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Heather Monahan, Overcome Haters and Build Unstoppable Confidence | Leadership | YAPClassic
Fri, 24 Jan 2025
Heather Monahan was at the top of her career when she was blindsided and fired after 14 years as Chief Revenue Officer. Instead of letting it define her, she walked away with her head held high and rebuilt her life on her own terms. Heather turned her setback into a springboard for success, becoming a bestselling author, keynote speaker, and confidence expert. In this episode, Heather shares her three-step BAK process for overcoming villains, strategies for navigating toxic environments, and the power of living “lanelessly.” In this episode, Hala and Heather will discuss: (00:00) Introduction (03:09) Heather's Impact on Hala's Career (04:13) Personal and Professional Challenges (09:59) Living Lanelessly (13:25) Facing Villains and Building Confidence (21:00) The BAK Process for Overcoming Challenges (23:58) The Sandwich Technique for Constructive Feedback (26:31) Overcoming Negative Self-Talk (34:16) Manifestation and Visualization (37:31) The 30-Day Grid for Goal Tracking (39:45) The Power of Music in Achieving Goals (41:30) Grief to Gross Ratio (45:13) The Art of Pitching Yourself (48:41) The Importance of Knowledge and Skills Heather Monahan is a 2x bestselling author, Top 50 Keynote Speaker in the World (2022), entrepreneur, founder of Boss In Heels, and host of the Creating Confidence podcast. Before becoming a top author and speaker, Heather successfully climbed the corporate ladder for nearly 20 years, becoming one of the few women to break the glass ceiling and claim a spot in the C-suite. In 2017, she was named one of the Most Influential Women in Radio. In 2018, Thrive Global named her a Limit Breaking Female Founder, and in 2021, Girls Club honored her as the Thought Leader of the Year. Forbes recognized Heather’s first book, Confidence Creator, as one of the five must-have books for women in business in 2021. Her latest book, Overcome Your Villains, was released in November 2021. Resources Mentioned: Heather’s Books: Confidence Creator: amzn.to/4htDiLK Overcome Your Villains: amzn.to/40KXGTa Heather’s TedxTalk: youngandprofiting.co/3Wxxrx7 Heather’s Podcast, Creating Confidence: apple.co/3ESsHYL Sponsored by: OpenPhone - Get 20% off 6 months at openphone.com/PROFITING Shopify - Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at youngandprofiting.co/shopify Airbnb - Your home might be worth more than you think. Find out how much at airbnb.com/host Rocket Money - Cancel your unwanted subscriptions and reach your financial goals faster with Rocket Money. Go to rocketmoney.com/profiting Indeed - Get a $75 job credit at indeed.com/profiting Active Deals - youngandprofiting.com/deals Key YAP Links Reviews - ratethispodcast.com/yap Youtube - youtube.com/c/YoungandProfiting LinkedIn - linkedin.com/in/htaha/ Instagram - instagram.com/yapwithhala/ Social + Podcast Services: yapmedia.com Transcripts - youngandprofiting.com/episodes-new All Show Keywords: Entrepreneurship, entrepreneurship podcast, Business, Business podcast, Self Improvement, Self-Improvement, Personal development, Starting a business, Strategy, Investing, Sales, Selling, Psychology, Productivity, Entrepreneurs, AI, Artificial Intelligence, Technology, Marketing, Negotiation, Money, Finance, Side hustle, Startup, mental health, Career, Leadership, Mindset, Health, Growth mindset. Productivity & Work-Life Balance Productivity, Work-Life Balance, Work Life Balance, Team Building, Motivation, Mindset, Manifestation, Time Management, Life Balance, Goal Setting, Goals, Resolutions Mental Health & Wellness Mental Health, Health, Psychology, Wellness, Biohacking, Motivation, Mindset, Manifestation, Productivity, Brain Health, Life Balance, Self Healing, Positivity, Happiness, Sleep, Diet
Chapter 1: What is the story behind Heather Monahan's journey?
Today's episode is sponsored in part by Airbnb, Open Phone, Shopify, Mercury, Built, Indeed, and Microsoft Teams. As always, you can find all of our incredible deals in the show notes or at youngandprofiting.com slash deals. Yap gang, welcome back to the show. And if you haven't figured it out already, I'm a big believer in confidence.
Having high self-confidence and self-esteem is truly a superpower in my book. Confidence is how I got here. And it's the key ingredient in so many stories of success. But confidence doesn't always come so easily.
