Taz
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Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
That was the first big fine... He had a relaxed... That was the... No, listen. Barry White was the first big nigga that was showing you big niggas, we can get bitches too. I'm telling you, he was the first big nigga that really had that swag for real. I'm telling you, you better listen to what I'm talking about now. Barry White, I mean, yeah. He was giving, like, 1970s Rick Ross.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
That's what I'm saying. That was before. It wasn't, no, this was before Biggie. This was before Heavy D. This was before all that shit.
Pour Minds Podcast
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But Barry had them hits, and his wife was beautiful. Right, right. Okay.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
I'm probably closing. No, you're not. Turn around. No, you're not. Because why are you saying that to me? Oh, you just keep... Oh. No. I'm going to keep on walking. This is what I'm going to do. Oh, man. Because, excuse me. You know, I've always said that I would like to date somebody that can sing.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
I do. I think I would. Not sing like this. No, no. I'm talking about, I think people who can sing. Like, I think people who can really sing but, like, haven't made it to what they want to do if they want to be singers are so annoying. Oh, why would I date somebody who haven't made it?
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
Well, no, I'm saying, like, say they're successful in, like, whatever they do, but they're not a singer, but they want everybody to know they can sing. No, if I'm going to date a singer, I want to date a singer.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
Like somebody that actually really sings. They're the people that be like, oh, it's your birthday, and they be like, happy birthday to you.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It really do be like that. But I'm not mad at it because, I mean, you could get discovered that way. You never know if a CEO or an A&R is in the room. Missed opportunity. I'm not going to lie. I knew people was losing the plot when we did the... When we did... What's the karaoke show we do?
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
Oh, poor soul. Poor soul. And they're not even contestants. It was, like, people in the audience afterwards, like, walking to us, like, singing. Hey, hey, hey, hey, Lex, man, listen. Huh?
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
You know what's crazy? When I was younger, I used to want to be in Atlanta so bad. I wanted to be in Atlanta real bad when they came out with Welcome to Atlanta. Oh, my gosh. And then they did the remix and had all them rappers on there. And they have nobody from Houston. And I was like, I hate being from Houston. Imagine being from Orange.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
I don't know why. Nobody gonna walk up to me singing. They 100% walk up to me. That's because you be talking about you got that ear.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
They want you to plug them in. I need to hear the completed music. They want you to plug them in. They say she got that ear. This is my moment. This is my chance. Moment for what? Their moment to shine.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
This is the one time, the one chance that they gonna get to impress Lex P. Child. And they don't know who you know. They said, look. I know Drea Nicole. And I can't get you no view. Exactly. Exactly. Okay, let's move on. Let's get into the first topic. Go ahead, Drea. Okay. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Drea Nicole.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Pour Minds Podcast
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Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
Yeah. I'm Dre Nicole. And I'm Lex P. And together we are Travel Queens. From Charleston to the streets of Cardina. We're eating good. That's up on Ellen.
Pour Minds Podcast
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It's going to be fun. We're taking you to incredible destinations with a special focus on the Black experience. Two queens, one globe, endless possibilities. Travel Queens, series premiere Wednesday, April 23rd at 8 on VB. For the first topic, this has kind of been trending on social media. So we were like, cool, let's talk about it.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
Do y'all think that it's okay for parents to have their children pay bills while they're still living in their house? Like, if you get your first job and you finally making some income, is it okay for your parents to give you the responsibility of paying a bill? Do you feel like it actually teaches the child responsibility? Or do you think that it's some bullshit?
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
So, because, yeah, I know what I think. I feel like when you get a job, I do believe it's your parents' responsibility to teach you the value of a dollar and how to manage your money. Because I'm not going to lie, my mom did not do that for me. So when I had a job, I've been working since I was 15, she was just letting me have whatever and do whatever with my paycheck.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
I was like, Houston ain't got nobody representing on the track. Not representing on the track. For real though. And then I remember when, what was that group called? Was it Cherish? Ay, ay, ay, ay, ay. I just thought they were just like so cool. They had Cherish. What was the other group? Remember Visioso Boston?
Pour Minds Podcast
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She paid my phone bill, of course, everything. I never had to pay any bills. I didn't pay all of my bills 100% by myself until I moved to Atlanta. Because even when I was in college, my mom was paying half of my rent. She was paying my cell phone bill, all of that stuff. So while that did help me as far as
Pour Minds Podcast
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I didn't have to stress about work so much because I was able to still have that college experience and stuff. It didn't teach me what I really needed to know about managing money. Yeah. So I feel like I don't necessarily think you need to put that pressure on a child to pay a bill, but I think you need to show them how to save money. Okay, you know what? Let me teach you about this.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
Put half of your paycheck right here or 30% of your paycheck... Teach them money management. Don't just let your kids take their paycheck and just do whatever with it. So I don't think necessarily they should be paying bills, but I think they need to learn about money management. Yeah, I agree.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
I definitely think that it's more so, to me, you should be teaching your children how to save, how to invest.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
But I just think asking your child... To pay a bill. It's giving you short on the rent. Yeah, yeah. And I don't like that because I feel like children are supposed to be brought into the world because you want the child to be here.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
I think that that's fucked up, and I think, unfortunately, especially in a black community, a lot of parents do that, and they try to play it off as, oh, I'm trying to teach you responsibility by getting you to pay the light bill. Bitch, no, this is your light. This is the lights in your home. I live here because you birthed me. I didn't ask to be here. Why should I have to pay a light bill?
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
You know what I mean? I do feel like you're right as far as not... fucking your money off every week. Because my mom definitely, when I got a job, her and my dad, they didn't make me pay no bills.
Pour Minds Podcast
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What was that song? You make me delirious. Yeah, that was my song. Yeah, that was a good song. But yeah, Atlanta, yeah, back in the day, I feel like this was probably the best city to live in. Like when Atlanta, not when Atlanta, when ATL came out, that's when I really wanted to live out here. That was, when you heard that tagline, call it bog, but it was bog.
Pour Minds Podcast
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It's other ways that you can teach your children responsibility when it comes to their money outside of having them pay your household bills for you. So how do y'all feel about when that child turns 18, though, and they're still in their parents' home? Do you think they should be helping then?
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
If they're out of high school, and if they're in college or not in college, if they're 18, they're out of high school, and now they're technically an adult, and they're still in their parents' house, should they be helping with the bills? I think it depends on the circumstance. Like, what are you doing? Are you working? Are you trying to figure out what you want to do with your life?
