Brittany Charm
Appearances
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Okay. I agree with you, actually. Okay. But let me tell you what ends up happening. So initially, those guys use those girls, and they have fun because they're fun. Yeah, when they first get their money, they're going to do that. But what ends up happening is those 18- to 21-year-olds have a rotation as well.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
So what's going to end up happening is they get that instant gratification. They get the sex. They get all that enjoyment from those girls. But initially what's going to happen, or eventually what's going to happen is they're going to look over in the bed and see that it's empty. Because that girl's on that rotation.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
And they're lonely. So they're going to realize, dang, sex is good, but I really want a warm body and someone genuine beside me.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
To care for me. To give me that. Yeah.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
so yeah they're gonna do that a few years and then when it gets old they're gonna actually marry someone who is within their level and if you notice what i i notice they normally marry like a nice girl from like a small town or something a humble girl absolutely but i feel like now with social media that's that's getting harder and harder to do because like you got to think about it like this and this is my perspective from from a man right
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Well, aside from working for the government, I was an HR analyst for over 10 years. So I have a really, really good, vast knowledge on how to carry yourself, how to conduct yourself in meetings, how to always be professional, and just how to be a lady because I was forced to at an early age. I started with the state at only 20 years old.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Okay, well, this is my answer to that. The biggest thing is the A word, accountability. And it's simply you have to be accountable and know what it is that you can get and what it is that you can't get. And also be accountable that, hey, you haven't kept yourself up. Maybe you're losing your hair. Maybe you're starting to get a dad bod.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Maybe you're a girl and you got a little bit of the jelly rolls going on. Yeah. It's being accountable and knowing that, hey, even though you may want something, it may not be for you. So unless you're putting in the work to get that, you need to date within your league. That's something I talk to women about all the time.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Doesn't mean you have to get down to that supermodel body and get that, but you do also have to have a reality check and know because you're not going to be in that tip-top shape physically or mentally, you need to get someone within your league.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Absolutely. They're lying to them. Like, I had very honest parents. I went through an ugly duckling phase. Anybody that knows me from my small town or has even seen me on social media, I show the before pictures. You tease me about it. I was emo at one point and had ugly blonde streaks that looked like a raccoon. Oh, my gosh. I hate thinking about it. But anyways, what did I do?
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
I started giving myself makeovers at 12 years old. Because like eventually the teasing was out of control and I couldn't handle it anymore. And I'm like, I'm not going to go through life like this and be a dork my whole life. So each year, something you always preach to is every year you should be getting better and better. And that's essentially what I did.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
And then my mom started seeing the changes in me and she poured into me and she was like, let me put my daughter in pageants. My mom put me in pageants so that I can have the etiquette, the poise. I could stand up straight. I could feel confident speaking. I could feel just confident in life. Because guess what? Even in dating, you have to be confident on a date.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
You have to be able to articulate yourself. You can't just sit there like a mute.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Something like that? Yeah, 12.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
But while doing that simultaneously, I also worked and did makeup. I was a makeup artist. So I've done makeup for over 15 years. And along with that, I was a personal stylist. So fashion expert. So with those three things, You know, I've always kind of had a hold on everything as far as being successful in corporate, being successful in beauty, being successful in fashion.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Friendsgiving, yeah.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
they're still doing their makeup like they did in their 20s. Or if they're in their 20s, they're still doing their makeup like they did in their teens. So let me tell you, the biggest way you can tell a woman's age is by how she does her makeup. When you're really young, you wear hot pink, you wear green, you wear blue, glitter, all that stuff. I did it. But guess what?
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
As I started getting older, when I transitioned from my 20s to my 30s, you actually wear less makeup. And in MAC, we used to call it a whole lot of nothing. You wear a whole lot of nothing to look like you're not wearing a lot.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
But what happens is these women are still like, I'm still going to wear my purple eyeshadow. I'm still going to wear my blue liner and that hot pink lip. And while that was fun and Y2K and the 10s, now it's very like... It's scary because we're going back to the traditional ways, which is what I was going to talk about later.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
But everything is going back, not necessarily super conservative, but to like a softer, gentler time. That's why we have like the soft girl era or what I always tease you about being you. You love quiet luxury or stealth wealth. It's very, very discreet. So if you have this loud affectation. Offensive makeup, how do you fit that narrative?
