Adriana
Appearances
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
So my question was, how could I help my husband set boundaries with his mother?
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
No, no, not at all. I think it's more of a I think there's some underlying is not with him. My husband's great and he cares a lot about or he worries a lot about his mother's mental health. And considering that his other siblings completely exclude her and dismiss her, he kind of feels like he's the only son that she has left.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
Um, so I think that worries him and he doesn't, he, I think he fears, um, uh, her going to an extreme because she has been very extreme in the past.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
Yeah. Uh, because there's been stuff like that that's happened in the past where, um, if she doesn't get her way, then she'll go to the bathroom and
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
at the hospital yeah so yeah so i man those are really really tough um what why now why is this call coming up now so um he warned me when before we even got married um when i first met his parents he was like i'm just warning you my mom you know he said that she's had trauma in her past and um you know she kind of has the mental capacity of a 12 year old girl And I was like, okay, that's fine.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
And when I met her, I was like, he's being very generous. I do not think she has the mental capacity of a 12 year old girl. I think it's way lower than that. But the thing that for me broke the camel's back was, um, naming, we're having a baby, um, in April and it's going to be a girl.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
And he was really nervous about like, if we, um, don't name her after his mother, his mother is going to be very upset.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
Yeah. And, uh, like even like, and because I know this is a month out, but like during Christmas and Christmas shopping, he wanted to get his parents like grandma and grandpa shirts. And I couldn't find some shirts in her size. Um, so I found her a grandma shirt and I found her and her father, a grandpa shirt, but his grandpa shirt said, you know, best dad promotes grandpa.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
And I couldn't find that in her size for grandma. So I just got her to like the flowery one. He's like, can't we can't give one a promotion and the other one just grandma like she's going to be very upset if she's not promoted to grandma i'm like okay where is where is his dad in all of this his dad um is very protective of his mother um where like he said that growing up
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
If his mother went into these rages, his dad would kind of like pull her into a room and like push the dresser in front of the door so that she wouldn't act that way in front of the children. But he tries to kind of keep an eye on her. Again, it's very much like a child where... to the point where he has to remind her to go to the bathroom.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
He has to, um, like if something like if she leaves, he's like constantly kind of figuring out where she's at. If she's like, uh, like for example, we're at a hotel lobby and some kids were playing and he knocked a sign over and he said, Oh my gosh, is that okay? That was just some kids. Like he thought it was his wife like doing that.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. I know that I think he tries to compromise with, um, like for me, like I, you know, I, I don't have the best, the best relationship is better, but best relationship with my personal parents. But that's because it was like 15 years of therapy, you know, trying to make it work. And I was like, I'm not doing this again with your parents.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
Yeah, it's kind of... You know, except it was my dad and not my mom, but, or, you know, but yeah, absolutely.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
Again, he's the peace, it's not a peacemaker, peacekeeper.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Is Living a Double Life
Yeah. And his family where his siblings have all just kind of dismissed her and their whole family and stuff. So he kind of feels like he's the only one. And we're the only one having kids. This is their first grandchild. This is my parents' 12th. Yeah.