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Chapter 1: What are the eight steps to unf*** your life?
Once again, 512-580-9305. Today, we're going to be talking about eight steps to un-f*** your life. How to basically get your life back together. So this could be if your life is going pretty decent, but you know you want it to be a whole lot better, or this could feel like you're absolutely in the trenches. This is going to be made for you. So let's be real. Life is amazing. It's beautiful.
It's also a hot mess. And one day you can wake up and you can feel like, hey, I got a grip on things. Things are going pretty well. Next day you can wake up and you feel like you're drowning in overdue bills. You have all these bad habits. You have toxic relationships. Your tummy fat is falling a little bit more over your waistband. Sound familiar? Well, welcome to be a human.
That's the way that we all are. The good news is that you can turn your life around. You can be the person to unf*** your life. No matter how deep you feel like you're in the trenches, you can turn it around. It won't be something that's going to happen overnight. So if you just think, oh my gosh, I'm going to get my life together overnight, it ain't happening. It won't be very easy.
Chapter 2: Why is owning your life situation important?
But if you're willing to put in the work, I don't know if there's a better thing that you should be doing than trying to put your own life back together. And so I'm going to give you the eight different steps, the roadmap to reclaiming your life no matter where your life is, okay? The first one, which is probably the most important, is to own it. If you take nothing else from this list, take this.
You are the only person responsible for fixing your life. Everything that happened to you in your past, everything that happened to you in your childhood, not everything was your fault. Some things happened. Some things were done to you. Some things you could not avoid. But even though they weren't your fault, they are still your responsibility to deal with.
But if you sit around and you're just waiting for an apology for somebody, or you're wanting some sort of closure, or you're waiting for someone to come and save you, you're gonna be waiting forever. And so at some point, you've gotta look and go, if someone's gonna fix my life, it's gonna be me.
And I didn't want these things to happen in my past, but this is the cards I've been dealt, so I've gotta do something with it. The only way forward is to take radical responsibility.
I realized this when I was 19, 20 years old, first getting into personal development, and I wanted to hold resentment towards my dad, who was an alcoholic when I was a child, who passed away when I was 15 from liver failure from being an alcoholic. And I wanted to... to be mad at him the rest of my life. But then I realized the way that my dad was was not my fault, but it was the life I was given.
It is my responsibility to deal with. And if I just decide that I want to hold a grudge to someone my entire life, it's just going to hold me back. And so you have to stop playing the blame game at some point. Yes, your parents might have screwed up. Yeah, your ex might have been toxic. Yes, your life may have been unfair.
But the longer that you point fingers at other people, the longer that you're going to stay stuck. And so what you need to do is take an honest inventory of your entire life. Where do you need to make changes? Where are you slacking in your life? Where are you self-sabotaging? Write all of them down. Take like a real account of what's going on in your life.
If you can't fix something, then you've got to figure out some sort of way to change whatever it is. If you can't fix a relationship, you got to change a relationship. If you can't fix another person, you got to change a person, right? And so you have to figure out some sort of way to get everything back on track that's not on track right now. Focus on what you can control is important.
You can't control the past, but you can't control the actions that you take right now today. What I want you to do is I want you to write down every area of your life that feels like it's out of control. For some of you listening, it might be one. For some of you listening, it might be 10. Write down every single one of them.
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Chapter 3: How can you identify and cut toxicity in your life?
And instead of writing excuses down or continuing to believe excuses, just write down one small action that you can take to start fixing each one of those. So that's the first thing is you've got to own it, okay? The second thing is you've got to cut the toxicity. You've heard me talk about this before, but your life is a direct reflection of who and what you tolerate.
If you're surrounded by negativity and drama and self-destructive habits, it will make moving forward in your life incredibly hard. I really want to say this and I really want this to hit home with you. Don't underestimate how much all of the toxicity around you can hold you down.
