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#408 – Tal Wilkenfeld: Music, Guitar, Bass, Jeff Beck, Prince, and Leonard Cohen

Tue, 09 Jan 2024

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Tal Wilkenfeld is a singer-songwriter, bassist, and guitarist. She has performed with legendary artists including Jeff Beck, Prince, Incubus, Eric Clapton, Herbie Hancock, Mick Jagger, Rod Stewart, Hans Zimmer, Pharrell Williams, and many more. Please support this podcast by checking out our sponsors: - MasterClass: https://masterclass.com/lexpod to get 15% off - LMNT: https://drinkLMNT.com/lex to get free sample pack - Eight Sleep: https://eightsleep.com/lex to get special savings - Shopify: https://shopify.com/lex to get $1 per month trial Transcript: https://lexfridman.com/tal-wilkenfeld-transcript EPISODE LINKS: Tal's Instagram: https://instagram.com/talmeastory Tal's Twitter: https://twitter.com/talwilkenfeld Tal's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/talwilkenfeld/ Tal's YouTube: https://youtube.com/TalWilkenfeld Tal's Love Remains record: https://talwilkenfeld.lnk.to/LoveRemains Tal's Linktree: https://linktr.ee/talwilkenfeld Big thank you to Crossroads Guitar Festival and Jeff Beck Estate for the footage included in this podcast. Crossroads Guitar Festival: https://crossroadsguitarfestival.com/ Jeff Beck & Tal Wilkenfeld at Crossroads: https://youtube.com/watch?v=BVgUzUZeTw4 Guitar: Jeff Beck Bass: Tal Wilkenfield Drums: Vinnie Colaiuta Keyboards: Jason Rebello "Cause We've Ended As Lovers" is originally by Stevie Wonder PODCAST INFO: Podcast website: https://lexfridman.com/podcast Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/2lwqZIr Spotify: https://spoti.fi/2nEwCF8 RSS: https://lexfridman.com/feed/podcast/ YouTube Full Episodes: https://youtube.com/lexfridman YouTube Clips: https://youtube.com/lexclips SUPPORT & CONNECT: - Check out the sponsors above, it's the best way to support this podcast - Support on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/lexfridman - Twitter: https://twitter.com/lexfridman - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lexfridman - LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lexfridman - Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lexfridman - Medium: https://medium.com/@lexfridman OUTLINE: Here's the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Introduction (06:51) - Jeff Beck (15:44) - Confidence on stage (32:23) - Leonard Cohen (40:23) - Taxi Driver (51:43) - Songwriting (55:23) - How to learn and practice (1:13:53) - Slap vs Fingerstyle (1:20:16) - Davie504 (1:24:36) - Prince (1:30:13) - Jimi Hendrix (1:32:27) - Mentorship (1:38:46) - Sad songs (1:44:43) - Tal performs Under The Sun (live) (1:50:00) - Tal performs Killing Me (live)

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0.109 - 27.275 Lex Fridman

The following is a conversation with Tal Wilkenfeld, a singer-songwriter, bassist, guitarist, and a true musician who has recorded and performed with many legendary artists, including Jeff Beck, Prince, Eric Clapton, Incubus, Herbie Hancock, Mick Jagger, Jackson Browne, Rod Stewart, David Gilmour, Pharrell, Hans Zimmer, and many, many more. This was a fun and fascinating conversation.

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One of the most melodic, beautiful, soulful guitar-based compositions I've ever heard. I've started learning it and left it aside to return to for what I'm ready to truly feel. The... Almost psychedelic-like sadness in it. But also the fun. It really is a rollercoaster of a guitar song. Really, really, really beautiful. Anyway, I highly recommend the Carlos Santana Masterclass.

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To support it, please check out our sponsors in the description. And now, dear friends, here's Tal Wilkenfeld. There's a legendary video of you playing with Jeff Beck. We're actually watching it in the background now. So for people who don't know, Jeff is one of the greatest guitarists ever. So you're playing with him at the 2007 Crossroads Festival. And people should definitely watch that video.

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430.959 - 439.783 Lex Fridman

You were killing it on the bass. Look at that bass. Were you scared? What was that experience like? Were you nervous? You don't look nervous.

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440.508 - 460.864 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, I wasn't nervous. I think that you can get an adrenaline rush before a stage, which is natural. But I think as soon as you bring fear to a bandstand, you're limiting yourself. You're kind of like walling yourself off from everyone else. If you're afraid, like, what is there to be afraid of?

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462.384 - 494.835 Tal Wilkenfeld

You must be afraid of making a mistake and therefore you're coming at it as like a perfectionist and you can't come at music that way or it's not going to be as expansive and vulnerable and true. So, no, I was excited and passionate and having the best time. And also, you know, the fact that he... gave me this solo. The context of this performance is that this was a guitar festival.

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494.855 - 516.529 Tal Wilkenfeld

It's one of the biggest guitar festivals in the world because it's Eric Clapton's festival. And there's like 400 guitarists that are all playing solos all night. And we were, like, towards the end of the night. And I could tell, like, Jeff, like, got, like, a kick out of, you know, I'm not going to solo on, like, one of my most well-known songs, Castle Bend and His Lovers.

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516.609 - 531.418 Tal Wilkenfeld

Well, Stevie Wonder wrote it, but people know Jeff for that song and his solo on it. Like, I'm going to give it to my bass player. And, like, he did. And, like, he's, like, bowing. Like, he didn't have to do that.

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531.438 - 533.519 Lex Fridman

But you really stepped up there.

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536.129 - 554.896 Tal Wilkenfeld

It just shows what a generous musician he is, and that's evident in his playing across the board. He is a generous, loving, open musician. He's not there for himself. He's there for the music. And he thought, well, this would be the perfect musical thing to do.

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556.736 - 584.085 Tal Wilkenfeld

And it kind of all started when I went to audition for him, which was an interesting experience because I got food poisoning on the plane. And so literally when the plane landed, I went straight into an ambulance into a hospital overnight. The manager picked me up and I showed up at Jeff's door, which was like a three-hour drive through windy country roads.

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584.725 - 606.702 Tal Wilkenfeld

And he answered the door and he's like, okay, you're ready to play. So we went upstairs and started like rattling off the set. And when it came to this song, Cause of Innocence Lovers, he just said solo. And he loved it and kept the solo in it. So that's kind of how, because there was no bass solo before I was playing in his band. So this whole thing was kind of new.

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607.423 - 610.105 Lex Fridman

So even with food poisoning, like you could step up?

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610.56 - 610.84 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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611.78 - 613.801 Lex Fridman

That's just like what instinct?

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614.241 - 620.162 Tal Wilkenfeld

It's just being able to differentiate from like the body and from like expression music. All right. Yeah.

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620.463 - 635.346 Lex Fridman

You know, it's interesting. You said fear walls you off from the other musicians. And what are you afraid of? You're afraid of making a mistake. You know, Beethoven said to play a wrong note is insignificant. To play without passion is inexcusable.

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635.466 - 635.726 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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636.107 - 637.687 Lex Fridman

Do you think the old man had a point?

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638.208 - 669.143 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah. Different styles of music invite varying degrees of, I would say, uncertainty or unsafety in the way that people might perceive it. So for instance, like the tour that I was just on, like playing Allman Brothers songs, like I am standing on the edge of the cliff the entire night. And if I... you know, mess something up, mess it up. Like what even is a mistake?

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669.563 - 687.934 Tal Wilkenfeld

But if I do like a little clunker or whatever it is, it's like, so what? Like I wouldn't have played half the stuff that I'm playing if I wasn't constantly standing on the edge of the cliff, like wild. And so... I don't care about those few little things. I care about the overall expression.

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688.194 - 717.325 Tal Wilkenfeld

And then there's other gigs that, for instance, if I got called for like a pop or a country session or a show, in those environments, they may want you to play Like just play the pot and play it with a great groove and time and great dynamics and don't really veer away from the pot and stuff. And, and I've done plenty of those gigs too. It's just, it's just a different like hat you put on.

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718.065 - 730.449 Lex Fridman

What do you get from the veering from the veering off the beaten path? You just love it. Or is that going to make the performance better? Like why, why, why are you standing at the edge of the cliff?

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731.638 - 756.904 Tal Wilkenfeld

Because at the edge of the cliff is all possibilities and unknown. You don't know what's coming. And I love being there in the unknown. Otherwise, it's just like, well, why are we doing this? Am I just like a clown on stage, like showing you my skills or what I've studied in my bedroom? It's like, no.

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757.264 - 769.627 Tal Wilkenfeld

I want to be like pure expression happening right now and responding in real time to everything that's happening. And anytime I'm not doing that, it's like it's a waste of everybody's time.

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769.647 - 771.127 Lex Fridman

Have you ever messed it up real bad?

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772.608 - 773.168 Tal Wilkenfeld

Mess what up?

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774.918 - 778.919 Lex Fridman

I mean, you know comedians bomb, you're a big fan of comedy. Have you ever bombed on stage?

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779.479 - 801.666 Tal Wilkenfeld

Probably. I think it's all about recovery. And the more times that you fall off the cliff, the quicker you know how to recover and the varying ways that you can recover to the point in which it's concealed so much that maybe a listener might not even know that you're recovering.

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802.236 - 805.638 Lex Fridman

And eventually you learn to fly if we take that metaphor all the way off the cliff.

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806.939 - 834.935 Tal Wilkenfeld

I remember one time when I was really young. Well, not really young, but like when I was 21 or 22. Yeah, exactly. But when I was first playing with Jeff Beck. And we played at what I consider the best, the coolest jazz festival. It's Montreux Jazz. And Miles played there. Everyone played there. And they have the best speaker system ever. I was excited for months.

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835.976 - 867.332 Tal Wilkenfeld

And the drummer, Vinny, was practicing for eight hours in the bus on the way there. And everyone was on fire on stage. And I remember playing a note, just one note. that I really didn't like. And I let it go in the moment on stage, but as soon as I got off stage, I was really sad. And so I sat on this road case. Everyone was out celebrating. I sat on this road case with a sad face.

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867.852 - 894.408 Tal Wilkenfeld

And then Claude Knobs, the owner of the whole festival, came up to me. He's like, Dahl, what's wrong? And I'm like, I played a bad note. such a child and like he said all this wise stuff that you know miles davis is had imparted to him and like it fully cheered me up um he's like is there anything that would make you feel better and i was like caviar

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896.971 - 920.014 Tal Wilkenfeld

dude came back 10 minutes later with this huge thing oh wow it was a joke it was a joke but he actually brought me caviar but anyway that's the that's the one time that i remember being sad about a performance now i'm just like okay whatever like it's done was it a physical slip of like the fingers or was it did you intend to play that note That I can't remember.

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921.595 - 931.262 Tal Wilkenfeld

I can't remember if it was just a bad choice that sounded like a clanger or why it happened. It was so long ago, but I don't get depressed about that anymore.

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931.522 - 936.666 Lex Fridman

That'd be funny if that was like your biggest and only regret in life is that note. It haunted you in your dreams.

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936.926 - 941.209 Tal Wilkenfeld

And then like, you know, like I'm on my deathbed and just everyone's just bringing me caviar.

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941.309 - 959.504 Lex Fridman

Joke went way too far. You talked about confidence earlier. I don't remember where. So I want to ask you about how much confidence it takes to be up there. You said something that Anthony Jackson told you as encouragement, a line that I really like, that quote, on your worst day, you're still a bad motherfucker.

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960.441 - 978.179 Tal Wilkenfeld

That's actually a Steve Gadd quote. And Steve used to tell that to Anthony because Anthony used to get real depressed if he did a wrong thing or not perfect thing. And Steve Gadd used to say this to Anthony Jackson. And then Anthony was my first base mentor or just mentor in general.

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978.379 - 980.341 Lex Fridman

For people who don't know, he's a legendary bassist.

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980.361 - 998.297 Tal Wilkenfeld

He's a legendary bassist. And I started playing the bass when I was 17. And I moved to New York. And I met Anthony. And he started mentoring me, but in a very not typical way. Like he would just sit in his car with me for hours and talk music.

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998.857 - 1000.798 Lex Fridman

You guys just listen to music and analyze it.

