Daniel Pink

Absolutely right. Regret is one of our most common emotions. Everybody has it, as we were talking about just a moment ago. But it's also our most instructive and transformative emotion. And the problem is, is that if we say, I never look backward, I don't have any regrets. We're not going to learn anything. Now, at the same time, if we say, oh, my God, I have regrets. I'm completely debilitated.

Absolutely right. Regret is one of our most common emotions. Everybody has it, as we were talking about just a moment ago. But it's also our most instructive and transformative emotion. And the problem is, is that if we say, I never look backward, I don't have any regrets. We're not going to learn anything. Now, at the same time, if we say, oh, my God, I have regrets. I'm completely debilitated.

And you try to exonerate yourself from any responsibility to do anything. That's also bad. What we need to do is we need to take a systematic approach to our regrets. And none of us have really been taught to do that.

And you try to exonerate yourself from any responsibility to do anything. That's also bad. What we need to do is we need to take a systematic approach to our regrets. And none of us have really been taught to do that.

And you try to exonerate yourself from any responsibility to do anything. That's also bad. What we need to do is we need to take a systematic approach to our regrets. And none of us have really been taught to do that.

Yeah, well, you got it exactly right. So what we need to do is we need to use regrets as a signal, as the universe telling us something. And if we think about our regrets, if we recognize that these feelings are for thinking, we can use them to— I mean, the evidence is overwhelming in 50 years of research. We can use them to make better decisions. We can use them to become better negotiators.

Yeah, well, you got it exactly right. So what we need to do is we need to use regrets as a signal, as the universe telling us something. And if we think about our regrets, if we recognize that these feelings are for thinking, we can use them to— I mean, the evidence is overwhelming in 50 years of research. We can use them to make better decisions. We can use them to become better negotiators.

Yeah, well, you got it exactly right. So what we need to do is we need to use regrets as a signal, as the universe telling us something. And if we think about our regrets, if we recognize that these feelings are for thinking, we can use them to— I mean, the evidence is overwhelming in 50 years of research. We can use them to make better decisions. We can use them to become better negotiators.

We can use them to become better problem solvers, better strategists, find greater meaning in our lives. And, you know, in looking at this 50 years of science, I do think there is a relatively simple three-step process that we can all enlist to use our regrets not to hobble us and not to for us to ignore them, but to actually enlist them to lead a better life.

We can use them to become better problem solvers, better strategists, find greater meaning in our lives. And, you know, in looking at this 50 years of science, I do think there is a relatively simple three-step process that we can all enlist to use our regrets not to hobble us and not to for us to ignore them, but to actually enlist them to lead a better life.

We can use them to become better problem solvers, better strategists, find greater meaning in our lives. And, you know, in looking at this 50 years of science, I do think there is a relatively simple three-step process that we can all enlist to use our regrets not to hobble us and not to for us to ignore them, but to actually enlist them to lead a better life.

First of all, we've got to reframe the... Number one, reframe your view of yourself in our regrets. A lot of times we beat up on ourselves for making mistakes or having regrets. Instead, what you should do is show yourself what's called self-compassion, which is to treat yourself with the same kindness you would treat everybody else and to realize that your regrets are part of the human condition.

First of all, we've got to reframe the... Number one, reframe your view of yourself in our regrets. A lot of times we beat up on ourselves for making mistakes or having regrets. Instead, what you should do is show yourself what's called self-compassion, which is to treat yourself with the same kindness you would treat everybody else and to realize that your regrets are part of the human condition.

First of all, we've got to reframe the... Number one, reframe your view of yourself in our regrets. A lot of times we beat up on ourselves for making mistakes or having regrets. Instead, what you should do is show yourself what's called self-compassion, which is to treat yourself with the same kindness you would treat everybody else and to realize that your regrets are part of the human condition.

Step two, you want to disclose your regret. This is a huge thing. Disclosing our regrets relieves the burden, but even more than that, when we take this amorphous negative feeling and convert it into words, those words are less fearsome. we begin to make sense of it. So you want to reframe it, you want to disclose it, and then you want to extract a lesson from it.

Step two, you want to disclose your regret. This is a huge thing. Disclosing our regrets relieves the burden, but even more than that, when we take this amorphous negative feeling and convert it into words, those words are less fearsome. we begin to make sense of it. So you want to reframe it, you want to disclose it, and then you want to extract a lesson from it.

Step two, you want to disclose your regret. This is a huge thing. Disclosing our regrets relieves the burden, but even more than that, when we take this amorphous negative feeling and convert it into words, those words are less fearsome. we begin to make sense of it. So you want to reframe it, you want to disclose it, and then you want to extract a lesson from it.

And a good way to do that is to take a step back. Think about how you're going to feel about this situation in 10 years, or even better, ask yourself, what would you tell your best friend to do with this regret? And so this systematic process of

And a good way to do that is to take a step back. Think about how you're going to feel about this situation in 10 years, or even better, ask yourself, what would you tell your best friend to do with this regret? And so this systematic process of

And a good way to do that is to take a step back. Think about how you're going to feel about this situation in 10 years, or even better, ask yourself, what would you tell your best friend to do with this regret? And so this systematic process of