Escaping the Drift with John Gafford
Escaping the Drift - The Weekly Drop: Embracing Life's Unfairness
08 Nov 2024
Growing up, my kids would often hear me say, "Life isn't fair, and that's okay." This week, I unravel the complexities of fairness and how it can trap us in a victim mentality. Inspired by Mark Manson's bold ideas and Robert Sapolsky's evolutionary insights, I share how acknowledging life's inherent unfairness can actually be empowering. We look at fascinating studies involving capuchin monkeys, showing that our sense of fairness is practically wired into us. But here's the twist: by shifting our perspective, as Viktor Frankl suggests in "A Man's Search for Meaning," we can turn life's injustices into opportunities for strength and growth. As we close this episode of Escaping the Drift, I want to extend my heartfelt gratitude to each listener who has journeyed with us. Your support is invaluable, and I encourage you to continue engaging with our community at escapingthedrift.com. By signing up for our mailing list, leaving a review, or simply sharing our podcast with friends, you help us spread the message of self-empowerment even further. I'm eager to continue this conversation with you next week, as we uncover more strategies to break free from the constraints of a victim mindset and take control of our lives. 💬 Did you enjoy this weekly drop? Tell us all about it in the comment section below! ☑️ If you liked this video, consider subscribing to Escaping The Drift with John Gafford ************* 💯 About John Gafford: After appearing on NBC's "The Apprentice", John relocated to the Las Vegas Valley and founded several successful companies in the real estate space. ➡️ The Gafford Group at Simply Vegas, top 1% of all REALTORS nationwide in terms of production. Simply Vegas, a 500 agent brokerage with billions in annual sales Clear Title, a 7-figure full-service title and escrow company. ➡️ Streamline Home Loans - An independent mortgage bank with more than 100 loan officers. The Simply Group, A national expansion vehicle partnering with large brokers across the country to vertically integrate their real estate brokerages. ************* ✅ Follow John Gafford on social media: Instagram ▶️ / thejohngafford Facebook ▶️ / gafford2 🎧 Stream the new Weekly Drop here: Listen On Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cWN80gtZ4m4wl3DqQoJmK?si=2d60fd72329d44a9 Listen On Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/escaping-the-drift-with-john-gafford/id1582927283 ************* #weeklydrop #johngafford #fairness #victimmentality #empowerment #lifesinjustices #selfempowerment #evolutionaryperspective #purpose #suffering #adversities #strengths #mailinglist #community #podcast #support #gratitude #personalanecdotes #control #takingcontrol #constraints #motivations #strategies #breakfree #notgivingafuck #thesubtleartofnotgivingafuck #escapingthevictimmentality #findingpurpose #transformingadversities #growth #injustices #life #review #sharing #website
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From the podcast that gets you from where you are to where you want to be, escaping the drift, this is The Weekly Drop with Jon Gafford. No matter what platform you're watching or listening to us on, make sure you like, subscribe, and comment. And now, The Drop. Back again for another weekly episode of The Weekly Drop, man. My little solo pod coming at you to help you.
And a lot going on this week. This week... of people not happy, man. A lot of people not happy. A lot of people are happy. A lot of people are unhappy. And if you go on your social media and you head down the feed, I seem to see a lot of the same kind of message, which is it's not fair. Life is not fair. How could this have happened? Life's not fair. I'm a victim to everything in my circumstances.
It's not fair. Well, that's what I want to talk about this week is how to escape from that victim mentality of fairness. And I wanna let you know, first of all, if you're listening and you're a person that says it's not fair, don't be offended because it is programmed into you to feel that way. I'm gonna explain why in a minute. But I wanna kinda talk about the idea of fair.
And in my household, raising my two small kids, not small kids anymore, now 17 and about to be 15, from the time they were little, Every time something wasn't fair in an argument over a video game or what movie we were gonna watch or a bag of popcorn, my response was always the same, which is this. There's no such thing as fair. Fair is where you buy cotton candy and ride rides.
Fair doesn't exist because I wanted to program my kids to not see the world as something that was happening to them, but rather as something that they were happening to. And the first book, obviously, if you're going to talk about this subject, that you've got to go to is The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson.
Because in that book, it's really just the entire book is emphasizing that life is inherently unfair. And the sooner that you kind of come to grips with that and realize it, the better off you're going to be. Because once you're free of expecting everything to be fair, you're no longer going to be constantly disappointed when it's not.
and instead using that energy to focus on things you can control, instead of lamenting on in your car, crying about the injustices of the world, that is what leads to real empowerment. Now, again, if this is you, if you're somebody that sat in your car and cried into a TikTok video over the election this week, it's not your fault. You are genetically predisposed to this.
The evolution of fairness is a real thing. There's these like, even monkeys, right? There's a study that was done, they call them Kapuchkin monkeys. Sorry, that's kind of a tongue twister after I just got off stage for two hours.
But Kapuchkin monkeys, and they did a study where they put two of them out there and had them do a simple task and then they would give each one of them a little slice of cucumber. Well, after they got used to getting the cucumber, then what they started doing was giving each one of them a grape.
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