Devin

All right, so back then, my question was, hey, my wife gave me an ultimatum, have a third baby, or possibly she was walking.

I called in to get a couple of tools from you.

I used a couple of those, but now I'm coming back to the well to see if they have any more knowledge for me as I continue to navigate through this.

You're fantastic, but I find myself in kind of another odd predicament with her, but I'll unpack however you think would be most useful.

So the main point was we got to a point in that discussion over the third baby, but it was really a proxy battle for me kind of capitulating to anything she wants and her going nuclear, so to speak, if she didn't get what she wants.

We got to the end of that, and it came to that sort of lights-up conversation that we had.

And I said, listen, however we got here, you know, the important thing is that I think –

We try to build something new.

So I kind of established I wanted to build something new.

I wanted to put away all of the insecurities, all the issues we had, kind of put those down and just start something new.

And she never really said if she was in or out.

She was very upset in that moment, obviously.

But then a couple of days went by where she was sad.

And since then, she's been normal-ish, but not affectionate.

So it's almost like she's in, but she doesn't want to say she's in because she's still kind of punishing me because she'll never forgive me.

And I don't know how to re-engage it and say, hey, you know, three months ago we had this weird conversation about whether you're going to leave or not.

You never really said if you're leaving.

So it's kind of walking on this anxious eggshells all the time.

Like, are you just going to leave or what's going on?

So honestly, the reason why I haven't brought it up to her again isn't because I'm afraid she said she's going to leave.