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Just like the housing market is doing a correction, there's going to be a correction made in the dating world and also in the mindset. We're going to start seeing people sit back down to dinner, turn off their phones, put their electronics away, and get back to being ladies and gentlemen again.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
So with that, yes, the biggest beauty thing is wearing too much, not wearing a hairstyle that fits your body, your face and just, you're not putting your grooming up to the best standards, but it's, it's the makeup that's, that's too much all the time, all the time.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
like thong, shorts that are cupping the butt, like they're showing their body.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Instagram, Facebook, dating apps. So what's happening is they're getting bedroom dated because they're only being shown in a sexual way. Doesn't mean you still can't show your physique, but you need to wear like a fitted dress, fitted slacks. You can't help it if you're shapely and you're just wearing a dress. You can't help it.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
But if you're wearing something where you're scantily clad, it just it sends the wrong message and it attracts the wrong type of men.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
So that's like the biggest thing is that they're wearing the wrong type of thing. Or if it's not too sexy, it's too frumpy. They're not dressing for their age. So they're either dressing too old or they're dressing too young. And they look silly. Kind of like how we see the guys who are still wearing the tall tees and the fitted hats and the Jordans and all that stuff.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
They're dressed like how you dressed in high school, right, baby? Yeah. Yeah. And then so what I see the women still doing is they're still trying... Even though Apple Bottoms has made a comeback, I just saw last night their ad, you know, they're still wearing the Apple Bottoms, but they don't have an Apple Bottom anymore. You know, they're still wearing things like that. So it's kind of ick.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
And then the number two thing is that they're trauma dumping on the dating apps and on social media.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
They all go hand in hand, especially when it comes to putting your best foot forward, presenting yourself in dating, because the example that you set in person should always mirror the example that you set on social media. And that's something that I've just always had down.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Trauma dumping is something that can happen on a date where you talk about that you have mommy issues, you have daddy issues. Your past. Your past and that you have problems. It's been 10 years since I've been on a date. Like even if it has like.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Yeah, and on top of that, that's not something that's going to make or break a relationship. I don't need to know that. And so what it does, though, is make it appear or make it quite evident that you have issues. And nobody wants anyone with issues. Not saying we all don't have something a little bit. Nobody's perfect, but you don't do you don't share like that on a first date. It's really gross.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
So it's not just happening on the first date and the interaction. It's actually happening on social media. So you'll see the men and the women on their stories. They they'll they'll record themselves crying. That's a form of trauma dumping. They'll go on there and say, you know, there are no more good men out here. There are no more good women out here.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
And it's like, so if I'm a woman and I see a guy doing that, I'm like, oh, he there's something wrong with him. He keeps picking bad women and vice versa. If you're a woman and you keep saying there's no good men out here, then it's you. Then the men are thinking, well, it's because you're not picking the right men. Why do you keep, you know, going in a circle? So that kind of thing.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
The other thing I say they do, it's a form of trauma dumping. It's crashing out. That's when someone completely spazzes out on social media.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
One of those would be, like, you know, posting screenshots of someone, talking about your breakup, and then tagging the person, showing yourself destroying property, just acting up and screaming. And sadly, this is done constantly.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
And the sad part about it, honestly, is they think that, like, they're getting attention because when they view their stories, they're like, oh, my gosh, 500, 1,000 people or 2,000 people viewed this. I'm like, and they're laughing at you. And now they've screen recorded it. So listen to this, ladies and guys.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
They're now screen recording you and they're putting it on Facebook or they're putting it on YouTube. And now you're going viral because they're laughing at you.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
So none of the free ones. And the reason why is a lot of those people don't realize it. It's just hookup swinger thing. So most of the time when they're swiping left or swiping right, it's like, you know, do you want the mystery meat at Dollar Tree or do you want to get your meat from, you know, Whole Foods?
