people kind of set themselves up on this pedestal of, you know, I need to somehow be a qualified psychologist and say all the right things and get this right, otherwise, you know... And so we kind of... We see ourselves as...

And what happens is people kind of set themselves up on this pedestal of, you know, I need to somehow be a qualified psychologist and say all the right things and get this right, otherwise, you know... And so we kind of... We see ourselves as...

And what happens is people kind of set themselves up on this pedestal of, you know, I need to somehow be a qualified psychologist and say all the right things and get this right, otherwise, you know... And so we kind of... We see ourselves as...

fully responsible for that other person um which is a really difficult place to be isn't it and and so then what happens is because we feel we can't do it perfectly a lot of people pull back and they don't say anything at all and that's when you know we avoid people or something like that

fully responsible for that other person um which is a really difficult place to be isn't it and and so then what happens is because we feel we can't do it perfectly a lot of people pull back and they don't say anything at all and that's when you know we avoid people or something like that

fully responsible for that other person um which is a really difficult place to be isn't it and and so then what happens is because we feel we can't do it perfectly a lot of people pull back and they don't say anything at all and that's when you know we avoid people or something like that

and um and when we talk about kind of supporting people I always say you don't have to be the therapist you don't have to be anything other than yourself because support in the form of you know love kindness compassion just showing someone that you care can be so pivotal for someone and you don't even have to be good at talking or um you know because some people are afraid gosh if I ask about this

and um and when we talk about kind of supporting people I always say you don't have to be the therapist you don't have to be anything other than yourself because support in the form of you know love kindness compassion just showing someone that you care can be so pivotal for someone and you don't even have to be good at talking or um you know because some people are afraid gosh if I ask about this

and um and when we talk about kind of supporting people I always say you don't have to be the therapist you don't have to be anything other than yourself because support in the form of you know love kindness compassion just showing someone that you care can be so pivotal for someone and you don't even have to be good at talking or um you know because some people are afraid gosh if I ask about this