And in this Yap Classic, we're going to learn some proven strategies on how to build your confidence like a muscle from bestselling author, entrepreneur, and confidence creator, Heather Monahan. Heather is the host of the podcast, Creating Confidence, on our very own Yap Media Network. And I spoke with her in this conversation in 2022 for episode 182.
Now, if you don't know, Heather is my first client at Yap Media. She's still my client. She actually pushed me to start my company. She's one of my mentors. We're great friends. And so she always gives me amazing, actionable advice. And in this conversation, we talked about how to slay our haters, tackle toxic environments, overcome negative self-talk, and live without lanes.
Yeah, Pam, I left that conversation feeling more confident than ever, and I know you will too. So listen, learn, and then go forth and conquer. Hi, Heather. Welcome to Young and Profiting Podcast.
Hi.
Heather, you're my friend. So this is going to be really fun. I love having my friends on the show. So for those who don't know, you originally joined us for episode number 56. I was like a baby podcaster then. And little did I know that after meeting you, that you would actually accelerate the trajectory of my career. And You are known as the confidence creator. You're a top LinkedIn influencer.
You're a best-selling author, a keynote speaker, an executive coach. You're also one of my personal mentors. And you were actually my first client at Yap Media. You were the one who set everything off. So I'm super excited to talk about your latest book, Overcome Your Villains.
But first, I wanted to share a story with my listeners to kick this off because I think they've heard me talk about this a lot. But essentially, you were my first client. you actually met me. And I remember you were sort of like hounding me on LinkedIn. And you were like, Oh my god, teach me how to do your videos. And I kept being like, No, Heather, like I have an executive job at Disney.
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Chapter 2: How can you overcome self-doubt and negative self-talk?
And you don't realize that there's something better if you were just to open your mind. And once you do believe that life is limitless, you start to see all these different opportunities, just like you came in my life and we're like, holla, it's right here. just take the jump and go for it. So I'd love to learn more about your career journey in case you guys haven't listened to episode number 56.
I want to hear your milestones, Heather, because I know that you were stuck in a corporate job for many, many years and you could have been an entrepreneur and been a speaker way earlier. So talk to us about your journey and what kind of triggered you to go off on your own.
Yeah, my whole life and career was in corporate America. And that was truly the only, when I was younger, I'm 47, when I was younger, there weren't people in the entrepreneurial space. Nobody did that, right? Like Gary Vee didn't exist back then. And so there was never messaging that, oh, this is an opportunity for you. The messaging was always nine to five, corporate America, figure it out.
So to me, my goals were always very linear, clear that this is where I want to be successful and this is what I'm going to do. So I never thought about possibilities outside of it. I just thought, get to the C-suite, right? That's what I wanted to get to. So I got to the C-suite. I was in the media business for 20 something years. I was named one of the most influential women in radio in 2017.
And then literally a month later, I was fired unexpectedly when the CEO I had worked for for 14 years became ill and he elevated his daughter to to replace him. That was the end of my corporate journey.
Wow. And so like, I just want to highlight something like you were the darling of the radio industry. Like Heather was on all these magazine covers. She was speaking everywhere. She's gorgeous. If you guys aren't seeing her on video, like she's absolutely gorgeous. What were some of the things that this lady did to you that made you realize that she was like your villain?
Okay, so well, it's funny. It's more the way that I responded that now that like when I reflect on it, I remember She wasn't very nice to me, obviously. Like, you know, you have great chemistry with some people, you don't with some. She and I were very different. So I used to think, okay, that's all right. But then I started thinking, Holland, this was a red flag.
And for anyone listening, think about this in your life. I was dialing myself down. I was like, I shouldn't wear my hair down today because she rolls her eyes when I have my hair down. Okay, I'll put my hair in a bun. Oh, I shouldn't wear a dress. I'll wear a pantsuit. I started changing very slowly and quietly who I was in hopes it would appease her and make her feel better.
That is the wrong move. Being a B-rate version of yourself is never the answer. And if you are with people who do not appreciate and celebrate you for who you are, you are in the wrong room and you got to find your people.
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Chapter 3: What is the BAK process for overcoming challenges?
But really, in the grand scheme of things, it was you, like you said, it was yourself that you had these limiting beliefs and you were letting your villain control you. This story also reminds me of something that Ed Milet shared with us. So you're also friends with Ed Milet. He came on the show and he was talking to me about how he likes to step into his dreams.
So when he and his wife were first coming up, they were pretty broke. They used to save money. And once a month, they would go to a very fancy hotel. And they would get super dressed up and he would go golfing and she would wear a pretty dress and they would pretend to be rich for a day. And he says that that's what really pushed him to realize that he wanted to accomplish these dreams.
