Adriana

I, I completely agree. I think my biggest problem is as her, the owner, I didn't want to, completely overstep boundaries. Um, but I know that for her, she has had no leadership experience prior opening this business and being the doctor.

I, I completely agree. I think my biggest problem is as her, the owner, I didn't want to, completely overstep boundaries. Um, but I know that for her, she has had no leadership experience prior opening this business and being the doctor.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah, I definitely can.

Yeah, I definitely can.

No, I don't.

No, I don't.

No, honestly, I'm about to go back into the room and get things going.

No, honestly, I'm about to go back into the room and get things going.

No, I appreciate you guys on a little back end. I'm on 75 hard for the second time, and I've lost 100 pounds, and I just appreciate everything that you guys do.

No, I appreciate you guys on a little back end. I'm on 75 hard for the second time, and I've lost 100 pounds, and I just appreciate everything that you guys do.

No, I just greatly appreciate you. Listen to you every week, religiously.

No, I just greatly appreciate you. Listen to you every week, religiously.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yes, I do.

Yes, I do.

Of course. Thank you guys so much. All right. Thank you.

Of course. Thank you guys so much. All right. Thank you.

This is Josh.

This is Josh.

Not much. Just finishing up a meeting. How are y'all?

Not much. Just finishing up a meeting. How are y'all?

Fabulous. Thank you so much for asking.

Fabulous. Thank you so much for asking.

Oh, yeah. Absolutely.

Oh, yeah. Absolutely.

Yep. Yeah. Gotcha. Yeah.

Yep. Yeah. Gotcha. Yeah.

Well, there's a reason why I asked the question I did today. Okay.

Well, there's a reason why I asked the question I did today. Okay.

What you got? So I just kind of wanted to see, you know, at what point do you stop pouring into something? Especially when it won't receive what I bring to the team. The team sees me as a leader, but I'm not empowered to lead by the owner. I believe in the mission. I'm a manager. I have attempted to put a lot of things in place, but I'm kind of at a crossroads of, you know, when is enough enough?

What you got? So I just kind of wanted to see, you know, at what point do you stop pouring into something? Especially when it won't receive what I bring to the team. The team sees me as a leader, but I'm not empowered to lead by the owner. I believe in the mission. I'm a manager. I have attempted to put a lot of things in place, but I'm kind of at a crossroads of, you know, when is enough enough?

You know, do I stop? being underused here and grow where my value is honored, or even I'm on a crossroad of opening up my own business.

You know, do I stop? being underused here and grow where my value is honored, or even I'm on a crossroad of opening up my own business.

Absolutely. So I was hired as the manager background. I've had 10 years of running hotels and switched career paths and got into wellness and health. And I understood from the initial interview that me coming into this team was to help build create SOPs and help grow the business. But as I've come into the company again, I had moved away for a few months and then moved back.

Absolutely. So I was hired as the manager background. I've had 10 years of running hotels and switched career paths and got into wellness and health. And I understood from the initial interview that me coming into this team was to help build create SOPs and help grow the business. But as I've come into the company again, I had moved away for a few months and then moved back.

Cause I moved out of state, but I was still always helping. And when I came back, we're hitting our two year anniversary this week. And there's still no use of SOPs. There's no contracts even for us as employees. And there's just been multiple conversations about trying to create a background for the business so we can be successful.

Cause I moved out of state, but I was still always helping. And when I came back, we're hitting our two year anniversary this week. And there's still no use of SOPs. There's no contracts even for us as employees. And there's just been multiple conversations about trying to create a background for the business so we can be successful.

Yes. It's one owner. She's the doctor. I'm on my third conversation.

Yes. It's one owner. She's the doctor. I'm on my third conversation.

They are typically very positive, but no follow-through.

They are typically very positive, but no follow-through.

I have presented all documents. and follows up on my end.

I have presented all documents. and follows up on my end.

Yeah, absolutely. The best way for me to put it is that though I'm the manager, she won't allow me to rule anything out.

Yeah, absolutely. The best way for me to put it is that though I'm the manager, she won't allow me to rule anything out.

Absolutely. So our meeting today, any of the initiatives that I've put forward and have been attempting to understand, I was told that she was not comfortable doing that until end of year or maybe next year when we hit our three year.

