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Appearances
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
Leviticus 22. And the body of Christ was buried. Brandon, it's not that funny, Brandon. It's not that funny, Brandon. Come on. I'm just saying, when you guys are throwing Bible quotes at each other.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
When they're like, I didn't come yet. I'd be like, hit it. Hit it, Adina.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
He offered her a glass of red wine. Yeah, whatever. He said it went white.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
Are you fucking crazy?
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
But he did his shit after he made it.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
Trying to find a way to say that without it seeming too crude. But, you know what I mean? Not, like, in an aggressive way. But just a little hawk to it.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
And I did it, and I remember, like, by kissing, I, like, spit a little saliva in her mouth. And I remember she just went, what the fuck did you just spit out there? You destroyed the mood. Never recovered from that.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
No. You can't put the phlegm. I didn't know you were supposed to let it drop. It can't be the phlegm.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
No way.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
Yeah. Half a bacon egg and cheese in the girl's mouth. She's still chewing on it. I know.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
Like I got a perfectly clean ass for one time in my life. No dingleberries, nothing.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
Charlemagne got a full Brazilian from the top.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
He'd barbecue. And asshole. Yeah.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
No, no, no, no, no, no.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
You got a bunch of guys with yarmulkes and the girls moving their shit around. Do they take them right from the West Bank? They're good at moving people's shit out of their house. They're the experts. They'll get you out in 30 minutes. Dove's not here for this convo. Dove left the room immediately.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
Now, to get him to do that, we went through, like, ten different takes. Also, Dove is so adorable because, like, there's this moment for the cutaway, and he's like...
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
That's one way of doing it. You know what I mean? We put them in a camp. They just let them go to Central Asia. That's kind of nice.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
Am I like shocked?
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
Yeah. We should do that and just get the reaction.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
Shout out Tory Lanez, bro. Tory, we need you on the pod.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
Yeah. Y'all were right about that.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
All right, then control it, man.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
Whoa, whoa, whoa. How fucking dare you? They go DEI, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah. How dare you? White people love DEI when it's for white people. That shit is so gay.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
This shit is so pussy. That's the blackest thing he does. He got 13 baby mamas all suing him. Black people are like, nah, nah, he's fit. I like this guy.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
Don't fucking cry on Twitter about the Jews.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
Are you from New York or not? Then do that! Do that and don't talk about it on the podcast.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
Just straight walking off, baby. Son, Kim Kardashian done that shit. Oh, okay. You know what I mean?
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
And Vietnamese titties?
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
That's the true thing. Yo, you know what's crazy? I don't want to hear about your wife. No, not my wife or his wife. It's women in general.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
Why isn't she going for mine? Scraggly's on mine.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
That's such a dickhead. No, no, I think Miles is under 200 pounds. Get the scale!
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
Blacked out.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Is DOGE Saving America? Matt Damon is a Hero, & Steve Smith Sr. Is a Demon
damn because you're not married okay because you're not married at least i ain't gonna get cheated on you still get to be like we weren't even together i didn't even know that girl i didn't even know her who is that's my side piece wasn't steve smith doing a pod at wtf
PBD Podcast
Trump's Biden Bombshell: Pardons Are VOID & VACANT | PBD Podcast | Ep. 562
party of inaction the Democrats have failed to protect the interests of the American people and you know why you know Dems suck at messaging because they never talking about nothing and they do nothing so guess what to me they all got to go like like Dems don't just have a messaging problem they got a leadership problem the Chuck Schumer's of the world the Hakeem Jeffries they should all stop step down and any Dem who isn't fighting for the people and standing with the party should be primary like how can you say the bill sucks but you're passing it anyway
PBD Podcast
Trump's Biden Bombshell: Pardons Are VOID & VACANT | PBD Podcast | Ep. 562
Like, you're not going to even try it and, you know, present something different. Try it and negotiate nothing? Call him Leonard. It sucks, but we're going to pass it anyway.
PBD Podcast
Trump's Biden Bombshell: Pardons Are VOID & VACANT | PBD Podcast | Ep. 562
What's the point of voting for them? Literally.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Trump Threatens Third Term, Admin Admits Deportation Mistake
Yeah, I'm not feeling too inspired by business. I'm not too inspired by business casual Morpheus, okay? You take the blue pill, nothing changes. You take the red pill, nothing changes, but with cherry flavor. And pay less Obama's counterpart in the Senate? Eh, he's somehow even less inspiring.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Trump Threatens Third Term, Admin Admits Deportation Mistake
Schumer is not the man with a plan to fight Trump. Shit, he ain't the man with a plan for a good Cinco de Mayo. It's not my job to say that any particular candidates need to be primaried and thrown out of office, but Hakeem Jeffries and Chuck Schumer need to be primaried and thrown out of office. Yeah. So, yeah. Maybe Democratic leaders in Congress ain't it.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Trump Threatens Third Term, Admin Admits Deportation Mistake
What if we look outside of Washington to the governors? Gavin Newsom from California. He's been getting active lately. What's his fight plan?
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Trump Threatens Third Term, Admin Admits Deportation Mistake
I don't believe you. Your body doesn't even believe the words you're saying. None of your words match your motion. Like Gavin just feels phony. All right. Feels less like you're going to lead a revolution and more like you're going to sell me pills for natural male enhancement. Fortunately, there are people on the left really willing to put up a fight, though.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Trump Threatens Third Term, Admin Admits Deportation Mistake
That's right. That's right. That was the homie Jasmine Crockett, a U.S. representative and social justice warrior with less filter than a palm oil. OK. She did get into a little trouble for some recent comments about the Texas governor, Greg Abbott. And to appreciate this next clip, all you need to know is he's a far right bigot who happens to use a wheelchair.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Trump Threatens Third Term, Admin Admits Deportation Mistake
Hey, man, when they go low, Jasmine slashes the tires on their wheelchairs, okay? And you know Republicans are scared of Democrats stooping to their level because conservatives were big fake mad.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Trump Threatens Third Term, Admin Admits Deportation Mistake
Excuse me? Donald Trump is going to lecture someone about tasteless jokes? MAGA complaining that a Democrat is ableist is like Quentin Tarantino telling me I use the N-word too much. Nigga, please, okay? I'm not saying Democrats need to be offensive like Trump is. Just show any kind of authenticity and fight, all right? That's why people are cheering Cory Booker today. Yeah, yeah.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Trump Threatens Third Term, Admin Admits Deportation Mistake
And that's why Bernie Sanders and AOC are turning out huge crowds at rallies all across the country. Yes. I just hope it's enough, because right now, the Democratic Party brand is so whack, it almost doesn't matter who runs. A D beside their name makes even great candidates seem bad. Voters are like a college student halfway through her first year at Bryn Mawr.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Trump Threatens Third Term, Admin Admits Deportation Mistake
She just doesn't want that D no more, okay? Democrats just need to fight back. And whether that looks like filibustering on the Senate floor, rattling across the country, or getting in a roast battle with a wheelchair-bound senior citizen, you got to take that fight. But that's just my opinion.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Trump Threatens Third Term, Admin Admits Deportation Mistake
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The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Trump Threatens Third Term, Admin Admits Deportation Mistake
This is unbelievable. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. A Democrat actually doing something. Wow. Wow. That's the longest someone's held Congress captive since January 6th. I mean, yeah. I mean, so far he's only talking, but he's talking a lot, so I'll take it, okay? What Booker did today is like the political version of phone sex.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Trump Threatens Third Term, Admin Admits Deportation Mistake
It's not as good as the real thing, but it's a hell of a lot better than nothing. That's right. And nothing is what it seems like the Democratic Party has been doing for the last three months. The Democrats are like Jason Momoa in between Aquaman movies.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Trump Threatens Third Term, Admin Admits Deportation Mistake
Democrats are about as popular as an album of RFK Jr. covering Adele. I set fire to my brain. Isn't there anyone who can save this party?