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
So essentially getting like the tenders, the bumbles, all those that are free, you're you're you're pretty much getting the dollar tree of dating, you know, or if that's if that's what it is you're looking for. But if you're saying you're a high caliber woman or a high caliber man, someone who isn't willing to pay a monthly fee to invest in themselves isn't worth your time.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Someone who is paying that monthly fee to invest in themselves, they're not paying to go hook up because they know they can swipe on Tinder and get that for free.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
They're actually on there to date with intention and to date with purpose. So I would say any of the paid ones, they also have ones now, if you even just type in on Google for people who they have one for women and men who make six figures and above.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
So you're making sure that you're, you know, keeping everything within your circle, because once you reach a certain level financially, you normally want to date and marry within your circle. And if you look at the elite, that's what they do. They kind of keep it going and they encourage their kids to do the same thing. So that would be the other thing.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Also, if let's say you're still scared, you don't want to invest that much, then tighten up your social media. Because guess what? Even though it's not supposed to be, the biggest growing dating app is Instagram, Facebook, TikTok even in some ways. But it's your calling card. Your social media is your calling card. That is your ticket in for work.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
That is your ticket in for dating, for making business relationships and new friendships. So it's not just taking these, you know, everyone's going to hate me for saying these ugly Android pics because I'm seeing it. It's using an iPhone and, you know, I'm team brown skin because I'm brown skin, as you guys can tell. It's making sure you have the correct lighting.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
So that means if you are using an iPhone, you're attaching an LED light with a yellow tone to it so that you can actually see your complexion and your face. I just gave you guys free sauce right there. And I charge for that.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Yes, we are.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Well, I love it. I, you know, all press is good press. So I do like that. But what I will say is I'm a traditional woman. So if let's just let me.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Let me explain, and I'll even give a little history lesson for all of us in here that'll really just reel it all in. So when I say I'm a traditional woman, I believe in traditional gender roles. That means me as a wife, I'm there to nurture. I'm there to give peace. I'm there to cook. I'm there to clean. And I'm also there to be your shoulder and your support system.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Because remember, the man is the head, but I'm the neck. So I have to be there to help keep everything afloat. That's my role. So with that being said, I wanted a mate.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
you a husband that believes in traditional gender roles as well so that means you're the provider you're going to protect you're going to do what's necessary to ensure that our family is safe and secure and that I still feel good as a woman we still have our date nights but we still do stuff at home that's what I mean by traditional so with that and it's me carrying myself appropriately as well because I know wherever I go whatever I do I'm a reflection of you so that's why I have the ideals that I have
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Both. So what's happening is men and women are actually not dating at their level. So they're either dating up too high or they're dating down too low. So what's happening is people have a false sense of reality because of social media. It's kind of given people, you know, it's made average people think there's something wrong with being average.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Thank you. Thank you very much.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Well, for example, we were both nine to fivers. What's wrong with marrying another nine to fiver? What's happened is on social media, everybody sees like these yachts and this extravagant lifestyle. They feel like that's always attainable and that's the only way for happiness. That's not true. You could be happy married to a cop. You could be happy married to a lawyer.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
You could be happy married to a firefighter, a truck driver. It all depends on whether you guys are a match. That's essentially it.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
right exactly so what's happened is that for men it kind of sucks a little bit because now that girl who lives in that teeny tiny town or somewhere in the midwest she has men from here all the way to europe to dubai that can try and hit on her and so it's made the dating marketplace really really difficult and it's given a false sense of reality now the thing is
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
it can affect men and it can affect women or it can't because guess what even if you aren't at the level that you want to be you can always get yourself there that means you need to step up your looks get in the gym eat better maybe use better you know face products get a dermatologist get an esthetician it may mean that you need more etiquette as far as you know experiencing new things taking yourself out to dinner i always tell women
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
date yourself first. You can't tell a guy that you wanna go to Nobu or you wanna go to Javier's and you've only ever been to Sizzler. So, you know what I mean? You can give yourself those experiences and expand your own horizons so that you can be in the marketplace to be with someone who's of the who's who, but you have to put yourself in that position.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Just like you always tell men all the time, you know, step it up, be a family man, be traditional values. If you want to have a higher caliber woman, then you need to elevate your finances, quit living paycheck to paycheck, get a second source of income, right?
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
My avatar is highly successful women who are sophisticated. So no offense to the OnlyFans girls or girls that are sex workers, but that's not what my aim is for because I'm kind of against the whole gold-digging,
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Excellent. How are you doing?
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
sugar babying sugar daddy thing because i you know i hate to put religion in there but i'm a christian and that kind of goes against my core values because i feel with any bad thing like that that you're doing it's temporary gratification it may feel good for right now but guess what whether you're a man and you're sugar daddying you could go broke Or you could croak.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
A woman, you keep going out there doing that, your beauty only lasts for so long. Eventually, in a relationship or a marriage, you have to have more than just your looks and sex. Can you be sitting together on a porch in the rocking chairs, holding hands and talking about the good old days and laughing and talking about your accomplishments you made?
