Dr. John Delony

And we somehow say, well, then that's bad when it comes to sex.

That's bad when it comes to intimacy.

Sometimes you just make out and fall asleep.

Sometimes you got nine minutes and like, are you in?

I'm in, right?

Yet they all have to be this big extravagant.

And I think that's this performative side of things.

And so if I can't talk to the person that I've made humans with, my wife and I have created people together.

If we can't talk about our money, if we can't talk about, hey, I have a dream for X, Y, or Z. I have a picture of what our life could look like.

If I can't talk about sex with her, then my relationship is not nearly as strong as I want to believe it is.

And so I think it's A, getting the courage to ask myself, hey, what do I want?

And why do I want those things?

And then having the courage to look at somebody that I care about and say, hey, I'm putting this on the table.

And that requires people to choose curiosity over judgment, right?

To ask the question, wow, why do you want that?

Versus that's sick or you're gross.

There's something like, let's engage in a playful, thoughtful, deep conversation that's curious-based instead of judgment-based.

And then we can begin to explore somebody's thing.

And it really takes all of the drama, right?

out of sex.