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Trump Threatens Third Term, Admin Admits Deportation Mistake
Isn't there anybody else who can save this party? Look, I know there are some people that think Joe Biden should help rebuild because as the most recent president, he is the de facto leader of the party. And to those people, I'd like to say, Hunter, lay off the crack, OK? I thought Biden was an OK president. It's not his fault his brain reached his term limit before he did.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Trump Threatens Third Term, Admin Admits Deportation Mistake
But he's not the future of the party. So who's supposed to be the leaders? Well, in Congress, you've got two people. The first one is this guy, House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Gaza Backtrack, Trans Sports Ban, Garden of American Heroes | Ke Huy Quan
Kick him out, vote him out, hide their life alert, make him walk down whatever stairs Mitch McConnell uses. I don't care. It just needs to change, all right? Please tell me there are some young Democrats who can speak clearly on this. What do we need? What do we need? Some subtitles for starters. Did Joe Biden sneeze and give all of you dementia? You know what? Forget the Democrats.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Gaza Backtrack, Trans Sports Ban, Garden of American Heroes | Ke Huy Quan
And let me talk to Republican politicians for a second. I get you want to cut government spending down to the bone, but remember, Musk isn't just coming for poor kids that you don't care about. He's coming for your red states. He's coming for Medicare, Medicaid, farm subsidies. There is no community in America this won't impact.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Gaza Backtrack, Trans Sports Ban, Garden of American Heroes | Ke Huy Quan
It's not a black thing, a white thing, a gay thing, a straight thing, a spit on that thing thing. White conservatives, I expect more from you, okay? You're just gonna roll over and let an African colonize you? Apparently they are.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Gaza Backtrack, Trans Sports Ban, Garden of American Heroes | Ke Huy Quan
You're supposed to care, okay? Even if you don't care, that's right. Even if you don't care about we the people, don't you care about your own power? Congress is supposed to control spending, and Trump is letting Musk do it while you watch. Elon is constitutionally cucking you, all right? I need you to give Musk the same energy you give George Soros.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Gaza Backtrack, Trans Sports Ban, Garden of American Heroes | Ke Huy Quan
You've been talking all that nonsense about evil billionaires with Jewish space lasers. Elon's got real space lasers, okay? And Elon's poll numbers with Republicans are already crashing. But don't forget, they can't vote him out of office, but they can vote you out of office. Yeah, that's right. You think Elon cares about blowing up your political future? This man blows up his own rockets for fun.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Gaza Backtrack, Trans Sports Ban, Garden of American Heroes | Ke Huy Quan
So Republicans, I know it's tough to stand up to Trump and Musk right now, but our democracy and your jobs depend on it. So if you don't want the mob turning on you, you need to act like a 19-year-old tech bro and grow some big balls. But that's just my opinion.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Gaza Backtrack, Trans Sports Ban, Garden of American Heroes | Ke Huy Quan
All right. All right. All right. For the last year or so, people like me have been running around tearing our hair out, saying Donald Trump is going to destroy democracy. Yeah, I tore my hair out. What do you think happened to it? But three weeks into Trump part two, I don't think he's going to destroy democracy anymore. I think he's already done it. The oligarchy is already here.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Gaza Backtrack, Trans Sports Ban, Garden of American Heroes | Ke Huy Quan
I haven't seen CEOs this happy since they caught Luigi at that McDonald's. Yeah. And now Trump has handed over the keys to the whole government. The Elon Musk. Yeah, that's right. Elon Musk, world's richest man child, the guy who innovated rockets and really innovated hand waving. And Musk is already doing so much to damage America that ISIS is getting FOMO.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Gaza Backtrack, Trans Sports Ban, Garden of American Heroes | Ke Huy Quan
Yeah, yeah. Elon is stripping the federal government like it's Kanye's wife at the Grammys. If you think about it, Elon is the Kanye of the government. An egomaniac. No, he's an egomaniac coasting off early success who is way more into Hitler than you would have thought. Yeah.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Gaza Backtrack, Trans Sports Ban, Garden of American Heroes | Ke Huy Quan
Somehow Trump demanded we get rid of DEI, then gave the job of co-president to an unqualified, unelected African immigrant. This country isn't supposed to be run by incompetent foreigners. It's supposed to be run by incompetent Americans. I can't believe I'm saying this during Black History Month, but Elon, go back to Africa. And take your little minions, too.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Gaza Backtrack, Trans Sports Ban, Garden of American Heroes | Ke Huy Quan
Big Balls. This is how I know Elon is running with a crew of virgins. I never met anyone who's really in the balls, okay? No one's like, send me a scrotum pick and get that dick out of the way, all right? I want to see what those balls do. I need a man hung like a beanbag chair. Pause. How are you going to put 19 to 24-year-olds in the driver's seat, all right?
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Gaza Backtrack, Trans Sports Ban, Garden of American Heroes | Ke Huy Quan
They're not even old enough to rent a car. Maybe it's just me, but I don't want the people destroying the government to only know Andre 3000 is the flute guy. Yeah. So we're in some dark times, people. I just hope the Democrats are organizing an effective opposition to all this. Show them what you're made of, Dems.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Gaza Backtrack, Trans Sports Ban, Garden of American Heroes | Ke Huy Quan
You're unwinding with a pink drink in the middle of the game. Motherfucker, get some amphetamines and get back on the field. Okay? Come on, man. You got Elon out here pumped up on Mars juice and ketamine and you're out here having a sea breeze? Get in this fight, Dems. Your mascot is a donkey. Donkey punch these motherfuckers. a rally or something.
The Daily Show: Ears Edition
Gaza Backtrack, Trans Sports Ban, Garden of American Heroes | Ke Huy Quan
Okay, see, see, see, now I need a pink drink. I need something to sip on. Lord have mercy. Yeah. This entire generation of them leadership has got to go, man. All right? One of those guys had a pimp cane and he still didn't seem tough. You know how hard that is? He'd be the first pimp where his hoes slap him, all right?
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
Um, simply because I'm, you know, I'm not, I'm not a fan. And, you know, I don't think that, uh, you know, an endorsement, like people think that me not wanting to endorse means that I'm not voting, which I think is the strangest, strangest thing ever. There was another moment in that conversation where I even said, hey, that's third party candidates.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
Whoopi told me she'll beat my behind if I bring up, you know. third party candidate. So I just think it's kind of strange where we are as a culture and as a society, where it's almost like there's either one of two extremes.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
And if you're a person who just, you know, simply chooses to be objective, simply, you know, chooses to look at, you know, both candidates and say, Hey, I think there's some right things here. There's some wrong things there. There's some good things here. There's some, you know, good things over here. Like just me being able to explore, uh, Both options are all options that are out there.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
For some reason, it bothers people. And I don't understand why.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
I mean, I've looked at all of them. I've looked at RFK. I've looked at Marianne Williamson. I've looked at Cornel West. Like, I've looked at all of them. I've been looking at third parties since, you know, 2016. Like, you know, like 2016, people would say we didn't have the best options, right? But I felt like Hillary Clinton was, you know, overly qualified to be president.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
But it's not like I didn't explore everything. I explored everything. After President Obama, I explored everything. I explored conservatives. I explored the Green Party. I explored Democrats. I feel like that's what you should do as an American citizen. I don't think the two-party system has been the best thing for us here in America.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
And I don't think there's anything wrong with exploring everything. I'm actually shocked that there hasn't been a third-party candidate that's been able to come along and like... really galvanize people, especially being that America seems to be, you know, so disappointed in the choices that we have now.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
I think people, I don't know if people are necessarily, and I see the numbers, like I think I said, what, 22% of people, 22% of black people may vote for Donald Trump. I think that number's overstated a little bit, but my guy, Tim Ryan, you know, who used to be a congressman in Ohio, Tim Ryan always, well, senator in Ohio, I'm sorry. Tim Ryan used to always, he talks about the exhausted majority.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
And I think that's what most people are in this country. We're the exhausted majority. So it's not even just about being tired of, you know, Democrats or being tired of Republicans. People are just tired of politics, period. You know, and I think that's what you're seeing a lot of now. Like even, you know, having the conversation about, you know, who I'm choosing to vote for.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
Listen, I've said it over and over what I think about both candidates. Right. And it's it's only me. I don't know what's going to happen between now and November. I don't think much is going to change. But if these people want people to be if these parties want people to be more energized about their candidates, maybe they should just run better candidates. I don't think it's rocket science.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
No, not on that aspect. I always knew that I was... you know, here to do something. I always felt that in my spirit. I used to be in my grandmother's yard in Moncks Corner, South Carolina, and the field, like, there used to be a field in front of her yard that used to separate my grandmother's house and, like, my cousin Gloria's house.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