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1001.038 - 1026.801 Tal Wilkenfeld

Exactly. And that was the best form of learning, I think. Just like, well, what do you perceive here? And, well, I heard this. And just discussing that. Jazz, usually? Or... No, all styles of music. And yeah, he told me that story about on your worst day. Because, you know, like, yeah, even then, like when I was like 18, 19, I get sad sometimes about performances. Like, I could have done this.

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1026.821 - 1031.584 Tal Wilkenfeld

It's like, I don't do that anymore, thankfully. Or I'd be miserable.

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1031.604 - 1034.406 Lex Fridman

So you always kind of feel pretty good.

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1034.847 - 1062.12 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah. Yeah, now I do. Now it's just I sense the body feeling fatigued, especially if it's a very long show. Like the ones I just did were three-hour shows, and we did one- to three-hour sound checks. So that's a lot of physical activity every day. So I just feel the body being tired, like fatigued. The ears are fatigued. That's about it. I don't really reflect on the show much.

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1062.6 - 1068.04 Lex Fridman

You're almost like from a third-person perspective, feel the body get tired and just... Accept it?

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1068.36 - 1075.202 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, I don't want to identify with it because then I'm tired, but I'm not tired. I'm usually like energized.

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1075.422 - 1083.424 Lex Fridman

It's like with the food poisoning, the mind is still capable of creative genius even if the body is gone. Yeah. Something like that.

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1084.324 - 1084.544 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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1085.385 - 1092.531 Lex Fridman

So no self-critical component. to the way you see your performances anymore?

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1093.492 - 1121.419 Tal Wilkenfeld

There is critique, but not in the way that it would diminish my sense of self. It's different. I can just kind of... look at something and be like, okay, well actually next time I'll do this choice and this choice maybe. Maybe this would serve the song better. Maybe this would help the groove feel more like this. But it's not like I suck because I did this and I'm a loser.

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1121.539 - 1134.381 Lex Fridman

Do you think that's bad? Because even when I asked that question, I had a self-critical thought. Why did you ask that question? That's the wrong question. I always have the self-critical engine running. Is it necessarily a bad thing?

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1135.402 - 1137.443 Tal Wilkenfeld

It depends if it's affecting you negatively.

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1137.463 - 1138.904 Lex Fridman

What is negative anyway?

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1139.244 - 1157.337 Tal Wilkenfeld

Well, if it brings your frequency down and you feel less joyful inside, unless you don't feel complete, you feel less than, less worthy of something, then you could call that bad if you aspire to not feel that way.

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1158.373 - 1164.594 Lex Fridman

Yeah, I aspire to not feel that way in the big picture. But in the little picture, a little pain is good.

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1165.134 - 1165.555 Tal Wilkenfeld

That's fair.

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1166.355 - 1175.977 Lex Fridman

So confidence. You seem like in this performance, you seem confident. You seem to be truly walking the bad motherfucker way of life.

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1177.577 - 1185.719 Tal Wilkenfeld

A word that I prefer over confidence is trust because I think with confidence is almost like

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1187.325 - 1213.392 Tal Wilkenfeld

there's a belief assigned to it that i am this thing that you believe in whereas trust is just simply knowing that you can get up there and handle whatever is going to come your way and it's more it's more of an open feeling where it's like yeah i could i could do this sure but not like i'm a bad motherfucker like you know what i mean this is a huge difference because

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1214.676 - 1222.418 Tal Wilkenfeld

I've shared the stage with people who have a lot of confidence and it can be like a brick wall, just like fear is a brick wall.

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1223.908 - 1229.893 Lex Fridman

So the brick wall is a bad thing. Like the thing you have with Jeff here on stage... Is not a brick wall. There's no wall. There's chemistry.

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1230.093 - 1230.313 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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1230.513 - 1232.935 Lex Fridman

How can you explain that chemistry, the two you had?

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1233.215 - 1258.814 Tal Wilkenfeld

Trust and lack of fear. Yeah. And also I will say, you know, that each individual has developed likes and dislikes over their lifetime. And that can be like, in this case, we're just talking aesthetic likes and dislikes. So... In this particular case, obviously our likes and dislikes are very much aligned such that the things I do to compliment him, he enjoys and vice versa.

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1259.275 - 1276.407 Tal Wilkenfeld

But it could be two, you know, very trusting, open musicians on stage that don't have walls up, but their choices are very different. And one person likes heavy metal and the other person likes classical. So it's, it's gotta be both.

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1276.767 - 1287.772 Lex Fridman

So you guys were good at like, yes, anding each other musically. Definitely. Is that where you're most at peace in a meditative way is on stage?

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1290.101 - 1311.602 Tal Wilkenfeld

It used to be that it would only be on stage. It started with that. That was almost like my way in to flow state and meditation was playing music. And then back in the day when I'd kind of crash after shows, I wanted to change that. I wanted to always feel like I'm in flow state.

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1312.443 - 1313.524 Lex Fridman

Have you succeeded? Yeah.

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1314.329 - 1320.073 Tal Wilkenfeld

I've gotten a lot better. I'm still obviously on the journey, but yes.

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1320.353 - 1324.195 Lex Fridman

So you meditate. I think you've said somewhere that you meditate before shows or just in general.

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1325.336 - 1340.265 Tal Wilkenfeld

I meditate every day. When I'm on tour with my band, I ask that we all meditate together for at least 20 minutes. And I don't dictate which type of meditation. I don't put on a guided meditation because everyone has their own

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1341.306 - 1369.371 Tal Wilkenfeld

thing they want to do maybe someone might be praying in their head it doesn't matter it's just the idea that we all put our phones down and we all are in one room connecting energetically spiritually and just letting our lives go for a second and then we walk straight on the stage and it's always really connected and there were a couple gigs where we ran out of time for that and i could tell there was a there was a major difference in the performance

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1371.058 - 1373.559 Lex Fridman

So it both connects you and centers you, all of those things.

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1374.46 - 1391.389 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah. But then when I'm home, like I love to meditate and I've tried various styles of meditation and studied various types of things. So I don't do just one thing. I kind of customize it depending on where I'm at in my life.

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1393.35 - 1404.826 Lex Fridman

You and the world lost Jeff back a year ago. You told me you really miss him. How has the pain of losing Jeff changed you, maybe deep in your sense of the world?

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1406.808 - 1450.813 Tal Wilkenfeld

You know, it's hard to accept that we won't create something musically again in this lifetime. But in terms of the grief... Grief was easier for me because I went through a major grief period in 2016 and 17. And that was the first time I'd really gone through the process of grief in a non-family situation, like with friends and mentors and people that I'd created with, which is different.

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1450.853 - 1469.977 Tal Wilkenfeld

It's a different kind of connection. When my grandparents died, it's like, There was nothing left unsaid, and I was at peace with what was happening. With this, when Prince died out of the blue in mid-2016, and then Leonard Cohen died in November...

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1475.35 - 1502.169 Tal Wilkenfeld

That just tore me to shreds because Leonard Cohen was not just someone that profoundly inspired me, you know, musically and lyrically, but spiritually, we had a very deep connection. And that was the basis of a lot of our conversation was spirituality. And so at that time, I felt like a piece of me went missing.

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1503.699 - 1533.441 Tal Wilkenfeld

And that was a very long process where I just stayed in my place and didn't want to play a note of music. I kind of wanted to just get rid of all my stuff. So I had a friend come over and he's like, you should just, why don't you come to the comedy store? I'm like, comedy store? Like, what am I going to go to some store and buy clown suits? Like, what are you talking about? What's a comedy store?

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1533.802 - 1547.292 Tal Wilkenfeld

He's like, no, no, no. Like the comedy store, the place where like comedians go. I'm like, okay, well, I've never seen standup. I don't, you know, I've seen Seinfeld on TV. That's like the extent of my standup experience. So he took me to the comedy store.

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1548.693 - 1581.006 Tal Wilkenfeld

and every single one of those comedians like embraced me like i was family it didn't even take a day i was like part of the family and i made like 25 best friends and i ended up throwing all my stuff in storage and like finding a little room to stay in where i rented my gear out um My rent paying was me loaning the gear because I didn't want any responsibilities financial.

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1581.026 - 1588.828 Tal Wilkenfeld

I just wanted to be completely free so that I could just process it and not feel like I had to commit to anything else.

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1589.188 - 1612.274 Tal Wilkenfeld

work-wise or creatively i just wanted to unplug and so this was like a fun and very different way to unplug because you know previously i may have just gone to a monastery and spent you know weeks at a monastery or months but in this case i was like you know what this is a different kind of experience i'm gonna just hang out with comedians and stay in this room and

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1612.674 - 1613.975 Lex Fridman

With no responsibility, really.

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1614.155 - 1640.95 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah. Other than to really deeply connect with this grief that I'm experiencing. I'm not going to negate it. I'm going to really fully connect to it. And I did. And it was tough. And then, you know, more people in 2017 were leaving. Greg Allman, Tom Petty. I mean, it was like, these are people that I worked with, all these people, and like had...

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1641.67 - 1669.686 Tal Wilkenfeld

great connections with them and they were all going and the world was mourning the loss of these people because of everything that they'd given to the world. Like they'd changed the world's lives, not just mine because I knew them personally. And so that was also complicated and why for me it was interesting to be grieving the loss of these musicians with comedians. Mm-hmm. And I learned a lot.

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1669.706 - 1690.964 Tal Wilkenfeld

It changed my life because I just learned to laugh at absolutely anything. Everything. I mean, my grandpa had a really great sense of humor, too. My grandpa's a Holocaust survivor. And, like, he could just kind of, like, laugh at anything. And, like, so I already kind of have that in me. But being around all these comedians just kind of, like, exaggerated that for me.

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1691.104 - 1706.682 Tal Wilkenfeld

And that really changed things for me for the better. So then when Jeff Beck died... It was like, okay, I've got these tools. I know what this is. And I'm going to go through it again. And I'm going to be on tour with Incubus in two days.

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1706.702 - 1707.804 Lex Fridman

Yeah.

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1708.587 - 1728.535 Tal Wilkenfeld

And so Mike Durnt from Green Day, he called me up and he said, hey, like, I know you're going through a lot. And I said, I don't even know what I'm going to play. Like, I really want a vintage jazz bass for this. And I only have a 70s one that I don't really think is appropriate. I really need a 60s one, blah, blah, blah. And Mike's like, I'm going to hook you up.

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1728.695 - 1755.188 Tal Wilkenfeld

He showed up to my place the next day with a truckload of old P basses and jazz basses and brought them all into my studio. And I'm playing them. And then I pull one out of the case. And it's Olympic white, just like Jeff Beck. And... I play it and not only did I get goosebumps and started crying, but I looked over at Mike and same thing was happening.

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1755.549 - 1784.06 Tal Wilkenfeld

And he's like, uh, I guess, I guess Jeff might, might be happy about this. And he's like, well, you know, I didn't want to let this one go. I was just trying to cheer you up a bit and maybe loan it to you for the tour. But if you really want it, it's yours. And I was like, oh my God. This is like, Mike Dunn is the nicest guy ever. So that happened.

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1784.1 - 1794.548 Tal Wilkenfeld

So that bass's name is Jeff, and it's a white jazz bass, and I played it on the Incubus tour. But yeah, I do feel like I'm more equipped to handle grief now.

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1795.088 - 1805.736 Lex Fridman

Tell me about the comedy store a little bit more. Do you think comedians and musicians in some deep fundamental way are made from the same cloth? Like, are they spiritually...

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1807.372 - 1821.999 Tal Wilkenfeld

connected somehow i think everyone's connected spiritually in the same way so i think personality wise um comedians and musicians are quite different actually in what way

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1823.493 - 1843.348 Tal Wilkenfeld

Well, you'd have to subdivide even musicians into different categories too, because, you know, the thing that I appreciate about comedians is that, you know, you go to a restaurant with them and like all the observational humor of like, they'll notice everything. and make you laugh about it, which a really great songwriter does the same thing too.

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1844.008 - 1867.438 Tal Wilkenfeld

And my favorite lyricists like Leonard Cohen, Bob Dylan, Paul Simon, they, you know, Warren Zevon, they add comedy into their lyric. And like, so those types of people, I would liken to hanging out with a comedian. It's very different from like, say somebody that is an instrumental guitarist or something like that, that they're more focused on,

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1868.766 - 1896.107 Tal Wilkenfeld

whether it's, like, a kinesthetic thing or, like, a physical thing or whatever it is, they're not quite doing the observational thing in the same way. So I just appreciate, like, my favorite thing to do is... Go out and laugh, especially because like I can tend to be pretty analytical and be in my head. And so anything that just kind of lets me be in my heart and just enjoy life.

