Dr. Julie Smith

I don't know. So I guess it depends on the situation. He's quite a positive, he's an optimist for sure. He's quite a sort of positive person and a problem solver. And in that sense, he quite struggled with that period of uncertainty when I was unwell. because he's a fixer, right? And it's the kind of situation you can't fix. And we've got these bushes at our house.

They're like a box hedging, right? And it's a certain type of hedging. And there's this moth that has come over from somewhere else in the world and has no predators here and it's killing this particular type of head. So these beautiful heads we've got, he's got all these things and he's trying to save the head and he's spraying it with this chemical to kill this moth.

They're like a box hedging, right? And it's a certain type of hedging. And there's this moth that has come over from somewhere else in the world and has no predators here and it's killing this particular type of head. So these beautiful heads we've got, he's got all these things and he's trying to save the head and he's spraying it with this chemical to kill this moth.

They're like a box hedging, right? And it's a certain type of hedging. And there's this moth that has come over from somewhere else in the world and has no predators here and it's killing this particular type of head. So these beautiful heads we've got, he's got all these things and he's trying to save the head and he's spraying it with this chemical to kill this moth.

And he was doing that at the time and I could see him really going for it and he's... you know, trying really hard to kind of save these bushes. And I could see that he was trying to fix something at the time because we couldn't fix the thing. And I could see him getting more and more kind of emotional about it.

And he was doing that at the time and I could see him really going for it and he's... you know, trying really hard to kind of save these bushes. And I could see that he was trying to fix something at the time because we couldn't fix the thing. And I could see him getting more and more kind of emotional about it.

And he was doing that at the time and I could see him really going for it and he's... you know, trying really hard to kind of save these bushes. And I could see that he was trying to fix something at the time because we couldn't fix the thing. And I could see him getting more and more kind of emotional about it.

And, um, uh, so yeah, I think in those situations where something's not fixable, it's probably hard of him because his, he's so proactive and so, um, optimistic that with most things he can find a way through because he'll look for the opportunities rather than the hurdles. Right. And, um, he'll always assume that we can get over the hurdles.

And, um, uh, so yeah, I think in those situations where something's not fixable, it's probably hard of him because his, he's so proactive and so, um, optimistic that with most things he can find a way through because he'll look for the opportunities rather than the hurdles. Right. And, um, he'll always assume that we can get over the hurdles.

And, um, uh, so yeah, I think in those situations where something's not fixable, it's probably hard of him because his, he's so proactive and so, um, optimistic that with most things he can find a way through because he'll look for the opportunities rather than the hurdles. Right. And, um, he'll always assume that we can get over the hurdles.

And he is, you know, trying to, I mean, he's not from a psychology background at all. So he's, Um, in, in some ways I've kind of probably increased his vocab on that kind of thing. Um, so yeah, not really, he's not a kind of an emotional person or, you know, but sometimes that's a good balance, right? Imagine if we were both like therapy types, it would just be awful, wouldn't it?

And he is, you know, trying to, I mean, he's not from a psychology background at all. So he's, Um, in, in some ways I've kind of probably increased his vocab on that kind of thing. Um, so yeah, not really, he's not a kind of an emotional person or, you know, but sometimes that's a good balance, right? Imagine if we were both like therapy types, it would just be awful, wouldn't it?

And he is, you know, trying to, I mean, he's not from a psychology background at all. So he's, Um, in, in some ways I've kind of probably increased his vocab on that kind of thing. Um, so yeah, not really, he's not a kind of an emotional person or, you know, but sometimes that's a good balance, right? Imagine if we were both like therapy types, it would just be awful, wouldn't it?

We'd be, um, talking about how we feel all the time. It's a really nice balance. I think to have someone who's very action focused and proactive and and someone who's much more verbal and, um, kind of insightful. I think we then, we balance each other out a lot. Yeah.

We'd be, um, talking about how we feel all the time. It's a really nice balance. I think to have someone who's very action focused and proactive and and someone who's much more verbal and, um, kind of insightful. I think we then, we balance each other out a lot. Yeah.

We'd be, um, talking about how we feel all the time. It's a really nice balance. I think to have someone who's very action focused and proactive and and someone who's much more verbal and, um, kind of insightful. I think we then, we balance each other out a lot. Yeah.

When you think about it, it makes so much sense for a woman's sensitivity to threat to be heightened when she's had a child, right? Because you're responsible for keeping this little human safe. And so, you know, I see that in that kind of difference between mums and dads sometimes. Certainly between Matt and I, I will see some danger long before everyone else has seen it.

When you think about it, it makes so much sense for a woman's sensitivity to threat to be heightened when she's had a child, right? Because you're responsible for keeping this little human safe. And so, you know, I see that in that kind of difference between mums and dads sometimes. Certainly between Matt and I, I will see some danger long before everyone else has seen it.

When you think about it, it makes so much sense for a woman's sensitivity to threat to be heightened when she's had a child, right? Because you're responsible for keeping this little human safe. And so, you know, I see that in that kind of difference between mums and dads sometimes. Certainly between Matt and I, I will see some danger long before everyone else has seen it.

And I'm on high alert, you know, there's something round the corner and... And you feel like you're overreacting, but it's also, you know, I will hear the babies cry at night first. Then, you know, it's like that part of my brain that's always awake. That happens. But it's how incredible, like how, you know, it's a strength.