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Not how many times you were shaking your booty on OnlyFans. So it's a very vicious cycle. So who I help are the highly successful women, the doctors, the attorneys, the self-starting women, the business owners. There's so many women who own trucking companies, who own tow truck companies. who own construction companies. Maybe they inherited it or something, their dads ran it.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Or they're law enforcement, they're firefighters. They're highly successful women, but sometimes they don't have the femininity that they should have because they're in a job where they're forced to have to be more masculine because if they show a sign of weakness, then they're not an effective leader.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
So I help them be able to, as we call it, code switch so they can take the masculine and feminine energy and know when and where to use it, essentially. I help them do that and really tap into their femininity because most women have it.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
It's just they've either not gotten a chance to use it or sadly in society, you know, in the 90s, you know, we were both kids in the 90s, all those talk shows that we watched preached nothing but strong, independent women. You don't need a man. You don't need a man. Don't comb your hair. Don't look good. Don't be the best you can be. You don't need a man to open the car door for you.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
You don't need a man to pay for dinner. So now these women are in the masculine role. And sadly, the ones who are highly successful that I deal with, they're now having to deal with men who now want to have their hot girl summer.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
They're the ones who are feminine, so they're like, how do I put myself in a position to be around those masculine men and not those feminine men that I'm encountering because I'm giving off the masculine energy.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
No, they can absolutely find love, but there's levels to it. So for someone at that level, you know, with every dating element, there has to be a common ground, you know, aside from just looks and just sex. So if she is a Walmart worker, retail, maybe she can't have that CEO of that company.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
But she would do well with a firefighter or someone who still wants to be in the more provider role, but they have more of a common ground. That's what I'm saying. It has to be someone who can be in those social circles. But you never know.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
That girl who is the Walmart worker or the retail worker, she may know how to level herself up and be a great client with enough potential to be able to move in and out of those circles. But when you're in the higher circles, you have to be able to communicate at the dinners, at the brunches, at the, you know,
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Yes and no. Let me explain why. Because after a certain age, men want more than just looks, I'm finding. So these higher caliber men, they love beautiful girls for bedroom dates.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
A bedroom date is pretty much a classy way of saying you're a booty call.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
That's what I coined. It's called bedroom date. Bedroom date. Okay. It's actually worse than a booty call though because girls who are getting bedroom dated think they're in a relationship and they're like falling for the guy. But really he has you on his roster on rotation.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Okay, so an example of a bedroom date would be a girl who only gets the late night calls to hang out, only gets Netflix and chill. She never gets taken to dinner. And even sometimes she's asked by him to bring dinner to him. It's not reciprocated. But because out of desperation, because she hasn't dated anyone and
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
That is like the ultimate, like that's the best analogy you can give. She was like the ultimate bedroom date. And it's funny as when I was younger, I used to love that movie. But now watching it, I'm sad for her because she was getting bedroom dated that whole movie. And she literally had to hop over his fence when he told her that he was done with her for the night.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Anyways, anyways.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
L'Oreal, yeah. I felt for him for that.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
OK, I agree with you, actually. So but let me but let me tell you what ends up happening. So initially, those guys use those girls and they have fun because they're fun. Yeah. When they first get their money, they're going to do that. But what ends up happening is those 18 to 21 year olds have a rotation as well.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
so what's going to end up happening is they get that instant gratification they get the sex they get all that enjoyment from those girls but initially what's going to happen or eventually what's going to happen is they're going to look over in the bed and see that it's empty because that girl's on that rotation and they're lonely so they're going to realize dang sex is good but i really want a warm body and someone genuine beside me to care for me to care for me to give me that
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
So, yeah, they're going to do that a few years. And then when it gets old, they're going to actually marry someone who is within their level. And if you notice what I noticed, they normally marry like a nice girl from like a small town or something like that.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
Well, aside from working for the government, I was an HR analyst for over 10 years. So I have a really, really good, vast knowledge on how to carry yourself, how to conduct yourself in meetings, how to always be professional, and just how to be a lady because I was forced to at an early age. I started with the state at only 20 years old.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
A humble girl. Absolutely.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
Okay, well, this is my answer to that. The biggest thing is the A word, accountability. And it's simply you have to be accountable and know what it is that you can get and what it is that you can't get. And also be accountable that, hey, you haven't kept yourself up. Maybe you're losing your hair. Maybe you're starting to get a dad bod.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
Maybe you're a girl and you got a little bit of the jelly rolls going on. Yeah. It's being accountable and knowing that, hey, even though you may want something, it may not be for you. So unless you're putting in the work to get that, you need to date within your league. That's something I talk to women about all the time.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
Doesn't mean you have to get down to that supermodel body and get that, but you do also have to have a reality check and know because you're not going to be in that tip-top shape physically or mentally, you need to get someone within your league.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
Absolutely. They're lying to them. Like, I had very honest parents. I went through an ugly duckling phase. Anybody that knows me from my small town or has even seen me on social media, I show the before pictures. You tease me about it. I was emo at one point and had ugly blonde streaks that looked like a raccoon. Oh, my gosh. I hate thinking about it. But anyways, what did I do?
