Bailey
Appearances
20/20
Bad Romance: Web of Lies
Every year for my birthday, they would always send a birthday card, and I always remember asking my mom, who's Sarah, Jane, and Ira? And my mom would always explain, like, those are Donna's parents, and they just, you know, want to let you know that, like, they love you and that they remember you.
20/20
Bad Romance: Web of Lies
I was six years old when my dad was arrested and I just remember like everyone just trying to remain calm and kind of at the time be like, dad's just going away for a while and that he'll be back soon.
20/20
Bad Romance: Web of Lies
After dad was arrested, he was always writing us letters. Bailey, I remember the very first time I ever held you in my arms. You were so small, but I fell in love with you immediately.
20/20
Bad Romance: Web of Lies
We were so convinced that our dad was going to come home and now he's not.
20/20
Bad Romance: Web of Lies
Looking at the pictures and the videos, it just all feels so fake to me.
Search Engine
Should we be worried about OpenAI?
OpenAI? Huh? Sounds vaguely familiar. Kidding, of course. That's incredible, Rocky. What kind of interview?
Search Engine
Should we be worried about OpenAI?
No, my voice isn't designed to replicate Scarlett Johansson or any specific person.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
Thank you for taking the time to listen to a stranger.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
So my question is, am I being unreasonable for asking to spend the holidays with my family this year? But I think the deeper question I'm wrestling with is how do I know if I'm dealing with the problem or if I am the problem?
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
My boyfriend. We live together, but we're not married or engaged yet.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
Tomorrow will be a year. Okay. I also mentioned to him that I'd be talking to you today. So, he's just asked that I try to give the full context. Okay.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
And I'll try to be as objective as I can until you ask me about my thoughts about it. So boyfriend and I have been dating for a little about a year now. Like I said before, we're not married or engaged. We want to be. a different conversation.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
Okay, go ahead. We come from very different backgrounds. And what I mean about that is he comes from a family where marriage is stable. His parents and grandparents have all stayed married for decades till death do they part. On the other hand, I come from a divorce family. My mom's been married five times and I've been engaged twice. And
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
So I've spent a lot of my 20s traveling and soul-searching and nomading around. So before we met, my boyfriend spent over a decade working a job where he traveled about 90% of the time. And he worked really hard with the goal for early retirement. And so right before we met, he decided he's done traveling.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
He wants to settle down and enjoy the home that he's worked really hard for and be close to his family in Florida where he's from. And after we met, he got the news that he didn't have to travel anymore. So we dated for a few more months. And then it was like, do we break up? Do we do long distance? Or do we just see if it works? Do a little trial run? So now we're living together in Florida.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
And it's been about six months since I've been here. So with the holiday issue... Last Christmas, I visited him in Florida and spent the whole month of December with him and his family. We live really close to them. And I thought we'd alternate holidays between our families in the future.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
But now that it's time to make holiday plans, he told me that he doesn't want to travel during the holidays anymore. And he now runs his own business, so he could work around it. But it feels like he prioritizes his time and his preferences without much consideration for mine. And when we went to visit my family earlier this year for the first time, he gave me about four days of his schedule.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
And now he says we just saw my family. And so it feels like I'm being gaslighted into thinking I'm selfish for wanting to spend Christmas with my family this year. So... I guess I'm really struggling with whether I'm being reasonable for asking to spend this holiday with my family or if I'm being made to feel like my needs don't matter.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
I completely agree with you. And I guess that was one of the wants that I was like, let's not wait to have this conversation on our first date. I told him I want to get married. I want to have kids. These are my goals. I come from this messy family, but this is still something that is my biggest need. And he agreed, but that turns out he feels like the government shouldn't be involved in marriage.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
I think it's fair. I also have a really bad memory. So I think the gaslighting thing came from where, because we didn't go home for New Year's or Christmas, we were planning on doing New Year's, but things were complicated with his work. So we did. And so he said, we'll go back next year. And so now it's that. And it was, him telling me I'm going to marry you.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
And now it's like, I want the government out. So, okay.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
I think so. I also work with people in addiction. So I feel like my life isn't as bad, but,
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
She did. They divorced when I was nine. I was from her first marriage. Okay. But she... You know, I came from a very... faith-based family where it was, you know, she got married a lot because she didn't live with her boyfriend before she lived with them. They would date for a few months and then they'd get married.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
Yeah. It is like, I'm sorry.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
Yeah, I'm right. I mean, you're right.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
Yeah, sorry. No, I'm not trying to say sorry.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
Thank you. My dad and my stepmom came out to Florida to visit a few months back because they knew how important this relationship was to me. So when we couldn't go out to Utah, they came out here. And my dad was just, yes, this is the guy for you. He was so... I didn't get my mom's approval, but my dad, who... I am so close to him. I really value his opinion.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
He really thought I picked a good person. And so whenever I have different issues like this come up, he understands where my boyfriend is coming from. And he also mentioned to me when we were driving him back to the airport was that he just believes that I'm going to lose myself.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
So I have a question for you. Okay. When I have that chat with him, what kind of responses are something that I can work with versus something I should run from?
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
Yes. I think the thing that prompted me to call you was The way that he did handle it when I brought up wanting to go back home for the holidays with him. Because that person was just like, yeah, if you want to go home, go home. But my whole thing was, I want to go home with you.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
Yeah, that's one thing. And he brings that up. And shortly after, he was just like, let's look at the schedule. Maybe we don't go on the week of Christmas, but we go before or after.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
Yeah, which that's something I don't mind. I just want to be with him. I think the thing that scares me is that, you know, he does tell me things that he wants and I'm not sure if it's something that he wants me to hear or something that he really means, but things just change and circumstances change.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I’m Married, But I’m Attracted to Someone Else
Yeah. And what I want doesn't always come true.