Back when I was smaller, the field seemed so big, but it's actually not that big. But I used to always be acting like I was on a stage, and I used to be acting like, you know, I was performing. And it was always like I was in a rock band. And then as I got older, it was like I was a rapper. So I always knew that I was... supposed to be delivering some kind of message.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
And this is, might sound kind of crazy to some people, but I remember meeting a medium back in 2006. And, you know, he, he said to me, he goes, you know, he was just talking to me and he said, you know, you're going to achieve a lot of your goals relatively easy, but I just want you to know that, you know, when you get the way you're supposed to go, you're here to deliver a message.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
And that same medium told me that he saw like a microphone in my future. And he was talking about radio and he said, he, He was naming different radio personalities. And it was not spooky at the time, but it was just like, hmm. He even told me I was going to have a daughter. And that was in 2006. I didn't have my first daughter until 2008. So long story short, I always knew.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
I don't know if you call it brave. I think that we lack self-awareness, man. And I think that one of the main reasons that, you know, a lot of people just aren't being honest with themselves, which is why the book is called Get Honest or Die Lying, is because it's so easy to be real with other people, but it's so hard to be real with yourself.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
And, you know, they have all of these cliche terms, like, I keep it real. But usually, the people who keep it real can only do that with others. But man, when that mirror gets in front of them, it's very hard for them to have those super honest conversations with they self. And my whole life, that's what I've challenged myself to be, just honest.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
Because my dad used to always tell me something when I was young. He was like, man, when you lie to me, you're not lying to me. You're lying to yourself. And that's something that just always stuck with me. And you can kind of tell the people who are lying to their self in our society. And I went away on a spiritual retreat earlier this year, me and my wife.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
And one of the things that came up for me during that time away was stop lying to yourself and stop volunteering those lies to other people. And that's literally what I wrote this book for. I wrote this book for people to stop lying to themselves and stop volunteering those lies to other people.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
Powerful words. Whoever that was who wrote that, they remixed Michael Jackson, Man in the Mirror. I just want you to know I'm talking about the man in the mirror.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
I'm asking him to change his way. That's all that is. But whoever wrote that is absolutely positively true. The hardest thing for us to do is look in the mirror every day and be honest with ourselves. And I literally challenge myself every day. I wake up every day. And before I'm honest with anybody else,
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
before I'm telling anybody else about, you know, what I think they may be doing wrong, or if I give them compliments on what they're doing right, I talk to myself first. Like, you know, that inner voice in your head, the things you tell yourself are really the most important. And that's what I do every morning.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
Yeah, it's a chapter called Tree Hug the Block.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
And, you know, I just talk about the benefits of, you know, doing things like forest bathing, you know, walking around in your yard with your shoes off and your socks off and just doing grounding exercises, you know, going up to trees, putting both hands on the trees, putting your forehead on the tree, taking a few deep breaths, you know, saying a prayer, you know, sometimes, you know, just sitting shirtless with your back
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
to the tree, you know? Me and one of my spiritual advisors, her name is Yadi Alba, we laugh because, you know, she always says, you know, lay down in the ground, face down, ass up, right? And just let the earth, just feel the earth.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
And man, you'd be surprised how when you're stressed out or if, you know, you're battling like a bout of depression or your anxiety levels are high, you'd be surprised how that just brings you right back to center. And, you know, we used to laugh, you know, back in the day at the people who used to consider themselves You know, tree huggers, you'd be like, oh, man, they just high.
The Megyn Kelly Show
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Everything is great when you're high. And guess what? Megan, they right. You know, when you're walking around doing some grounding in the backyard, or even when you're not high, it really does feel great, and it really does bring you back to center in a real way. I like the beach, too. I like walking barefoot on the beach. I would hope I'm...
The Megyn Kelly Show
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I would hope the only time you're walking on the beach is barefoot, but walking on the beach barefoot, going in the ocean, you know, you know, being in the ocean, looking right up at the sun, saying a prayer directly from the water to the sun, man, all of that brings you back to center in such real ways.
The Megyn Kelly Show
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Oh, absolutely. You know, I'm not against, you know, anybody who needs medication, you know, for certain things. But, you know, personally, I've never had to use it. I remember my father, even when I was young, when they were trying to put me on like Ritalin as a child, you know, my father was like, no.
The Megyn Kelly Show
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You know, back then, though, it wasn't, you know, he don't need Ritalin because he don't need to just be on medication. It was he don't need no Ritalin. He needs Asbeat. Right. But even now, it's like I don't we don't we don't necessarily medicine shouldn't be the first thing.
The Megyn Kelly Show
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option all the time you know i feel like you know this is a glorious earth that we that we're on and like there's a lot of natural remedies and holistic remedies that we could be you know tapping into that bring us a those same results a lot of those uh things in the pharmaceutical pharmaceutical world do
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
That's the strangest thing about anxiety, right? Like anxiety creeps up on you at weird times. It's those times when you're just literally laying on your couch at home and then all of a sudden you get up and you start checking to see if all the doors are locked, right? Or, you know...
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
Like, you can be laying on the couch and there's a ceiling fan going and you just start thinking to yourself, what if that ceiling fan, you know, flies off and, like, cuts my head off? Like, it's just the stupidest, strangest things. But when it comes to, like, getting in front of a microphone and talking to millions of people, yes, there's a level of anxiety there.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
But for some reason, it doesn't give you, you know... those same panic attacks of just going through regular everyday life.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
I have no idea why I'm able to get in front of a microphone and talk to millions of people effortlessly, but I can't be in a party with 50 people without wanting to go home, because I'm already having a panic attack, because I'm thinking about the worst possible scenarios happening.
The Megyn Kelly Show
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Oh God, I don't want to deal with him. That is actually another reason I wrote this book. That's why I think small talk sucks because I don't think they understand when you're a person who's already dealing with anxiety and you've had to say prayers and do breathing exercises and put your beads on, right? And all your other things just to show up in the world.
The Megyn Kelly Show
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The last thing I want to do is have a meaningless, conversation with a stranger. At least come into my life or come up to me and bring me a conversation of value that may ease whatever it is I got going on. I tell a story in the book about I tell a story in the book how I was at the airport and, you know, I'm a person who's been attacked in the street a couple of times, right?
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
Like right here, right here in New York City, you know, just for things that I've said on the radio. Like, you know, back in the day, though, not anything recently, but like over a decade ago. But you still have that PTSD from things like that. So I'm at the airport and this guy comes up to me and he's trying to talk, but he's like... not really saying anything, so automatically I'm on alert.
The Megyn Kelly Show
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And then he finally goes... He's stuttering, and he's telling me that he has a speech impediment. So he's asking me to bear with him while he gets out what it is he's trying to get out. he cut the small talk, you know? And he told me exactly what it was from the beginning. So that one little moment eases my anxiety and lets me know, okay, this person isn't a foe.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan, Bill Maher, Charlamagne, and More: Most Memorable Interviews From 2024
He's not any type of opposition in any way, shape, or form. He just has something he wants to say to me, and it's hard for him to get out. And if that individual who has a speech impediment can let me know that, we can do the same thing. We should be able to tell people, hey, man, I don't want to talk about that right now.
The Megyn Kelly Show
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Why are folks still talking about trans athletes? Like, that is a losing talking point. America's not with it, and they keep making a micro or macro with that conversation. It impacts such a small, small group of people, but it makes a whole lot of people think folks lack common sense. So why are they even having that conversation?
The Megyn Kelly Show
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And I can't believe it's states that still want to die on that hill. Like, none of these states have a high percentage of trans athletes. So what's the issue?