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
I started giving myself makeovers at 12 years old. Because like eventually the teasing was out of control and I couldn't handle it anymore. And I'm like, I'm not going to go through life like this and be a dork my whole life. So each year, something you always preach to is every year you should be getting better and better. And that's essentially what I did.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
And then my mom started seeing the changes in me and she poured into me and she was like, let me put my daughter in pageants. My mom put me in pageants so that I can have the etiquette, the poise. I could stand up straight. I could feel confident speaking. I could feel just confident in life. Because guess what? Even in dating, you have to be confident on a date.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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You have to be able to articulate yourself. You can't just sit there like a mute.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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Something like that? Yeah, 12.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
But while doing that simultaneously, I also worked and did makeup. I was a makeup artist, so I've done makeup for over 15 years. And along with that, I was a personal stylist, so fashion expert. So with those three things, You know, I've always kind of had a hold on everything as far as being successful in corporate, being successful in beauty, being successful in fashion.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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they're still doing their makeup like they did in their 20s. Or if they're in their 20s, they're still doing their makeup like they did in their teens. So let me tell you, the biggest way you can tell a woman's age is by how she does her makeup. When you're really young, you wear hot pink, you wear green, you wear blue, glitter, all that stuff. I did it. But guess what?
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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As I started getting older, when I transitioned from my 20s to my 30s, you actually wear less makeup. And in MAC, we used to call it a whole lot of nothing. You wear a whole lot of nothing to look like you're not wearing a lot.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
But what happens is these women are still like, I'm still going to wear my purple eyeshadow. I'm still going to wear my blue liner and that hot pink lip. And while that was fun and Y2K and the 10s, now it's very like... It's scary because we're we're going back to the traditional ways, which is what I was going to talk about later.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
But everything is going back, not necessarily super conservative, but to like a softer, gentler time. That's why we have like the soft girl era or what I always tease you about being you. You love quiet luxury or stealth wealth. It's very, very discreet. So if you have this loud affectation. Offensive makeup, how do you fit that narrative?