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1896.968 - 1901.333 Lex Fridman

I think there's a photo of you with Dave Chappelle on stage. What was that about?

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1901.883 - 1925.534 Tal Wilkenfeld

So right after Leonard Cohen passed away, the comedy store threw me a birthday party. It was this crazy lineup. And like, it was like, I'd play a song with my band and, um, and then Jackson Brown sat in and like sung a song and then like Dave Chappelle came up and said some jokes. It was, it was like one of my favorite nights ever.

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1925.934 - 1926.274 Lex Fridman

Yeah.

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1926.414 - 1930.596 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah. It was cool. It was, it was a very healing birthday party. Yeah.

0
💬 0

1931.075 - 1934.057 Lex Fridman

Yeah, there's something magical about that place. Yeah. It's really special.

0
💬 0

1934.598 - 1942.403 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, well, the mothership has some magic to it too. It's really cool. It's different, totally different vibe, but like super awesome.

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1943.444 - 1963.803 Lex Fridman

You said that Leonard Cohen is a songwriting inspiration of yours. I saw you perform a song, Chelsea Hotel, brilliantly on the internet. It's about, for people who don't know, his love affair with Janet Joplin. How does that song make you feel?

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1964.764 - 1966.245 Tal Wilkenfeld

Great. I love that song.

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1966.946 - 1979.176 Lex Fridman

Which aspect? Musically, the melancholy feeling, the hopeful feeling, the cocky feeling, every single line has a different feeling to it, really.

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1979.716 - 2007.208 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, but as a whole piece, I appreciate it so much. I actually lived at the Chelsea Hotel, and when Leonard and I first met, That was one of the first things we talked about was, you know, I lived there where all that stuff went down before they tore it apart. And, yeah, it's just a beautiful song.

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2007.868 - 2027.171 Lex Fridman

You know, what makes me sad, the way it ends, I don't mean to suggest that I loved you the best. I can't keep track of each fallen robin. I remember you well in the Chelsea Hotel, that's all. I don't even think of you that often. You know that line, I don't even think of you that often, always like breaks my heart for some reason.

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2027.991 - 2036.258 Lex Fridman

Like how ephemeral, how short lasting like certain love affairs can be. Just kind of like, huh.

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2037.458 - 2037.739 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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2038.039 - 2041.602 Lex Fridman

Do you think he meant it? I always think he doesn't, he's trying to convince himself of it.

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2042.583 - 2049.568 Tal Wilkenfeld

It could be both or either, you know? I mean, that's the beautiful thing about poetry and lyric is that it's supposed to be open.

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2050.468 - 2053.33 Lex Fridman

Yeah. I wonder if it's also open to him depending on the day, you know?

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2053.811 - 2083.82 Tal Wilkenfeld

Definitely. I mean, the thing that he taught me or his advice to me was when you're writing a song, look at it the next morning, like just first thing and read it and then take a walk, smoke a joint, read it again. Go have a fight with your, you know, daughter. Come back. Read it again. Get drunk. Read it again. Wait a week. Read it again.

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2084.54 - 2096.043 Tal Wilkenfeld

Just so that, you know, from every state and every position, the wider the lens is going to be from an audience perspective. You want things to mean multiple things.

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2097.798 - 2108.063 Lex Fridman

So there's one line I read somewhere that he regrets putting in the song. So I've got to ask you about it. It's pretty edgy. It's about giving me head on the unmade bed.

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2108.664 - 2108.904 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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2109.144 - 2110.505 Lex Fridman

You think that's a good line or bad line?

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2110.525 - 2112.946 Tal Wilkenfeld

I think it's an amazing line. It's one of the best lines in the song.

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2113.286 - 2113.786 Lex Fridman

Yeah, right.

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2114.047 - 2128.056 Tal Wilkenfeld

When he put that song out, obviously he didn't regret it or he wouldn't have put that lyric in the song. I think what happened was that eventually word got out either from him or from somebody else that the song was about Janis Joplin.

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2128.496 - 2128.736 Lex Fridman

Yes.

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2128.896 - 2141.804 Tal Wilkenfeld

And so at that point, he regretted the indiscretion. So it wasn't that he regretted how great the line was. It was just, you know, the privacy factor. But then again...

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2142.845 - 2168.543 Tal Wilkenfeld

leonard's known for rewriting his lyrics and in his live shows you'll see a bunch of songs where it's like new lyrics and he didn't do it because he didn't like the old lyrics he just did it because he could because he's leonard and it's like why not have fun with words the way musicians have fun you know improvising solos on stage and he could have changed that line in chelsea hotel after in retrospect and he never did

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2169.281 - 2178.287 Lex Fridman

I remember you well in the Chelsea Hotel. You were talking so brave and so sweet, giving me head on the unmade bed while the limousines wait in the street.

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2178.787 - 2179.648 Tal Wilkenfeld

It's so powerful.

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2179.968 - 2181.849 Lex Fridman

It's a powerful line. It just kind of shocks you.

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2182.349 - 2184.15 Tal Wilkenfeld

Well, that's what's so great about it.

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2184.971 - 2185.211 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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2185.471 - 2197.579 Lex Fridman

But also heartbreaking because it doesn't last. Especially, actually, to me, it adds more meaning once you know it's Janis Joplin. It's like, okay, these two stars kind of collided for a time.

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2197.935 - 2203.24 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, but why is it heartbreaking? It could also be just beautiful that they had a little fling.

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2204.021 - 2225.588 Lex Fridman

Yeah, everything's beautiful. Thank you. Even the dark stuff. What's not beautiful? Everything is beautiful if you look long enough and deeply enough. What were we saying? Oh, what do you think about Hallelujah? What do you think about the different songs of his? Why'd you choose Chelsea Hotel to perform?

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2225.688 - 2240.135 Tal Wilkenfeld

Because I lived there and it was like, it meant something to me to sing that song. And actually, when I put that song out on YouTube, that's when he sent me an email. He's like, hey, do you want to come over?

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2240.235 - 2242.616 Lex Fridman

So this is how you guys connected.

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2242.97 - 2267.575 Tal Wilkenfeld

No, we met in a rehearsal studio. I ended up watching their whole rehearsal and sitting there next to Roshi, his like 105-year-old monk, which was really great. I remember when I was like shaking his hand. So I was like, it was just me and Roshi on the couch watching Leonard with his band. And we're shaking hands. And he grips my hand like this, like doesn't let it go.

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2274.99 - 2275.23 Lex Fridman

Yes.

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2277.012 - 2278.033 Lex Fridman

Wow. You passed the test.

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2279.154 - 2291.566 Tal Wilkenfeld

Passed the Roshi test. And then what's funny was that the next thing that happened about five minutes later was Leonard Cohen got down on his knees and opened up a jar. I'm not kidding you of caviar. This is not a callback.

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2292.028 - 2295.15 Lex Fridman

Well, it is in a way, in a deep fundamental way.

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2295.39 - 2297.131 Tal Wilkenfeld

He started feeding the monk caviar.

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2297.371 - 2297.592 Lex Fridman

Yeah.

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2298.352 - 2302.295 Tal Wilkenfeld

And that healed my Montreux Jazz Festival sadness forever.

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2303.215 - 2319.526 Lex Fridman

The end. Do you think there's a kind of like weird, like there's a sense of humor to it all somehow? Like why does that happen? Why does that happen? Like why stuff like that happens? Or that the Jeff Bass speaks to you?

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2320.706 - 2321.527 Tal Wilkenfeld

Why do we need to know?

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2322.566 - 2334.335 Lex Fridman

You believe in that stuff? In what stuff? That there is a rhyme to the whole thing somehow. Like there's a frequency to which magical things of that nature can happen.

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2342.881 - 2354.816 Tal Wilkenfeld

I'm divided about that answer because... I think just things are flowing. I don't think anything's kind of like planned out.

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2355.936 - 2363.241 Lex Fridman

Like through time, it's like an orchestra playing of different experiences and circumstances that are somehow connected.

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2363.961 - 2390.613 Tal Wilkenfeld

I think everything's connected. So, yes. But predetermined means like... I don't believe in the predetermined stuff necessarily, which is different from... Whatever your previous karma is. And karma is a whole other kind of conversation. I don't mean karma as in like good karma, bad karma. Just karma meaning the collection of things you've acquired over this lifetime or other lifetimes.

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2391.114 - 2395.745 Tal Wilkenfeld

Just whatever that is. whatever that is, is going to influence your future.

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2395.765 - 2421.04 Lex Fridman

Well, you had a really interesting trajectory through life. Maybe I just read it that way because I've had a lot of stuff happen to me that's like lucky, feels lucky. And sometimes I wonder like, huh? This is weird. It does feel like the universe just kind of throws stuff at you with a chuckle. I don't know. Not you. The proverbial you. One.

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2422.041 - 2422.201 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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2423.359 - 2444.886 Lex Fridman

You said you sometimes watch classic movies to inspire your songwriting. And you mentioned watching Taxi Driver. I love that movie. And I think you mentioned that you wrote a love song based on that movie. So Travis Bickle, for people who don't know, is a taxi driver. And he's deeply lonely. What do you think about that kind of loneliness?

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2445.846 - 2462.18 Tal Wilkenfeld

I think that loneliness is a product of feeling separate from the world and separate from others. And that the less you experience that separation, the less you'll feel lonely.

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2463.421 - 2467.804 Lex Fridman

How often have you felt lonely in this way, separated from the rest of the world?

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2468.805 - 2477.954 Tal Wilkenfeld

It's less and less every single year. Because I work very hard at it.

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2478.254 - 2479.515 Lex Fridman

Feeling a part of the world.

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2480.275 - 2483.397 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, just meditating and studying scriptures.

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2483.917 - 2487.259 Lex Fridman

Don't you think that, I mean, isn't there a fundamental loneliness to the human experience?

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2488.56 - 2489.18 Tal Wilkenfeld

In what sense?

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💬 0

2490.041 - 2494.123 Lex Fridman

That all the struggles, all the suffering you experience is really experienced by you alone?

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2495.323 - 2495.644 Tal Wilkenfeld

Is it?

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2496.484 - 2503.587 Lex Fridman

Maybe at the very bottom it's not. It's kind of all the same stuff. You didn't feel alone in 2016, 2017?

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2505.368 - 2528.735 Tal Wilkenfeld

I felt like I lost a piece of myself that I had given to somebody else. And I feel like people feel that in romantic exchanges, whether it's long-term, short-term. You give a piece of yourself, and then if that person dies or you break up with that person, you feel like you've lost that piece of yourself.

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2529.595 - 2540.941 Tal Wilkenfeld

Which I feel like is a very different experience than if you just are opening yourself rather than giving a piece of yourself. You're just opening yourself to somebody or something.

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2540.961 - 2545.583 Lex Fridman

So opening is fundamentally not a lonely experience.

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2546.824 - 2548.185 Tal Wilkenfeld

No, it's a loving experience.

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2548.905 - 2552.767 Lex Fridman

And then losing a piece of yourself can be.

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2553.641 - 2560.424 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, because you can't lose a piece of yourself if you are the same self as every other self.

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2560.904 - 2566.447 Lex Fridman

Right, right. So if you see yourself as together with everybody, then there's no losing. Yeah. Yeah.

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2567.247 - 2567.447 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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2567.887 - 2579.272 Lex Fridman

It's a beautiful way to look at it. You said that there's something healing about being in an empty hotel room with no attachments except your suitcase. You know, a lot of people talk about hotel rooms being empty.

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2581.5 - 2608.972 Tal Wilkenfeld

fundamentally lonely experience but you're saying it's it's healing it's healing yeah because i just get to sit there and not worry about all this stuff that like this these meaningless attachments i've got my suitcase with my necessities or my three suitcases sometimes and uh I can just sit there and meditate and just be with myself. And it's so awesome.

