REAL AF with Andy Frisella
860. Q&AF: How To Stop Doubting Yourself, Paralysis Analysis & How To Hire Help
Mon, 31 Mar 2025
On today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how to stop doubting yourself as a young entrepreneur, how to stop the habit of obsessively second guessing yourself, and how to hire help for your business when you do everything on your own.
Chapter 1: How does Andy Frisella approach Q&A sessions?
what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to reality guys today we have q and af that's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers uh you could submit your questions a few different ways the first way is guys email these questions in to ask andy andy forsella.com or you go on youtube uh drop your question in the comment section we'll choose some from there as well
Chapter 2: What are the different segments within Andy Frisella's podcast?
If you're new, this show has shows within the show. You're going to get a good dose of Q&A on Mondays, and then we're going to move into what's going on in the world. Tomorrow, we're going to have CTI, which stands for Cruise the Internet. We're going to cover topics of the day, throw some shit up on the screen. We're going to talk about what's true, what's not true, and speculate on those things.
Then we're going to tell you what you need to do to solve these problems going on in the world. We the people, what we need to do. Other times you're going to have real talk. Real talk is just 5 to 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk. And then we have 75 Hard Versus. 75 Hard Versus is where people who have completed the 75 Hard Program come on the show.
They talk about how they were before and how they used the 75 Hard Program to get their shit together. If you're unfamiliar with 75 Hard, it's the initial phase of the Live Hard Program, which is the world's most popular mental toughness program ever. You can get it for free at episode 208 on the audio feed. Again, that's 208 on the audio feed only. It's not on YouTube. There's also a book.
The book is called The Book on Mental Toughness. You can get that at andyforsella.com. It includes the entire Live Hard program plus a whole bunch of bonus material, many, many chapters on mental toughness, why it's important, how to cultivate it, et cetera, et cetera.
Okay, so if you're someone who likes the details explained in depth and to understand the whole concept like I do, you can go buy the book, all right, andypriscilla.com. That's not free. Now, we don't run ads on this show. We're the biggest show in the world that doesn't run ads. The reason we don't run ads is because I don't want to have to report to somebody else.
I finance the show myself, so I ask very simply that we make a deal. If the show makes you laugh, if it gives you a new perspective, if you learn some information, if it's valuable to you in any way, shape, or form, which it always will be, let's be real. Do us a favor, man, and help us grow the show by sharing it. Talk about it. Maybe get some stickers. Put it on your stuff.
When people ask what that is, tell them about the show. Do us a share. Anyway, the bottom line is don't be a hoe. Share the show. All right. What's up, dude?
What's going on, man?
Nothing, dude.
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Chapter 3: How can I build self-confidence as a young entrepreneur?
Yeah.
All right? And the big change of the show is that we are going to move the Q&AF episodes to a live call-in show. All right? And how this is going to work is you're going to submit your questions the same way that you have been. You're going to email into askandy at andyforsella.com. And you're going to include your cell phone number.
And then our team, if your question is chosen, will reach out to you and arrange an actual call in for the production of the show. So if you want to be on the show and you want to talk to us live and you want to ask some questions and have, you know, we're not going to have an hour conversation. You're going to ask your question and I'm going to answer it.
And then we're going to get the fuck off the phone. But I'm just being honest, you know, like we're going to keep it quick. If you ramble on, I got a red button that I'm going to have over here. It's going to hang up on your ass. But. But that's how we're going to do the show from now on. So email in. Include your phone number. The team will be in touch. And we'll get a schedule. It'll be awesome.
Yeah. I mean, guys, the selection will be based off your questions. So ask some good questions. It can be about anything. Life, business, personal development, winning. All of those things.
Absolutely. We're here to serve. All right. So, yeah.
Stay tuned for that.
Yeah. Stay tuned.
Anyhow, we do have a show for today. We do have a good show, man, and I do got some good ones for you. I'm not surprised. Let's make some people better today. Guys, Andy, question number one. Hey, Andy. Hi. So I came to follow you a little over a year ago. And dude, seriously, thank you. I am 25 years young, but I'm not doing a finding myself in a van thing.
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Chapter 4: How does decision-making improve over time?
They don't understand delayed gratification. They don't understand thinking ahead of what the decision will actually produce down the road. And the fact that you're aware of this at a young age is really, really, really, really good. It's a good indicator that you are going to build a very good skill set of making the right decisions when these decisions are to be made.
