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Why should you prioritize yourself first?
It's not fair to you that you have to be the solution to somebody else's problems. That's not fair. You didn't sign up for that. People love to ask this question, and I think it's one that, you know, a lot of people have asked in the past. I've never gotten, like, a clear answer on it. If John Pork was calling, what do you answer? Now, I know what you're thinking, like, what? Like, John Pork?
Why does this matter? Well, answer the question. If John Pork was calling... would you answer or would you keep walking? I would answer because I'm a good friend. I like John Pork. I think the John Pork meme is funny. But now I want you to think of that same question, but replace John Pork with you. If you were calling, would you answer? If you knew that you were having a bad day,
and you needed a little pick me up, you needed honestly some alone time, you needed to just chill out, would you listen to yourself? Would you take that kind of humility to know, dang, I'm not really doing too hot, and listen to it? I don't think a lot of people would. I don't think a lot of people would.
Because when someone else is calling, when somebody in the group chat is saying, yo, slide to this event, come through, it's so easy to just follow and just do that thing. If somebody is telling you, hey, y'all, I'm alone. Remember when we were together?
It was so fun, even though I manipulated you five times and made you miss your mother's birthday because I wanted to go to the mall and not buy anything and look at 50 things and then blame it on you. Remember when we were so good together? Okay, I want you to realize something. You come first. That's what I want you to realize. You come first.
Okay, you come first as in you are the first person that you should worry about. That's what I mean. Because it is a privilege to be able to worry about other people and help other people and have people that count on you, you know? But if you don't take care of yourself, if you don't worry about yourself, it's like... How can you be able to worry about other people? You can. You 100% can.
I know people who they live their lives for other people solely. They don't even live for themselves. And it's scary because you can give all of your energy towards somebody else and there is a reality where they will not reciprocate that. Where they will just, nah. Why? Because nah. Nah. And I remember having friends who would tell me, I would ask them, what do you want to do?
What do you want to do? Well, I'm going to do whatever my parents want me to do. Okay, fair. You know, your parents are paying for you to live in their place. It's kind of hard to argue. But what do you want to do? Do you want to go on a bike ride? That seems like a lot of fun. Or do you want to think of a reality where, oh my gosh, what if I don't, what if I don't listen to that person?
No, no, I can't. But you can. Why? Because you come first. You can. Because when you move out and you're on your own, you're on your own. Now, okay, there are situations where we have to take care of a sick relative, where we have to You know, we don't have the luxury, basically, to be on our own. There is somebody that is a part of our lives. We have a kid. You come first, sure.
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