The Jordan Harbinger Show
1114: Dr. Alok Kanojia | Breaking the Cycle of Digital Dependence
11 Feb 2025
Psychiatrist Dr. Alok Kanojia discusses the hidden psychology of modern tech addiction and shares evidence-based strategies for breaking free! What We Discuss with Dr. Alok Kanojia: Digital addiction, particularly to pornography, has reached unprecedented levels (49-75% self-reported addiction rates), largely due to technology's ability to hijack multiple brain circuits simultaneously. Trauma creates hypervigilance through the brain's survival mechanisms, which weigh negative experiences more heavily than positive ones. This explains why one bad experience can override many good ones. Mental illness is increasing partly due to better diagnosis, but also because modern technology and social media distort our sense of self and relationship with reality, particularly through filtered images and curated content. Traditional therapy approaches may not work for everyone, especially men, as the field has inherent biases toward verbal processing. Alternative approaches like exercise, body-focused work, or other methodologies can be equally effective. You can rewire your brain and change who you are by first accepting your authentic self and desires, then building positive habits around them. Start by asking "Do I wish I were someone who wanted to change?" rather than forcing change through willpower alone. Small, consistent steps toward your genuine goals lead to lasting transformation. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1114 And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom! Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Today, back by popular demand, Dr. Allo Kunoja is here for round two. We dive into trauma and our response to trauma. Something called OnlyFans addiction, which honestly I did not know was a real thing, and it's crazier than you'd think. Also, porn addiction, ADHD, therapy and psychedelics, and more. Dr. K was a huge hit last time. I really enjoyed my conversation with him.
So here we go, round two with Dr. Allo Kunoja. I got to get my energy going, man. It's one of those mornings where I'm just like under caffeinated slash I have a thousand unread emails because I just got back from a trip and I'm like vibrating with. It's not actual anxiety because it's not like there's anything actually going on.
It's anxiety that feels real, but is ridiculous because half of that email is like, I'd like to pitch this financial planner for your show. And it's like delete. But it still feels real.
Yes. It's a great point. We restrict our definition of anxiety quite a bit. Yeah. So we think that I'm not allowed to feel anxious unless I'm afraid of something. Yes. But what I'm hearing is that certain parts of your brain, like especially your frontal lobes, recognize that there is a lot of work that needs to be done and is starting to think through.
It's sort of like mentally loading responsibility. Yes. which is not exactly anxiety, but I think a lot of the circuits are the same or the experience of it is the same.
It is. Everybody in the developed world has this feeling. They call it the Sunday scaries. Have you heard of this? Yeah. For people who don't know what this is, Sunday night comes around and you're like, oh, I got work on Monday. Oh, the Turner account. The boss is going to, oh, we have that meeting. I've got to like make sure my... PowerPoint slides are good. I got to do that at 8 a.m.
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