So I'm sure seeing that huge mansion, you were like, whoa, like I'm playing like way too small. Do you believe in manifestation? Like, do you visualize? Like, tell us about your top tips for that.
Oh my gosh, huge. You already know, but yeah, huge. I completely do. And to Ed's, I was at his house. He now lives in that multi multi-million dollar house on the beach, right? Like he's living that dream that he manifested at a younger age. And it is true. I did not know this when I was younger, but literally your words are your wand.
Like whatever you speak, you are putting it, speaking it into existence. So instead of being the one to say, I'm such an idiot. Oh, blonde moment, which is something I said many times in my career. Now I speak, I'm kicking ass. I'm going bigger. I'm going for more. And those doors start opening. Whatever you speak will happen.
create some type of movement or opportunity in your life or hold back for you, that choice is up to you. So now I take my time to, when I was interviewing Sarah Blakely live on stage, I was really nervous before taking that stage. So for a week leading up to it, every night I would lay on my floor, I would close my eyes and I would see her smiling at me. I would see me smiling at her.
I would see us taking the stage. I would see a standing ovation. I would see what I wanted to put out into the universe, into the world and that energy that I wanted to have. And yeah, I was nervous as all get out when I took that stage, but because I had played it through my mind so many times, it went amazing.
Even though there were lots of mistakes and bumps that occurred, it didn't matter because I had this vision of what was going to happen and it happened. And it was the same way with my TEDx talk. I was so scared. I was so nervous taking that stupid little red circle and
And I'll tell you, because I had envisioned it and played it through my mind so many times, it didn't matter the amount of challenges that occurred that day. And there were plenty of them because I had this vision that I hung on to and it manifested in the end.
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Chapter 4: How do you give constructive feedback effectively?
Chapter 5: What does it mean to live lanelessly?
Chapter 6: How can music and manifestation help achieve goals?
It's so true. And I think that it's more difficult when you're doing good. Like, for example, I had like an executive job at Disney. So that's why I was so blind to my opportunities because I was like, well, what do you mean? I could just stay here and become a CMO and It just will take me 20 years, you know, if I just stay here and keep working hard.
And you don't realize that there's something better if you were just to open your mind. And once you do believe that life is limitless, you start to see all these different opportunities, just like you came in my life and we're like, holla, it's right here. just take the jump and go for it. So I'd love to learn more about your career journey in case you guys haven't listened to episode number 56.
I want to hear your milestones, Heather, because I know that you were stuck in a corporate job for many, many years and you could have been an entrepreneur and been a speaker way earlier. So talk to us about your journey and what kind of triggered you to go off on your own.
Yeah, my whole life and career was in corporate America. And that was truly the only, when I was younger, I'm 47, when I was younger, there weren't people in the entrepreneurial space. Nobody did that, right? Like Gary Vee didn't exist back then. And so there was never messaging that, oh, this is an opportunity for you. The messaging was always nine to five, corporate America, figure it out.
So to me, my goals were always very linear, clear that this is where I want to be successful and this is what I'm going to do. So I never thought about possibilities outside of it. I just thought, get to the C-suite, right? That's what I wanted to get to. So I got to the C-suite. I was in the media business for 20 something years. I was named one of the most influential women in radio in 2017.
And then literally a month later, I was fired unexpectedly when the CEO I had worked for for 14 years became ill and he elevated his daughter to to replace him. That was the end of my corporate journey.
Wow. And so like, I just want to highlight something like you were the darling of the radio industry. Like Heather was on all these magazine covers. She was speaking everywhere. She's gorgeous. If you guys aren't seeing her on video, like she's absolutely gorgeous. What were some of the things that this lady did to you that made you realize that she was like your villain?
Okay, so well, it's funny. It's more the way that I responded that now that like when I reflect on it, I remember She wasn't very nice to me, obviously. Like, you know, you have great chemistry with some people, you don't with some. She and I were very different. So I used to think, okay, that's all right. But then I started thinking, Holland, this was a red flag.
And for anyone listening, think about this in your life. I was dialing myself down. I was like, I shouldn't wear my hair down today because she rolls her eyes when I have my hair down. Okay, I'll put my hair in a bun. Oh, I shouldn't wear a dress. I'll wear a pantsuit. I started changing very slowly and quietly who I was in hopes it would appease her and make her feel better.
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Chapter 7: What are strategies for slaying your haters?
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