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2609.633 - 2634.966 Tal Wilkenfeld

And usually like you plan your touring for like, you know, you kind of get the business aspect of things taken care of in advance. So you can kind of just really be flowing day to day on a tour. And it's a great feeling. It's funny because this last tour that I did, we didn't have hotels every night. We had hotels maybe like once a week. And I hadn't done that before.

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2635.367 - 2642.015 Tal Wilkenfeld

Usually, I'm frequently in hotels. So I didn't get that space that I'm really used to getting.

0
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2642.276 - 2642.756 Lex Fridman

You missed them.

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2643.798 - 2670.605 Tal Wilkenfeld

I very much missed it and had to be very creative. And I ended up like... going into the back lounge when everyone was asleep and like meditating back there or like before everyone woke up. And I actually like joined, there was like an online meditation retreat that was happening. It was like 12 hours a day of silent meditations. that happens once a year.

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2670.645 - 2692.395 Tal Wilkenfeld

And I love this, this particular group of people. And they knew I was on tour. So they're like, just join when you can. And so I was on the tour doing the meditation retreat at the same time. It was so fun. It was so fun because I was like in the back lounge, the bus is like moving around like this. My laptop, the zoom is like, and I'm just like sitting like meditating.

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2693.075 - 2695.076 Tal Wilkenfeld

It was like, yeah, this is the shit.

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2695.698 - 2699.159 Lex Fridman

Silence. So they're all connected to Zoom and just doing silent 12 hours a day?

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2699.219 - 2699.859 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, yeah.

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2700.199 - 2700.64 Lex Fridman

That's cool.

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2700.9 - 2726.811 Tal Wilkenfeld

These particular retreats that I started doing, it's not straight silent. There are, you know, silent sits every hour for 50 minutes. And then there's some talks. And like these people that I've been working with are really cool because they're integrating spiral dynamics into Zen. And it's like the coolest combination.

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2727.211 - 2728.312 Lex Fridman

What's spiral dynamics?

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2728.532 - 2732.194 Tal Wilkenfeld

Like Ken Wilber. Do you know Ken Wilber? Integral theory?

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2732.714 - 2749.874 Lex Fridman

Yes. Can you explain a little bit? So I vaguely know him because of kind of this notion that everything is one, like everything is integrated, that every field has truths and falsehoods and we should integrate the truths.

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2751.255 - 2769.186 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah. It's hard to explain how it applies to this type of meditation because it's in the guided parts of the meditation that this whole like holonic theory is like brought in about like transcending and including everything

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2770.146 - 2800.221 Tal Wilkenfeld

um aspect of your being um because he talks about like levels of development and like it in consciousness and how like this applies to like every single religion or non-religion that there are these levels of development and from all that go all the way up to enlightenment no matter what you start off with it could be you know, Christianity, Buddhism, Vedanta, it doesn't matter, like anything.

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2800.742 - 2818.112 Tal Wilkenfeld

Then I just like, I like it when everything is, and everyone is taken into account. It doesn't matter where you're coming from, that there is a way to be self-realized, self-actualized. There are self-actualized beings from all walks of life with very, very different paths. There's no one path.

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2819.073 - 2834.275 Tal Wilkenfeld

I mean, in this particular retreat I do, there's like a lot of silent sits and then there's some guided meditations. Um, but I've tried a lot of different avenues and they're all great. So I wouldn't just say, just try this one thing.

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2834.456 - 2851.899 Tal Wilkenfeld

Like I've studied like the Upanishads, like with Vedanta teachers and like gone through those texts for months and months and stayed at monasteries and like how they break it down makes total sense to my mind and heart. And like my, more importantly than my mind, like my inner knowing, like it resonates.

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2852.8 - 2853.68 Lex Fridman

Inner knowing.

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2854.12 - 2875.086 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, because like, Your mind is like the thinking tool. It's not you. You're not your mind. You're not your thoughts. You're not your body. So it's like just the you, like that knowing that you have. When something resonates there, that's usually when you go with something.

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2875.766 - 2877.227 Lex Fridman

What's living in a monastery like?

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2877.627 - 2878.608 Tal Wilkenfeld

It's the best.

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2878.868 - 2880.409 Lex Fridman

What are we talking about?

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2880.589 - 2885.352 Tal Wilkenfeld

It's just an empty room with a tiny single bed and a sheet and a pillow, and that's it.

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2885.796 - 2886.156 Lex Fridman

That's it.

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2886.616 - 2888.257 Tal Wilkenfeld

You have to eat the same thing as everyone.

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2888.898 - 2889.618 Lex Fridman

What's the food like?

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2889.818 - 2899.883 Tal Wilkenfeld

What is it? Very plain, cheap, basic food, which is funny for someone like me because I'm pretty particular about my diet.

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2899.943 - 2903.404 Lex Fridman

Yeah, you brought over like 20 different ingredients.

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2904.985 - 2905.285 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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2906.166 - 2910.428 Lex Fridman

So what was the day in the life of Tal in a monastery?

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2911.667 - 2922.624 Tal Wilkenfeld

You wake up at 5 a.m. to the bell and you go and meditate like constantly till bedtime other than two meals.

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2923.692 - 2929.396 Lex Fridman

how are you sitting? Are you in a group? Is there other people there and you're just sitting there?

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2929.577 - 2950.693 Tal Wilkenfeld

Well, if you're talking about the Zen monastery, cause I stayed in a Zen monastery, um, and I did a thing with that. Um, the guy was telling you about that kind of, uh, the integral Zen thing where he uses Ken Wilber's work in combination with Zen, that that's a little bit different cause he does talks. We talk about things. Um,

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2952.162 - 2969.174 Tal Wilkenfeld

And that's very separate from the Vedanta monasteries I've stayed at, which there's very little meditation in terms of sitting silently. Instead, we are meditating on the scriptures, like the Upanishads, and we're diving into that.

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2970.175 - 2978.481 Lex Fridman

What were the differences that take us from the experiences, the two different, the integral one and the meditating on the scriptures? Yes.

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2979.619 - 3018.93 Tal Wilkenfeld

They both have been incredibly helpful to me because the Vedanta, anytime I go into my head about something, the answer is there based on this knowledge. with the Zen monastery, it's like, you just gotta put your butt in the seat and sit and wait. And maybe something will happen, maybe it won't, but just keep sitting. And it's very disciplined and you go through a lot. Your body's purging a lot.

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3018.95 - 3038.484 Tal Wilkenfeld

There's a lot and you don't necessarily have the answers as to what is happening. And so I think for somebody like me, I need both. I need to be in a place where there's complete uncertainty, but complete discipline and just doing the regimented thing.

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3039.445 - 3057.411 Tal Wilkenfeld

And then there's the me that feels very satisfied from an analytical standpoint, understanding what's happening, like what is the gross and the subtle body and the, you know, like I want to understand these things about what it is to be a human. So I like them both.

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3058.45 - 3064.212 Lex Fridman

Understand what it means to be a human. So that like having that patience and just sitting with yourself helps you do that.

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3065.612 - 3069.573 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yes. More so like the analysis part.

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3069.713 - 3071.474 Lex Fridman

Oh, so the analysis, the actual, okay, got it.

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3072.414 - 3087.798 Tal Wilkenfeld

But sitting with yourself, there's no better education of like facing every demon and it's all going to come out and it's not going to be pretty. But then there's things that happen on the other side of it that are so profound.

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3088.76 - 3090.001 Lex Fridman

Have you met most of your demons?

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3091.622 - 3093.464 Tal Wilkenfeld

I've met the demons that have come out.

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3094.204 - 3094.945 Lex Fridman

Oh, there might be more.

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3095.145 - 3095.525 Tal Wilkenfeld

Who knows?

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3095.826 - 3119.468 Lex Fridman

Yeah. Okay, well, to be continued. Since I think I heard you say that you wrote a love song after Taxi Driver, what kind of love songs do you write more of? So you're a songwriter first, for people who don't know. They might think you're... primarily a basis, but you're- But they're wrong.

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3119.488 - 3129.393 Lex Fridman

So do you write mostly broken heart ones or like hopeful love songs, in love songs, about to be in love songs, soon to fall in love songs?

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3130.853 - 3134.755 Tal Wilkenfeld

Well, the last album I put out is pretty self-explanatory as to what that is.

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3134.775 - 3137.336 Lex Fridman

A lot of pain though?

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3138.257 - 3171.13 Tal Wilkenfeld

There was, yeah. Some of it was storytelling and Some of it was real experience, and it's always like a combination of things. I serve the song. So sometimes you use your own life experience to tell a song, and sometimes you may watch a movie. and part of that script merges with your own experience, and that tells the right story for the point you're trying to make in the song.

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3171.33 - 3177.234 Tal Wilkenfeld

So it varies from song to song in terms of what a biographical it is.

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3177.695 - 3190.443 Lex Fridman

Yeah. I was stuck at the end of Taxi Driver when, what's her name, Betsy, because Travis becomes a hero. She tries to get with him, and he rejects her. So that was powerful.

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3192.003 - 3216.637 Tal Wilkenfeld

My favorite love songs are the ones where you're not sure it's about romantic love or love of God or love of life or just pure love. I was thinking George Harrison writes songs like that, like What Is Life? Or like Bob Dylan's song that George Harrison covered, If Not For You.

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3217.526 - 3219.788 Lex Fridman

Yeah, just grateful, grateful for his love.

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3220.148 - 3228.336 Tal Wilkenfeld

Right, right. That's kind of like where, well, what I'm experiencing now. And so who knows what will end up coming out.

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3228.436 - 3230.438 Lex Fridman

Do you've been writing this kind of?

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3231.263 - 3261.331 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, I've been writing. A little bit? I don't have an intention of putting something out in any particular time frame, but I'm just writing and letting things flow. There's a bunch of Leonard Cohen songs, too, where you're like, there's so many ways to interpret this song, and there's so many ways... I just love songs that aren't so specifically about one thing.

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3261.971 - 3268.777 Lex Fridman

You know, I really love the song To Play It, To Listen To, Wonderful Tonight by Eric Clapton, and I thought it was pretty straightforward.

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3268.937 - 3269.137 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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3269.818 - 3277.324 Lex Fridman

And then I had a conversation with Eric Weinstein, who's a mutual friend of ours, and he told me it's not about what I thought it's about.

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3278.085 - 3279.206 Tal Wilkenfeld

Oh, yeah? What did he say? Okay.

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3281.164 - 3311.467 Lex Fridman

It's a more complicated story. It's actually a man, so Wonderful Tonight is a story about a man being just finding his wife beautiful and appreciating it throughout. But he said it was actually a man missing his wife. He's imagining that she's lost because of the decisions he's made in his life. So it's pain. And he had a long, beautiful, Erich Weinstein-like explanation of why.

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3311.487 - 3312.088 Tal Wilkenfeld

I love those.

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3312.988 - 3315.049 Lex Fridman

Have you and Eric played music?

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3315.389 - 3320.57 Tal Wilkenfeld

No. We just hung out and had very long conversations about everything.

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3320.83 - 3322.111 Lex Fridman

He's a bit of a musician, you know?

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3322.291 - 3322.531 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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3323.191 - 3335.134 Lex Fridman

Okay. You picked up the guitar when you were 14. Let's go back. And one interesting thing that just jumped out at me is you said you learned how to practice in your head because you only had 30 minutes.

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3335.814 - 3336.034 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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3336.054 - 3338.275 Lex Fridman

Your parents would only let you practice for 30 minutes.

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3338.295 - 3338.555 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah. Yeah.

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3339.315 - 3357.354 Lex Fridman

I read somewhere that Coltrane did the same. He was not the practice part, but he was able to play instruments in his head as a way to think through different lines, different musical thoughts, that kind of stuff. Maybe can you tell the story of that?

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3357.737 - 3376.734 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, I just grew up in an environment that was focused on academia. And I fell in love with guitar and really just wanted the focus to be that. So my limit was 30 minutes a day for, I don't even remember how many times a week.

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3377.354 - 3381.458 Lex Fridman

Might have been every day or five days a week, whatever. So your parents didn't want you to play more than that?

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3382.998 - 3405.515 Tal Wilkenfeld

No. And so I just learned how to visualize the fretboard in my head and I'd practice all day in my head. It's kind of like, you know, the Queen's Gambit, the TV show with Anya Taylor-Joy and she just like sees it on the ceiling. I used to do that with the fretboard. Yeah, just practice. And I actually recommend it to every musician because...