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
Are you in school? If you're in school, I'm not going to ask you to pay for anything.
Pour Minds Podcast
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And living here, having to help pay a bill is better than you having to go get your own apartment and pay for everything. But if you have a plan, you're in school, you're going to a trade school... excuse me, you trying to figure out what you want to do with your life, I'm not going to make you pay for anything because you're trying to figure it out. And life is hard enough. Right.
Pour Minds Podcast
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What you think, Ty? Yeah, I was going to say, I agree. I feel like if I'm in college and I'm just coming home on holidays, maybe the summer, maybe it's my responsibility to get a job so I can pay for gas or help around the house. But having a bill for that child, I think you should just be able to set them up so that they're able to save their money
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
Again, to your point, making sure they know what to do with it, how to save it, but not necessarily putting things in their name and having... these big grown-up responsibilities until it's that time. Right. If you're living there 365 all year, you're not going to school, yeah, you need to get a job and you need to definitely be helping out around here.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
So I do think, too, it's crazy because I always regret not paying attention. In school, I had a teacher. It was, I think, my geography teacher. He took one, not semester, but like a six-week period.
Pour Minds Podcast
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And I feel as an adult, as 35 years old now, I'm thinking back to my 16-year-old self. I'm like, girl, why you didn't listen? Because imagine if I would have listened and just took a little $50 from my paycheck and figured out how to, oh, mom, can I do this? But again, my mom didn't know about, you know, stocks and bonds and things like that.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So I think a lot of the time, we need to switch up the curriculum in the schools. Mm-hmm. I think there's a lot of things like why, and I think I've said this before, why am I learning about credit when I turn 18? Why are kids learning that their credit is shot because this and that happened to them? They don't even know nothing about credit. Why don't we know how to purchase properties?
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
These are all life skills that we need to learn. We should know about taxes. Stocks and bonds. We should learn about all this stuff, like skills that we're actually going to need as adults.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
So, unfortunately, in the black community, I feel like they can only teach us so much because it's a lot of financial illiteracy in our community because, unfortunately, my mom didn't teach me these things because she probably really didn't know. My mom was fortunate enough to have an amazing job, so she made a lot of money. And, you know, when my dad passed...
Pour Minds Podcast
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He left her a lot of money, so she was able... She was just not lucky, but that's the cards that she was dealt, so we were always just taken care of. But if my mom would have, like, something would have happened and she would have lost her job or something like that, she probably would have known what to do. You know what I'm saying?
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
And I feel like we really have to teach our youth about managing money because a lot of times their parents don't know, and they do need the help. I'm not saying that it's right or that it's wrong, but... That's why it's like we don't know nothing about generational wealth. You know, you see us having these conversations about 50-50.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
Why are we talking about 50-50 when we need to talk about how can we pass this on to our kids and we can build something together? Y'all talking about splitting rent. Who cares who pays the bills, bruh? Let's get the bills paid, but let's invest in something. Let's save something. Who cares? Mm-hmm. All these conversations are so silly. Even us, we have indulged in these conversations before.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
But like I said, as I get older, I realize there is a bigger picture here that we are all missing. If your purpose is telling your child, hey, pay the light bill because you don't got it, That's different from, hey, put in on this light bill because I'm trying to show you. Or, you know, whatever the case may be.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So I feel like no matter what you're doing with that money... Yeah, because then I was going to say, or maybe you could be telling them that, but then the whole time you're creating an account for them. And then when they turn 18 or when they turn 21... You're giving the money back to them. But the purpose was to teach them responsibility. Exactly.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
But I just think, yeah, using the money to pay your bills as a parent, that's just wild to me. But do y'all think that a lot of parents do that to try to teach their children teamwork and family responsibility? Now, I do think... You know, things are different, because like I said, financially right now, we are in a very, very tough economy.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
And, you know, if you do have a household, if you have, like, you know, a single mom or a single dad, and you have a child that's 16, 17, and they are working, you know, if you... Even if they're only taking $200 from the kid, that probably would help, you know, if that is somebody who's not making a lot of money.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I was obsessed. That was a hit. Bubba Sparks was before his time. And I'm not going to lie. I wonder what he doing now. I wonder if he's still in College Park. I'm going to get drugged to hell for this. But in 2025, if I had to pick a white rapper to listen to out of Bubba Sparks and Eminem, I'm choosing Bubba Sparks every time. But you're not going to have that many songs. It don't matter.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
So I think it could be a good lesson in that as well, to learn how to contribute and not just being for self. But like I said, it's a very thin line with that. It's a very fucking thin line. Because I am all for community and helping each other, but I'm also not for a 16-year-old stressing themselves out to pay bills. That's what I was going to say.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
I just feel like as a teenager, why am I responsible for the family? Right, right, right. You know, and unfortunately, that kind of goes back into what I was saying earlier. I really wish it's kind of off topic, but I feel like sometimes people be having children to help them help with other things. and help them help with, like, family responsibilities.
Pour Minds Podcast
This Is My Moment
That shouldn't be the reason why you having a child and bringing a child into this world. Right. It's to help you with where you're lacking. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. And I think that's what a lot that we're missing in the black community. I feel like that's why we need family units again. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? We used to have neighborhoods where neighbors helping everybody pitching in.
Pour Minds Podcast
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You know, like, it takes a village. We don't have villages no more. Yeah. You know how many times I get online and I see a woman or a man crying because they don't have any help? Like, what happened to community? Like, I'm not going to lie, y'all. Growing up in my neighborhood, my mom sometimes would have to leave for work, but our neighbors were right there and they'd be like, hey...
Pour Minds Podcast
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If y'all need anything, come over. And they would come over, knock on the door, y'all good? You know, they would order pizza for us, make sure we straight. But it was a neighborhood. Like, we, everybody knew each other. You know what I'm saying? It was like, it was really taking a village. Like, even now... Our neighbor, because like, you know, my mom has passed away.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So my neighbors on the other side, they have literally turned their camera to my mom's house just to make sure nobody breaks in the house. You know what I'm saying? So it's like, they're like, okay, we're making sure that nobody comes in the house since nobody's there anymore. So I feel like that sense of neighborhood, of helping each other out is very important.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I hope you still off on them while you doing that because that is a good distraction. I know. Imagine somebody doing that and you looking down at them and they just still off on you. That's the thing though. I'm doing that. One of y'all finna come from the side. Who is y'all? I'm not coming from...