The Megyn Kelly Show
Megyn Moments: Bill Maher, VP Vance, Charlamagne, All-In Podcast, Shawn Ryan, Karoline Leavitt
Absolutely. And, you know, I got four daughters. And when they ask me, when they tell me they want to do things, I don't shoot it down. Because I had older people in my life who did that to me. I tell a story in one of my first books, because this is my third book, but I tell a story in my first book, Black Privilege, about how I had a cousin aunt.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Megyn Moments: Bill Maher, VP Vance, Charlamagne, All-In Podcast, Shawn Ryan, Karoline Leavitt
She was like my mom's cousin, but she was also like an aunt to me as well. And I remember just... talking about all of these big plans I had and all of these things I wanted to do with my life. And I remember she said to me, don't set your goals so high. You know, don't set your goals so high because if you don't reach them, you're going to be disappointed.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Megyn Moments: Bill Maher, VP Vance, Charlamagne, All-In Podcast, Shawn Ryan, Karoline Leavitt
And I paused for a second and I said, that is the stupidest shit I ever heard in my life. Like, why would you ever tell a child that? Like, I wasn't even a child. I was like, I don't know, 19, 20. But I was like, why would you ever tell anybody that? So my thing with my kids, when they want to do something, Yo, let's try it out. Like, I got one of my daughters recently started soccer.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Megyn Moments: Bill Maher, VP Vance, Charlamagne, All-In Podcast, Shawn Ryan, Karoline Leavitt
And, you know, she liked it at first. Past couple of practices, she don't want to go. Why? She said it's too hot out. I don't want to be out there in that heat. I'm not going to force her to go out there and do the soccer if she doesn't want to. Because if you genuinely love something, you're going to want to do it regardless, right? That's how I was with radio.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Megyn Moments: Bill Maher, VP Vance, Charlamagne, All-In Podcast, Shawn Ryan, Karoline Leavitt
It didn't matter that I wasn't making any money. I've been doing radio 26 years. I didn't start making money really, really in radio until probably my, I don't know, 12th year in radio. So it took a long time. You know, I started doing radio in 1998. I didn't start really making money till probably 2010. Right. So, but I loved it.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Megyn Moments: Bill Maher, VP Vance, Charlamagne, All-In Podcast, Shawn Ryan, Karoline Leavitt
So that thing that you love to do that is probably going to change your life is that thing that you're going to do for free. So if she's, if she doesn't want to go do soccer, I'm not, I'm not going to press her to do it.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Megyn Moments: Bill Maher, VP Vance, Charlamagne, All-In Podcast, Shawn Ryan, Karoline Leavitt
It's called Deaf of a Nation.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Megyn Moments: Bill Maher, VP Vance, Charlamagne, All-In Podcast, Shawn Ryan, Karoline Leavitt
I think Aaron is expressing an emotion and feelings and saying things that a lot of people feel. You know, a lot of people in the black community absolutely positively feel like that. But it's not even, you know, just Republicans. I just feel like, you know, government in general.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Megyn Moments: Bill Maher, VP Vance, Charlamagne, All-In Podcast, Shawn Ryan, Karoline Leavitt
I think that there's been a lot of systemic things that have been done, you know, to black people in this country to put, you know, black people in certain positions in this country. And there hasn't been enough systemic things done, you know, to get us out. You know, I think one of the
The Megyn Kelly Show
Megyn Moments: Bill Maher, VP Vance, Charlamagne, All-In Podcast, Shawn Ryan, Karoline Leavitt
you know, main critiques of the Democratic Party is, you know, they are supposed to be the party that represents us and supports us. And, you know, people don't feel like they have fought hard enough for Black people. That's why every, you know, presidential election cycle, we're back having these same, you know, conversations about, you know, Democrats going out there and earning the Black vote.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Megyn Moments: Bill Maher, VP Vance, Charlamagne, All-In Podcast, Shawn Ryan, Karoline Leavitt
Like, if Democrats had done, you know, historically what they say they are going to do, for black people, you know, they wouldn't be in this position every four years where they're out here trying to push me to endorse.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Megyn Moments: Bill Maher, VP Vance, Charlamagne, All-In Podcast, Shawn Ryan, Karoline Leavitt
Well, I think I would like to see it more like President Obama. And the reason I would like to see it more like President Obama, because as he said, these are his words, the audacity of hope. Like, you have to be optimistic. Like, I'm optimistic because I was raised on a dirt road in, you know, Moncks Corner, South Carolina. My mother was an English teacher.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Megyn Moments: Bill Maher, VP Vance, Charlamagne, All-In Podcast, Shawn Ryan, Karoline Leavitt
The most she ever made, you know, was $30,000 a year at one point. You know, my father was a great guy, you know, who had a lot of flaws, right? And he was...
The Megyn Kelly Show
Megyn Moments: Bill Maher, VP Vance, Charlamagne, All-In Podcast, Shawn Ryan, Karoline Leavitt
a construction worker, but he also had his own mental health issues and his, you know, he dealt with substance abuse and I'm not supposed to come, you know, out of, out of that circumstance, but because, you know, I was able to come out of that circumstance and just because of, you know, other conversations I've seen from people who come from environments like mine, I have to have the audacity of hope.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Megyn Moments: Bill Maher, VP Vance, Charlamagne, All-In Podcast, Shawn Ryan, Karoline Leavitt
I have to have, you know, optimism, but I also have to deal with reality too. And it's also, it's just interesting that, you know,
The Megyn Kelly Show
Megyn Moments: Bill Maher, VP Vance, Charlamagne, All-In Podcast, Shawn Ryan, Karoline Leavitt
President Biden would go to Morehouse and, you know, make those statements when a lot of those issues, those problems he's contributed to, you know, whether it was, you know, the 86 mandatory minimum sentencing, you know, whether it was the 88 crack laws and 94 crime bill. There's a lot of things that he contributed to in regards to keeping, you know, the black man down.
The Megyn Kelly Show
Megyn Moments: Bill Maher, VP Vance, Charlamagne, All-In Podcast, Shawn Ryan, Karoline Leavitt
Absolutely. And, you know, I got four daughters. And when they ask me, when they tell me they want to do things, I don't shoot it down. Because I had older people in my life who did that to me.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
In the streets, heavy. So I was like.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
It's what's around you.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
Absolutely. And so it goes from acting up in school to now all of us are getting a little bit older, but we're getting introduced to things like the drug game. And I'm watching people make a little bit of money. So I want to make a little bit of money, too. And I remember I was involved in a drug bust. You know, the house that we used to sell dope out of got busted.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
And I was like, is it for me? Like, literally, I'm going to figure out my life in a real way. I am going to. Because another thing that I always thought about when my dad would tell me that people end up in jail, dead or broke, sitting under the tree. I had a lot of people that I used to look up to who didn't make the best choices. And I saw that happening to them.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
Something just started clicking to me like, yo, there's no redo on this thing called life. Like this day that you're living right now, you're never getting back. So you're going to have to start making changes in your life right now to get to where it is that you need to be. Because, you know, one day you're going to wake up and you're going to be 30. And Biggie Smalls had this great lyric.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
Biggie Smalls said, being broke at 30, give a brother the chills. And that's where my mind was at. And I was still broke at 30, but... I was on my way. I was on my way because I was already in the radio business at that point.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
You said a lot of things that, you know, just make me really think about that journey, right? Like you used the word just now, you said discouragement, right?
