Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#489: Your WORTH, Your RULES: How to Set Boundaries & ATTRACT the Right Person with Niko Emanuilidis, Founder of The Daddy Academy
Tue, 14 Jan 2025
In This Episode You Will Learn About: Protect your ENERGY by prioritizing what feels RIGHT for you. Choose relationships that UPLIFT and INSPIRE you. ALIGN your actions with your values and the connections you want to create. Lean into your BEST qualities and let your authenticity SHINE. Trust that the right person will bring out your BEST SELF effortlessly. Resources: Subscribe and listen to The Daddy Academy starting this February Join The Daddy Academy TikTok: @thedaddyacademy Instagram: @nikoeman Get 10% off your first Mitopure order at timeline.com/CONFIDENCE. Download the CFO’s Guide to AI and Machine Learning at NetSuite.com/MONAHAN Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/monahan Cancel unwanted subscriptions and reach your financial goals faster at RocketMoney.com/CONFIDENCE. Call my digital clone at 201-897-2553! Visit heathermonahan.com Reach out to me on Instagram & LinkedIn Sign up for my mailing list: heathermonahan.com/mailing-list/ Overcome Your Villains is Available NOW! Order here: https://overcomeyourvillains.com If you haven't yet, get my first book, Confidence Creator Show Notes: What if the secret to finding genuine love isn’t about doing more but doing less—and doing it with INTENTION? My conversation with Niko Emanuilidis reminded me that setting boundaries and knowing your WORTH aren’t just nice-to-haves; they’re essential for building something REAL. It’s not about playing games—it’s about creating the freedom for AUTHENTIC love to grow. SLOW DOWN. Protect your energy. The right person will see your VALUE and put in the effort to meet you there. Niko’s advice? Prioritize high-interest connections and release the lukewarm ones. This is your chance to EMBRACE your POWER, lean into your authenticity, and attract the love you DESERVE. Are you ready to make the SHIFT? If You Liked This Episode, You Might Also Like These Episodes: #427: How To Bounce Back When Things Don’t Go As Planned with Heather! #425: The Secret To Leaving When You Aren't Valued with Heather! #421: GO For It: Shattering Limits in Life & Business with Heather!
Chapter 1: What is the importance of taking time in relationships?
Love takes time. Seeing him every other day and talking all day long can't make that process happen faster. It takes time for that to happen. And a man who's after quick and casual doesn't want to put in that time. Men who are seriously dating are willing to put in that time because the most valuable thing we have is time.
The guy who's meant for you, who wants to be with you, won't mind going slower because he sees the big picture. He sees your value. Right when he met you, this is a girlfriend material. Like, I want to push this towards there. And he will be willing to put in that work to get there.
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Hi, and welcome back. I'm so excited you're back with me this week. Okay, this is an interesting episode. By the way, not my choice. So I'm out at dinner the other night with a bunch of girlfriends. And one of my girlfriends, of course, we're always talking about the podcast. And one of my girlfriends says, oh my gosh, you have to interview this guy. And the internet is a
Huge place, as we all know. And I said, I don't know who this guy is. So I start following this guy. Well, he's here today. And you're going to see why. I'm super excited for this episode. OK, today we've got Nico Emanuelides, better known as the Daddy Academy. How did I not know about this? has quickly become a trusted voice in the world of dating and relationships.
We all know I need that in my life. Over the past year, he's connected with thousands of people on social media discussing the chaotic and often confusing landscape of modern romance. I am here for that. With a mission to simplify the dating world, Nico is dedicated to empowering individuals to take control of their love lives through humor, love that, candid insights, and down-to-earth approach.
He's created a space where people can laugh about the ups and downs of romance while learning practical tips and strategies to succeed. He is so direct and pretty funny. Nico's unique perspective has garnered attention from major media outlets, including New York Post feature story appearance on popular podcasts like this one right here.
Girls Gotta Eat now with his upcoming podcast set to launch in February 2025. Get ready for it, ladies. He's bringing even more of his expertise to a wider audience ready to dive deeper into the world of dating and relationships. Nico, thank you so much for being here today.
Of course. What an intro.
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Chapter 2: How can you identify the right partner for you?
And just through my own, like I said, self-help journey, becoming a man, discovering myself, like really growing, I started to realize like, oh, wow, like I'm pretty good at this. And a lot of people just kind of naturally always gravitated to me for advice throughout the years. And I've always wanted a platform where I was helping people, coaching people, inspiring people.
And it just kind of took me a while to really launch it. And about a year and a half ago or so, maybe like two years ago at this point, I launched the page, the Daddy Academy, which was just like an inside joke, the name of the page between me and my friends. I go, I just send funny videos to my friends, just kind of trying to inspire them to hit the gym and stuff like that.
I'm like, come on, Daddy Academy, let's get going. So I started posting videos and it was for the first like six months or so, slow as it typically is on social media. And then one day – because I was only talking towards men. I was like – my focus was I want to help men like me who were a little lost and trying to find themselves and get that inner confidence. And I was trying to coach men.
