Dr. Julie Smith

And I'm on high alert, you know, there's something round the corner and... And you feel like you're overreacting, but it's also, you know, I will hear the babies cry at night first. Then, you know, it's like that part of my brain that's always awake. That happens. But it's how incredible, like how, you know, it's a strength.

And I'm on high alert, you know, there's something round the corner and... And you feel like you're overreacting, but it's also, you know, I will hear the babies cry at night first. Then, you know, it's like that part of my brain that's always awake. That happens. But it's how incredible, like how, you know, it's a strength.

But it does mean that in modern life, like when we all go on the airplane and things like that, I used to love flying. But now it's more of a thing I have to tolerate because we're all on this flight together and...

But it does mean that in modern life, like when we all go on the airplane and things like that, I used to love flying. But now it's more of a thing I have to tolerate because we're all on this flight together and...

But it does mean that in modern life, like when we all go on the airplane and things like that, I used to love flying. But now it's more of a thing I have to tolerate because we're all on this flight together and...

totally yeah because you're less you're you're more selfless so you're kind of focused on their experience and their well-being and and then you know that you can cope with it and and you know when my son was having an operation and i i just wish that i could do it for him and i wouldn't have you know i would have done that in a blink of an eye uh gone through that for him and um so i think

totally yeah because you're less you're you're more selfless so you're kind of focused on their experience and their well-being and and then you know that you can cope with it and and you know when my son was having an operation and i i just wish that i could do it for him and i wouldn't have you know i would have done that in a blink of an eye uh gone through that for him and um so i think

totally yeah because you're less you're you're more selfless so you're kind of focused on their experience and their well-being and and then you know that you can cope with it and and you know when my son was having an operation and i i just wish that i could do it for him and i wouldn't have you know i would have done that in a blink of an eye uh gone through that for him and um so i think

that's some of the strengths of parents is you would you would go through anything for them and you just love that and you would feel much braver in facing it than than before you were a parent i love that parenthood makes you braver yeah how can it makes you more scared at the same time totally yeah i feel like everything about being a parent is like so terrifying paradox what is that paradoxical yeah where it's like you're just like it's it's both extremes at the same time you have more fear and more threat

that's some of the strengths of parents is you would you would go through anything for them and you just love that and you would feel much braver in facing it than than before you were a parent i love that parenthood makes you braver yeah how can it makes you more scared at the same time totally yeah i feel like everything about being a parent is like so terrifying paradox what is that paradoxical yeah where it's like you're just like it's it's both extremes at the same time you have more fear and more threat

that's some of the strengths of parents is you would you would go through anything for them and you just love that and you would feel much braver in facing it than than before you were a parent i love that parenthood makes you braver yeah how can it makes you more scared at the same time totally yeah i feel like everything about being a parent is like so terrifying paradox what is that paradoxical yeah where it's like you're just like it's it's both extremes at the same time you have more fear and more threat

but you have more courage to see you see you through it and actually when we're talking about this sort of um what we call diffusion you know kind of separating yourself from the feeling you do that a lot with thoughts as well so you can kind of say you know if as a parent you have all these kind of catastrophizing thoughts don't you all the worst case scenarios go through your mind the horror stories are always there ready to tell you keep this child safe uh but you you we do kind of thought diffusion in therapy where you go okay uh i notice i'm having thoughts that

but you have more courage to see you see you through it and actually when we're talking about this sort of um what we call diffusion you know kind of separating yourself from the feeling you do that a lot with thoughts as well so you can kind of say you know if as a parent you have all these kind of catastrophizing thoughts don't you all the worst case scenarios go through your mind the horror stories are always there ready to tell you keep this child safe uh but you you we do kind of thought diffusion in therapy where you go okay uh i notice i'm having thoughts that

but you have more courage to see you see you through it and actually when we're talking about this sort of um what we call diffusion you know kind of separating yourself from the feeling you do that a lot with thoughts as well so you can kind of say you know if as a parent you have all these kind of catastrophizing thoughts don't you all the worst case scenarios go through your mind the horror stories are always there ready to tell you keep this child safe uh but you you we do kind of thought diffusion in therapy where you go okay uh i notice i'm having thoughts that

that, you know, he's going to die or he's going to fall ill or he's going to... You know, so you kind of... You precede that thought, that horror story thought, with, I notice I'm having thoughts that... And what you're doing there is you're taking that thought from here... where you can't see anything else, to here, arm's length, where you're going, ah, there's a thought.

that, you know, he's going to die or he's going to fall ill or he's going to... You know, so you kind of... You precede that thought, that horror story thought, with, I notice I'm having thoughts that... And what you're doing there is you're taking that thought from here... where you can't see anything else, to here, arm's length, where you're going, ah, there's a thought.

that, you know, he's going to die or he's going to fall ill or he's going to... You know, so you kind of... You precede that thought, that horror story thought, with, I notice I'm having thoughts that... And what you're doing there is you're taking that thought from here... where you can't see anything else, to here, arm's length, where you're going, ah, there's a thought.

So you can see it for what it is, which is one possible perspective. And then you've got this kind of space to consider other perspectives. Okay, there's the worst case scenario. What's the best case scenario? And what are all those kind of 50 shades in between of the different things that could happen? And so it just takes the power up, because the power of any thought...

So you can see it for what it is, which is one possible perspective. And then you've got this kind of space to consider other perspectives. Okay, there's the worst case scenario. What's the best case scenario? And what are all those kind of 50 shades in between of the different things that could happen? And so it just takes the power up, because the power of any thought...

So you can see it for what it is, which is one possible perspective. And then you've got this kind of space to consider other perspectives. Okay, there's the worst case scenario. What's the best case scenario? And what are all those kind of 50 shades in between of the different things that could happen? And so it just takes the power up, because the power of any thought...