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
I had a lot of encouragement early on, even though my dad wasn't always doing the right things. And even though he was hard on me, he was always encouraging me to do the right thing. Same thing with my mom. She was an English teacher, always encouraging me to do the right thing. So even when I was getting in trouble, I knew that what I was doing wasn't what I was supposed to be doing.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
To answer the question, the positive energy that activates constant elevation. I used to want to rap like most people who come from communities like I come from. When you're Black and you're growing up in a certain environment, the people you see who look like you are usually in entertainment or athletics. I'm only 5'6", so there wasn't going to be no NBA for me, right? You could be a jockey.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
Maybe. But I was always my grades was always so bad I could never play football. And so for me, I always wanted to rap because I used to always love storytelling, always love storytelling. You know, my mom, my mom was an English teacher. I grew up on the Booker program reading four books a week, you know, to get a free pizza.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
You know, my mom would always tell me to read things that don't necessarily pertain to me. So I grew up reading Mad Judy Blume and Beverly Cleary. So I was always in love with storytelling. So I'm in a recording studio. Right. Because if you want to be a rapper, you've got to be where people are rapping. So I was in this recording studio, two of them, actually. One of them was called TNT Studios.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
Another was called Never So Deep Records. And the guy who owned Never So Deep Records is a great mentor to me to this day named Dr. Robert Evans. But at the studio, I met a radio personality named Willie Will. And he worked at Z93 Jams in Charleston, South Carolina. And I'm a curious person. If I see you doing something positive or doing something that looks cool, I'm going to ask you.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
And I just asked him, like, how did you get into radio? And he said, I got an internship. And I said, what do I got to do to get an internship? He said, go down to the radio station and ask for an internship. And I'm like, it's that easy? I said, I'm not in school or nothing. He was like, so? Mind you, this is 1998 Charleston, South Carolina. Things were totally different. And that's what I did.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
I went down to the radio station. And I filled out my internship papers and I started as an intern. Like literally, I was the guy that would drive the radio station vehicle to the concerts or to the different remotes and help them, you know, set up their posters and things like that. And then that eventually turned into me getting a gig.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
in the promotions department, which is just being a paid intern. So I was making, what, $5 an hour or something like that. And then I would always be in the studio with Willie Will. And Willie Will would bring me on the mic sometime. And, you know, we'd be talking.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
And I remember one day, my man Ron White, who was the music director, still a good friend of mine to this day, he comes to me and he goes, yo, you ever thought about being on the radio? And I'm like, No, but I am now. And so he started putting me on Sunday mornings, 11 a.m. to 3 p.m. And they used to do something called voice tracking where you would record your voice and they would air it.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
And, you know, I was too much for Sunday mornings. So they started putting me on Saturday nights, 7 to 10 it was voice track, 10 to midnight it was live. And that's where the bug bit me. And I was like, this is what I want to do for the rest of my life.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
Same way that when I was sitting in Moncks Corner, South Carolina, and, you know, my father would tell me if I don't change my lifestyle, I'm going to end up in jail, dead or broke, sitting under the tree. And, you know, watching people who I loved, who made poor choices, end up in those circumstances. It's the same thing now. I love hip hop. You know, I love being a hip hop radio personality.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
But a lot of the hip hop radio personalities that I grew up admiring, there was a glass ceiling and they didn't realize it. And so they thought that they was growing, but they kept hitting their head, kept hitting their head, kept hitting their head. And I'm looking at them now and I'm like, oh, these people are washed. Like, I don't want that to be my life in the future.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
And that was from a professional level. And just from a personal level, it's like, yo, my daughters know their daddy. They know their daddy is silly. They know their daddy is a very unserious person. But there's just some things that I don't want to have to explain. Because when I said these things, I was on drugs. I was drunk. I was wiling. I wasn't in the right mind space.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
But what I have learned, Mel, is that you've got to love every version of yourself.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
Because I'm 46 years old this year. I was born in 1978. So I'll be 47, right? I'll be 47 this year. I know 20 year old me did not know what 46 year old me knows. I know 15 year old me didn't know what 30 year old me knew. So it's just like, yo, you got to give yourself grace because you just did not know what it is that you know now.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
So why would you ever beat yourself up for what you did not know? And like I said earlier, to me, life is just a process. I don't believe in good or bad. I just believe in everything is just one long process. And there's things that happen for you along the way. Not to you. There's things that happen for you along the way. And I accept it all. I accept the good with the bad.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
And, you know, one thing one of my one of my therapists says to me is that, you know, you can't have any of your success without having any of your success. Right. So any problems that I had, you know, growing up, any problems that I had when I was young, that all led me to this point where I'm at now. And I go back and I think in my mind, I go hug the 8-year-old version of myself.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
I hug the 16-year-old version of myself. I hug the 20-year-old version of myself. I have conversations with those other versions of myself all the time.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
Can you believe we got, can you believe we're here? Can you believe we got it? Yo, man, I'm glad 25-year-old you decided to go this way. I'm glad 19-year-old you decided to get into radio. I'm glad, you know, you read all of those books when you're 8-year-old, you 9-year-old, you 10-year-old, you read all of those books when you was younger.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
Like, you know, I know you and your pops had some issues, man, but he did give you the autobiography of Malcolm X when you was very, very young, and it taught you all about growth and evolution and, you know, knowing that somebody like Malcolm Little can become this great individual like Malcolm X and introduce you to, you know, the nation of Islam.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
where they took the worst of us and made them the best of us. So, you know, you got to give every single version of yourself grace. Like Marty McFly didn't go back into the future and go back to the past and cursed his parents out. He tried to help his parents, help his parents get on the correct path. We have to do the same thing, you know, with ourselves.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
You got to give every version of yourself that ever existed grace.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
Not really, because I know that I know that we're we're a smart community. You know, like, you know, I grew up listening to Public Enemy. I grew up listening to Wu-Tang Clan. You know, I grew up listening to Scarface and Killer Mike and like all of those brothers, you know, always had things in their music of socially redeeming value. So I know I know who we are.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
I just think that sometimes there's people in our community that got to have the courage to grow up. You know, I always say that the two greatest hip hop albums, well, the two most important hip hop albums in the future, people are going to look back and they're going to say Jay-Z, 444, and Kendrick Lamar, Mr. Morale, and the Big Stepper.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
Because if you listen to the content of those records, Jay-Z's talking about the maturation of a man. He's talking about not cheating on his wife anymore. He's talking about issues with his father. He's talking about going to therapy on that album. I remember hearing that album on my third, it came out the day after my 39th born day. Like literally I was on a roof in New York,
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
just turned 39, midnight hit, me and my wife were leaving and I put it on in the car and it was like he was talking to me in that moment. That was the soundtrack for my life right then and there. Where I was in my life, therapy, dealing with issues with my pops, being faithful to my wife, like being apologetic, you know, the things I've done to my wife, right? The cheating on my wife.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
Like that was... mind-blowing to me. And I was like, oh, okay, God, I see exactly what you're doing. Kendrick Lamar, you listen to his album, Mr. Morale and the Big Stepper. He's talking about, yo, his wife is on this thing. Yo, you really need to go seek some therapy. He's got this song on there called Father Time, where he talks about his issues with his dad. Men don't talk about that.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
You know, it's always when it comes to daddy issues, you think women. But no, the daddy issues that you have as a man are real, too. So it's like I knew we were beyond ready for these conversations because these conversations were already happening in our community. They were just being done in secret. When I put out that book, Shook One, it came out in 2018.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
And I remember it was the week of Thanksgiving, 2018. I'm home in Moncks Corner, South Carolina, and my dad calls me. And my dad is like, yo, man, I just finished reading your book, Shook One. And he goes, you know, your cousin just committed suicide. My cousin's 25 years old, young man, tried to complete suicide four times. And he was like, he used to do a lot of odd jobs with my father.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
And my father was like, yeah, man, between that and your book, I just wanted to tell you, man, you know, I was going to therapy two and three times a week and I tried to commit suicide 30 plus years ago. And, you know, I was on 10 to 12 different medications for my mental health. And I'm like, I never knew any of this.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
And so I remember asking my mom, like, mom, did you know dad was dealing with all of this? And my mom was like, I thought he was just playing crazy to get a check. Right. But he really was dealing with his own issues. And he never told me this. But imagine if he would have told me this when I was young. I would have knew what those panic attacks were.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
I would have knew what those bouts of depression were. But he never, ever told me any of those things. So I think our community has always been ready for these conversations. Hip hop community, the black community, it just takes somebody to have the courage to speak them.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
Conversations with other people. I always credit folks like Neil Brennan, my young guy, Pete Davidson, who's been going to therapy for a long time. Women in my life like Debbie Brown, who was just an amazing spiritual leader, has been a longtime friend of mine for almost 20 years. These were people who I always heard having these conversations. And when I was Thank you. Thank you.
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,,,,,,, What am I supposed to learn from this moment? Thank you, God, for the experience of going through it. Like, I'm really big on that. I'm really big on thanking God when things are not necessarily going my way because they're probably going my way. You understand what I'm saying?
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Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
That's right. And I'm 46 years old. I've lived enough life to know God has not led me in the wrong direction yet. Yeah. So whatever moment I'm standing in, I'm supposed to be standing in in that moment and I need to deal with it. You know, that's what my wife bought me to let them there is because, you know, one of the things that I've been just dealing with is just wondering about other people.
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I've had different experiences in my life where sometimes people resent me for what I'm actually doing for them. Meaning like you can be actually doing good things for a person or have done really good things for a person or, you know, provided opportunities for a person. And that person will grow to resent you.
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Like I've literally had I've had a friend say to me one time, I don't want to do this deal with you because if I do it, people are going to continue the narrative. I only get things because of you. And I'm like, that's strange. Like, you know, because I would I would love to have a me. And I've had I've had a lot of people in my life provide me opportunity.
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I've had a lot of people in my life get me on the right path or, you know, allow me access to things that have gotten me opportunity. So why would you ever feel like I don't care if I'm with one person that's provided me 10 different opportunities? Like, why would that be a thing? And I've had just friends in my life who, regardless of how much I've done.