But as you might know on the internet when it comes to men dating advice, you typically see just a lot of toxic masculinity. And I was talking about very positive self-help kind of stuff. So it wasn't really hitting. And someone mentioned to me like, why don't you make a video – Talking about men but for women. And I'm like, that's a pretty good idea. I have a younger sister.
I've helped her and her friends count for years with dating advice. And I'm like, okay, yeah, that makes sense because essentially giving advice to women from where I'm at and through my experience is just flipping the cap around and giving sort of the opposite sort of perspective. So I made a video of what it means to have daddy energy, as my page is called.
And it went viral overnight, got like 30,000 followers in a day. And I just kind of kept answering the questions like and it's all women, women, women. I'm like, well, you know, there's there's a need in this space that I just kind of naturally stepped into. And who am I to fight it if women want the man dating coach and they want me to be a women's dating coach for the most part?
I still coach with some men, but primarily it's women. So I'm like, I'm going to keep rolling with it. And I love it. And it's been great. It's been amazing. And that's sort of, you know, a year later. And that's kind of where we are today.
So interesting business lesson that you just highlighted for everybody, and this is applicable to any business. You stepped into one frame or mindset of what this business potentially could be for you, who you were going to serve and what you're going to do. However, you weren't getting the results that you had hoped for or wanted. Someone suggests trying a pivot.
You try not knowing what can happen. I mean, obviously nothing could have happened, right? But then when you see the results, it's just like those breadcrumbs showing you, this is the path you're meant to be on. And you know, organically or naturally you're able to pivot the business.
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Chapter 3: What are the secrets to building authentic connections?
If you're feeling burned out, you got to put that energy back into yourself because you can't help people if you're not feeling – you know, 100%. But more or less, it's just like anything, like it's not going to happen unless you put the effort in to make it happen. And, you know, the world's huge, there's a lot of people out there. So there's space for everyone to be successful and make money.
So true. Yeah, I'm with you on that one. All right. So don't you think to your point of like those days that, you know, you and I do different things, but it's similar in that we're helping people. There's days where if you're not feeling it and you wake up and you're like, I don't want to go on camera or I don't want to have to create content right now.
the minute you actually just make it about the person and go to help somebody you're like, and then you get that note back. And then all of a sudden you're like flying higher.
So this is when I feel like, you know, you're in the right business that to me, that is like the greatest gift, the best way I can ever take myself out of a funk is stop making it about me and like, make it about helping one person. It doesn't even matter who it is. Just like go target one person that I could potentially help. And then when you do, you feel like so alive.
Exactly. Because I mean, we all have our egos, we all have our goals. And once you start making about me, me, me, you kind of just start to overthink. I'm reading all these different books about thinking the power of now overthinking all these different things. I'm like, you have to present moment, just like you said. you're helping one person.
If you're talking to the camera, you're helping that one person. If you're on a coaching call, you're helping that one person. And taking that emphasis off of me, me, me, put it on them. What could I do for this one person? How can I spread positivity, love, good energy?
And when you focus on that, yeah, once you get started, the hardest part is literally, let's say you have to film a video, is the getting up, putting the camera up, and starting it. Because once you get rolling, if this, like you said, is what you're meant to be doing, it just starts to flow naturally. And then you get into the state where you're like, Oh, okay. Like I'm kind of in it now.
And then it just flows. But I agree with you. You're totally right.
Okay. So let's talk a little bit about, cause I find this so interesting and your content is so interesting. I think your content's really, really good. I was surprised. As I said, I was sitting there at dinner and all of these women that I'm with all know about you. And then randomly I'm getting my hair done today and my hairdresser knows. And I'm like, Oh my God, I love it.
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Chapter 4: How do boundaries affect dating?
So there are some other things that come in the way of his availability. Yeah, but that's a case by case thing that we kind of look at. But more or less, it's the same. Like if he has free time and you're not being prioritized in that free time, you're not a priority. All men are the same. Every age, they're the same.
There's different priorities in their life and things that they have to do based on their age and their life situation and their businesses and whatnot. But more or less like this, the advice I give is applicable to every age.
One thing that just hit me that I have to share with you and I want to find if you see this or not. I am shocked by people half my age that ask me out that are super confident. However, people my own age, like you can just tell that they're nervous. Is that a thing that just younger guys these days are just super confident?
Yeah. And I think it's one of those things where... It's going to sound really funny. OK, like them shooting up into like a person who's not who wouldn't naturally be in their league. You kind of get more confidence, you know, like when you kind of almost when you completely sell to stepping outside your comfort zone and you just own it.
Nothing to lose. Yeah.
Nothing to lose. Exactly. There's nothing to lose with a guy your age and you meet this guy your age. He's intimidated and he's a little more shy because he's like, wow, this is like exactly the type of person I'm looking for. And he might not come forth with that same level of confidence where a younger guy with you, it's like, there's nothing to lose here. Like I'm just shooting for the stars.
And if we hit that, that's great.
That's so interesting. Okay. Is online dating successful or does he see more success when people first meet in person?
I think it's equal. I would say it's totally equal. Online dating is a tool to meet people. You can meet people in person. You can meet people online. I mean, nowadays you can meet anyone literally anywhere. I don't think it's any less successful when you meet somebody in person. I mean, you're getting that true initial read right away.
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