Pour Minds Podcast
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But that's why a lot of these parents are relying on their kids because people don't help folks out no more. It's a lot of shame, right? It's a lot of shame of, well, you didn't do good in life, and you're only making minimum wage, and you... And, you know, it's a lot of shame in that, too. So I think it's a lot.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Yeah, but I just feel like if you don't know how to handle your money, you need to learn how to handle your money. you don't need to put the responsibility off on other people. Because I feel like if you're putting the responsibility off on other people to help you every time you get in a bind, where is the lesson being learned as an adult, as a grown-up adult, as a parent?
Pour Minds Podcast
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I hate to say stuff like this because I feel like it's a little bit harsh, but back in the day, people was having... 13 kids, 14 kids, because the cost of living was cheap as hell. Like, no, literally, the cost of living was so fucking cheap. Like, you could literally feed a family of 10. You can go get some steaks for like $20 and it will feed a family of 10 for like... So we know what I mean.
Pour Minds Podcast
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At least with images. Mama Smart said... Because name another song.
Pour Minds Podcast
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That's just not how things are anymore. So I feel like also if you can't afford to take care of all of these kids, why are you having all of these kids? And that's a sensitive topic. It is. And I understand that it is. But like even I'm just looking at it from a standpoint of like my mom. Like I said, my parents didn't make me pay any bills when I got a job. My money was just for me.
Pour Minds Podcast
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They still paid my car note. They still paid my cell phone bill. I think I did start paying my cell phone bill like my senior year of high school. But my parents paid all of my bills. But my mom said the reason that she wanted to be that way with me is because her dad was not that way with them.
Pour Minds Podcast
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My grandfather, he actually owned a whole bunch of restaurants in Houston back in the day, like in like the 70s, 60s and 70s and 80s. And Of course, my mom and all her siblings would work at the restaurant. And she basically was telling me, like, he didn't used to pay them. And when he did, used to pay them. And they used to work part-time hours, 20 hours, 30 hours a week.
Pour Minds Podcast
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He didn't used to pay them because he felt like, y'all my kids. Of course y'all gonna work here. And then when he did pay them, my mom said they used to have to help him pay the bills.
Pour Minds Podcast
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They didn't want to stay there no more because it's like, yeah, because it's crazy. And I said that to say, but my mom also had a big family. Like it was like six of them. So all together in the household, them and my grandparents, that's eight people. Why you had six kids and you couldn't take care of them? Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I just kind of be looking at stuff like that, too, because it's not your children's responsibility. Like, you decided to start these restaurants. And I love my granddaddy, R.I.P. Damn. Yeah. I mean, he died at an old age, though. Like, he didn't die young. He was like 85, right? Okay, okay, okay. But I loved my granddaddy. He was super sweet.
Pour Minds Podcast
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But from what my mom, to me, but from what my mom used to tell me, he was something else when they was like growing up. And I just think that that is a crazy responsibility to put off on your children. I started these businesses. These businesses are not flourishing the way that I would like them to or I can't afford to hire the appropriate help.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So I'm just going to have my kids work here and not pay them. I also think, too, now, we also have access to a lot of knowledge that we weren't able to know about when your mom was younger and growing up. There's a lot of information.
Pour Minds Podcast
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You know, there used to be this saying, and I don't want to offend anybody, but it was real, that was like, if this is a black community, black people talking to other black people, they're like, if you want to hide something from black people, put it in a book. You know what I'm saying? Because they knew, like, we would just go off of whatever and just believe whatever people told us.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Which is crazy because at one point, we used to love to read because we couldn't.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Right, right. So I think now the fact that we have access to... I mean, there's so many young women, young men on the internet that literally teach you, hey, if you only have X, Y, Z to invest or save, let me show you how to do it. Let me show you how to make your money grow. That's how I started saving my money. Like when I started making money, I said, I don't want to lose this money.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So what happens if, you know, knock on wood, poor minds falls apart? How can I make sure if I have no income coming in that I can last for at least a year or two and be straight? I got on YouTube. You know, I did some research. I've talked to people. So the fact that we have access to things.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So I know a lot of y'all listen like, OK, but, you know, if I'm, you know, working from paycheck to paycheck, I do understand that. But coming from somebody who was working from paycheck to paycheck and I figured it out. And even though I was look, I had three dollars. I did. But I was learning how to take my money and invest a little bit of money I did have into my business.
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and taking little things here and there. There are small things that you can do, but we have access to so much information, y'all. We really, really do. And I truly believe that we are now in the day and age where anything has always been possible, but today, anything is possible.
Pour Minds Podcast
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You have people online who are learning how to do digital marketing who don't know nothing about a computer, but they just sat there and figured it out. You got people who do day trading who didn't know how to do it, but they figured it out. And they're literally, you know, making $1,000 a day figuring all that stuff out.
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So I think if you have the time and the patience and you really are thirsty for knowledge, you can do better for your household to create something that's long-lasting. Because one thing my mom said to me, though, she always said, I didn't do everything right, but I'm going to make sure you get it right.
Pour Minds Podcast
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You know what I'm saying? And that's what I always tell people. Look, Lex P went through that, so you ain't got to go through that. Yeah. So I don't think you should make your kids pay bills. I don't think so either. And I think, like, if you are going through a financial hardship or you're going through something and you do have to ask your kids to help you with something, that's understandable.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Because it's like, if it's between the lights getting turned off... Are you asking your kid, can you please help me pay this bill? That's fine, but I feel like you should definitely get him back the money. Oh, yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
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You should get them they $200 back. Damn! Or they $300 back. And I was just going to say, I know that that is a touchy subject when we start talking about, like, how many kids people are having and stuff like that. But I don't know. I'm just a very strong advocate for children are not, your child is not supposed to come into this world and be responsible for you or live a life of struggle.
Pour Minds Podcast
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You got told with a laugh. I'm not going to lie. Bubba Spark's first album was good. He had some hits on there. I don't know. You remember Ugly? You remember that song, Ugly? Oh, I do remember that song. I do because it reminded me of something that Missy Elliott would make. See, see, see. It was a good song. I think Timberland actually produced that song. That's probably why, yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
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No, and I say that because I know it's a sensitive subject, but I agree with you. Yeah. Because I remember one time your best friend Lynn had tweeted something. Oh. I'm not going to repeat what it was. Yeah. Lynn is crazy. But, I mean, everybody was just eating her up. And I'm like, why are y'all booing her? She's right. Yeah.
