Harvard Psychologist Shares 6 Words That Will Change Your Family

2569.525 - 2594.044 Dr. Stuart Ablon

to try to get kids to do stuff or people to do stuff, it actually decreases their internal drive to do what you want them to do. They do become more motivated, but what do they become more motivated? To get the thing. Get the stuff. They actually become less motivated to achieve the goal you want them to achieve, which is ironic. So not only is it not work, it makes matters worse.