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for them they act like I did nothing and I'm not the type of person to be like remember I did this for you I did that for you I just do things I don't even care like I just feel like that's what you're supposed to do when you're in a certain position you share you know the wealth you share the opportunity so to find out that that person is like oh he don't do nothing for me what
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Now you got to run down the list in your mind. Now I got to go in my mind and be like, was I bugging when I did this? And to me, that feels cheap to have to do that. But sometimes you got to do that to remind yourself, it's not me. It's this person.
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Can you expound on the threatened by your own generosity?
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Thank you for having me, Mel.
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I appreciate that. And the feeling is definitely mutual.
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Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
That's right. But that shouldn't stop you from being who you are. I got my niece, salute to my niece, Nala Simone. And she says this, and it's very genderless when she says it. She was like, you like to save hoes. Stop trying to save these hoes, right? And I can't stop being me, meaning that God's not going- Well, you can save hoes all you want.
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Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
You know, I bought my Let Em Theory book in here. And it's so funny. Last week, my wife comes to me and my wife goes, I ordered you a book. You need to read it immediately. Because I've been complaining about some things, right? Really, I was complaining about people. And she was like, you need to read this book immediately. And it came and it was... to let them through.
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That's right. And I mean, they may become one.
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So I'm saying like God's not going to judge me based off how people treat me. He's going to judge me based off how I treat people.
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That is a fact.
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That is beyond helpful. Beyond helpful. Because I'm the type of person, I feel like if anything you build only benefits you, it's not big enough. So I'm never going to stop being of service to people. But what you said is absolutely true. Once you get that data and you know who a person is... You know whether to pull away or how much to give or not to give at all anymore.
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And I was like, oh, yeah, I'm doing Mel's podcast on Wednesday. And she was like, really? And then today she sent me tickets because you're going to be in New York. Yes. Yes. She's like, I want to go to this.
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Because it's bullshit. Why do you think it's bullshit? Two things happen with small talk. And Mel, I know you know this. People will come up to you like, you know, I really like the frame of your glasses, Mel. You know that's not what they want to talk about. They got something else they want to ask you. So they're just beating around the bush to ask about it.
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Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
I'd rather you just come to me with whatever it is. I don't want the appetizer. I didn't order appetizers. I want the straight entree. When it comes to conversation, give me the entree. I don't need to be warmed up. Especially when you know what it is you actually want. You know what the request is. You know what it is you want to talk about.
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Don't try to warm me up to the conversation because it's just bullshit and we know it.
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Intention and goals. Like, you know what the intention of your conversation is and you know what the goal you're trying to reach in the conversation is. So just get to it. Like, you know what it is. That's literally what the opposite of small talk is. The opposite of small talk is I have an intention. I have a goal. I'm going to go up to this person and I'm going to have the conversation.
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Well, that's just all God. I was like, wow, I'm literally doing her show on Wednesday.
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I remember being a young guy doing radio in Columbia, South Carolina. First time I ever met Wendy Williams. She's down there doing her nationally syndicated show from one of the stations in Columbia. I walk in the studio. I got mixtapes and I got parody songs I want her to hear. And I'm like, yo, I got these mixtapes. I got this parody song I want to hear. I give it to the board.
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I'm like, yo, put this in. Wendy goes, yo. Take that mixtape shit to my motherfucking husband. Literally, just like that, verbatim, like no small talk, no beating around the bush. I wasn't offended. I go, well, where's your husband? She was like somewhere in there. So I went looking for her husband and he was in the conference room. Guess what? He was just sitting in there.
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Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
He had time to listen, right? But that was me not having no small talk. Hey, this is what I'm here for. I'm a radio personality. I got these parody songs, these mixtapes I want you to have. She didn't have no time for small talk because she's trying to do her show. And that got me on the right path. We forged a relationship that ultimately led me to New York.
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I don't care. I really don't. I don't pay no attention. That's something I stress to everybody around me. Stay off social media. We are all in verbally abusive relationships with our smartphones. Why? Why would you allow somebody to talk to you like that? You wouldn't allow somebody to talk to you like that in real life. So why do you go online seeking it?
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Why would you go look at comments in a YouTube channel or comments in a, you know, on Twitter? I ain't been on Twitter since 2019. Like everybody running now because of Elon Musk. Forget Elon Musk. I ran because of my mental health. I need to protect my peace. I used to get on Twitter every morning and say, thank you, God, for blessing me with another day of life.
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Guaranteed, like clockwork, it would be somebody saying, I was praying you died. You know what I mean? So it's like, why would I put myself up to that? I don't need to go on Twitter to thank God. I thank God every day of my life. So for me, it's like, just don't read it. Like, literally, turn your phone off. Like, I remember my man Trick Trick, he's a rapper out of Detroit.
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Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
I remember one time I saw him say, Man, as soon as I do this and he turned his phone off and put it down, I don't even know what the hell y'all talking about. And listen. It's so true. Ignorance is bliss. You ask anybody that works with me. I've come into radio stations sometime. Did you see such and such? Nope, I didn't. What happened?
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Like, I love being clueless because literally why would I care about what another person's opinion of me is? And the other thing I tell the folks is they're supposed to talk about you. If they're not talking about you, then you're probably not doing what it is you're supposed to be doing. You're not making no impact whatsoever.
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So whether or not they're talking good about you or whether or not they're talking bad about you, they're talking and the algorithm doesn't know the difference.
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No, I'm not. Yes, you are. That's just a little common sense. Because, you know, I write about it in the second book about the tsunami of, you know, social media, because what we don't realize is sometimes we spend so much energy on people we don't like.
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Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
So you're constantly talking about that person, talking about that person or that person said something. So everybody's coming at that person. But then that person's actual supporters. They start coming to they start commenting. So now everybody's arguing in the comments about you. But the algorithm don't know. All they know is Mel's been mentioned 10,000 times in the last hour. So who cares?
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Have fun. Enjoy yourself.
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Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
4.15, the alarm clock goes off. I immediately hit the snooze button. Eight minutes, the snooze button goes off again. So then I get up, I say my prayers, go take a shower. get out the shower. I try to sit and meditate for at least, at least five minutes because, you know, I'm cutting it close like in the morning to do morning radio. It's a game of inches.
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Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
So I try to do at least five minutes, but I read out of two affirmation books every day. I read out of Ryan Holiday's The Daily Start and I read out of Robert Greene's Daily Laws, I think it's called. And then I read what those affirmations are. I kiss my wife while she's asleep. I blow kisses to all my daughter's rooms. Then I get in my car, go downstairs and I'm either listening to
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Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
A podcast like yours or Jay Shetty or Debbie Brown or I'm listening to. I love the Jon Stewart's The Weekly Show whenever he does his episodes because I think that he just does some of the greatest political conversations right now. But that's usually what it is. I just try to listen to something I know is going to get my attention. energy where it needs to be.
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Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
And my intention every day is the same. My intention every day is to serve. So I just wake up every day and I say, you know, God, I'm grateful for another day of life. I'm thankful for another day of life. And, you know, whatever the day brings today, because I know it's going to be a new adventure every single time. I know it's never a dull moment. I'm ready for it.
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Man, in ways that I can't even imagine because I'm nowhere near, the type of disciplinarian my father was. Like I'm not putting any type of hands on my daughters in any way, shape or form. I apologize to them a lot. My oldest daughter, she's 16. You know, I snapped at her about something. We going back and forth about something.
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Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
I had to check myself and realize like, oh, this don't got nothing to do with her. You know, it's something I'm projecting onto her. I'm projecting my fears onto her the same way I said my father raised me out of fear and not love. So when you apologize, I remember apologizing to my 16-year-old daughter and she said to me, it's okay, you've never done this before. Meaning this is your first time
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Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
We'll see. And the reason I say we'll see is because, you know, you never know where a great conversation is going to take you. You know, like we're all on different spiritual journeys. I feel like right now sitting here on the Mel Robbins podcast, this is part of a spiritual journey that I feel like I've been going on my whole life. So let's see what comes up.
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Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
As a father, this is your first time raising a 16 year old girl, which is very true. So I'm not going to always get it right. And you think about how, man, you long for like just apologies from your parents, because I know a lot of the things that they might have done to us when we were younger. They didn't know any better.
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They were just doing the best they could with the knowledge and the information and the wisdom they had at the time. So it's the same thing now. So when you ask me how my daughter's changed me, I really don't. know yet. I just know I am being changed.
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There is just something that's changing me as just a human because the one thing I'm really fighting now is realizing that you got to relinquish control because you cannot control anything that happens to these four little beautiful souls. You can't nothing like, you know, anything you could do is love them, encourage them.
