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How can you tell if someone is leading you on?
There was a time where I thought the person I was interested in was going to leave her mans for me. Why? Because I genuinely believed I was the better option. I did everything by the book. Anything we talked about in our long text conversations, I wrote it down. All the things she liked, all the things she was interested in. I went above and beyond to find every, everything.
I was like, Nardwar, oh my goodness. We have to know. But as time moved on and that kind of started to dissipate a little bit, that whole dynamic between us, I realized that I wasn't going to get a chance. I wasn't. And even if I got a chance, I knew that it was just going to be the same thing.
he would win she would go back to him and i guess i'm happy i went through that i'm happy i know now that there is unfortunately in this life people who they they are not interested in you but They're interested in what you provide them. They're interested in attention. They're interested in the feeling they get when they're able to emotionally dump baggage on you.
Am I saying that that was this situation? No, I think it was more complex than that. But I know I've been in other ones where that was entirely the case and the person didn't like me for me. And if you are in a situation right now where you feel like you're kind of being slighted and you feel like, you know, you were with somebody, maybe you went, you know, no contact.
And then now you see they've kind of moved on, but you've talked about, oh, let's like rekindle something, you know, later down the line. I'll wait for you. Don't. Don't wait around. Don't wait for somebody. that person won't, they won't show up for you. They won't. It is an uncomfortable truth because in your mind, you're thinking of you two together, you know, hanging out somewhere.
It's super romantic and you're spilling your hearts out to each other. Oh my goodness. And it's so awesome and just touchy feely. But the harsh reality is if you were meant to be given a chance, it would have happened already. Now, hold on. Let's rewind. Right? What if you haven't genuinely given a chance to that person?
Like, you know, you're kind of in your feelings, you're waiting around, but they don't even know that you like them. That's a completely different thing. I think you've got to shoot your shot. Absolutely. Steph Curry from the three-point line. Come on. Nikola Jokic, game winner against the Warriors. You've got to do it. But if you have expressed to them, yo, I like you. I like you like you.
I am willing to send you expandable text on iMessage like you. And they're like, that's cool. But I'm figuring myself out. But there's a chance. There's a chance. I'm not saying no. It's a breadcrumb. That's what that is. It's a breadcrumb on the trail for you to keep walking and keep kind of having the same dynamic. And if you try to make something happen... it will get pushed back.
I promise you. I've been there. There's a difference between pursuing somebody. Don't get me wrong. If you are putting in the reps and it's like you're figuring each other out and there is a mutual reciprocation, okay. But if it's not mutual and it feels like it's kind of like you have to drive forward every convo, everything, and it's just not, you can feel it.
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