You have to understand that your confidence and your belief in yourself is really only going to come after you've made good decision after good decision after good decision. And then a few bad ones too, right? And then we learn from those lessons.
and then we become either very confident uh or we we stay unaware we don't get really beat down because the people who continue to make wrong decision after wrong decision they see life as something that's like happening to them like they are not thinking like i'm making this decision in november and then in december my life sucks they're not understanding that they're unaware so
Making bad decisions doesn't necessarily destroy someone's confidence. It destroys their life. So the fact that you are understanding that there is a decision to be made, there are consequences down the road, that's a great thing. But the way you're going to become confident in it is by making the best decision that you can make now and then understanding what the result of that is.
with your own experience. And as you get older and as you go through this process, you will become more and more and more confident in your decisions. And that goes for both your life and your career or whatever else you're working on. You know, There's still times in my life, knowing what I know about business, where I'm like, fuck, I don't know. Like, what should we do?
And then we work out the options and we make the best decision. And when we make the best decision, that doesn't always mean it actually is the best decision. Sometimes you just have to make a decision, see what happens, and then make an adjustment, which I would say is really... how things actually work in life.
You know, not many times have I made a decision when I was young that worked out exactly the way I thought it was going to work out. What it did was it directed me in a right direction. And then when I went down that path, I had to make multiple pivots as I went down the path to really get where I was trying to go. But the important thing, the real important thing here
is not even the question that you ask. It's that you have to make a fucking decision, okay? Most people will analyze and analyze and analyze and analyze, and they never choose. And because they never choose, life passes them by, and then they end up at, you know, 50 years old saying, coulda, woulda, shoulda. No, you shoulda just picked some shit, and whatever happens, happens.
You learn, you know, and then you apply again. And so that's the process of... of development. You know, we make the best decision that we can make right now. We listen to our gut. We look at the facts. We make it on logic. There's very few decisions in life that should be made around emotion. We make those decisions. We go down the path.
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Chapter 5: When should you pivot or quit a business?
down the path when you recognize that the decision is not working which you have to be patient you make a pivot or you make a complete different directional change you don't make a complete different directional change until you've tried multiple pivots and you realize this isn't going to work right like a lot of people will ask me they say well when should i quit when should i quit my business you know my i've got this product
look dude if you if you go if you go down the path and you figure out for real that that product is not going to get you where you want to go meaning you can't scale it there's no demand for it it's not a good strong product eventually you got to find a new product or you're just going to be trying to stick a square peg in a round hole it does not work so there are times
that I don't talk about this very much, but there are times when you have to make complete directional changes. The reason I don't talk about it very much is because most people think that that happens soon, when in reality, you have to go down the path and try all the different routes. It's kind of like a mouse and a maze, all right?
You're like, oh, I know the cheese is over that way, so I'm going to fucking go this way. That didn't get me there. I'm going to go this way. That didn't get me there. And then I'm going to find the way to the fucking cheese. And if you don't go through that process with your product,
To the point where you have a really good understanding of why it's not going to work, not just your emotional beliefs or your frustration or your anger or your impatience, meaning you logically can say, there's not a market for this. It's not going to be scalable. It's not going to work out the way I want. then you have to make a change. And that goes for anything.
You can plug product in with relationship. You can plug product in with fitness. Okay? You got to figure the fuck out. And here's what I'll say. If one person's done it, you could probably do it too. So... The decision-making process and having confidence in that is something, it's one of those things that you have to do your best and work out the nuances to get where you're trying to go.
And after you do that enough and you make enough good decisions, you'll start to trust yourself and you'll say, I know how to make the right decisions.
I love it. I mean, it sounds like a lot of this is just being able to go through the time to build that perspective.
Yeah, absolutely. Well, dude, yes. Like my decision-making ability now versus when I was 25 is the difference between starting at zero and being an expert. You're running circles around that guy. Oh, dude, no doubt. Because I've already made all the mistakes. Like, dude, if you're trying to get somewhere If I'm trying to get from here in St.
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Chapter 6: Why should you learn from experienced entrepreneurs?
People will say, well, you know, you need to, when you're young, it's very important to make the correct logical decision about where you decide to live because you are working on accumulating assets and wealth for later in your life. When I got to 38 years old, I bought my dream house, which is the house I live in now. And it's fucking amazing.
Like real talk, it's probably one of the nicest properties in the whole fucking world, okay? It's a fucking real compound. Do I need that? No. But I love it because you know what? I spend a lot of time there. I spend most of my time either here or there. And by the way, did I need to build out this headquarters to look the way it looks?