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I feel like if you are not comfortable yourself and you are waking up and you are crying and you are struggling, why would you want to bring a child into that? Yeah. I just don't understand it. I'm not saying that you got to be a millionaire.
Pour Minds Podcast
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If you at least have a community around you. I mean, things happen. Accidents happen. I'm not saying that. I just think that we should be careful. I mean, because this is a thing, too. Like you said, sometimes things happen. And I can understand, okay, you get pregnant. You're like, I'm pregnant. I love the person that I'm with. I'm going to have this baby.
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Having five, though, is a choice when your situation haven't changed. Having one, okay, I get it. Having five, though, and you still in the same situation and you still struggling, I just feel like that's, like, a choice. And then when your children get old enough to work, you're expecting them to contribute to the household. Like... No, that's just never going to sit right with my spirit.
Pour Minds Podcast
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And I don't really care who it depends. Right. And that's why I said, speaking of... Because don't do your kids like that. Getting pregnant and stuff like that in the black community. I want y'all, before y'all be eating this up, just stay tuned to the bed topic today because I'm going to tell y'all why. things, y'all are worried about the wrong things, but we gonna get back to that later.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So, all in all, I think we all agree. Yeah. Teach your kids money management, but stop making them pay your bills. Absolutely. That's striking. Absolutely. Okay. All right, Tom, what we drinking today? Okay. Okay, so this is our solo episode. You know, we've had a lot of guests recently. We're going to call this one The Girl's Girl, all right?
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It's really good. It was a little bit tart. I don't know if it wasn't ripe enough. It's good. But it was really good. I really thought y'all would like it because it has that tartness to it. And I think it goes really well with the passion fruit and the grapefruit, too. This mango is juicy as hell. Yes. That's the honey mango. So that's the garnish.
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The honey mango is garnished and then a little bit of basil in there just to give it a little color to it. Oh, you keep... This is good, but I see what you mean. Oh, you just keep... I see what you mean by the tartness, though. My eyes was like, it's good, though.
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Real tasty. I think I might do another little CBD shot. I'm feeling frisky. I know, you was cursing a lot. I was. You was like, because motherfuckers, because fuck that. Because the fucking motherfucker when the fuck fucking it fucked. And it got fucked. I said it. On the fuck of the fuck. Bobby about to have to be like, bleep, bleep, bleep, bleep, bleep, bleep, bleep, bleep, bleep.
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That's what Atlanta is, low-key. It is the booty park. It's this lady that walks around Midtown. Okay. You know who I'm talking about? Maybe. She got the biggest wagon I have ever seen, and she be walking fast. Where does she be going? So she's usually around, like, the Target area. She's talking about me. I bet she said, it's me. Surprise. She be walking around, like, Target, the Target area.
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And I mean, that thing is so... And she be walking fast. Mm-hmm. Yeah, she walks really fast. She has headphones on. She's always in, like... A t-shirt. Some, you know, workout pants. I see her all the time. And that booty is just so rotund. I love a rotund booty.
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So that makes sense because it definitely sounded like Missy Elliott-esque. Yes! So, you're right. Bubba Sparks did have his... Now, me, I am still a little partial to Eminem. I don't care what nobody say. Eminem had his. He did have his. Especially if you was, like, in middle school and you was going through that rebellious phase, he had you feeling like, fuck everybody.
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It's me. Why he say that? Do you ever just be listening to songs sometimes?
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Surprise. Jock's first album was a masterpiece, and he was robbed of the Grammys he deserved. No, he definitely deserved some Grammys for that.
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And pussy. And pussy. But that be Lex saying pussy. Pussy is a crossover word, though. I don't say pussy. They use that in the other community. Because, you know, we say we're trying to bring in the Latinas, the whites, the Indians. We want everybody to tune in. Pussy is a universal word. That is in the LGBTQ community. They all use it.
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I say bussy occasionally, like when it's fitting for the topic. You'll just be saying bussy just to say bussy. I think you like the way it roll off your lips. Tell me that that bussy is mine. Remember that song by Miguel? It's like, I'm not mad at it because I know what it represents. And no, Miguel didn't say bussy. He said, tell me that that pussy is mine. That P word is not universal, though.
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I like the P word. Some people don't like it. I don't like it. I like it. Pussy. That pussy real good. A hit. Aw. Shout out to Jackie O. But, yeah, I don't know. Bussy. It's universal. I understand what it represents, and I'm glad that they have a word to represent what they need it to represent. Mm-hmm.
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And I know all busties don't stain. No, all busties don't stain. I know all busties don't stain. How do you know? Have you ever smelled a bustie? I smell my bustie. Everyone has a bustie. If you using it for their purpose. I mean, I do have, I'm saying. Have you ever smelled somebody else's bustie?
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It was a girl. I don't care if it was a girl, a burl. I feel like I had to clarify.
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Oh, my gosh. Who do we call burl on our show? Roll it up, Kay. Roll it up, Kay. Come back on the show.
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I can say I've never slept with a burl. Assume. I think shim is actually offensive. You think so? I think, like, burl is cute and funny, but I think that that one is, like... Because people use that to be offensive. Really? Cis women and cis men. Is cis men offensive? See, I didn't think that, so I apologize if that's an offensive word or derogatory. I don't know if I just made that up as well.
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How do you have to do a lot of bleeping? Oh, yeah, it's okay. I feel like this. Eminem, I'm never taking away from his artistry. So, I know... They're gonna clip this and drag me because Eminem has crazy stans. He does. I mean, and he has crazy hits. But he does. But what I'll say for me personally, his music didn't age well for me. A Detroit legend.
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Okay, so... See, you got me apologizing and you don't even know. No, because I said that, yeah, I don't mind apologizing because I don't want to offend anybody. But I said it because when I think of Shem, I just think of like she and him mixed together.
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But I feel like, I know, but I'm not trying to be funny. I feel like I seen a comment or something that somebody said it was offensive. But I don't know if that person was offended or it was offending the community, you know? Got it, got it. Well, I think it's like a difference with like the E-R and the A. Mm-hmm.
