Daniel Pink

reframing it through self-compassion, disclosing it because we know the benefits of disclosure and sense-making are vast, and then also taking a step back and extracting a lesson from it gives us a way to take this spear of negativity and turn it into something positive.

reframing it through self-compassion, disclosing it because we know the benefits of disclosure and sense-making are vast, and then also taking a step back and extracting a lesson from it gives us a way to take this spear of negativity and turn it into something positive.

reframing it through self-compassion, disclosing it because we know the benefits of disclosure and sense-making are vast, and then also taking a step back and extracting a lesson from it gives us a way to take this spear of negativity and turn it into something positive.

Oh, interesting. That's very interesting. Okay, so there are distinctions here. And I'll tell you how I got some insight into this, is that I went out and collected about 16,000 regrets from people in 105 countries. This incredible trove of human longing and aspiration. And one of the things that people regret, it turns out around the world, people regret the same four things over and over again.

Oh, interesting. That's very interesting. Okay, so there are distinctions here. And I'll tell you how I got some insight into this, is that I went out and collected about 16,000 regrets from people in 105 countries. This incredible trove of human longing and aspiration. And one of the things that people regret, it turns out around the world, people regret the same four things over and over again.

Oh, interesting. That's very interesting. Okay, so there are distinctions here. And I'll tell you how I got some insight into this, is that I went out and collected about 16,000 regrets from people in 105 countries. This incredible trove of human longing and aspiration. And one of the things that people regret, it turns out around the world, people regret the same four things over and over again.

And one of those categories was sort of what you're hinting at, which is moral regrets, where you're at a juncture. You could do the right thing. You could do the wrong thing. And you do the wrong thing and you regret it. Now, what I found is that while there's some people who kind of sort of regret getting caught, There are more people who regret the act itself.

And one of those categories was sort of what you're hinting at, which is moral regrets, where you're at a juncture. You could do the right thing. You could do the wrong thing. And you do the wrong thing and you regret it. Now, what I found is that while there's some people who kind of sort of regret getting caught, There are more people who regret the act itself.

And one of those categories was sort of what you're hinting at, which is moral regrets, where you're at a juncture. You could do the right thing. You could do the wrong thing. And you do the wrong thing and you regret it. Now, what I found is that while there's some people who kind of sort of regret getting caught, There are more people who regret the act itself.

I have literally hundreds of people in my database who regret bullying kids when they were young, 20 years ago, 30 years ago, 40 years ago. I have one that really sticks in my head is a 71-year-old woman in New Jersey who regretted stealing candy from a store when she was a kid 60 years ago. I have huge numbers of regrets about infidelity.

I have literally hundreds of people in my database who regret bullying kids when they were young, 20 years ago, 30 years ago, 40 years ago. I have one that really sticks in my head is a 71-year-old woman in New Jersey who regretted stealing candy from a store when she was a kid 60 years ago. I have huge numbers of regrets about infidelity.

I have literally hundreds of people in my database who regret bullying kids when they were young, 20 years ago, 30 years ago, 40 years ago. I have one that really sticks in my head is a 71-year-old woman in New Jersey who regretted stealing candy from a store when she was a kid 60 years ago. I have huge numbers of regrets about infidelity.

And in many cases, these are people who actually didn't get caught. What they really regret is the act itself. And I find that this category of moral regrets is powerful and revealing because it suggests to me that most people actually want to be good. And that's the other thing about regret that I find so fascinating and looking at this incredible trove of regrets.

And in many cases, these are people who actually didn't get caught. What they really regret is the act itself. And I find that this category of moral regrets is powerful and revealing because it suggests to me that most people actually want to be good. And that's the other thing about regret that I find so fascinating and looking at this incredible trove of regrets.

And in many cases, these are people who actually didn't get caught. What they really regret is the act itself. And I find that this category of moral regrets is powerful and revealing because it suggests to me that most people actually want to be good. And that's the other thing about regret that I find so fascinating and looking at this incredible trove of regrets.

That is, we understand what people regret the most. We actually understand what they value the most. And so this negative emotion actually points the way to what people think makes life worth living. And one of the things that people want out of life, not every single person, but what a lot of people want out of life is actually to be good.

That is, we understand what people regret the most. We actually understand what they value the most. And so this negative emotion actually points the way to what people think makes life worth living. And one of the things that people want out of life, not every single person, but what a lot of people want out of life is actually to be good.

That is, we understand what people regret the most. We actually understand what they value the most. And so this negative emotion actually points the way to what people think makes life worth living. And one of the things that people want out of life, not every single person, but what a lot of people want out of life is actually to be good.

It's a really, really important and interesting question because there's a difference between regret and disappointment. With regret, you have agency over it. So in this case, for these moral regrets, people had agency over the act. You don't necessarily have control over whether you get caught or not. You know, it could be that you're disappointed that you got caught rather than you're regretful.

It's a really, really important and interesting question because there's a difference between regret and disappointment. With regret, you have agency over it. So in this case, for these moral regrets, people had agency over the act. You don't necessarily have control over whether you get caught or not. You know, it could be that you're disappointed that you got caught rather than you're regretful.