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3406.756 - 3426.451 Tal Wilkenfeld

If you're just practicing here, you don't know what is more dominant necessarily. Is it this or is it your motor skills? If you just take that away and do it here, you know you've got it. So I'm glad that that happened and that I learned how to do that.

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3427.432 - 3448.391 Tal Wilkenfeld

And in terms of like learning fast, because like I had to like learn how to, well, I had to try to absorb a lot of information in a short amount of time when I did have the instrument. I kind of would like do things in bursts, like even in that half an hour, I would just go like play for a couple of minutes and then I'd stop for like a minute.

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3449.011 - 3458.803 Tal Wilkenfeld

And then I'd do it again, and I noticed there was a huge difference between the first time and the second time, whereas if I just kept repeating stuff, it would be much slower.

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3458.823 - 3461.066 Lex Fridman

Well, what did you do in that minute?

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3462.898 - 3463.578 Tal Wilkenfeld

Just hang out.

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3463.718 - 3465.559 Lex Fridman

Just integrate.

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3465.639 - 3487.289 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, it's like my brain was telling me, just chill out for a sec. That's enough information. Let me take a second to integrate that. That's at least what it felt like to me. And the most hilarious thing happened a couple months ago. I know you're friends with Andrew Huberman. Mm-hmm. So he put out some clip, which was a part of one of his podcasts, about learning.

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3488.189 - 3518.633 Tal Wilkenfeld

And he said that there was some research done on learning fast and that if you practice something for a minute or so and then you let your brain rest for 30 seconds or a minute, that in that 30 seconds or a minute, your brain – does the repetition 20 to 30 times faster and in reverse. And I was like, whoa, that's so cool because that's what I used to do when I was a kid.

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3518.693 - 3540.148 Tal Wilkenfeld

Like now there's science that proves that, which is really cool for musicians to know that. that that's a good way to practice efficiently. Because, you know, like some musicians, they're like practicing for six, seven, eight hours a day. I've never done that. I've never practiced more than an hour a day, even now. Like I've just, just that's my technique and it works.

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3541.168 - 3543.51 Lex Fridman

Are you also practicing in your head sometimes?

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3543.771 - 3567.742 Tal Wilkenfeld

Now I'm not practicing as much. I'm more always writing songs in my head, so that's why I like silence. That's why I love being in the empty hotel room and being alone. Songs come to me while I'm showering or walking around doing the dishes. occasionally when I'm hanging out with friends or like comedians and people just like say shit and I'll be like, that's a cool line.

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3567.762 - 3569.464 Tal Wilkenfeld

I'm just like jot it down on my phone.

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3569.544 - 3571.545 Lex Fridman

It's not always musical. It's sometimes lyrical.

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3571.985 - 3589.538 Tal Wilkenfeld

It's more lyrical than musical now because it's like, for me, it's like, well, there's so much music in the world. If I'm going to write a song, I want, I want the song to be about something interesting. And so, yeah, the words matter to me.

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3590.433 - 3601.138 Lex Fridman

Yeah, and the right work and it has so much power. It's crazy. Like we said, Leonard Cohen. And then they're often simple. The really powerful ones are simple.

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3601.258 - 3624.177 Tal Wilkenfeld

And like when you mentioned Hallelujah, you know, he wrote like 80 verses to Hallelujah before he narrowed it down to like four. And it took him like 15, 20 years to write that song. So some writers will do that. And then other writers just vomit it out and it's beautiful. Mm-hmm. Like I've heard that Bob Dylan or Joni Mitchell, they're fast writers. They just kind of comes out.

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3625.178 - 3633.305 Lex Fridman

That makes me feel so good to know Leonard Cohen wrote so many verses of that. Like that was so deliberately crafted.

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3633.325 - 3634.146 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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3634.206 - 3635.807 Lex Fridman

Extensively, rigorously crafted.

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3637.289 - 3642.994 Tal Wilkenfeld

He just would spend months and years and constantly refining and refining.

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3643.541 - 3645.122 Lex Fridman

Do you have songs like that for yourself?

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3646.703 - 3668.099 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, it's song dependent. Some just flow out and it's like, oh, there it is. Everything's there. And then other songs, it's like you might have started it with music and there's some words that come out and then trying to fill in the rest of the words. Sometimes it can be like a square peg in a round hole and other times it's like, oh no, I can... You know, it depends.

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3668.419 - 3695.207 Tal Wilkenfeld

Sometimes it becomes like a math problem and hopefully it doesn't because you just want to say what's right for the song. And usually when you, you know, write it all together, like the lyric and the melody and the chords and everything's kind of developing at once, at least for the first draft, that's very, very helpful. Mm-hmm. Like Sondheim used to write like that.

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3695.348 - 3709.981 Tal Wilkenfeld

Just like he wouldn't move on until like he would just go this way. Whereas for me, it's just like, I'll just go with what seems to be coming naturally and I'll just let it be what it is. And then you come back and you say, okay, well, what do I have to do to this now? What's needed?

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3711.182 - 3728.006 Lex Fridman

Just to linger on the learning process. What would you recommend for young musicians and how to get good? what are the different paths a person can take to understand it deeply enough to create something special?

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3729.887 - 3759.084 Tal Wilkenfeld

I think first and foremost, understanding why you are playing music. If it's because you have something that you're trying to express or that you're just in love with expression itself, with art itself, those are great reasons. Um, to start this journey. The why should be... I think the why is really important because it's a jagged lifestyle and there's a lot in it.

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3759.384 - 3768.906 Tal Wilkenfeld

And so if you don't have your purpose, if you're not centered in your purpose, then all that jagged lifestyle is probably going to get to you.

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3769.566 - 3770.866 Lex Fridman

Jagged? It's jagged.

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3770.906 - 3793.054 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, it's jagged. It's... It's all over the place. It's uncertain. It's one thing, one moment, and a completely different thing, another moment. You never know what's going to happen. And if you thrive on variety, which I love variety, then it's perfect. But also every human being needs a certain amount of certainty and structure.

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3793.274 - 3810.417 Tal Wilkenfeld

And so the certainty can come from your inner knowing, knowing that you're doing exactly what you want to be doing and knowing what your purpose is in doing it, in this expression. Otherwise, you're just kind of like a leaf blowing in the wind.

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3811.697 - 3815.298 Lex Fridman

Like in the early days, touring, just playing clubs seems like tough.

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3816.004 - 3816.244 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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3816.264 - 3817.464 Lex Fridman

It's a lot.

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3817.584 - 3841.028 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, it's a lot of like the physical labor aspect of it is really hard. Playing on stage to two people or 2,000 or 20,000, that doesn't make a difference. I mean, it makes a difference to the ticket sales, which informs what level of luxury you might have on the road or not. But other than that, it's just people there listening to music. The music doesn't change.

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3842.709 - 3849.453 Lex Fridman

Does it make it tough when it's two people versus 200? No. So even if nobody recognizes whatever the thing you're doing.

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3849.853 - 3854.495 Tal Wilkenfeld

No, because the idea is to be doing, like having a great conversation on stage.

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3856.536 - 3858.317 Lex Fridman

The audience can come and go.

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3858.797 - 3871.583 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah. I mean, I always like, there's certain points in shows where I'm just like, I consciously am like, oh yes, there's an audience over there. Because I'm so like wrapped up in whatever's happening on stage.

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3872.584 - 3873.344 Lex Fridman

You forget yourself.

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3874.039 - 3875.72 Tal Wilkenfeld

Well, maybe I'm remembering myself.

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3876.24 - 3902.368 Lex Fridman

Oh, damn. Callback somehow. Feels like one. Okay. You think every instrument is its own journey? You play guitar, you play bass, you sing. Just the mastery of an instrument, or let's avoid the word mastery, the understanding of an instrument is its own thing, or are they somehow like physical manifestations of the same thing?

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3903.517 - 3932.24 Tal Wilkenfeld

both you know like every instrument has its strengths beauty limitations range like possible range that can you know be extended to some degree or another depending on who you are like trumpet or something you know like certain people can hit higher notes than others blah blah blah but um That being said, we're all playing the same 12 or 24, however you divide the octave, that many notes.

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3932.8 - 3947.646 Tal Wilkenfeld

We're all playing the same notes. So in that sense, it's all the same thing. It's just music, or better yet, it's just art or expression. But yeah, every instrument has, you know, you've got to go through the physical...

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3949.578 - 3970.07 Tal Wilkenfeld

the physical aspects of it the motor skills and all of that and hopefully you get through that really quickly so you can get to the expression quickly because if you get stuck in just that first phase that's be really boring yeah but that's a there's a pretty long phase the technical the the technical skill required to really play an instrument

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3970.902 - 3994.556 Tal Wilkenfeld

For some people it's a long thing and some people it's short. It very much varies. It might have to do with like how you learn and getting to know like your strengths in learning, like more oral or more like, is it more like, like what's your strength and playing off of those strengths.

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3995.583 - 4019.918 Tal Wilkenfeld

So for me, like it was like, like I was saying earlier, it was just an intuitive thing that I knew I can feel when my brain is full, like that it needs processing time. And so I listened to that. I don't push past it. Uh, even if it's like one minute and I do something, I'm like, okay, silence. And then I come back and it's in a, and I trust that it's going to be there and is there. So yeah.

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4020.899 - 4040.704 Tal Wilkenfeld

Just trusting yourself, I think, is really important. Trusting that you know you better than anybody else is going to know you. So that's the kind of thing with teachers that can be either really, really helpful and great or really not great. I'm primarily self-taught. I've had amazing mentors of all walks of life. And

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4041.704 - 4067.689 Tal Wilkenfeld

I think I'm unbelievably blessed that my mentors are some of my favorite musicians on earth, whether it's Leonard Cohen or Jeff Beck or Wayne Shorter, whoever these people are, like they are my favorite musicians. So, not everyone has that opportunity, but what the opportunity that we have now that I didn't have when I was starting is that everything's on YouTube.

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4068.31 - 4091.993 Tal Wilkenfeld

Like every interview with every genius, like you don't need to necessarily have these people in person now. I mean, it... And then I'll say to that, yes and no. I agree with myself and then I don't agree with myself. And the reason is I do believe that there is something that happens when you're in person with a master.

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4094.709 - 4110.572 Tal Wilkenfeld

In some cases that there is something transferred that is not intellectual, it's not spoken, it's something else that happens, that can happen, that I've experienced. And I really value that experience.

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4111.095 - 4134.77 Lex Fridman

And I think that applies to specific disciplines and also generally. Like I've been around Olympic gold medalists just to hang out with them for several days. And there's something about greatness. There's a way about them that kind of permeates the space around them. You kind of learn something from it. Even if you don't practice that particular discipline. There's something to it.

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4135.05 - 4165.488 Lex Fridman

If you're able to see it. I also like what you said about the... playing stuff in your head, that it forces you to not be lost in the physical learning of the instrument. I think that's one of the things probably regret a little bit. So I play both piano and guitar, and I've become quite, over the years, technically proficient at the instruments.

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4166.008 - 4189.711 Lex Fridman

But I think my mind is underdeveloped because of that. Meaning I can't really... I can feel the music when it's created, but I can't create out of the feeling. I haven't practiced the... projecting the feeling onto the music, you know what I mean?

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4189.791 - 4200.598 Lex Fridman

I'm not like a musician, but I'm just, it's a different muscle that I think is, if you really want to create beautiful things, you have to, the creation happens here, not with your hands.

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4200.618 - 4201.279 Tal Wilkenfeld

I think it's more here.

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4201.499 - 4204.641 Lex Fridman

Or whatever, whichever, it's some part of the body, but it's not with your fingers.

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4204.932 - 4207.054 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, because I think the fingers is more this.

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4207.474 - 4210.336 Lex Fridman

Sure. And then... Yes, it is here.

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4210.516 - 4210.837 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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4211.177 - 4216.821 Lex Fridman

And it's just nice that you said that because it's probably really good advice if you want to create.

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4217.642 - 4220.704 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, slowing down is really great too.

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4220.724 - 4222.606 Lex Fridman

What do you mean slowing down?