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You know, and that bothers me too because people love to think that that word is universal and it is indeed not. What, A or E-R? Both of them. Yeah. Yeah. You shouldn't be saying none of them if you look like this. You know I love a good. Yeah. Why are you saying it? They want to say it bad, too. Real bad. And that might even go for some of our mulatto brothers and sisters.
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Y'all should not say it either because if we can't look at you and tell, you just shouldn't say it. You should just not say it. Wow. Our mulatto brothers and sisters. You know...
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Like, I am trying to really remove it from my vocabulary. Me too. That's what I was saying. I really, I can't wait till the day that we just don't say that word anymore on the show. Because you know what's actually harder? We've already said it like four times. I know. But you know what's actually harder for me not to say now? It's not the A, it's the E-R. No, because you have a problem. I do.
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I use it a lot. You know, that's me and Lauren. It's too traumatizing. You know, that's me and Lauren's nickname for each other. I know. Hey, little. Yeah, y'all be calling each other that. Y'all are so weird. You and Lauren are so strange for that. When we answer the phone around other people, they be like... She be like, spit, spit. I don't know.
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You didn't take the power back, though. Like, I feel like that is just so offensive to our ancestors. They fought so hard for us to not be called that anymore. No, they fought hard for our freedom to do what we want and to live on the earth as we want to live. And to not be called that anymore. But I took the power. I'm not letting nobody else call me that.
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I hope you still off on them while you doing that because that is a good distraction. Imagine somebody doing that and you looking down at them and they just still off on you. That's the thing though. I'm doing that. One of y'all finna come from the side. Who is y'all? I'm not coming from...
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I'm going to be the distraction. If somebody called me the N-word, you wouldn't get out there with me? I would tap my feet while you come from the side. Okay. Either way, we in this together. Then once you got them down, once you knock them down, then I'll probably feel all fine.
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I got your back. That's what I'm saying. We got to have each other's back. But then afterwards, I will give you a lashing. Now that's racist.
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Who is listening to that? Me. You're listening to Just Lose It? In the car. In the car when I leave here. Oh, baby. Come on. I'm about to listen to Toy Show just do. Step by step. Turn the clock.
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We want to talk about constantly being your friend's therapist while they're in a toxic relationship. Ooh, please pass the mic.
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Turn it off. I sense a little judgment. Girl, I just... I sense a little judgment. What I listen to in the comfort of my own car is my business. Now, if somebody turned on Superman, I listen to Superman. But I do know one thing, though.
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Tomato, tomato. You don't like that? No. After a while, no. In the beginning, yes. Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. For sure. Everybody need a soundboard. Everybody need somebody to vent to. Everybody need somebody to talk to. But after a while, though... If you are still in a toxic situation or you're complaining about this person all the time, but you don't want to leave, especially if it's not like a...
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But what made him say... He thought he ate... Treson, look at me. I... My... My feet are on your neck for the rest of your life, Hoenn. It's not good. It's never been good. Lee-ba-dee-ba-dee is crazy. Lee-ba-dee-ba-dee.
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Yeah, if you don't want to Lee-ba-dee-ba-dee the situation, especially if it's not like ZV. Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. I don't want to hear about it. Because I can understand when women be in domestic abuse and violent situations where they be afraid for their lives to leave. That's completely different. That's not what we talking about. Right. I'm talking about you just being a stupid bitch. Okay.
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And you just want to talk to me about it all the time. after a year or two that you've been with this person. I have ran out of my capacity to listen. I truly have. And I feel like for some people, that's probably going to sound a little harsh, but I think that these days, that's what we have therapies for. Right. You should all talk to your therapies because...
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As a friend, and I feel like Lex can attest to these, you can come and talk to me about stuff, and I'm going to try to not be judgmental. I'm going to listen to what you have to say. I'm not going to tell you what. You said, I'm going to try. Because I am. Because sometimes, when it comes to niggas, damn, shit, I said it again. Stop! Stop!
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When it comes to these men, I'm not going to lie, when it comes to situations with my friends with men, this is what I will say. I do feel like you can come and talk to me about whatever and I'm not going to say nothing. I'm going to just listen to you. I'm going to hear you out.
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And unless you ask me for my opinion, that's the only time I'm going to just give you my opinion or tell you what I think you should do. Right.
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I'm not going to give you my unbiased opinion for no reason. So after a while, especially if you ask me and I tell you, friend. I don't really think this is the best situation for you. I don't really feel like the love and the energy is being reciprocated by him. What you giving into the relationship is not what you getting back out of it.
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That line was so hard, Drake had to re-sing it. He did. He had to make a whole little new song. Anyways, I feel you. But like I said, that's all. You be hating on Eminem. I don't hate on Eminem.
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Right. Talk to your therapist. So I 100% understand where you're coming from because it does get aggravating. But I'm a little bit on the opposite end. I think you know that about me. I don't give a damn how many times you take the man back. sometimes people have to keep going back until they're tired. And you're going to keep going back until you get tired.
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So I'm the friend that's like, I'm going to listen and I'm going to be here. But I will say, I'm not the friend that's, I'm just going to be a listening ear. I'm going to tell you how bad he sucks. I don't like him. I'm going to give you my opinion, whether you ask for it or not. And see, I try not to tell you how bad he sucks.
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I'm going to eat him up every time. Now, there are two situations that I don't play with. There's two things that... that this is when I get mad. Because you have to cut him off and it's no ands, ifs, or buts about it. If he put his hands on you and if he have a baby on you. Those are two things that I'm not tolerating that for any of my friends.
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Now, if it's like a cheating situation or, you know, he's not being as attentive, you know, the other relationship problems, which are as bad, too, like, I can handle you talking to me about that over and over again. And I'm like, hey, look, what are we doing today? How are we feeling today? Are we crying today? Are we sad today? Are we happy today? Let me be here in any capacity that I can.
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But I will say, now, I am a vocal person. Hey, friend, I'm not going to lie to you. I'm going through something today. I'm having a day. I can't take that today. I don't have the capacity to listen to this today. But my friends know that about me. So they're like, okay, friend, I understand. I'll call you tomorrow. You know what I'm saying? My friends know my boundaries. So, hey, Lex, you good?
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Can you talk? I got this going on. Oh, yeah, what's up? What's going on? You know what I'm saying? So, but like I said, now, if this man done had a baby on you, or he done put his hands on you, oh, yeah, you getting them lashings. You gonna get them fucking lashings if you talking to me about a cheating man, too.