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
Just like the housing market is doing a correction, there's going to be a correction made in the dating world and also in the mindset. We're going to start seeing people sit back down to dinner, turn off their phones, put their electronics away, and get back to being ladies and gentlemen again.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
So with that, yes, the biggest beauty thing is wearing too much, not wearing a hairstyle that fits your body, your face and just, you're not putting your grooming up to the best standards, but it's, it's the makeup that's, that's too much all the time, all the time.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
like thong, shorts that are cupping the butt, like they're showing their body.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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Instagram, Facebook, dating apps. So what's happening is they're getting bedroom dated because they're only being shown in a sexual way. Doesn't mean you still can't show your physique, but you need to wear like a fitted dress, fitted slacks. You can't help it if you're shapely and you're just wearing a dress. You can't help it.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
But if you're wearing something where you're scantily clad, it just it sends the wrong message and it attracts the wrong type of men.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
So that's like the biggest thing is that they're wearing the wrong type of thing. Or if it's not too sexy, it's too frumpy. They're not dressing for their age. So they're either dressing too old or they're dressing too young. And they look silly. Kind of like how we see the guys who are still wearing the tall tees and the fitted hats and the Jordans and all that stuff.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
They're dressed like how you dressed in high school, right, baby? Yeah. Yeah, and then so what I see the women still doing is they're still trying, even though Apple Bottoms has made a comeback, I just saw last night their ad, you know, they're still wearing the Apple Bottoms, but they don't have an Apple Bottom anymore. You know, they're still wearing things like that. So it's kind of ick.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
And then the number two thing is that they're trauma dumping on the dating apps and on social media.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
They all go hand in hand, especially when it comes to putting your best foot forward, presenting yourself in dating, because the example that you set in person should always mirror the example that you set on social media. And that's something that I've just always had down.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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Trauma dumping is something that can happen on a date where you talk about that you have mommy issues, you have daddy issues.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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Your past and that you have problems. It's been 10 years since I've been on a date. Like even if it has like.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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Yeah, and on top of that, that's not something that's going to make or break a relationship. I don't need to know that. And so what it does, though, is make it appear or make it quite evident that you have issues. And nobody wants anyone with issues. Not saying we all don't have something a little bit. Nobody's perfect, but you don't share like that on a first date. It's really gross.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
So it's not just happening on the first date and the interaction. It's actually happening on social media. So you'll see the men and the women on their stories. They'll record themselves crying. That's a form of trauma dumping. They'll go on there and say, you know, there are no more good men out here. There are no more good women out here.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
And it's like, so if I'm a woman and I see a guy doing that, I'm like, oh, he there's something wrong with him. He keeps picking bad women and vice versa. If you're a woman and you keep saying there's no good men out here, then it's you. Then the men are thinking, well, it's because you're not picking the right men. Why do you keep, you know, going in a circle? So that kind of thing.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
The other thing I say they do, it's a form of trauma dumping. It's crashing out. that's when someone completely spazzes out on social media.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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One of those would be, like, you know, posting screenshots of someone, talking about your breakup, and then tagging the person, showing yourself destroying property, just acting up and screaming. And sadly, this is done constantly.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
And the sad part about it, honestly, is they think that, like, they're getting attention because when they view their stories, they're like, oh, my gosh, 500, 1,000 people or 2,000 people viewed this. I'm like, and they're laughing at you. And now they've screen recorded it. So listen to this, ladies and guys.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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They're now screen recording you and they're putting it on Facebook or they're putting it on YouTube. And now you're going viral because they're laughing at you.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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So none of the free ones. And the reason why is a lot of those people don't realize it. It's just hookup swinger thing. So most of the time when they're swiping left or swiping right, it's like, you know, do you want the mystery meat at Dollar Tree or do you want to get your meat from, you know, Whole Foods?
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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So essentially getting like the tenders, the bumbles, all those that are free, you're you're you're pretty much getting the dollar tree of dating, you know, or if that's if that's what it is you're looking for. But if you're saying you're a high caliber woman or a high caliber man, someone who isn't willing to pay a monthly fee to invest in themselves isn't worth your time.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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someone who is paying that monthly fee to invest in themselves, they're not paying to go hook up because they know they can swipe on Tinder and get that for free. They're actually on there to date with intention and to date with purpose.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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So I would say any of the paid ones, they also have ones now, if you even just type in on Google, for people who, they have one for women and men who make six figures and above. So you're making sure that you're, you know, keeping everything within your circle. Because once you reach a certain level financially, you normally want to date and marry within your circle.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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And if you look at the elite, that's what they do. They kind of keep it going and they encourage their kids to do the same thing.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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so that so that that would be the other thing also if let's say you know you're still scared you don't want to invest that much then tighten up your social media because guess what even though it's not supposed to be the biggest growing dating app is instagram facebook um tick tock even in some ways but it's your calling card your social media is your calling card that is your ticket in for work