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4223.967 - 4234.655 Tal Wilkenfeld

Slowing everything down. It could be, you know, I can play something really fast, but I may want to like practice it

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💬 0

4246.178 - 4254.429 Lex Fridman

Like... Go slow as possible.

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4255.291 - 4284.803 Tal Wilkenfeld

Because there's all these... micro movements that are happening that if you just go, like you can't pay as close attention to the exact tone that you're pulling from each note. And there's a lot to pay attention to, to how my fingers are touching the string here. Like I can change my tone a million ways just by the direction of this finger. And same with how this lands and how

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4285.824 - 4310.789 Tal Wilkenfeld

I'm attacking the string. And with what intention am I hitting the string? Emotionally, physically. And so even if you can go, blah, blah, blah, play that so slow. See how locked into a pocket you can be. See how you feel every aspect of that. Because then when it gets sped up, it's still there with you. Mm-hmm. Yeah.

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4311.069 - 4311.609 Lex Fridman

That's brilliant.

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4311.63 - 4316.432 Tal Wilkenfeld

It's kind of like the transcended and included thing that Ken Wilber talks about.

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4316.552 - 4329.377 Lex Fridman

And I guess that's what meditation can do for you is to like really listen to, like observe every aspect of your body, the breath and all this. Here you're observing every element, like every super detailed element of playing a single note.

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4329.857 - 4330.178 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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4330.878 - 4332.919 Lex Fridman

That's cool that if you speed it up, it's still there with you.

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4333.479 - 4360.378 Tal Wilkenfeld

It is. I've... Yeah, it is. Because I hear there are certain people, it's like they play really fast, but I don't hear the fullness of tone always. And it's like, well, it's probably because maybe they didn't. Maybe it's because they didn't slow it down and really sit with each note and let it like resonate through their whole being. It's spiritual. It's like a spiritual expression.

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4360.398 - 4366.543 Tal Wilkenfeld

It's not just like, you know, it's not a sport. A lot of people treat music like a sport.

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4367.358 - 4389.446 Lex Fridman

Yeah. Since starting to learn more like Stevie Ray Vaughan versus Jimi Hendrix, I would spend quite a long time on single notes or just bending, just listening to what you can do with bends, spending. Just thinking people like B.B. King and all these blues musicians that spent a career just making a single note cry.

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4389.466 - 4390.246 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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4390.446 - 4391.707 Lex Fridman

There's an art form to that.

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4392.147 - 4392.407 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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4392.907 - 4401.809 Lex Fridman

And I think you putting it like taking it really slow, which I never really thought of, is a really good idea. Like really slow it down.

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4402.849 - 4420.472 Tal Wilkenfeld

It's the same with like sitting with your own emotions. It's like when emotions are overwhelming to us, we get real busy. We move real fast because it's like we don't want to feel our feelings. Those are the moments to slow yourself down.

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4421.283 - 4424.664 Lex Fridman

And observe it. Anger, jealousy. And just be with it.

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4424.684 - 4429.665 Tal Wilkenfeld

Just be with it. Be like, be cool with it. Like, love it. Love the anger.

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4429.805 - 4435.947 Lex Fridman

It's all beautiful. Can you educate me on the difference between bass?

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4436.367 - 4438.708 Tal Wilkenfeld

Bass and bass? Okay. Well, one is a fish.

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4439.888 - 4444.029 Lex Fridman

At least I pronounced it correctly. That's good. It's all about the bass.

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4444.049 - 4445.129 Tal Wilkenfeld

Can you pronounce my name?

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4445.849 - 4446.09 Lex Fridman

Tal.

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💬 0

4446.93 - 4450.94 Tal Wilkenfeld

Wow. Wow. Most people say tal.

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💬 0

4451.24 - 4451.54 Lex Fridman

Tal.

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💬 0

4451.66 - 4452.441 Tal Wilkenfeld

Or tall.

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💬 0

4453.221 - 4454.463 Lex Fridman

Tall. Who says tall?

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💬 0

4454.763 - 4455.744 Tal Wilkenfeld

Like so many people.

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4456.244 - 4457.065 Lex Fridman

In the South, maybe.

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4457.085 - 4461.248 Tal Wilkenfeld

I don't know, but the fact that you said my name right, you get extra points.

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4461.629 - 4470.836 Lex Fridman

I didn't know this was a game. Am I winning? Yep. I like winning. How do you play the bass? What's the difference between fingerstyle and slap?

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4471.677 - 4473.639 Tal Wilkenfeld

Slap is like this. Fingerstyle is like this.

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4474.469 - 4475.79 Lex Fridman

Have you ever played bass with a pick?

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4475.93 - 4476.831 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, sometimes.

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4477.491 - 4478.612 Lex Fridman

I'm not accusing you of anything.

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4478.952 - 4480.513 Tal Wilkenfeld

No accusation taken?

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4480.533 - 4482.314 Lex Fridman

I don't know if these are sensitive topics.

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4482.774 - 4488.678 Tal Wilkenfeld

That would be pretty hilarious if I was sensitive about bass techniques, but not about love.

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4489.158 - 4494.081 Lex Fridman

It just looks so cool to slap it, and I don't understand what that's about. Like that thumb thing that

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4495.564 - 4532.027 Tal Wilkenfeld

I slap less, a lot less, almost never actually. It has a very distinctive sound and does a very distinctive thing to a song that is not something I hear needed very often in music today. But in certain styles, like funk, it sounds awesome and it makes sense. It was something that was a bit overused at one point. For instance, like my mentor, Anthony Jackson, he refused to slap.

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4532.128 - 4538.892 Tal Wilkenfeld

Like he actually said, if you want me to slap, I'll leave this gig. So I'm not like that.

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4539.713 - 4542.195 Lex Fridman

See, that's why I said sense. See, I was like reading into it.

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4542.295 - 4543.836 Tal Wilkenfeld

Because he's sensitive about it.

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4543.856 - 4547.839 Lex Fridman

I was feeling the spiritual energy of the sensitivity of the topic. Anthony Jackson.

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4548.179 - 4570.076 Tal Wilkenfeld

And then, I mean, I'm playing electric bass. So generally speaking, you don't particularly want to hear electric bass on straight ahead jazz anyway. You want to hear an upright bass. But if I was to play jazz on electric bass, I might even kind of like palm mute. You know, like instead of going like, I might go.

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4573.929 - 4588.633 Tal Wilkenfeld

Anything to kind of make the notes shorter and less resonant and like kind of fade away quick because the upright does that naturally. And I have like a different bass, like a hollow body harmony that sounds closer to an upright that I'll use.

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4591.073 - 4599.495 Tal Wilkenfeld

Like on my song Under the Sun that I put out, that was on a harmony bass and it has like kind of an upright acoustic kind of tone to it, but with more sustain.

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4601.693 - 4608.915 Lex Fridman

And is jazz fusion the style where you have like an electric bass? Can you educate me?

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4609.395 - 4616.696 Tal Wilkenfeld

Again, you can have both. You can have either on anything. There's no like real rules.

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4616.716 - 4620.897 Lex Fridman

I've heard you say something interesting, which is, well, a lot of things you say is interesting.

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4621.597 - 4623.078 Tal Wilkenfeld

Just one thing.

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4623.518 - 4624.198 Lex Fridman

Just one.

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4625.358 - 4628.159 Tal Wilkenfeld

That... And it's what time you're leaving. Okay.

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4630.262 - 4631.083 Lex Fridman

What time was that again?

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4632.364 - 4633.064 Tal Wilkenfeld

Three minutes.

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4634.345 - 4653.119 Lex Fridman

That it's maybe easier sometimes to define a musical genre by the don'ts than the dos. The don'ts than the dos. What are the don'ts of jazz and rock? What are the don'ts of jazz fusion? What are the don'ts? In any domain of life, what are the don'ts?

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4653.496 - 4657.14 Tal Wilkenfeld

The don'ts is just to please leave your fear at the door.

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4657.16 - 4680.248 Tal Wilkenfeld

And your do's is to be open to anything and open your ears, like respond to what's happening now. I think that quote you're talking about might have been more about an individual musician's unique sound. Because everyone has their sound.

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4680.968 - 4706.081 Tal Wilkenfeld

If they've developed their voice and they've listened to their own aesthetic preferences, of which everyone is slightly different, everyone has slightly different likes and dislikes. then you'll have a unique sound on your instrument and your unique sound is defined more by the choices you make rather than, I mean, it's equally as defined by the choices you make and the choices you don't make.

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4706.161 - 4709.283 Tal Wilkenfeld

I mean, it's the flip side of the same coin, really.

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4710.083 - 4719.809 Lex Fridman

Yeah, there's certain musicians you can just tell it's them. Just you hear a few notes and you're like, okay, it's them. Tone, sometimes it's tone, sometimes it's the way they play rhythm.

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4720.236 - 4737.325 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, that quote you're talking about might have even had to do with someone's real limitations on an instrument, that then that would define their sound as the things that they actually can't do, versus what you're choosing to do versus not choosing to do, which is that flip side of the same coin thing.

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4738.245 - 4757.388 Lex Fridman

How many fingers do you play with? It seems like a lot of the greatest musicians aren't technically perfect. The imperfections is the thing that makes them unique and where a lot of the creativity comes from. I mean, Hendrix said a lot of those things. The way he put like a thumb over the top.

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4757.648 - 4766.157 Tal Wilkenfeld

Well, his hands were huge. There was no other place for the thumb to go. And it was great that he could reach the E string and that was an advantage. Yeah.

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4767.179 - 4778.086 Lex Fridman

And he was a lefty playing a right and a guitar. Yeah. Flipped, I guess. Yeah. That's weird. That probably doesn't have much of an effect, maybe a spiritual one. I don't know.

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4778.886 - 4796.323 Tal Wilkenfeld

Actually, flipping a guitar is different. It does bring out something different in you because I've done a flipped and it's like, oh, wow. Yeah, it's really different. I remember talking to my like osteopath about like, you know, cause there's so much weight on this shoulder while I'm playing all the time.

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4796.423 - 4807.088 Tal Wilkenfeld

And, and they were saying like, well, just after shows, just literally just turn it upside down and do the exact same thing in the opposite way. It'll like even out your body. And I was like, it's good advice.

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4807.108 - 4818.014 Lex Fridman

Have you actually tried it? Okay. All right. I'll write that down. All right. Well, do you know a guy named Davey 504?

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4819.442 - 4820.074 Tal Wilkenfeld

I've heard of him.

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4820.62 - 4842.67 Lex Fridman

I recently learned of him. He's a YouTuber and a bass player. He's amazing. He combines memes and also just these brilliant bass compositions. And says slap like a lot. He's big into slapping. He's the one that kind of, he realized this is a thing. And he also said that you're one of the best, not the best bassists in the world.

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4843.03 - 4856.416 Lex Fridman

There was a bunch of his fans that wrote in and he analyzed the Jeff Beck thing that we watched at Crossroads. It's one of the greatest solos ever, best solos ever. So shout out to him. What does that make you feel like? You're the greatest of all time.

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4856.436 - 4857.197 Tal Wilkenfeld

Chocolate cookies.

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4857.657 - 4858.697 Lex Fridman

Chocolate. Is that your favorite?

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4859.278 - 4864.1 Tal Wilkenfeld

I like macadamia nut. Like if you really want to get into it with like white chocolate.

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4864.8 - 4867.542 Lex Fridman

Yeah. That's a rare one for people to say is the favorite.

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4867.702 - 4869.963 Tal Wilkenfeld

Chocolate chip is just so easy. You can kind of get them anywhere.

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4870.546 - 4891.87 Lex Fridman

Yeah. Last thing you want to be is easy in this world. You don't want to be easy. You said that I love rock and roll quote. I love folk. I love jazz. I love Indian classical music. I really love all kinds of music as long as it's authentic and from the heart. So when you play rock versus jazz, you played all kinds of music. Uh, what's the difference technically, musically, spiritually for you?

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4892.33 - 4893.69 Tal Wilkenfeld

Well, there's no spiritual difference.

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4893.79 - 4896.071 Lex Fridman

Okay. Um, cross that off the list.

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4897.271 - 4936.975 Tal Wilkenfeld

But, uh, Well, musically, yeah, it's kind of like what we were saying earlier. It's like each genre has its language of what makes it that genre. And that would be a good thing to say it's defined by the do's and don'ts because, yeah, it's like I'm trying to think. Basically, I put the song first, and I think of the song as the melody, the lyrics, and then the harmony, and obviously the groove.