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You know, I try to give my daughters the best experiences that they possibly can can have and just teach them to be really great people. The things that my mother and father and my grandmother instilled in me that really stuck with me my whole life. I try to give to them like when I tell them, you know, man, this will take you where money won't.
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You know, I tell them when you walk into a room, make sure you make eye contact with everybody. You speak to everybody like just just say hello. Like, you know, because everybody is a human being worthy of that that level of respect. Treat the custodian the way you treat the CEO.
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Like, you know, that's I'm big on that, especially with my nine year old, because if there's any one of my daughters who is, you know, hell-raiser like I was when I was a kid, it's my nine-year-old. But, you know, my only thing with her is you need to have that same smoke for the teachers at school. Don't come to the parents and the people that love you and be crazy.
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Because I was crazy everywhere when I was your age. I don't tell her that, but that's my mindset. You know, but I do tell her, you know, you come home and I know you act with us the way that you don't act with At school. I don't ever hear about this type of behavior with you at school. At school, you see, oh, she's a pleasure and she's great. But at home, you know. Do you know what that means?
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Man, you know, I remember during COVID, because my daughter is 16. I think she might have been like 13, 14. We started putting her in therapy, not for any reason other than why not? You know, it's like she's an athlete. She's working out all the time, right, for cheer. So it's the same thing. It's just like, why not go learn what you might be dealing with early?
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And I remember during COVID, she came to us and she goes, She's crying. I'm overwhelmed. She was like, I'm overwhelmed. She said that she was like, I'm overwhelmed right now. And I was like, do you think me or your mom would be upset that your grades are slipping during this unprecedented time? None of us have ever had to experience anything like this. I can only imagine being in eighth grade.
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And you're sitting there trying to do clay projects on the floor. And you're, you know, trying to get through class during the day on your computer. Like, I can only imagine. But the fact that she had the language to come to us and tell us she's overwhelmed. My nine-year-old and six-year-old, same way. I talk to them about going to therapy.
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I tell them about, you know, dealing with anxiety, dealing with depression. Now you got movies like... Inside Out. You know, you got movies like Inside Out that are showing them their emotions and their feelings. Inside Out, part one and part two. So these kids have the language. And that's all I really want.
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I don't know how possible it is, but I've always said all I want to do is raise trauma-free babies, man. That's it. I mean, I know that they're going to go through their own experiences in life and they're going to have their own things that they got to deal with. But I want to at least raise, have them have a trauma-free childhood as much as possible.
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Yeah, I receive it from you. You know, for me, I'm just trying to be a good father, trying to be a better father than my dad was. I mean, it's not like my dad was a bad father at all. I don't I don't ever want to say that. But he will tell you about his his own issues. And, you know, just me learning what I've learned, not just about him, but, you know, through the work I've done on myself.
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I know all the mistakes that he made. And, you know, he was one of my models for going to do the work. because I just did not want to make the same mistakes that he made, especially in regards to him and my mom, you know? And like, you know, his infidelity broke up his family.
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And I saw the impact that had on, you know, not me to a certain extent, but definitely to my younger brothers and, you know, younger sisters. So it's the same thing, you know, I didn't want that to happen to my family. So it was just like, yo, in order to not be what my father was, had to be better.
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Well, since I learned very late what he probably could have taught me early, I just, you know, started doing the work on myself and applying it to my everyday life. And it's been an amazing blessing.
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Reinvent Yourself: How to Let Go of Past Mistakes and Create a New Version of You
It allowed me to give him so much grace because when I first started going to therapy, I thought that I didn't like my father because of how he did my mom. Really didn't have anything to do with that. It was part of it. But what it really was, like, I was upset because, you know, I felt like he disciplined me for things that he never taught me.
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And it was like, damn, this guy, you know, he was very hard on me in a lot of ways. You know what I mean? But it was literally because he was dealing with his own issues. And so once he told me that and I found that out about him, everything changed. made perfect sense. I mean, everything from the infidelity to, you know, how he used to discipline me, everything made perfect sense.
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So it just allowed me to give him a whole lot of grace. And I just, I wish he would have shared a lot of those things with me earlier, which is why I'm so big on sharing them with my kids now.
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The people-pleasing came from when I was getting molested when I was eight years old. And the reason I know that is because when I was eight years old and I was getting molested, when I wanted to make the young lady stop doing it, she would call me ugly. And she would say I had a big nose. And she really just started to mess with me mentally when I would tell her to stop, right? And so...
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I just let her do it because I didn't want to experience that. Like to me, the experience of being called ugly and saying I had a big nose and all of that crazy stuff, that was worse than what she was actually doing to me. And that's a psychological mindfuck too because it's not like it didn't feel good when I was that age, right? So all of that, that's where the people pleasing came in.
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I learned that in therapy years ago. Like that's what made me a people pleaser. And the type of people pleaser that you will allow people to run over you and do you dirty, but you don't care because you feel like you're keeping the peace by making them.
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you know, making them happy. So, damn, what was the other plan?
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Oh, yeah. I mean, probably just trying to impress him all the time. You know, especially when I wasn't in school no more and I was in night school and, you know, he'd pull up to the house and then you'd jump up and act like you was doing something. You'd go outside and act like you was cutting grass or, you know, you were trying to figure life out just because I knew he would be on my ass so much.
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But yeah, I think in a lot of ways, he was the person that I wanted to impress the most in my life. And that turned into... I don't know why I'm just connecting these dots now. That turned into... me subconsciously stunting on him.
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Because it's like, yo, I don't know if you ever really believed in me because I remember when you would compare me to like, you know, my cousins who played football and, you know, like, don't you want to be like them? You out here always getting in trouble, blah, blah, blah, this and that. And so it's just like, you know, when you...
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start to achieve success and you're actually doing things that nobody from your hometown has ever done, you find yourself stunting them. Yeah, pops. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Now what? I'm the man now. You know what I mean? Like that's how you, that's at least how I registered it. So I think the reality is all I really wanted to do was impress them.
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I'm really just a little boy who always just wanted to impress my dad and wanted my dad to say, yo, I'm proud of you, son, which he has done. You know, my mom set me free so long ago because I remember my mom saying to me, Years, years, years, years, years, years, years ago. She said, you have accomplished more than anybody in this family has ever accomplished.
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And she said to me, but just always be happy you're making a living. And that's always been my mind state. I don't get too high on any of this. I don't get too low on any of this. I'm just happy that I'm able to make a living. And, you know, now I'm in a position to help others make a little living too.
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Ooh, maybe that's what it is. I want people to hear this conversation today and immediately walk away and say, you know what? I need to go be of service. I need to answer that call. that's going on in my spirit right now that's telling me to go out there and just go do something. Do something for myself, but more importantly, go do something for somebody else. Go be of service.
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First thing I would say is say thank you. Regardless of what condition you're in, what position you're in, what's going on in your life, you're alive. You're breathing. So that means that God, the creator, whatever you want to call that entity has a reason for you to still be here. So say thank you and be grateful. And then from there, just be of service.
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And you start with being of service to yourself because you can't help anybody else until you help yourself first. So whatever it is that you're going through, you know, figure out a way. To get through it, figure out a way to find some healing from it. You know, I don't know if it's therapy.
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I don't know if it's just simply taking your shoes off and going to do some grounding, some breathing exercises, some meditation, something. Find a way to serve yourself, to put yourself in a position the way you can get on your healing journey. And then just go out there and start, you know, serving others.
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Just find something to find somebody to go help, like go volunteer at the local food bank, you know, go volunteer. Help somebody take their groceries to the car. Just find some way of being of service. And I feel like, man, you'll start to see your life transform in ways that you can't even imagine. And you'll start to love yourself more.
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So it's very hard to feel, you know, like you're a person, you know, worthy of love. If you can't look in the mirror and say to yourself, man, you know, I really genuinely love you. Like I stay I stay on my Michael Jackson shit. Like if you want to make the world a better place, you got to take a look at yourself and make that change. Like you got to talk to that person in the mirror.
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And when you talk to that person in the mirror and that person has gratitude and that purpose, that person's purpose is to serve. Because I always tell folks your true purpose in life is service to others. I'm like everything we're doing is of service. This podcast is of service.
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People literally go and they listen to the Mel Robbins podcast because they're trying to find answers to something that's going on in their life. And hopefully, you know, information is being dispensed that does it for them. So you just got to find your purpose by just going out there, being grateful and going out there to serve, serve people, find somebody to serve, serve, just serve.