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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That is your ticket in for dating, for making business relationships and new friendships. So it's not just taking these, you know, everyone's going to hate me for saying these ugly Android pics because I'm seeing it. It's using an iPhone and you know, I'm team brown skin because I'm brown skin as you guys can tell. It's making sure you have the correct lighting.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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So that means if you are using an iPhone, you're attaching an LED light with a yellow tone to it so that you can actually see your complexion and your face. I just gave you guys free sauce right there. And I charge for that.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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Well, I love it. I, you know, all press is good press. So I do like that. But what I will say is I'm a traditional woman. So if let's just let me.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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Let me explain, and I'll even give a little history lesson for all of us in here that'll really just reel it all in. So when I say I'm a traditional woman, I believe in traditional gender roles. That means me as a wife, I'm there to nurture, I'm there to give peace. I'm there to cook. I'm there to clean. And I'm also there to be your shoulder and your support system.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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Because remember, the man is the head, but I'm the neck. So I have to be there to help keep everything afloat. That's my role. So with that being said, I wanted a mate. you a husband that believes in traditional gender roles as well. So that means you're the provider you're going to protect.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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You're going to do what's necessary to ensure that our family is safe and secure and that I still feel good as a woman. We still have our date nights, but we still do stuff at home. That's what I mean by traditional. So with that and it's me carrying myself appropriately as well, because I know wherever I go, whatever I do, I'm a reflection of you. So that's why I have the ideals that I have.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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Both. Both. So what's happening is men and women are actually not dating at their level. So they're either dating up too high or they're dating down too low. So what's happening is people have a false sense of reality because of social media. It's kind of given people, you know, it's made average people think there's something wrong with being average.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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And that's why I can say what I say. I'm not a gold digger. I'm not a sugar baby. Yeah, none of that stuff.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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Yes. The reason why, and brief history lesson is because, unfortunately, we've all forgotten that what a man and a woman's role are, especially one of my videos that, as you said, went viral as far as like dates and the roles and responsibilities of a date. Do you remember homecoming and prom? Okay.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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So, or even back then when you would date in high school, did you ever go and have the girl drive and pick you up?
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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Okay. And if it was homecoming, didn't you, or prom, didn't you get her a corsage?
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Okay. Even though it wasn't Ruth's Chris or Fleming's or Nobu or Javier's or, you know, any of the places. Let's say you were just taking her to Cheesecake Factory, which I love, by the way. Did you tell her to open up her purse and go 50-50, or did you pay for dinner?
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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I rest my case because traditionally, even as a young man, it's always taught to a young man, hey, you hold out your hand for a lady, you open the door, you put a corsage on her when you're going on a date, you make sure you put your jacket over her shoulders when it's cold, and then you pay for dinner that you can afford at the time.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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So what's happened now is the roles reversed because us women were so focused on being boss babes and we were pushed education, education, education, which is great. We forgot to let men be men and men lead. And so because we forgot that, men forgot too. Not all men, but some of these lower frequency men forgot what their role was.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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And so because all these boss babes said they can do it, they're now paying for dinner. So that's what's happened. So what I encourage women to do, because they're saying they like it, but then what happens is when they get into a long-term relationship or a marriage, they end up resenting the man when the man has to ask them for money.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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And they end up saying, well, you're not contributing to the household. So my thing that I tell them is to just be patient, be mindful, work on your femininity and don't settle if that's not something that you can handle.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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If you know you can't handle being with a man who's not going to treat you like a lady and you can't like not throw it in his face later, then you need to just be single until you can find that person.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
They can find me on Facebook at Brittany Charm. They can find me on Instagram, Charm Beauty and Connection. If you just type it into Google, you'll find it too. And I actually have a Facebook group called Makeup and Manners for Modern Matchmaking. It's a private Facebook group, but I allow the highly successful women to join.
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You just have to make sure you answer the questionnaires and put in your contact information because it's a secure, safe place just for women to That's why I asked for that information so that they know it's a sisterhood. So it's meant for us women to connect and for me to provide feedback and show my experiences.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
Well, for example, we were both nine-to-fivers. What's wrong with marrying another nine-to-fiver? What's happened is on social media, everybody sees like these yachts and this extravagant lifestyle. They feel like that's always attainable and that's the only way for happiness. That's not true. You could be happy married to a cop. You could be happy married to a lawyer.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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You could be happy married to a firefighter, a truck driver. It all depends on whether you guys are a match. That's essentially it.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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right exactly so what's happened is that for men it kind of sucks a little bit because now that girl who lives in that teeny tiny town or somewhere in the midwest she has men from here all the way to europe to dubai that can try and hit on her and so it's made the dating marketplace really really difficult and it's given a false sense of reality now the thing is
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
it can affect men and it can affect women or it can't because guess what even if you aren't at the level that you want to be you can always get yourself there that means you need to step up your looks get in the gym eat better maybe use better you know face products get a dermatologist get an esthetician it may mean that you need more etiquette as far as you know experiencing new things taking yourself out to dinner i always tell women
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
date yourself first. You can't tell a guy that you wanna go to Nobu or you wanna go to Javier's and you've only ever been to Sizzler. So, you know what I mean? You can give yourself those experiences and expand your own horizons so that you can be in the marketplace to be with someone who's of the who's who, but you have to put yourself in that position.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
Just like you always tell men all the time, you know, step it up, be a family man, be traditional values. If you want to have a higher caliber woman, then you need to elevate your finances, quit living paycheck to paycheck, get a second source of income, right?
