In this episode, Dr. K takes a hard look at why so many people get addicted to self-improvement content but never actually change. From endless motivational videos to checklists of goals, he explains how improvement can become just another way of soothing emotional pain without addressing the deeper wounds underneath. Using examples from Reddit posts, Dr. K breaks down: Why self-improvement often starts as a response to rejection or insecurity How quick hits of “inspiration” online reinforce the cycle without progress The neuroscience behind distress tolerance and why it’s the real skill you need What “putting yourself out there” actually means (and why most advice about it falls flat) Practical ways to stop chasing constant improvement and start building peace, contentment, and real change This talk challenges the endless treadmill of “leveling up” and offers a roadmap for those ready to step off and live with intention. HG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3Szt HG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Hey chat, welcome to the Healthy Gamer GG podcast. I'm Dr. Alok Kanodja, but you can call me Dr. K. I'm a psychiatrist, gamer, and co-founder of Healthy Gamer. On this podcast, we explore mental health and life in the digital age, breaking down big ideas to help you better understand yourself and the world around you. So let's dive right in.
If you are trying to improve because you feel hurt in some way, that is going to be a very, very dangerous way to improve. It used to work. Okay, so this is the key thing that has changed in the technological age. But that's where we have to reinterpret the past. Okay, so why do I see this as I am a loser and I need to fundamentally fix myself as opposed to this was just one rejection.
If your goal is to be better so that the future is less risky, when does that end? When do you feel accomplished? When do you feel content? When do you feel peace? Hey, y'all, just a reminder that in addition to these awesome videos, we have a ton of tools and resources to help you grow and overcome the challenges that you face.
We've got things like Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health, personalized coaching programs, and things like free community events and other sorts of tools to help you no matter where you are on your mental health journey. So check out the link in the description below and back to the video.
So let's take a look at our first post for the day. Okay, I'm stuck in this loop of self-improvement.
So I relate to this so much. I feel like I'm improvement-gooning since years without progress. I've been watching self-improvement content like Reels, YouTube videos, advice subs for the last three to four years, but I feel like I haven't made any real progress. Every time I see a motivational video, I feel inspired, but I never take action.
My save later list is just piled up with years of videos, Reels, which I probably won't be able to watch. I'm 27 now and I got into self-improvement after being rejected by a girl I liked. Since then, I've been single and trying to improve myself, but I feel like I'm collecting information instead of actually applying it.
For example, I'll watch a video reel saying, don't worry about what others think, stop comparing yourself to others. It makes sense in theory, but the moment I go out and try to interact, those same thoughts of self-judgment and comparison start kicking in. Has anyone else been in this loop? How do you actually break out of this?
Be honest, I don't need another just put yourself out there response. 24-year-old improver. Currently learning a new foreign language. Read 50 books this year. Bench press 120 kg. Trying to run 4 kilometers in 20 minutes. Quit smoking. Will quit drinking. Will quit smoking. Doesn't care about anything. Just wants to improve himself. Ah, I'm improving. Does nothing all day. Only improves. Okay.
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