REAL AF with Andy Frisella
819. Q&AF: Handling Test Days, Business Relationships Gone Wrong & When To Start Enjoying Life
Mon, 02 Dec 2024
On today's episode, Andy answers your questions on what mentality you need to develop when you feel all your days are “test days”, how to keep moving ahead when you feel stuck because of a business relationship gone wrong, and when should you start “enjoying life” on the journey to accomplish your big dreams.
Chapter 1: What is the purpose of today's Q&A episode?
What is up, guys? It's Andy Purcell, and this is the show for the realest. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society, and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today we have Q and AF. That's where you submit the questions. And we give you the answers. Now, you can submit your questions to be answered on the show a few different ways.
First way is, guys, you can email these questions into askandy at andyfrasella.com. Or you go on YouTube, drop your question in the comments on the Q&A episodes. We will answer some from there as well. Throughout the week, we're going to have shows within the show. Tomorrow, we're going to have Cruise the Internet. We call that CTI. That's where we put topics on the screen.
We speculate on what's true and what's not true, and then we talk about how we, the people, have to solve these problems going on in the world. Other times, we're going to have real talk. Real talk is just 5 to 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk that I think everybody needs to hear. And then we're going to have 75 hard verses. 75 hard verses is where someone...
who has completed the 75 Hard program, comes on the show. They talk about how they were before, how they are now, and how they use the 75 Hard program to reclaim their life. If you're unfamiliar with 75 Hard, it is the introductory phase of the Live Hard program. The Live Hard program is the world's most popular mental transformation program ever, and it's free, all right?
You get it at episode 208 on the audio feed. That's 208 on the audio feed. Give the entire Live Hard program for free. Now, if you want to know the ins and outs, if you want to know all the sauce, you can buy the book. There's a book available at andyfercella.com. It's not necessary. If you want to do the program for free, you can get it at episode 208. But if you want to know all the details,
You get the book, all right? The book is called The Book on Mental Toughness. It's available at andyfercella.com. It goes through the entire Live Hard program. It goes through a whole bunch of chapters on mental toughness, a whole bunch of case studies on people who have used mental toughness to transform their existence and how you can do the same.
Now, something that we do different on the show real quick is we don't run ads on the show. OK, and the reason we don't run ads on the show is because I don't want advertisers telling me what I can and can't say. We keep it real here. So I finance the show out of my own pocket. We are definitely the biggest show in the world that doesn't run ads. And I just simply make a deal with you.
And the deal is this. All right. If the show is good, if it makes you laugh, it makes you think, if it gives you a new perspective, if it helps you. All right. And this one always does, because we're going to get off. to an awesome week with some good knowledge i need you to share the show for us all right we're constantly dealing with shadow bans traffic throttling censorship issues still
So I need you to help share the show. All right. So don't be a hoe. Share the show. All right. What's up, dude? What's Gucci gang? Nothing, man. Yeah. So you look nice. Oh, thanks, man. You look nice. What? Me? Yeah. This old thing.
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Chapter 2: How can I maintain mental toughness during tough times?
and your mental toughness and your grit and your fortitude and your ability to persevere and your ability to stay disciplined because conditions will never be perfect, okay?
When we talk about it being freezing cold outside and I'm talking about how I know that I need to go get acclimated to that because I can feel myself getting soft, that is me recognizing that my mental fortitude is getting rounded off when it needs to be very sharp,
OK, so we have to become aware of where we are mentally and we have to make investments to harden ourselves mentally so that we can prepare for these hard times that come over and over and over and over again. One phase that you are experiencing right now would normally crush everything.
human being okay you're going through this process things get hard everything in your life seems fucked most people quit the first time that happens most people look themselves in the mirror and say oh well I guess it's not for me I'm gonna go just do what everybody else does and then they quit okay and what you have to realize is that if you could build yourself into someone who can work through these things as they come
there's really nothing that can stop you. And the longer you go through them and the more you go through them, the less and less competition there is to the thing that you do. So work on your mental, focus on keeping your mentality and your mental toughness sharp, recognize when it gets soft and recognize the importance and the reality of the path that you are on. If you were on a mediocre path,
and you just wanted to be a regular human, these tests are going to come anyway. They're just going to come disguised as other things, okay? They're going to look different. They're going to feel different. You're not going to be able to pay your electric bill. You're not going to be able to eat at the places you want. Your ability to attract a mate is going to be incredibly diminished, okay?
You're going to end up with someone you don't really want to be with. You're going to drive something you don't really want to drive. You're going to be embarrassed of what you did in your life. Those are fucking hard things to deal with. Okay. But if you're going to be an achiever, you're going to deal with different shit. You're going to deal with people laughing at you.
You're going to deal with people not believing in you. You're going to deal with people trying to tear you down. You're going to deal with people who, you know, are situations that are just uncomfortable in different ways. All right. We all go through this.
It looks different for everybody, but the bottom line is if we prepare ourselves to go through these things and we expect these things to happen and we know what to do as they come, you end up winning because everybody else can't make it through. That's what this comes down to. It's very simple.
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Chapter 3: What should I do when business relationships go wrong?
Yeah for sure.
My dad told me one time I asked him I was gonna I was gonna get a 750 BMW this was back like when I thought we huh those are sweet. Oh fuck. Yeah, the big-body beamers. I always liked them. Yeah, and uh This is back. I don't know. I didn't even know when this was I mean fucking 15 years ago at least and And I said, how do you, I asked him a similar question.
I said, how do you know when, when you, and he, his answer was, you'll know, you'll know, you know, which I don't know what the fuck that meant. You know, I feel like my answer is better. You know, now, you know, I think, I think, I think it just comes down. And then also, you know, like, bro, You know, we only have limited time. So we have to run that balance very carefully.
You know what I mean? Like Kobe's situation.
Yeah, for sure. You know, Kobe works his balls off for fucking 40 years. decides he's going to start spending time with his family and dies. And it doesn't always work out the way we want. So like when you pour yourself into an ambitious lifestyle, into big dreams, big goals, you have to understand that it's very possible you could run out of time. Okay. It's very possible. It's a bet we make.
It's a gamble we make. But it's the gamble required if you're going to do anything relevant. So there's no way around that. That's a bet you're going to have to make. Fuck, dude, you could get run over walking across the street today. Who knows?
um but if you want to be successful and you want to build big and you want to do something that's going to take care of you financially and take care of your family financially and give you ultimate freedom to do whatever you want at any time um you need to delay gratification for as long as possible That's the truth. The richest motherfucker in the world.
Well, not the richest, but one of the richest. Dude, Elon Musk doesn't fucking own a whole bunch of shit.
No.
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