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I don't want to hear you talking to me about a man that keep... I don't care that he not putting his hands on you. I don't care that he didn't go have a baby on you.
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Are you slow? But I will say, my friends gonna get tired of talking to me about it because I'm not finna be like, girl, I hear you. I'm finna be like, you're dumb. But that's the thing, too. I feel like that's fair to say eventually people will get tired. Sometimes people just don't get tired. That's when you have to just draw the line of, I'm not listening to it anymore. I just don't.
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I don't want to. I'm here for you. Like, you know what I mean? If you need me or if you decide to work up with him. Right, right, right. If you need somebody to be there for you, cool. But I just don't want to hear you calling me, telling me about the same thing this man keep doing to you. over and over and over and you won't leave when you have free will. Because I'm not going to lie.
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I'm a safe space, but I'm not. I'm not either. Not like that. Because I'm not going to talk. I'm going to let you know. This ain't it. We're not about to keep talking about it. I'll say this. I'm a safe space as far as... You ain't about to ruin my day. I'm not finna tell your business, but I'm not a safe space if you think you're finna vent to me and I'm not gonna have an opinion.
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Like, you do a good job of, like... Not having an opinion. Not having an opinion and just listening. I'm not finna do that. I'm finna tell you you're better than this and I can't believe that you're actually dealing with this ain't shit man. Until, though. Don't forget the until. Until what? I do a good job of doing that until I don't want to hear the shit no more. Like...
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After a while, I definitely get to a point where I just be having to tell my friends, like, give them my unsolicited opinion. If you have been talking to me about this man for seven months, a year, and it been the same stuff, I'm going to be like, okay. Because I can even give people grace.
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I feel like you can give a man, you can give your friend grace with talking to you about a situation for, like, a good six months. Okay. Maybe even the first year. Okay. But then if after a year... A year is a long time. I didn't know we were talking about this territory. What you mean? Like, territorial boy? A year. I'm thinking that we're talking about... But what are you talking about, though?
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Are you talking about, like... Like, say... Okay, for example, say it's a man who's cheating. Oh, you ain't about to talk to me about that for a month. Oh, a month. So you have a month you can talk to. I'm playing. Maybe not a month, but I just don't... Staying with somebody that's cheating on you is a choice. Right, right, of course.
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Especially, like I said, if you're not in an abusive relationship. You're choosing to stay there. You could go find you a man that's faithful. I just don't really have the capacity to hear you complain about this man when you are not leaving or you are not setting any boundaries and there's not no changes being made on his behalf. I just want...
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Hi, my name is what? Nobody's listened to that in 2025, bro. That is how you introduce yourself. No, I don't. When you meet people. Hi, my name is... No, I don't.
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I think the thing is, it takes some people longer to walk away than it does others. But I will say this. For me... I really be trying to take these like it's... I think that one thing that I worked on in these past three years... We have to learn to find this happiness within. The problem, this is the problem. I'm gonna ruffle some feathers with this one.
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When you have low self-esteem and not a lot of confidence about yourself, you stay in situations that are bad for your mental health.
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Now, if you're in a situation and a man is cheating or maybe he's not taking you on dates, whatever the issue is, if you don't feel like it's taking a toll on you and you're like, okay, I'm trying to figure it out, then cool. But if you start, you're crying every night. Your confidence is shot. You're losing your sparkle. You're losing your glow. You need to look within. Mm-hmm.
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Because your confidence is tied into this person. If you had confidence about yourself, you would be okay with walking away. If you are this amazing woman that you know that you are, that you truly believe that you are, you would be okay with walking away. And I'm not talking shit. That's something that I had to learn. Not in this last relationship I was in, but the one before that.
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I stayed in that because I let this person break me down to where I felt like, Oh, I have to because nobody else is going to want me. And I let that person do that to me. You know what I'm saying? There's billions of people in the world. It's always somebody else who's going to want you. Especially if you... I'm really hurt. Period. Unfortunately for these men, I'm really hurt.
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So walking away from a situation is really not that hard for me anymore. So I know all the ladies and all my friends are not there. So that's why I say I do have a little patience because I was that girl before. So I think I have a little bit more patience for it. But I will say, you're not finna get a, oh, I understand. Oh, yes. Well, this is... No, you finna get it, bitch. You finna get it.
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But you know, you and your friends are all like that, I feel, I can honestly say. Because when you be telling... Because it's been times where you have told me stuff that they have said to you about people that you dated and stuff, and it made me mad. Remember? Because I just be like, they don't need to tell you that all the time. Because I do feel like that.
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a messed up situation you don't need to keep throwing it in their face that they're stupid right or that they need to leave but leave this man alone i needed that though i did you yes but i felt like i'm not a tough love person but my heart is so big and you know me i will give anybody the shirt off my fucking back and sometimes it's like hey lex This person is using you.
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This is not good for you. Wake the fuck up. But it's different when I think people don't know. Like, you really have women out here that are just naive and stupid. You not naive and stupid. Yeah. You knew. And I always knew you knew that that particular person wasn't shit. and, like, you could do better than him.
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You knew that because it would be times where you would be vending to me about him and I wouldn't even have to say nothing and you would say it.
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So I feel like you knew. You don't need me pounding on you like, Lex, yeah, he ain't shitting you stupid for staying with him. Right. I would rather just tell you, don't talk to me about it. Don't talk to nobody else. You know what's crazy? I'm so aware of myself now, now that you say that. Therapy is getting harder for me. Because my therapist really can't tell me. She's like, you already know.
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And also, too, sidebar, and this is not to try to be shady, but it was always also giving pot meets kettle. What? when you would tell me the stuff that some people would tell you. And that's a thing for me, too. I can say this is a problem I have. Can't nobody come tell me what the fuck I need to do when I'm looking at what you do and what you're doing is not any better than what I'm doing.
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Why should I take your advice? Because look at who you are dealing with. Right. I think it's easier on the outside looking in. That's why I say I don't care what you got going on. Sometimes I know I need to hear that for me. That's what I need to hear. Like, you have done everything you could do, girl. Walk away. This person is not good for you.
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Where did the Slim Shady come from, though? Because he was slim and shady. He used to throw teeth and shade. Remember how he used to diss Christina Aguilera so bad? But he was Slim Shady before that. No, he's always been shady. I'm saying, where did the name Slim Shady come from? Does anybody in the room know?