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4937.795 - 4942.416 Lex Fridman

So the song goes before the genre, in a sense. Each song is like its own thing.

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4943.036 - 4977.55 Tal Wilkenfeld

They're both things that are held in my mind. It's like, okay, genre, and then song, which is comprised of those basic elements. Yeah. And I tend to kind of prioritize lyric because somebody is trying to express something over music. And so the lyric is very, very important. And so then the choices come from there. It's like, okay, within the genre of X, this is the typical language.

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4978.75 - 4992.434 Tal Wilkenfeld

And then how do I best serve this lyric? And then... Where else can I pull from that might not be in these two bags that would put a little twist on it?

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4992.454 - 4993.034 Lex Fridman

Mm-hmm.

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4993.554 - 5007.961 Tal Wilkenfeld

So those are all the kinds of things I might be thinking about. But I don't like twists for the sake of twists either. I like twists because I want to hear something that might be fresh.

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5007.981 - 5008.902 Lex Fridman

Mm-hmm.

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5009.841 - 5030.359 Tal Wilkenfeld

But when someone does something just to be hip, it's annoying to me. I think you can hear the difference. It's like when people write in odd time signatures or they write all these riffs just because they can, just because they have the chops to do it or they know how to play in 11.16 and whatever. But if it's not...

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5035.146 - 5058.615 Tal Wilkenfeld

actually creating a piece of music that's going to move somebody then why are you doing it and so i think a lot of the questions i'm asking myself when i'm approaching a song are mainly philosophical and aesthetic so you like to stand on the edge of the cliff not for the thrill of it but because that's where you find something new yeah potentially yeah and it's thrilling

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5059.551 - 5061.112 Lex Fridman

But you're not doing it just for the thrill?

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5061.152 - 5067.034 Tal Wilkenfeld

I'm not doing it for the thrill. It just happens to be thrilling. All right. Because you can always reel it back in.

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5068.734 - 5069.235 Lex Fridman

Can you, though?

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5069.455 - 5093.105 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, you can. You can do a totally disciplined... I can go into a session and... Okay, my favorite thing about going into a session with musicians that I adore is that we don't hear the demo... Because if you hear a demo, you're hearing what the producer or songwriter have already imagined that every instrument is playing. And then it's like, well, I've already heard what you want.

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5093.586 - 5113.918 Tal Wilkenfeld

Now my mind is, part of my mind is focused on what I already know you want and what the destination is going to be. Why did you bring me in here? I want to not hear it. I just want you to set it a piano and sing the song. I want to hear the chords and the lyric and sit in an acoustic guitar, play it, and then let's all go in the room and then take one.

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5115.279 - 5136.716 Tal Wilkenfeld

I would say 80% of the time take one has the most gold. And there might be like a mistake or two or someone forgot to go to the B section. And you might want to like punch that in so that you're hitting the right chord. But all the magic is in that take. And then sometimes it happens where it's like you go, it's like we're rehearsing and take one, two, three, four, five.

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5137.057 - 5153.031 Tal Wilkenfeld

And then you're like thinking about it too much. And then you go and you have a dinner and you come back and the next take one after dinner is the one. Like it's usually after there's some sort of a break. But obviously there's exceptions to that rule. Sometimes it's take two and three.

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5153.707 - 5164.89 Lex Fridman

Yeah, you said that this is something that surprised you about recording with Prince, is that he would just, so much of it would be take one. It would just move so quickly.

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5165.09 - 5183.755 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, well, with that particular album that we made together, it's called Welcome to America. He called me up and asked me, he said, I want to make a band with you. I'm really inspired by what you're doing with Jeff Beck. I want to make a trio together. do you like the drum rolls of Jack DeJeanette was like his first question to me. I'm like, well, yeah, who doesn't?

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5184.055 - 5199.602 Tal Wilkenfeld

Who doesn't like Jack DeJeanette? Like one of the greatest of all time. And he's like, well, you know, sounds like, because we had a discussion about drumming, sounds like you're kind of particular about drummers. So why don't you find us the drummer and I'll trust you to find the drummer.

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5199.642 - 5225.72 Tal Wilkenfeld

You can audition some people, send me some recordings and maybe your two favorites and I'll pick out of the two or something. So I did that, went on a journey, found a couple of guys. He picked the one. We went in and he basically just would be like, okay, so the A section is going to go like this. And then the B section, I think we're going to go to G and then the bridge.

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5225.84 - 5250.784 Tal Wilkenfeld

I might go to B flat, but maybe I'll hold off. Okay, let's go. One, two, three, four. And then we recorded it to tape. There was no part. He did not want me to punch anything. Like it was like, and there was one song called, um, same page, different book. And he like talked through it just like he did. And then he had me soloing between each phrase, like little fills. It's like, I'd,

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5252.011 - 5276.177 Tal Wilkenfeld

I didn't know that that was going to come up. And he loved that. He loved to have me on the edge of my seat, like falling off the cliff. That was my first real falling off a cliff moment from somebody else's holding me at the edge of the cliff. You know what I mean? Now I just do it on my own because it's so fun and it makes sense. It's the best thing for the music.

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5276.557 - 5279.539 Lex Fridman

When you say punch the tape, is that when you actually record it?

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5279.919 - 5304.723 Tal Wilkenfeld

Like if you record to tape and there's like, say like you hit a bum note, like to punch in means to like... fix that note like we record over that one little area and and punch that note in he didn't want that he like he's like all my favorite records just like whatever happened happened that's that moment in time let's make a new moment in time it's great nobody makes records like that anymore

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5306.112 - 5328.377 Tal Wilkenfeld

Everyone wants to edit and edit and re-record and this and that. And unfortunately, with a lot of music, I'm not saying all music because there's plenty of great music coming out, but there's the danger of it being flat because every little imperfection is digitally removed.

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5329.229 - 5339.413 Lex Fridman

Well, that's one of the promising things about AI is because it can be so perfect that the thing we'll actually come back to and value about music is the imperfections that humans can create.

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5339.974 - 5340.254 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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5340.534 - 5343.495 Lex Fridman

There'll be a greater valuation of imperfections.

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5344.015 - 5347.597 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah. I mean, you can kind of program imperfections too.

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5347.837 - 5348.417 Lex Fridman

Yeah, sure.

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5348.718 - 5350.378 Tal Wilkenfeld

That's also very sad.

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5351.519 - 5362.189 Lex Fridman

But then you get closer and closer to what it means to be human. And maybe there'll be AIs among us. They'll be human, flawed like the rest of us. mortal and silly at times.

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5366.212 - 5367.113 Tal Wilkenfeld

Another big sigh.

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5370.276 - 5378.382 Lex Fridman

Is it fair to say that you're very melodic on bass? Like you make the bass sing more than people normally do?

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5378.843 - 5379.684 Tal Wilkenfeld

Is that a compliment?

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5379.864 - 5380.644 Lex Fridman

Yes, I think so.

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5380.845 - 5381.225 Tal Wilkenfeld

Thank you.

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5382.856 - 5395.42 Lex Fridman

Moving on to the next question. By way of understanding, there's something about the way you play bass that just kind of pulls you in the way when you listen to somebody play a guitar, like a guitar solo.

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5396.761 - 5411.686 Tal Wilkenfeld

The thing I love about Jeff Beck is that he played the guitar like a singer. And I think that the way that Wayne Shorter played his saxophone, it's like a singer. And I think everyone, every musician aspires to just sound like a singer.

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5412.403 - 5425.826 Lex Fridman

So you make it sing. Let me ask you about, just come back to Hendrix, because you said that you had three CDs, Jimi Hendrix, Herbie Hancock, and Rage Against the Machine. First of all, a great combination. I'm a big Rage fan.

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5425.886 - 5439.049 Tal Wilkenfeld

It's so funny because when I listen to some of the music that I create, like my solo music, I'm like, I could see how this is a combination of Herbie Hancock, Rage Against the Machine, and Jimi Hendrix.

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5439.269 - 5441.049 Tal Wilkenfeld

I hear the influences. It's funny.

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5441.601 - 5455.485 Lex Fridman

Just from your musician perspective, what's interesting to you about, what really stands out to you about Hendrix? I just would love to hear like a real professional musician's opinion of Hendrix.

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5457.108 - 5477.522 Tal Wilkenfeld

I love that he is two voices combined into one voice. So it's like, there is his voice on the guitar and there is his, his singing voice. And there is the combination of the two that make one voice. And of course the third element.

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5478.709 - 5505.709 Tal Wilkenfeld

is his songwriting and all of this have have this beautiful chemistry and all work geniusly perfectly together and there's nothing like it and you know he he always beat himself up about being a singer and like he didn't like his voice but it's like my favorite singers are the singers that don't sound like singers bob dylan bob dylan you like bob dylan love bob dylan

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5506.55 - 5507.59 Lex Fridman

You love his voice too.

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5507.77 - 5508.531 Tal Wilkenfeld

I love his voice.

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5509.491 - 5512.452 Lex Fridman

Can you explain your love affair with Bob Dylan's voice?

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5513.432 - 5533.998 Tal Wilkenfeld

He's expressing his lyrics. It's just pure expression. Exactly what he means. I feel everything that he's saying with 100% authenticity. That's what I want to hear from a singer. I don't care how many runs you can do and like, I want to believe what you're saying.

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5536.997 - 5537.837 Lex Fridman

Leonard Cohen is that.

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5540.118 - 5546.359 Tal Wilkenfeld

There's countless, like Neil Young. I mean, there's so many musicians. I love Elliot Smith for that reason.

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5546.379 - 5556.341 Lex Fridman

Let me ask you about mentorship. You said teachers and mentors. You had mentors. What's a good mentor for you? Harsh or supportive?

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5557.301 - 5557.761 Tal Wilkenfeld

Supportive.

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5558.461 - 5565.983 Lex Fridman

Supportive. You seen Whiplash, the movie? So that guy, somebody's screaming at you, like kicking you off the cliff.

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5566.727 - 5589.284 Tal Wilkenfeld

Not necessary. I feel like anybody that's truly passionate about something that they want to be great at or a master of or this and that, they've already got that person inside their own head. You don't need somebody else to do that for you. I think you need love, acceptance, guidance, support, time. Yeah.

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5591.006 - 5615.835 Tal Wilkenfeld

advice if you ask for it just a space just a nice open space all my mentors were just that for me they didn't tell me to do anything they they didn't care like it because they're not Why do they need to be invested in where I'm going? Only I know where I'm going. So for some mentor to come and be like, this is what you need to be doing and practice this. It's like, but why?

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5616.155 - 5637.433 Tal Wilkenfeld

What if that's not my path? That might be your path. So I'm not really, again, otherwise it feels like a sport, like who can run the fastest race. And it's like, well, okay, well, I get that for that, for sport. Maybe it makes sense to have someone a bit more hardcore, but still like, I would say athletes have the same mentality. They've got that in them already too.

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5638.353 - 5650.482 Tal Wilkenfeld

So I think more like of a strategic approach to mentorship works really well and mainly just having an open space and just being available to someone.

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5651.829 - 5658.472 Lex Fridman

And kind of show that they see the special in you. Yeah, yeah. And they give you the room to develop that special, whatever.

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5658.712 - 5673.478 Tal Wilkenfeld

Exactly. Because if you do have that harsh critic inside you, it's like it is nice to have somebody that isn't like your family or someone that's not obligated in any way that just sees your talent and they're like, yeah, I dig what you're doing. Keep doing it.

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5674.778 - 5678.78 Lex Fridman

Yeah. It's funny that that's not always easy to come by.

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5679.941 - 5680.941 Tal Wilkenfeld

Do you have any mentors?

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5681.36 - 5697.987 Lex Fridman

Yeah, I've had a few recently, but for most of my life, people didn't really, you know, I'm very much like that too. Like somebody to pat me on the back and say like, like see something in you of value. Yeah, I didn't really have that.

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5699.848 - 5700.668 Tal Wilkenfeld

Do you wish you did?

