Daniel Pink

that say, if only I'd reached out. And to me, one of the big lessons from this research on regret is that if you're at a juncture in your life and you're wondering, should I reach out or should I not reach out? You've answered the question. To me personally, the big takeaway from this huge amount of research is that one should always reach out. What's a foundation regret?

Foundation regret is a regret about not building a stable platform for your life. So if only I hadn't smoked, if only I'd saved more money, if only I'd worked harder in school, if only I'd taken care of my health. And again, these four core regrets tell us what makes a good life. And one of the things that makes a good life is is some amount of stability.

Foundation regret is a regret about not building a stable platform for your life. So if only I hadn't smoked, if only I'd saved more money, if only I'd worked harder in school, if only I'd taken care of my health. And again, these four core regrets tell us what makes a good life. And one of the things that makes a good life is is some amount of stability.

Foundation regret is a regret about not building a stable platform for your life. So if only I hadn't smoked, if only I'd saved more money, if only I'd worked harder in school, if only I'd taken care of my health. And again, these four core regrets tell us what makes a good life. And one of the things that makes a good life is is some amount of stability.

It's hard to have a good life without some amount of stability. Stability gives us a chance to explore. Stability gives us a chance to be a good person. Stability gives us a chance to connect with others.

It's hard to have a good life without some amount of stability. Stability gives us a chance to explore. Stability gives us a chance to be a good person. Stability gives us a chance to connect with others.

It's hard to have a good life without some amount of stability. Stability gives us a chance to explore. Stability gives us a chance to be a good person. Stability gives us a chance to connect with others.

what did i build a stable platform for my life did i take a smart risk did i do the right thing did i connect with people who i care about and who care about me those are the things that those are the kinds of regrets that we should anticipate but what color sweater we're going to wear what we're going to have for dinner what kind of car we're going to buy ultimately doesn't matter and so i think that what's interesting about regret this this negative emotion is how clarifying it is

what did i build a stable platform for my life did i take a smart risk did i do the right thing did i connect with people who i care about and who care about me those are the things that those are the kinds of regrets that we should anticipate but what color sweater we're going to wear what we're going to have for dinner what kind of car we're going to buy ultimately doesn't matter and so i think that what's interesting about regret this this negative emotion is how clarifying it is

what did i build a stable platform for my life did i take a smart risk did i do the right thing did i connect with people who i care about and who care about me those are the things that those are the kinds of regrets that we should anticipate but what color sweater we're going to wear what we're going to have for dinner what kind of car we're going to buy ultimately doesn't matter and so i think that what's interesting about regret this this negative emotion is how clarifying it is

It instructs us for what makes a good life.

It instructs us for what makes a good life.

It instructs us for what makes a good life.

Yeah. You don't want to be riddled. You want to be poked a little bit. You don't want it to be a heavy blanket. But here's the thing. I mean, truly, there's a famous study from 40 years ago. where a social scientist named Susan Shimanoff looked at recorded conversations with lots and lots of people. So she recorded all these conversations that people were having organically in their world.

Yeah. You don't want to be riddled. You want to be poked a little bit. You don't want it to be a heavy blanket. But here's the thing. I mean, truly, there's a famous study from 40 years ago. where a social scientist named Susan Shimanoff looked at recorded conversations with lots and lots of people. So she recorded all these conversations that people were having organically in their world.

Yeah. You don't want to be riddled. You want to be poked a little bit. You don't want it to be a heavy blanket. But here's the thing. I mean, truly, there's a famous study from 40 years ago. where a social scientist named Susan Shimanoff looked at recorded conversations with lots and lots of people. So she recorded all these conversations that people were having organically in their world.

So college students and married couples, and then she got transcripts of all these conversations and then she started counting the emotions that people regret, the emotions that people expressed in these everyday ordinary conversations. The most common negative emotion that people expressed was regret. It was the second most common emotion of any kind.

So college students and married couples, and then she got transcripts of all these conversations and then she started counting the emotions that people regret, the emotions that people expressed in these everyday ordinary conversations. The most common negative emotion that people expressed was regret. It was the second most common emotion of any kind.

So college students and married couples, and then she got transcripts of all these conversations and then she started counting the emotions that people regret, the emotions that people expressed in these everyday ordinary conversations. The most common negative emotion that people expressed was regret. It was the second most common emotion of any kind.

The only emotion mentioned more often than regret was love. And so why do we experience love? Because it helps us survive and get through the day. Why do we experience regret? Because it instructs and it clarifies. And if we get past this stupid idea that I should have no regrets, we can actually use this transformative emotion to find the path to a life well-lived.