Dr. Julie Smith

When I was dealing with someone who had lots of social anxiety and paranoia, and we had to have a kind of, we call them an MDT, so like a multidisciplinary meeting with all these different professionals that are involved. And they were so frightened about it. And so all we did was we said, okay, here's pen and paper.

Every time someone says something that could be part of the plan moving forward, write it down. So then that person was instead of focusing on what they're thinking of me, what their judgments about me, what am I doing? How am I sitting? They were focused on looking out for the plan and then writing it down. So they had a different focus. That was all. And it changed everything.

Every time someone says something that could be part of the plan moving forward, write it down. So then that person was instead of focusing on what they're thinking of me, what their judgments about me, what am I doing? How am I sitting? They were focused on looking out for the plan and then writing it down. So they had a different focus. That was all. And it changed everything.

Every time someone says something that could be part of the plan moving forward, write it down. So then that person was instead of focusing on what they're thinking of me, what their judgments about me, what am I doing? How am I sitting? They were focused on looking out for the plan and then writing it down. So they had a different focus. That was all. And it changed everything.

how they coped with the situation and it changed how anxious, you know, they still felt anxious, but it just shifts it down a notch. So it's more manageable and you've got something to do with it.

how they coped with the situation and it changed how anxious, you know, they still felt anxious, but it just shifts it down a notch. So it's more manageable and you've got something to do with it.

how they coped with the situation and it changed how anxious, you know, they still felt anxious, but it just shifts it down a notch. So it's more manageable and you've got something to do with it.

Do you know that so much of what happens in a therapeutic environment is shifting from judgment to curiosity? And whether it's with yourself, you know, if you're judging yourself, you're going to make yourself miserable. But also if you're constantly judging yourself.

Do you know that so much of what happens in a therapeutic environment is shifting from judgment to curiosity? And whether it's with yourself, you know, if you're judging yourself, you're going to make yourself miserable. But also if you're constantly judging yourself.

Do you know that so much of what happens in a therapeutic environment is shifting from judgment to curiosity? And whether it's with yourself, you know, if you're judging yourself, you're going to make yourself miserable. But also if you're constantly judging yourself.

outside of yourself you know other people or their interactions then that's going to make both of you miserable because your relationship will be hell as well so a lot of it is shifting from you know acknowledging that judgments arrive because that's what your brain is set up to do to make suggestions and find meaning in things but to kind of park that and shift back to that kind of question mark of

outside of yourself you know other people or their interactions then that's going to make both of you miserable because your relationship will be hell as well so a lot of it is shifting from you know acknowledging that judgments arrive because that's what your brain is set up to do to make suggestions and find meaning in things but to kind of park that and shift back to that kind of question mark of

outside of yourself you know other people or their interactions then that's going to make both of you miserable because your relationship will be hell as well so a lot of it is shifting from you know acknowledging that judgments arrive because that's what your brain is set up to do to make suggestions and find meaning in things but to kind of park that and shift back to that kind of question mark of

How interesting. So, you know, that will happen a lot in therapy where someone feels something or does something and then all of that kind of self-loathing comes forth. Okay, well, let's notice that. Notice how that self-criticism really started to rise up. Let's just shift a minute. Isn't that interesting that that happened? What was going on there?

How interesting. So, you know, that will happen a lot in therapy where someone feels something or does something and then all of that kind of self-loathing comes forth. Okay, well, let's notice that. Notice how that self-criticism really started to rise up. Let's just shift a minute. Isn't that interesting that that happened? What was going on there?

How interesting. So, you know, that will happen a lot in therapy where someone feels something or does something and then all of that kind of self-loathing comes forth. Okay, well, let's notice that. Notice how that self-criticism really started to rise up. Let's just shift a minute. Isn't that interesting that that happened? What was going on there?

Let's ask questions around it and let's understand it more. And when you understand something, the judgment feels less relevant anyway because the judgment is a shortcut, isn't it, to understanding something? It's a quick understanding that doesn't acknowledge a lot of the things that should be acknowledged.

Let's ask questions around it and let's understand it more. And when you understand something, the judgment feels less relevant anyway because the judgment is a shortcut, isn't it, to understanding something? It's a quick understanding that doesn't acknowledge a lot of the things that should be acknowledged.

Let's ask questions around it and let's understand it more. And when you understand something, the judgment feels less relevant anyway because the judgment is a shortcut, isn't it, to understanding something? It's a quick understanding that doesn't acknowledge a lot of the things that should be acknowledged.

For sure. And it's important for it not to become a kind of source of self-criticism in itself, right? That I judged someone. Ah, I judged someone. Oh, I'm such a bad person. Because like you say, it's part of being human. It's that shortcut that your brain makes for you. It's doing that for you. And there are times when you have to really trust your judgment and use it.