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5701.064 - 5728.717 Lex Fridman

Yeah, yeah. But maybe the wishing that I did is the thing that made me who I am. Not having it. The longing for that. Maybe that's the thing that helped me develop a constant sense of longing, which I think... It's a way of, because I have that engine in me, it really allows me to deeply appreciate every single moment, every single, everything that's given to me.

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5729.077 - 5753.046 Lex Fridman

So like, just an eternal gratitude. You never know which are the bad parts and the good parts. So if you remove one thing, it might be, the whole thing might collapse. I suppose I'm grateful for the whole thing. That one note you screwed up so many years ago. That might've been essential.

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5754.567 - 5756.048 Tal Wilkenfeld

Because you do jujitsu.

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5756.528 - 5758.369 Lex Fridman

Yes. Do you?

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5759.23 - 5770.697 Tal Wilkenfeld

My dad does. My dad's super into it. I love my dad. He's the coolest. But no, I don't do it. He's a blue belt right now.

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5770.977 - 5773.078 Lex Fridman

Nice. Nice. You ever been on the mat with him?

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5773.718 - 5781.342 Tal Wilkenfeld

Not yet. But I plan on it. You should do it. What belt are you? Black belt. Sick. Do you want to go on that?

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5781.802 - 5786.585 Lex Fridman

Yeah, right. You got the shit-talking part of Jiu-Jitsu done. You just have to do the technique.

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5788.185 - 5795.829 Tal Wilkenfeld

But for that, for instance, do you need a harsh mentor or teacher?

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5796.81 - 5824.262 Lex Fridman

Yeah, but you said it really beautifully. To me, I agree. There's a difference between sport and art. They overlap, for sure, but there's something about sport where perfection is actually... Perfection, perfection is really the thing you really want to get to. The technical perfection. With art, it feels like technical perfection is almost a way to get lost on the path to wherever.

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5824.823 - 5834.429 Lex Fridman

Something unique. But yeah, with sport, I definitely... I'm one of the kind of athletes that loves to have like a dictatorial coach.

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5835.749 - 5835.989 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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5836.149 - 5840.651 Lex Fridman

Somebody that like helps me really push myself to the limit.

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5841.392 - 5850.615 Tal Wilkenfeld

But you're the one that's kind of dictating how hard you're getting pushed in a way. Like you're choosing your mentor. Like that whiplash video is like, he didn't ask for that.

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5850.635 - 5852.236 Lex Fridman

In a way he might have.

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5852.316 - 5855.978 Tal Wilkenfeld

Well, maybe. Maybe subconsciously. I mean, there is... It's a movie, so...

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5859.888 - 5869.333 Lex Fridman

next you're going to tell me they're just actors. I mean, and, but you know, yeah. How do we choose things? You know, you don't always choose, but you'll, you kind of maybe subconsciously choose.

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5870.933 - 5883.139 Lex Fridman

And, and some of it, like some of the great Olympic athletes I've interacted with, their parents for many years would force them to go to practice until they discovered the beauty of the thing that they were doing. And then they loved it.

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5883.439 - 5883.619 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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5883.919 - 5895.278 Lex Fridman

So like, at which point does, uh, something that looks like abuse become like a gift, you know? That's weird. It's all very weird. But for you...

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5896.77 - 5924.598 Tal Wilkenfeld

support and space to discover the thing the voice the music within you it's my personal choice because i'm very familiar with the inner critic and i can bring her out at any point i don't need help with that you know so you do have yeah she's on call she was on overdrive that's why now i'm i had to work on that so much yeah you have a really happy way about you right now thanks the very sun

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5926.596 - 5927.897 Lex Fridman

Can I ask you about Bruce Springsteen?

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5928.337 - 5928.777 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, sure.

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5929.258 - 5952.792 Lex Fridman

A lot of songs of his I listen to make me feel this melancholy feeling. It's not just Bruce Springsteen, but Bruce does a lot. What is that about songs that arouse a kind of sad feeling or longing feeling or feeling? What is that? What is that about us humans on the receiving end of the music?

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5954.105 - 5981.394 Tal Wilkenfeld

Frequencies, each frequency does elicit a different kind of emotional response. That is real. You mean like on the physics aspect? Yeah, yeah, the physical level. So there is that combined with the right kind of lyric and the right kind of melody of the right kind of chord will elicit a very particular kind of emotion. And it is scientific. It can be analyzed.

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5982.034 - 6012.533 Tal Wilkenfeld

I don't particularly want to analyze it because I don't want to approach things with that in advance. I don't want it to inform where I'm going. I like the feeling to lead me naturally to where I'm writing. But yeah, there's a real chemical element to that. And then also, like I was saying, the lyric, what it means to you. which poetry is supposed to mean something to everybody, like different.

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6012.993 - 6034.084 Tal Wilkenfeld

It's not supposed to mean one thing. Like you can't analyze and be like, this is what this poet meant. And like we were talking about with Leonard earlier, it's like the broader you can leave a lyric, the better. You can appeal to people in so many different ways. And even to the songwriter, like I'll sing some of my songs from five years ago and I'll be like,

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6035.163 - 6047.451 Tal Wilkenfeld

I didn't even think that it could have meant that, but I guess it does. That's funny. I'll just giggle on stage suddenly because a lyric will hit me differently from a different new experience or something.

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6048.452 - 6050.253 Lex Fridman

Have you ever cried listening to a song?

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6051.053 - 6056.097 Tal Wilkenfeld

Of course. Weep like a baby in a bathtub.

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6056.257 - 6067.418 Lex Fridman

Who's a regular go-to then? Leonard. Yeah. Hallelujah is a song that consistently makes me feel something.

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6068.538 - 6070.298 Tal Wilkenfeld

It's holy. His work is holy.

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6070.758 - 6080.76 Tal Wilkenfeld

And if you were in his presence, I guess there was a lot to that being.

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6084.361 - 6089.422 Lex Fridman

What advice would you give to young folks on how to have a life they can be part of? Hmm.

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6091.232 - 6117.514 Tal Wilkenfeld

Just tackle the demons as early as possible, whether it's through your art or through meditation or through whatever it means, diaries, whatever it is. Just walk towards the things that are scary. Because if you don't, they'll just expand. They become bigger. If you avoid the demons, they become bigger.

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6118.922 - 6122.143 Lex Fridman

What does that mean for you today? Are you still missing Jeff?

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6123.103 - 6160.697 Tal Wilkenfeld

I'll always miss Jeff. But I don't feel like a piece of me is missing. And same with Leonard. It's that I did give them a piece of myself and maybe they gave me a piece of them. that I hold with me and I cherish, but it doesn't feel like I'm less than, or they're less than, or anything's less than. You learn to appreciate the impermanence of everything in life.

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6162.958 - 6179.147 Tal Wilkenfeld

Impermanence of everything except for consciousness, I guess you could say, is the only thing that is permanent. So everything else. You learn to appreciate that impermanence because the limited amount of time it takes

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6180.239 - 6203.43 Tal Wilkenfeld

in this particular body is it's enticing kind of gives you like a time limit which is cool i like that so you've come to accept your own yeah like it's cool that i'm like okay i got this amount of maybe this amount of time who knows but you could end today but if i was yeah if i if i died today i'd be really happy with my life okay it's not like i'm like oh i missed out on this and that

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6204.761 - 6209.724 Lex Fridman

So you really want to make sure that every day could be your last day and you're happy with that.

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6209.865 - 6232.26 Tal Wilkenfeld

I've always lived that way. Yeah, I felt this way since I was in my early 20s. I'd be like, yeah, I could die today. Sure. I don't want to die. I have no reason to die. But if I did, I know that I put my everything, all my effort and all my passion and all my love into whatever I've already done. So if my time's up, then my time's up.

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6233.663 - 6237.144 Lex Fridman

What role does love play in this whole thing, in the human condition?

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6238.024 - 6258.909 Tal Wilkenfeld

Well, love is everything. I mean, if you define love, if you're talking about love as in romantic love or paternal or maternal love, or if you're talking about love as in an Eastern tradition, like Vedanta, for instance, love is consciousness. Love is everything.

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6259.85 - 6261.29 Lex Fridman

That's the only permanent thing.

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6261.741 - 6272.33 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah. Or if you were to come from a Zen or like a Buddhist perspective, they would say nothingness, like emptiness is versus fullness.

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6273.151 - 6278.115 Lex Fridman

Well, those guys are really obsessed with the whole suffering thing and letting go of it.

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6278.895 - 6279.156 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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6282.378 - 6289.084 Lex Fridman

Well, I was wondering if you would do me the honor of playing a song.

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6290.64 - 6293.082 Tal Wilkenfeld

Do you want a suffering song or a suffering song?

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6296.424 - 6296.624 Lex Fridman

Cool.

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6300.306 - 6303.068 Tal Wilkenfeld

Do you want a sound check and make sure I'm not?

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6306.53 - 6311.993 Lex Fridman

Sound check. One, two. Yeah, it sounds really good.

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6312.033 - 6314.495 Tal Wilkenfeld

This one too? All right, count me off.

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6314.575 - 6324.261 Lex Fridman

Yeah. I don't know how to count somebody off. Where do I start? A nine or three, two, one.

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6324.281 - 6325.602 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah, you got it.

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6326.523 - 6327.104 Tal Wilkenfeld

One, two.

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6327.644 - 6328.244 Lex Fridman

One, two.

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6337.912 - 6428.995 Tal Wilkenfeld

I call out to the ocean. My tears fall into the sea For the vows that have been broken Across the dunes of time repeatedly Like a night In battered armor I lay my sword upon the ground Cause I can't keep fighting these same battles More has been lost than has been found It's hard to feel things changing After all's been said and done We spend our lives rearranging

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6433.387 - 6511.741 Tal Wilkenfeld

Everything under the sun I walk the same road to work each Monday Every step tears at my heel I sleep not to dream but to forget on Sunday I spoke, just turning with the wheel It's hard to feel things changing After all's been said and done We spend our lives rearranging Everything under the sun Reaching for the sky, feet buried in the clouds

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6516.499 - 6592.029 Tal Wilkenfeld

Looking for some way out of the circle spinning round My eyes on the horizon seeking out the light But don't let me be lost forever in the night Cause it's hard to feel things changing After all's been said and done We spend our lives rearranging Under the sun Under the sun You're amazing.

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6592.089 - 6594.191 Lex Fridman

That was amazing, Tal. Thank you so much.

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6603.859 - 6604.52 Lex Fridman

Try turning it to 11.

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6607.535 - 6610.758 Tal Wilkenfeld

It's quite loud. Can you see if from the headphones it's like this, Tony?

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6615.421 - 6615.862 Lex Fridman

No.

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6616.122 - 6630.093 Tal Wilkenfeld

You're such a professional.

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6630.133 - 6631.414 Lex Fridman

I should produce your next record.

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6633.216 - 6634.537 Tal Wilkenfeld

Please.

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6646.536 - 6698.482 Tal Wilkenfeld

Love, don't rescue me I've got nowhere better I wanna be I wanna be held, but not be holden Stand in my ground with one eye open This fight doesn't quite add up Love, I thought you were free But now I'm on the hook for all you've given me

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6700.404 - 6807.363 Tal Wilkenfeld

Doesn't matter what I say or think or do You see what you see with the lens you're looking through This fight keeps me tied to the worst in me And it's killing me Killing me Love, I'm losing my voice You led me to believe I had a choice But let's pause, retract our claws. You could take my side while I take yours. This fight keeps me tied to the worst in me. And it's killing me. killing me so

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6828.627 - 6873.281 Tal Wilkenfeld

Love, come rescue me I've got nowhere better I wanna be This fight keeps me tied to the worst in me And it's killing me Killing me Killing me Killing me

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6895.553 - 6910.167 Lex Fridman

Well, there's nowhere else I'd rather be right now. Thank you for this. Thank you for the private concert. You're amazing. You really are amazing. And it was a pleasure to meet you and really a pleasure to talk to you today.

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6913.931 - 6914.932 Tal Wilkenfeld

Yeah.

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6915.913 - 6942.622 Lex Fridman

We're out of time, so we've got to go. Thanks for listening to this conversation with Tal Wilkenfeld. To support this podcast, please check out our sponsors in the description. And now, let me leave you with some words from Maya Angelou. Music was my refuge. I could crawl into the spaces between the notes and curl my back to loneliness. Thank you for listening, and hope to see you next time.

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