No, but I have to spend a lot of time here and I want to be fucking cool. Okay. So those are emotional decisions that don't necessarily make financial sense. All right. For the amount of money that I put in my house, I'm going to get my balls kicked in when I sell it. It's not going to happen, but I don't care.
I don't care because I've made enough money in my life to not have that make a difference on what I actually want. So earlier in life, it's important, especially to make logical decisions. I would say under 40 years old. Logic, logic, logic, logic. Unless you're earning so much money, and I was in my earlier 30s, that it didn't fucking matter. Okay? But you shouldn't be stretching. You understand?
Right. So... You know, when you get a little older and you get some financial power and maybe a little extra, it's okay to make decisions that are emotional if they make you happier. As long as you're aware. That's it. You have to be aware. You know, like most people just aren't, bro. They cannot separate a logical decision from an emotional decision in which time which is appropriate.
You know, so... It's okay to make emotional decisions when they're not gonna hurt you and then they're gonna add to your life, right? But until you're at that point where it's Not a financial strain to live the lifestyle that you want, you should live very logical and be working to maximize what sort of income that you actually have.
Live below your means, make smart decisions, don't go out to eat all the time, drive a car that isn't the one that you actually really like to drive. Those are all intelligent decisions as a younger person. As you get older, you start to realize, well, fuck, I'm gonna be dead
the quality of my life matters as well so i want to spend a little more money on the things that i like and enjoy you know so i'm not just you know it's it's weird to me this is i see like 70 80 year old people 60 year old people 50 year old people still living completely in that logic mindset and i you know and we see them online too right like um
know dave ramsey okay and i like dave ramsey but he will give you know save save save save save this is this is well dude eventually these is gonna be dead yeah like when do they get a taste of the what they actually want all the hard work they've put you see what i'm saying 100 and let's be real bro he lives he has like a 500 600 million dollar office park right you know like
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Chapter 7: What role do emotions play in decision-making?
And then you have people who are borderline special needs and Who create amazing- Crush it. Dude, I know a guy. Yeah. I know a guy- who could not fucking read or write, that because he was an executor, he would just go out and do shit. He did not think about it. He didn't have the brain capacity to think about it. He just did shit and he built a company that was worth $200, $300 million.
Now he made some other bad decisions and that guy is now in prison. But it didn't have to do with fraudulent business. He was running a good business. But my point is there's guys like that everywhere, all right?
So just because you fucking think you can do it and just because, you know, a lot of, like, people who went to nice, prestigious universities like Harvard or Brown or Cornell, they think they can do it. But you know what the truth is? The truth is there is – A lot of motherfuckers with some fancy initials behind their name that never did shit. All right?
So I don't really give a fuck what you think you can do until you've shown me that you can do it. Proof's in the pudding. So let's be humble here, bro. You're talking about the most competitive fucking game that you could possibly play. All right? People are trying to take the food off of your fucking table. Can you even handle that? Can you even handle knowing that?
Can you handle the relentless pursuit that other people have of you trying to take your fucking livelihood? Then can you handle it for fucking thousands of people? Okay. You can't. Most of the time. That's why the statistics are what they are. 8% of people are entrepreneurs. Less than fucking 1% of that 8% is actually a millionaire or successful. All right. So let's clear that out.
Now I'm not saying you can't learn it. I'm not saying you can't do it. I'm not saying you can learn to be great at it, but I'm saying if you think you're naturally great at it, you've never done shit. You're fucking fooling yourself. So let's address that right up front. Love it. Um, secondly, When you're young, I believe that in the entrepreneurship stage that we are in, it's important for you
to try a few different things examine what it is that you're into okay you might say oh i'm not passionate about this what do you do every day what let's start there what is your daily routine like what do you do every single day i get up i brush my teeth i take a shower i go to the gym i do this i do that what's the one thing that you can't live without that you find extremely
beneficial to you and your day? What is it? And when you identify those three or four things, how could they be made better? And start thinking like that in everything that you see. Like when I go to a restaurant, I'm not in the restaurant business, but you've been to enough restaurants with me to know exactly what the fuck I do.
I sit at the table, I order the food, and I say they should have done this, should have done that, should have done this. If these guys were doing this, they'd have five times much business. I fucking do that. I analyze how everyone does everything, and that is a trained way of thinking that I've had for many, many years. Who knows what kind of idea will come from that?
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