Absolutely. So our meeting today, any of the initiatives that I've put forward and have been attempting to understand, I was told that she was not comfortable doing that until end of year or maybe next year when we hit our three year.

No it's me directly to her.

No it's me directly to her.

Yeah.

Yeah.

She says that it is too busy to put any of the processes in place.

She says that it is too busy to put any of the processes in place.

It's definitely very busy, but I don't believe we can grow unless we have these processes in place.

It's definitely very busy, but I don't believe we can grow unless we have these processes in place.

Yes.

Yes.

Today, the line has been, I want to put a playbook in place for the office, but use your best judgment. It's your decision, but then she does not support it.

Today, the line has been, I want to put a playbook in place for the office, but use your best judgment. It's your decision, but then she does not support it.

I, I completely agree. I think my biggest problem is as her, the owner, I didn't want to, completely overstep boundaries. Um, but I know that for her, she has had no leadership experience prior opening this business and being the doctor.

Yeah.

Yeah, I definitely can.

No, I don't.

No, honestly, I'm about to go back into the room and get things going.

No, I appreciate you guys on a little back end. I'm on 75 hard for the second time, and I've lost 100 pounds, and I just appreciate everything that you guys do.

No, I just greatly appreciate you. Listen to you every week, religiously.

Yeah.

Yes, I do.

Of course. Thank you guys so much. All right. Thank you.

This is Josh.

Not much. Just finishing up a meeting. How are y'all?

Fabulous. Thank you so much for asking.

Oh, yeah. Absolutely.

Yep. Yeah. Gotcha. Yeah.

Well, there's a reason why I asked the question I did today. Okay.

What you got? So I just kind of wanted to see, you know, at what point do you stop pouring into something? Especially when it won't receive what I bring to the team. The team sees me as a leader, but I'm not empowered to lead by the owner. I believe in the mission. I'm a manager. I have attempted to put a lot of things in place, but I'm kind of at a crossroads of, you know, when is enough enough?

You know, do I stop? being underused here and grow where my value is honored, or even I'm on a crossroad of opening up my own business.

Absolutely. So I was hired as the manager background. I've had 10 years of running hotels and switched career paths and got into wellness and health. And I understood from the initial interview that me coming into this team was to help build create SOPs and help grow the business. But as I've come into the company again, I had moved away for a few months and then moved back.

Cause I moved out of state, but I was still always helping. And when I came back, we're hitting our two year anniversary this week. And there's still no use of SOPs. There's no contracts even for us as employees. And there's just been multiple conversations about trying to create a background for the business so we can be successful.

Yes. It's one owner. She's the doctor. I'm on my third conversation.

They are typically very positive, but no follow-through.

I have presented all documents. and follows up on my end.

Yeah, absolutely. The best way for me to put it is that though I'm the manager, she won't allow me to rule anything out.

Absolutely. So our meeting today, any of the initiatives that I've put forward and have been attempting to understand, I was told that she was not comfortable doing that until end of year or maybe next year when we hit our three year.

No it's me directly to her.

Yeah.

She says that it is too busy to put any of the processes in place.

It's definitely very busy, but I don't believe we can grow unless we have these processes in place.

Yes.

Today, the line has been, I want to put a playbook in place for the office, but use your best judgment. It's your decision, but then she does not support it.

Hey, what's up?

Hey, what's up?

We're doing all right.

We're doing all right.

So my question was, how could I help my husband set boundaries with his mother?

So my question was, how could I help my husband set boundaries with his mother?

Yeah, I know.

Yeah, I know.

No, no, not at all. I think it's more of a I think there's some underlying is not with him. My husband's great and he cares a lot about or he worries a lot about his mother's mental health. And considering that his other siblings completely exclude her and dismiss her, he kind of feels like he's the only son that she has left.

No, no, not at all. I think it's more of a I think there's some underlying is not with him. My husband's great and he cares a lot about or he worries a lot about his mother's mental health. And considering that his other siblings completely exclude her and dismiss her, he kind of feels like he's the only son that she has left.

Um, so I think that worries him and he doesn't, he, I think he fears, um, uh, her going to an extreme because she has been very extreme in the past.

