Adriana
Appearances
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
I, I completely agree. I think my biggest problem is as her, the owner, I didn't want to, completely overstep boundaries. Um, but I know that for her, she has had no leadership experience prior opening this business and being the doctor.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
Yeah.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
Yeah, I definitely can.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
No, I don't.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
No, honestly, I'm about to go back into the room and get things going.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
No, I appreciate you guys on a little back end. I'm on 75 hard for the second time, and I've lost 100 pounds, and I just appreciate everything that you guys do.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
No, I just greatly appreciate you. Listen to you every week, religiously.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
Yeah.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
Yes, I do.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
Of course. Thank you guys so much. All right. Thank you.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
This is Josh.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
Not much. Just finishing up a meeting. How are y'all?
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
Fabulous. Thank you so much for asking.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
Oh, yeah. Absolutely.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
Yep. Yeah. Gotcha. Yeah.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
Well, there's a reason why I asked the question I did today. Okay.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
What you got? So I just kind of wanted to see, you know, at what point do you stop pouring into something? Especially when it won't receive what I bring to the team. The team sees me as a leader, but I'm not empowered to lead by the owner. I believe in the mission. I'm a manager. I have attempted to put a lot of things in place, but I'm kind of at a crossroads of, you know, when is enough enough?
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
You know, do I stop? being underused here and grow where my value is honored, or even I'm on a crossroad of opening up my own business.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
Absolutely. So I was hired as the manager background. I've had 10 years of running hotels and switched career paths and got into wellness and health. And I understood from the initial interview that me coming into this team was to help build create SOPs and help grow the business. But as I've come into the company again, I had moved away for a few months and then moved back.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
Cause I moved out of state, but I was still always helping. And when I came back, we're hitting our two year anniversary this week. And there's still no use of SOPs. There's no contracts even for us as employees. And there's just been multiple conversations about trying to create a background for the business so we can be successful.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
Yes. It's one owner. She's the doctor. I'm on my third conversation.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
They are typically very positive, but no follow-through.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
I have presented all documents. and follows up on my end.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
Yeah, absolutely. The best way for me to put it is that though I'm the manager, she won't allow me to rule anything out.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
Absolutely. So our meeting today, any of the initiatives that I've put forward and have been attempting to understand, I was told that she was not comfortable doing that until end of year or maybe next year when we hit our three year.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
No it's me directly to her.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
Yeah.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
She says that it is too busy to put any of the processes in place.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
It's definitely very busy, but I don't believe we can grow unless we have these processes in place.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
Yes.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
889. Q&AF: Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers
Today, the line has been, I want to put a playbook in place for the office, but use your best judgment. It's your decision, but then she does not support it.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
So my question was, how could I help my husband set boundaries with his mother?
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
No, no, not at all. I think it's more of a I think there's some underlying is not with him. My husband's great and he cares a lot about or he worries a lot about his mother's mental health. And considering that his other siblings completely exclude her and dismiss her, he kind of feels like he's the only son that she has left.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
Um, so I think that worries him and he doesn't, he, I think he fears, um, uh, her going to an extreme because she has been very extreme in the past.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
Yeah. Uh, because there's been stuff like that that's happened in the past where, um, if she doesn't get her way, then she'll go to the bathroom and
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
at the hospital yeah so yeah so i man those are really really tough um what why now why is this call coming up now so um he warned me when before we even got married um when i first met his parents he was like i'm just warning you my mom you know he said that she's had trauma in her past and um you know she kind of has the mental capacity of a 12 year old girl And I was like, okay, that's fine.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
And when I met her, I was like, he's being very generous. I do not think she has the mental capacity of a 12 year old girl. I think it's way lower than that. But the thing that for me broke the camel's back was, um, naming, we're having a baby, um, in April and it's going to be a girl.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
And he was really nervous about like, if we, um, don't name her after his mother, his mother is going to be very upset.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
Yeah. And, uh, like even like, and because I know this is a month out, but like during Christmas and Christmas shopping, he wanted to get his parents like grandma and grandpa shirts. And I couldn't find some shirts in her size. Um, so I found her a grandma shirt and I found her and her father, a grandpa shirt, but his grandpa shirt said, you know, best dad promotes grandpa.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
And I couldn't find that in her size for grandma. So I just got her to like the flowery one. He's like, can't we can't give one a promotion and the other one just grandma like she's going to be very upset if she's not promoted to grandma i'm like okay where is where is his dad in all of this his dad um is very protective of his mother um where like he said that growing up
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
If his mother went into these rages, his dad would kind of like pull her into a room and like push the dresser in front of the door so that she wouldn't act that way in front of the children. But he tries to kind of keep an eye on her. Again, it's very much like a child where... to the point where he has to remind her to go to the bathroom.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
He has to, um, like if something like if she leaves, he's like constantly kind of figuring out where she's at. If she's like, uh, like for example, we're at a hotel lobby and some kids were playing and he knocked a sign over and he said, Oh my gosh, is that okay? That was just some kids. Like he thought it was his wife like doing that.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. I know that I think he tries to compromise with, um, like for me, like I, you know, I, I don't have the best, the best relationship is better, but best relationship with my personal parents. But that's because it was like 15 years of therapy, you know, trying to make it work. And I was like, I'm not doing this again with your parents.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
Yeah, it's kind of... You know, except it was my dad and not my mom, but, or, you know, but yeah, absolutely.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
Again, he's the peace, it's not a peacemaker, peacekeeper.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
Yeah. And his family where his siblings have all just kind of dismissed her and their whole family and stuff. So he kind of feels like he's the only one. And we're the only one having kids. This is their first grandchild. This is my parents' 12th. Yeah.