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
My avatar is highly successful women who are sophisticated. So no offense to the OnlyFans girls or girls that are sex workers, but that's not what my aim is for because I'm kind of against the whole gold-digging, sugar babying, sugar daddy thing because, you know, I hate to put religion in there, but I'm a Christian.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
And that kind of goes against my core values because I feel with any bad thing like that that you're doing, it's temporary gratification. It may feel good for right now, but guess what? Whether you're a man and you're sugar daddying, you could go broke. Or you could croak. A woman, you keep going out there doing that, your beauty only lasts for so long.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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Eventually, in a relationship or a marriage, you have to have more than just your looks and sex. Can you be sitting together on a porch in the rocking chairs, holding hands and talking about the good old days and laughing and talking about your accomplishments you made? Not how many times you were shaking your booty on OnlyFans. So it's a very vicious cycle.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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So who I help are the highly successful women, the doctors, the attorneys, the self-starting women, the business owners. There's so many women who own trucking companies, who own tow truck companies, who own construction companies. Maybe they inherited it or something, their dads ran it. Or they're law enforcement, they're firefighters.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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They're highly successful women, but sometimes they don't have the femininity that they should have because they're in a job where they're forced to have to be more masculine because if they show a sign of weakness, then they're not an effective leader.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
So I help them be able to, as we call it, code switch so they can take the masculine and feminine energy and know when and where to use it, essentially. I help them do that and really tap into their femininity because most women have it.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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It's just they've either not gotten a chance to use it or sadly in society, you know, in the 90s, you know, we were both kids in the 90s, all those talk shows that we watched preached nothing but strong, independent women. You don't need a man. You don't need a man. Don't comb your hair. Don't look good. Don't be the best you can be. You don't need a man to open the car door for you.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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You don't need a man to pay for dinner. So now these women are in the masculine role. And sadly, the ones who are highly successful that I deal with, they're now having to deal with men who now want to have their hot girl summer.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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They're the ones who are feminine, so they're like, how do I put myself in a position to be around those masculine men and not those feminine men that I'm encountering because I'm giving off the masculine energy.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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No, they can absolutely find love, but there's levels to it. So for someone at that level, you know, with every dating element, there has to be a common ground, you know, aside from just looks and just sex. So if she is a Walmart worker, retail, maybe she can't have that CEO of that company.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
but she would do well with a firefighter or someone who still wants to be in the more provider role, but they have more of a common ground. That's what I'm saying. It has to be someone who can be in those social circles. But you never know.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025
That girl who is the Walmart worker or the retail worker, she may know how to level herself up and be a great client with enough potential to be able to move in and out of those circles. But when you're in the higher circles, you have to be able to communicate at the dinners, at the brunches, at the, you know,
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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Yes and no. Let me explain why. Because after a certain age, men want more than just looks, I'm finding. So these higher caliber men, they love beautiful girls for bedroom dates.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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A bedroom date is pretty much a classy way of saying you're a booty call.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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That's what I coined. It's called bedroom date.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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It's actually worse than a booty call though because girls who are getting bedroom dated think they're in a relationship and they're like falling for the guy, but really he has you on his roster on rotation.
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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Okay, so an example of a bedroom date would be a girl who only gets the late night calls to hang out, only gets Netflix and chill. She never gets taken to dinner. And even sometimes she's asked by him to bring dinner to him. It's not reciprocated. But because out of desperation, because she hasn't dated anyone and
The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex
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That is like the ultimate, like that's the best analogy you can give. She was like the ultimate bedroom date. And it's funny, as when I was younger, I used to love that movie. But now watching it, I'm sad for her because she was getting bedroom dated that whole movie. And she literally had to hop over his fence when he told her that he was done with her for the night.
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L'Oreal, yeah. I felt for him for that.