It's like life is hard enough trying to get to your goal and create the life that you want and run this marathon of life and get to quote unquote success, whatever successful life means to you. It's hard enough. But if your environment is pulling you down, it just makes it so much harder. It's like trying to run with a backpack that's full of 100 pounds weights. It's going to be harder.
Sometimes you just got to let go of the weights. And so take a look at a few different things. Number one. the people around you. If someone's constantly draining your energy, they disrespect you, they make you feel like shit, they don't deserve access to you. And so set some boundaries, cut them off if it's necessary. Second thing to look at is your habits.
The things that you do on a daily basis shape your future. The actions that you take will become the results in the future that you have. If your habits include binge drinking or mindlessly scrolling or procrastinating or worrying or holding yourself back, then you're the one that needs to change it. And then look at your environment, what's around you. Your surroundings really matter.
If you have clutter, if you have chaos, if you have bad energy that keeps you stuck, whatever it might be, clean up the space mentally and physically. Change your scenery in some sort of way. All of these things affect your mental health in some way. And there's nothing more important than your mental health.
Identify one toxic person or habit or thing in your environment that you need to remove from your life and start distancing yourself today. So that's number two. Number three, just get your money right. At some point, you got to realize you're an adult. You're in the money game. You have to use money in your life if you're going to live in society.
So you've got to get it right in some sort of way. If you're constantly stressed out about money, You're giving up your peace. You're giving up your freedom and your power as well. Getting your finances together isn't about being rich. It's about not living in survival mode anymore. And so you've got to face your numbers in some sort of way.
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Chapter 4: Why is getting your finances in order crucial?
Ignoring your bank account won't make the problem go away. I remember for me, I used to hate checking my bank account when I was 21, 22 years old, because I never knew if I'd have a few hundred dollars or if I would have overdraft fees of a few hundred dollars. So you've got to check your balance. You've got to understand your credit, your debits.
You've got to get clear on where your money is going. And I recommend that every single person, because I know so many people don't do this, actually create a real budget that works. If you need help creating a budget, go on YouTube, look up how to create a budget, and follow someone's YouTube video to do it. It'll take you maybe an hour to do.
And then as you do it, cut all of your unnecessary expenses, like your Amazon purchases. But, you know, leave some room for joy going out and doing some fun things, but make a plan. Make some sort of plan for you to build wealth in your life. Even if it's just saving like $5 a week or starting a side hustle. You have to start somewhere.
The thing that I realized when I was younger is that money is a game. It really is. And you're in the money game if you're going to live in society. You're in the money game whether you want to be in it or not. And so if you're like, I don't like the way that society is, I don't like money, I don't like greed, all of this stuff, unless you're going to go live in a forest, you're in the game.
So you might as well learn how to play the game. You might as well learn the rules. Will it require time and energy? Yes. But will it save you so much time, money, and energy to learn the game? Absolutely. And so you've got to understand that. Whether you want to be in the game or not, you're in it.
So you can either decide that you can just remain ignorant to the fact that you don't understand how money works, or you can go, you know what? I'm in this game. I need to figure it out. And if you do that and you start learning about it, you realize it's really not that complex. You might go, well, I might need to change my job. I might need to make a budget. I might need to do this.
I might need to do that. And so the action step I want to give you from this is to make some form of a budget. You'd be so surprised where your money is going if you think that you have none. And we will be right back. And now back to the show. I remember when when Laura and I first started dating, you know, 11 years ago at this point, she had a job. She moved up to Austin from San Antonio.
I was up in Austin and she had a job for about probably about nine months. And she's like, I have no money. She kept saying that. I was like, well, OK, like how much money do you make every other week? She told me how much money she makes every other week. I said, OK, well, like how much? How much do you have that goes to rent?
How much do you have that goes to your phone, to your car, to your insurance? And I added it all up. This is a true story. I'd all up and I go, because I'm a big numbers person. She's not as much of a numbers person as I am. I go, Lauren, there's $500 that you're making that's not accounted for. Like, where's the other $500 going? And she's like, there's no way there's $500.
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