Um, so I think that worries him and he doesn't, he, I think he fears, um, uh, her going to an extreme because she has been very extreme in the past.

Yeah. Uh, because there's been stuff like that that's happened in the past where, um, if she doesn't get her way, then she'll go to the bathroom and

Yeah. Uh, because there's been stuff like that that's happened in the past where, um, if she doesn't get her way, then she'll go to the bathroom and

at the hospital yeah so yeah so i man those are really really tough um what why now why is this call coming up now so um he warned me when before we even got married um when i first met his parents he was like i'm just warning you my mom you know he said that she's had trauma in her past and um you know she kind of has the mental capacity of a 12 year old girl And I was like, okay, that's fine.

at the hospital yeah so yeah so i man those are really really tough um what why now why is this call coming up now so um he warned me when before we even got married um when i first met his parents he was like i'm just warning you my mom you know he said that she's had trauma in her past and um you know she kind of has the mental capacity of a 12 year old girl And I was like, okay, that's fine.

And when I met her, I was like, he's being very generous. I do not think she has the mental capacity of a 12 year old girl. I think it's way lower than that. But the thing that for me broke the camel's back was, um, naming, we're having a baby, um, in April and it's going to be a girl.

And when I met her, I was like, he's being very generous. I do not think she has the mental capacity of a 12 year old girl. I think it's way lower than that. But the thing that for me broke the camel's back was, um, naming, we're having a baby, um, in April and it's going to be a girl.

And he was really nervous about like, if we, um, don't name her after his mother, his mother is going to be very upset.

And he was really nervous about like, if we, um, don't name her after his mother, his mother is going to be very upset.

Yeah. And, uh, like even like, and because I know this is a month out, but like during Christmas and Christmas shopping, he wanted to get his parents like grandma and grandpa shirts. And I couldn't find some shirts in her size. Um, so I found her a grandma shirt and I found her and her father, a grandpa shirt, but his grandpa shirt said, you know, best dad promotes grandpa.

Yeah. And, uh, like even like, and because I know this is a month out, but like during Christmas and Christmas shopping, he wanted to get his parents like grandma and grandpa shirts. And I couldn't find some shirts in her size. Um, so I found her a grandma shirt and I found her and her father, a grandpa shirt, but his grandpa shirt said, you know, best dad promotes grandpa.

And I couldn't find that in her size for grandma. So I just got her to like the flowery one. He's like, can't we can't give one a promotion and the other one just grandma like she's going to be very upset if she's not promoted to grandma i'm like okay where is where is his dad in all of this his dad um is very protective of his mother um where like he said that growing up

And I couldn't find that in her size for grandma. So I just got her to like the flowery one. He's like, can't we can't give one a promotion and the other one just grandma like she's going to be very upset if she's not promoted to grandma i'm like okay where is where is his dad in all of this his dad um is very protective of his mother um where like he said that growing up

If his mother went into these rages, his dad would kind of like pull her into a room and like push the dresser in front of the door so that she wouldn't act that way in front of the children. But he tries to kind of keep an eye on her. Again, it's very much like a child where... to the point where he has to remind her to go to the bathroom.

If his mother went into these rages, his dad would kind of like pull her into a room and like push the dresser in front of the door so that she wouldn't act that way in front of the children. But he tries to kind of keep an eye on her. Again, it's very much like a child where... to the point where he has to remind her to go to the bathroom.

He has to, um, like if something like if she leaves, he's like constantly kind of figuring out where she's at. If she's like, uh, like for example, we're at a hotel lobby and some kids were playing and he knocked a sign over and he said, Oh my gosh, is that okay? That was just some kids. Like he thought it was his wife like doing that.

He has to, um, like if something like if she leaves, he's like constantly kind of figuring out where she's at. If she's like, uh, like for example, we're at a hotel lobby and some kids were playing and he knocked a sign over and he said, Oh my gosh, is that okay? That was just some kids. Like he thought it was his wife like doing that.

Yes, yes.

Yes, yes.

Yeah. Yeah, absolutely.

Yeah. Yeah, absolutely.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. I know that I think he tries to compromise with, um, like for me, like I, you know, I, I don't have the best, the best relationship is better, but best relationship with my personal parents. But that's because it was like 15 years of therapy, you know, trying to make it work. And I was like, I'm not doing this again with your parents.

Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. I know that I think he tries to compromise with, um, like for me, like I, you know, I, I don't have the best, the best relationship is better, but best relationship with my personal parents. But that's because it was like 15 years of therapy, you know, trying to make it work. And I was like, I'm not doing this again with your parents.

Yeah, it's kind of... You know, except it was my dad and not my mom, but, or, you know, but yeah, absolutely.

Yeah, it's kind of... You know, except it was my dad and not my mom, but, or, you know, but yeah, absolutely.

Again, he's the peace, it's not a peacemaker, peacekeeper.

Again, he's the peace, it's not a peacemaker, peacekeeper.

Yeah. And his family where his siblings have all just kind of dismissed her and their whole family and stuff. So he kind of feels like he's the only one. And we're the only one having kids. This is their first grandchild. This is my parents' 12th. Yeah.

Yeah. And his family where his siblings have all just kind of dismissed her and their whole family and stuff. So he kind of feels like he's the only one. And we're the only one having kids. This is their first grandchild. This is my parents' 12th. Yeah.

Hey, what's up?

We're doing all right.

So my question was, how could I help my husband set boundaries with his mother?

Yeah, I know.

No, no, not at all. I think it's more of a I think there's some underlying is not with him. My husband's great and he cares a lot about or he worries a lot about his mother's mental health. And considering that his other siblings completely exclude her and dismiss her, he kind of feels like he's the only son that she has left.

Um, so I think that worries him and he doesn't, he, I think he fears, um, uh, her going to an extreme because she has been very extreme in the past.

Yeah. Uh, because there's been stuff like that that's happened in the past where, um, if she doesn't get her way, then she'll go to the bathroom and

at the hospital yeah so yeah so i man those are really really tough um what why now why is this call coming up now so um he warned me when before we even got married um when i first met his parents he was like i'm just warning you my mom you know he said that she's had trauma in her past and um you know she kind of has the mental capacity of a 12 year old girl And I was like, okay, that's fine.

And when I met her, I was like, he's being very generous. I do not think she has the mental capacity of a 12 year old girl. I think it's way lower than that. But the thing that for me broke the camel's back was, um, naming, we're having a baby, um, in April and it's going to be a girl.

And he was really nervous about like, if we, um, don't name her after his mother, his mother is going to be very upset.

Yeah. And, uh, like even like, and because I know this is a month out, but like during Christmas and Christmas shopping, he wanted to get his parents like grandma and grandpa shirts. And I couldn't find some shirts in her size. Um, so I found her a grandma shirt and I found her and her father, a grandpa shirt, but his grandpa shirt said, you know, best dad promotes grandpa.

And I couldn't find that in her size for grandma. So I just got her to like the flowery one. He's like, can't we can't give one a promotion and the other one just grandma like she's going to be very upset if she's not promoted to grandma i'm like okay where is where is his dad in all of this his dad um is very protective of his mother um where like he said that growing up

If his mother went into these rages, his dad would kind of like pull her into a room and like push the dresser in front of the door so that she wouldn't act that way in front of the children. But he tries to kind of keep an eye on her. Again, it's very much like a child where... to the point where he has to remind her to go to the bathroom.

He has to, um, like if something like if she leaves, he's like constantly kind of figuring out where she's at. If she's like, uh, like for example, we're at a hotel lobby and some kids were playing and he knocked a sign over and he said, Oh my gosh, is that okay? That was just some kids. Like he thought it was his wife like doing that.

Yes, yes.

Yeah. Yeah, absolutely.

Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. I know that I think he tries to compromise with, um, like for me, like I, you know, I, I don't have the best, the best relationship is better, but best relationship with my personal parents. But that's because it was like 15 years of therapy, you know, trying to make it work. And I was like, I'm not doing this again with your parents.

Yeah, it's kind of... You know, except it was my dad and not my mom, but, or, you know, but yeah, absolutely.

Again, he's the peace, it's not a peacemaker, peacekeeper.

Yeah. And his family where his siblings have all just kind of dismissed her and their whole family and stuff. So he kind of feels like he's the only one. And we're the only one having kids. This is their first grandchild. This is my parents' 12th. Yeah.