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Because honestly, in that situation, because it was around the time my mom passed, if I didn't have them beating it into my head like that, it could have went somewhere where it didn't need to go. You know what I'm saying? Because of the mental state I was in. Mm-hmm. That's what I'm saying. So I think for me, though, I'm just such a different person now. What you was about to say about therapy?
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But in therapy, therapy is getting harder for me because I'm so emotionally aware of who I am. So half the time when I'm talking to my therapist, I'm like, because this and I know and I need it. But if I did this, she's like... I can't tell you anything because you already know what to do. That's how my therapist be with me, too.
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It really just be me talking the whole time because she be like, well, you already know. She's telling me, she's like, look at the progress you've made because it used to be like, oh, and I don't know what to do. She's like, you have the answers. Mm-hmm. Do it. You know what I'm saying? So it's like now my therapy sessions is really just be me talking. Me too.
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Like I'm really just like I have to say things out loud, but I've become so emotionally intelligent. And I think that's what it takes to confidence, emotional intelligence. But I'm not going to lie. I am that friend. We here. I'ma be here until you ready to walk away. Whenever you ready to move, let's move. If he hitting you and if he had a baby on you, we moving right now.
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But if it's other situations, I am. I am that friend. I'll be a listening ear. Yeah, I'ma be here. You could talk to me about... I get it. No relationship is perfect. Like, everybody is gonna go through stuff in their relationship. I done been through stuff in my relationships. I understand that people need to talk to somebody. But it's just certain things...
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Like, you're not about to keep talking to me about no cheating-ass men. Right, right. I'm sorry. Like, if y'all having misunderstandings or disagreements about... things that y'all both want for y'all's future.
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Or even if y'all living together and y'all having miscommunication or you hate that he don't never be washing his clothes or throwing his clothes on the side of the dirty clothes, 10% of putting them in there. And now y'all into it and y'all haven't talked for a week. Like, I understand people are going to go through stuff, but it's just certain things I want better for my friends.
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can sniff out women who have low self-esteem and who don't value they self and a man is never going to walk away from you if you're allowing him to have his way if you just putting up with what he dishing out and you just happy to be there and have a man he's never gonna walk away so it's up to you to want better for yourself because you steady coming to me complaining to me about this man and you like well I feel like he love me because he haven't left me he haven't left you not because he love you he haven't left you because they never leave they biggest dummies
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But at the same time... Careful, you keep summoning that man. But seriously, though, like, I know because in life, it doesn't matter what age you are. We're always constantly learning, evolving, growing, and you never too old to learn a new lesson. However, though, I have way less tolerance at 33 for certain things that my friends come talk to me about than I had when we was 23. Yeah.
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He says that it emerged from a moment of inspiration while he was on the toilet, stating that it just popped into his head, and he immediately thought of rhymes for it. While he was on the toilet? I came up with a lot of good ideas on the toilet. I mean, the toilet. The toilet. The toilet is a great place to think. I can't sing that song. You love that man bad.
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No, I definitely agree. Because at this point, it's just kind of like... Figure it out, bitch. Come on, sis. No, I do agree. You done been through this with the last five dudes that you dated. How many times we got to talk about the same situation? When you going to realize what the fuck going on and get your shit together?
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I also think that goes into a lot of, like, women don't know how to be the one that got away. It's so much power in there.
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Girl, you so stupid. But yes, I think there's so much. When I tell y'all the way I love myself, and you can't take that away from me, how much I love myself, how much I know my worth, my value, and how much I know people love me. I'm so loved. And I'm not talking about men. I'm talking about my friends, my family. I am so loved.
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So if you think you finna come into my life and not love me right, you can go because I'm not gonna notice that you're gone because I'm so loved because I'm a good person and I know my worth and I know what I deserve. And when it comes down to it, I may be crying right now, but later on down the road, you will never forget about me.
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You're going to be laying in bed with that bitch thinking about what Lex P doing. You could never. Never. You could never get over this Leo queen. You're going to be walking down the aisle to your wife wishing it was me. Wishing that you would have did it right. I agree. And I'm okay with that because I do right by people.
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And I wouldn't even care because once I'm done with you, I don't care who you be thinking about. You could think about me. You could be thinking about the next bitch. I don't give a damn because I walked away. Right. I lived. And that's the great part about walking away. Yes, and it's like you just got to know when you need to walk away and the girls don't be knowing.
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I hate when people be like, oh my God, I don't understand why he would treat me like this. I don't understand why he would do me like this. Or why is he wasting my time? You are wasting your time. You are wasting your time because you can leave. He can't waste your time if you ain't there. And he can't do you like that if you're not letting him do you like that. You know what I mean?
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Like, it's a choice. It's a choice to get mistreated. And I'm sorry. I'm not standing for no mistreatment when it comes to any man. I'm not letting a man mistreat me. And I don't want my friends to be letting men out here mistreating them. And y'all shouldn't let people mistreat y'all. Period. Man, woman. Burl, I don't care who it is. Stand on business by yourself, okay? What you think, Ty?
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I agree. I agree. I've cut off friends, though, for the ones that choose the same man over and over and over again. Because it's not going to end well for you. And now, if there's a DV situation, now I have to feel like I'm involved. I have to come rescue you. Some of those things, I don't have the capacity for. And maybe when I was younger, I had more capacity. We were learning and growing.
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We can't do that. You got to love yourself. You have to love yourself, and that's the common denominator. What I realized in me when I was in, like I said, this is not my last relationship. I'm talking about the one before. I didn't love myself. I completely had left myself go, but I was also going through something very fucking devastating as well, you know?
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And I truly feel like... I'll say that to the day I die. I feel like this person took advantage of the mental state I was in. But I say that because I lost all hope in everything. And like you said, men can sniff out that confidence. Because I will say this. Andrea, you can attest for this. Of all the years of dealing with that man, he had never had me down bad like that.
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Every time we would kind of fall out, I was in a country with the next dude. Or I was doing... Oh, yeah, yeah. You would always kind of go... I would always go and do my thing. Yeah. He never had me down bad, but it was like he caught me at the most vulnerable time in my life.