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And I promise you, you'll see your life change in ways that you can't even imagine.
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That's right.
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Keep God first, stay humble, keep working. That's literally my mindset. Like, when I tell you I'm just happy to be here, when I tell you I'm just a kid from Moncks Corner, South Carolina, who is just extremely grateful for the journey that God has me on. I love being—I'm 46 years old. I love being me. I love my life. I love my wife. I love my four daughters.
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I love the circle of people that I have around me that I call family. That's it. Keep God first. Stay humble. Keep working. That's my mindset. Boom.
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That's what I want people to learn from this conversation. How to be of service.
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Thank you. That's it. Keep God first. Stay humble. Keep working. That's literally my mindset every day. I keep God first. You know, I was raised a Jehovah Witness. My grandmother was a Baptist. So all I ever knew was you believe in something. There is a God. My father was a Jehovah Witness until he got this fellowship. But then he got into Islam. But there was always God. So God is always there.
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That's number one. Stay humble. Yo. All of this can go away tomorrow. Like literally all of it can go away tomorrow. The same person you meet up is the same person you meet on the way down. So it's like treat the CEO the same way you treat the custodian.
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You know, I feel like there's a lot of people, you know, hopefully when I'm not around, they say good things about me just because of how I carry myself when it comes, you know, to other humans and stay working. Because what else are you going to do? And when I say stay working, it don't even just necessarily mean a job.
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Just stay working on yourself because as long as you're alive, you're a work in progress and God has more work for you to do.
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Thank you for having me. You are a light. You are a blessing. You know, I don't know if you realize it, but you touch so many different people.
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People like there's not a demographic of people I can point to and say, oh, that's the Mel Robbins listener, because I have so many different people come to me and be like, you know, you know, Mel Robbins, my wife literally just gave me your book last week. You know, I talk to people like Jason Wilson. They speak so highly about you. Like all like you. You are a real light to people, man.
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So just please keep doing what you're doing, because we need we need people like you in the world.
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Absolutely.
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And the let them theory is life changing. Yes. Man, because I used to say let them drown.
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Yeah. I got to get rid of the drown part. That's a little.
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Yes, exactly. Exactly. I just like let them.
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Everybody makes their own choices. Let them.
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You know, right now I'm a multimedia personality from, you know, radio to television, the books, the podcast, like you said, but I come from extreme humble beginnings. I was born in South Carolina, raised on a dirt road, grew up in a single wide trailer. You know, mom was a school teacher, an English teacher who kept the book in my face.
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My dad, you know, did construction, but, you know, he had his own background. issues with mental health and, you know, run-ins with the law and, you know, drug addiction and substance abuse. But, you know, the one thing that we always had was love. And they always, especially my dad, I always say my dad raised me out of fear. And not love. What does that mean?
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He didn't want me to end up making the same mistakes that he made. And he would always tell me that if I didn't change my lifestyle, especially when I started really getting in trouble in the street, that I was going to end up in jail, dead, or broke sitting under a tree. So that was literally his mentality. He didn't want his oldest son to end up in jail, dead, or broke sitting under a tree.
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So he really used to be on me, but he would discipline me for things he didn't necessarily teach me.
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I remember being in therapy. The first real breakthrough I had in therapy is realizing that. Like, I'll give you an example, right? Like, I remember one time I had just got my license. And so I'm following him. He was like, yo, follow me as I'm driving in the car. Just follow me, all right? So I'm following him. Mind you, I'm a 16-year-old kid. I'm following him. He's driving.
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So he's driving down Gilead Road in North Carolina. I'm following him. When you're driving down Gilead Road, you veer off into a highway called Highway 52. So there's a stop sign. He doesn't stop at the stop sign. He just goes through on the highway. So what do you think I do? I just go through on the highway. So then he pulls over. So I pull over behind him. He gets out the car, road winds down.
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He smacks the shit out of me. tells me to pay attention. I didn't see that stop sign. And I'm like, you didn't see the stop sign? I didn't say that to him. I'm like, you didn't see the stop sign? But that's my point. He would discipline me for things that he never taught me. So yeah, he raised me very hard. I always said it was out of fear and not love. Just it was the fear that I would end up
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you know, making a lot of the same mistakes that he made. But we'll say one thing you do got to learn about your kids is that your kids are going to live their life regardless. No matter how much you try to hold on to them, no matter how, you know, much you try to discipline them, they're going to still live their life regardless. And guess what? You got to let them. You got to let them.
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When I was in night school, because I got kicked out of two high schools, so I was in night school.
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probably the same age, like 17, maybe 18. I'm not sure. So I graduated from night school in 1998. I'm sitting in night school. And at the time I used to call myself Charlie Chronic because, and you know, it sounds so stupid now when I'm old, but it's like, you know, but we used to have a crew called the Infamous Buddha Head. So all of us took names of marijuana.
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So you had like Mikey Marijuana, Ichabodism, and I was Charlie Chronic, right? Bobby Buddha, like that was our names. And I used to always say my name was Charles because when I used to sell crack, I would wear a hoodie, give this alias because I didn't want the guys and women who were buying crack for me to go back and tell my parents. I'm from a small town.
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So, you know, everybody's judgmental. Even though you're buying it from me, you still go tell my parents. And so I'm reading in a history book about Charlemagne. And Charlemagne, it says Charlemagne is French for Charles the Great. And he was a Roman emperor who went around spreading religion and education. And I literally was like, that's a cool name.
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I'm going to start calling myself Charlemagne. And, you know, the God comes from the 5% teachings. And the 5% teachings, they say God is a Greek word derived from the Aramaic words, which means wisdom, strength, and beauty. So I'm like, I'm going to start calling myself Charlemagne the God. Which really didn't make no sense because Charlemagne is French for Charles the Great.
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So it's like Charles the Great the God. But guess what? I was 19 years old smoking a lot of weed. So it didn't really have to make sense. It just looked cool. And I always said that's going to look really good on a marquee one day.
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I said that's going to look really good on the cover of a book one day.
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Absolutely.
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You can either submit your will to the God in you or you can submit your will to the devil in you. And, you know, God is in each and every one of us. It says in Genesis chapter one, verse 26, says God created man in his image according to his likeness. And I feel like, you know, if you keep that mindset, it'll at least give you something to constantly strive to.
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It'll give you something to constantly look towards and know that you have that, you know, that inner being within you, like knowing that you're really a spiritual being living a human existence. And I mean, I've always literally tried to move like that.
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Like, you know, I'm one of those people that actually believed my grandma and my mom when they told me God was always watching, you know, even though I didn't always make the right decisions, I still... strive to move like God was always watching because God is within. I am an extension of my creator.
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Man, number one, whatever you're doing that's negative, you can't escape from it. There's a million, tens of millions of people who have done the exact same thing that you're currently doing. And you know how that movie is going to end. And it's going to end the same way for you if you continue down that path. And what I would tell folks is you don't have to know what it is you want to do.
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You just know that you want to do something. So why not put positive energy into whatever it is you're trying to do or just put positive energy into your life, period. Like, you know, an acronym that I love is a positive energy activates constant elevation.
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Yeah. Positive energy activates constant elevation. Right. So for me, it was I know that if I constantly keep doing this, like my dad said, I may end up in jail, dead or broke, sitting under the tree. And when you start seeing that actually happen, whether it's to you or other people around you. If you continue down that path, once again, you made the choice. You got to deal with it.
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But for me, I decided to say, yo, I'm going to do whatever I got to do to not do this. So I worked at I worked at Taco Bell. I worked at a clothing store in the mall called Demo. I did telemarketing. I was the guy that would call your house and try to sell you 20 CDs for a penny. Like I did. I did so many. I did so many fucking odd jobs like just just to avoid being in the street.
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Absolutely.
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The first time I got arrested, I was sitting in the backseat of a car and one of my homeboys shot at somebody. So, you know, we all ended up going to jail. Literally, they came and got me out of high school. The second high school I had went to because I got kicked out of the first high school. And my mom was teaching at this high school, Scratford High School.
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And they thought I would behave more because my mom was there. So I ended up getting caught up in that situation. I think I did 45 days in the county jail. My dad ultimately ended up bailing me out. And I tried to be on the straight and narrow a little bit. But to your point, the allure of the streets, right? Like, you know, a lot of the people that I was hanging around and being with, they were...