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And that's when I knew this is what women are going through when they can't get out of these situations because you're not loving yourself. You know, I felt like in that moment I had lost everything. So I was just trying to attach myself onto anything, anybody that was around. So yeah, bitch ass nigga, you call me slipping, but never again. Yes. He was... I had one of those, too.
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Because by the time this episode draws, let me tell you how God works. When I got out of this relationship, and I'm telling y'all this because this is why it's important to pour into yourself. When I got out of that relationship... poor minds was already going up. Poor minds went up, okay? I made the next year, I had made the most money I had ever made after I had really dropped that relationship.
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And then in 2024, I made even more money. And now in 2025, we finna be on BET with a travel show. Amen. Because it's a testament that God will reward you for being obedient. Hello? And I was obedient to the Lord. No, yeah, because I feel like God had been showing you signs that you needed to walk away from that situation. And God will tell you.
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I'm going to be the distraction. If somebody called me the N-word, you wouldn't get out there with me? I would tap my feet while you come from the side. Okay. Either way, we in this together. Then once you got them down, once you knock them down, then I'll probably feel all fine.
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He will definitely direct you in the direction that he wants you to go. And if you keep being disobedient, your life is going to be a reflection of that. But as soon as you decide to listen to him and take heed to what he's trying to show you and get on the path that he wants you to be on, your blessings is going to overflow.
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And that's why I say my faith is always... And I feel like that's what happened. My faith is always stronger than my doubt. And then I said... What Beyonce said, the best revenge is your paper.
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Treated somebody like complete shit, and now you got to turn on the TV and see my face. You can never escape me, baby. Right. Because my blessings are rolling in. They rolling in. And I'm not saying that was my motivation. I'm not thinking about him. Right. I'm just saying how much my life elevated when I walked away. There is power in walking away. Right.
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There is so much power in walking away because I know he looking like this. And some people are in your life to be distractions. Yes, man. You know, but you have to have that spirit of discernment to be able to walk away, cut it off. No matter how painful or stressful you feel like it might be or hard to walk away from that. I've experienced this so many times.
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As soon as you drop that dead weight, the blessings, like you said, you're rewarded for paying attention, for giving yourself, for... What do we say with the Lord? Hang on, I'm spaced out. What?
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Not obedience. It's another word that we use for it. Like you're actually listening to what the Lord is saying. You're doing his will. Sorry I messed that up. No, it's okay. Because I get what you're saying because this is the thing though. I think a lot of times we pray to God to guide us.
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But we don't pay attention to the signs that he gives us. I'm literally sending him signs.
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That's not what I asked for. But now I've learned to pay attention. Hey, God, is this what I'm supposed to do or what am I supposed to do? Please just guide me. Man. it'd just be so crazy. I'd be, I seriously, I'm so specific with my prayer. You have to be. And every morning I'll be waking up and it's like, what I asked for. Yeah.
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It's just like, the simplest things I'd be asking for, he's like, and it'd just be, man. And that's why I say, the fact that we have a travel show right now, Like, what? Because we be traveling anyway.
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We're not for free, man. Y'all probably don't remember when I had my show with my old roommate, Jazz and Lex, where to next. So it's like, doing this is like, exactly. We manifested this for ourselves. We did. Y'all so worried about looking on other people's plate and you worried about this man, you worried about this. Focus on God. Focus on your blessings. I'm telling you. I focused on myself.
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I got back in the church, and I'm telling you, it just started for everything. Because Ty just spoke a word when she said some people are meant to be distractions. Yes. Or it's a test. Like, sometimes God is just testing you, you know, and y'all be feeling the test. I pass with flying colors now. Y'all be feeling them tests because y'all will not leave these N-I-G-G-A long. Or E-Rs.
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I'm not going to call them to eat. All right. All right. Okay, so now, item of the week. My ancestors ain't about to be rolling in their grave. Oh, no, no. We got to get fooling with you. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Doreen Nicole.
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Bow. The bed. Bow. The bed. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. That being a theme song is just crazy. It's a good theme song. Because I'm like, how did we even come up with that? Um, you know what's crazy? It's on episode one. I know, but I'm like, how did it even come about? I don't know. I swear to God. Bow, bow, bow.
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Okay. At this point, they should know we have dark humor. Okay, but I will say, damn, I forgot what I was going to say. No, Eminem. You was about to say Thonius on your phone. We was talking about Eminem, and I was saying no disrespect to that man. His music just didn't age well for me.
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So I wanted to talk about a little sexual health for a minute and how it impacts your mental health. But I also wanted to tie that into the conversation we were having earlier, like I said. So I went to this thing. It was called, it's called Risky Dinner.
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But it's called Risky Dinner. Wheezy hosts it with her. Shout out to Wheezy. I had an amazing time. So, basically, it's a dinner and they go around just letting black women know, like, the statistics in their state of, like, HIV, you know, STDs and things like that. Because although, you know, black women, our population is really low, not compared to other ones.
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Our percentage of having HIV and AIDS is really high. Yeah. Yeah. Talk with Koya. Talks with Koya, yes. And she hosts something called Risky Dinner. So it's basically, you know, an open table, open mic where black women just get to sit and talk. They talk about prep, how to protect yourself, opening up conversations with your partner about getting tested and things like that.
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So I wanted to talk about this because I wanted to read this fact for you. Black women account for the largest share of new HIV diagnosis among women. 50% in 2022, as well as the largest share of all women living with HIV. The rate of new diagnosis among black women is 10 times the rate among white women and three times the rate among Latinas. That number is scary.
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And the numbers in Atlanta, obviously she was talking about specifically in Georgia because of dinner, because they travel around. The numbers in Georgia are even scarier, you guys. So I wanted to talk about that because it's so crazy how growing up, My mom was always like, don't get pregnant. Don't get pregnant. I think that's what they do in the black community.
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Even us, we're like, don't y'all keep having these kids and you ain't got enough money. But more importantly, we are not protecting ourselves from these diseases. Let me tell you something. My mama was definitely showing me them photos of chlamydia, people with chlamydia, gonorrhea. And I was like, oh, uh-uh.
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But I agree with you. I think that people are definitely, people raise their children and talk about the fears or the scares of getting pregnant more often than actually talking about the diseases that are out here. And more specifically, the ones that you can't get rid of. Because HIV, herpes, there's no cure. Hepatitis, there's no cure for these things.
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And these days, with things like PrEP available, which we didn't have 20 years ago, 30 years ago, I just feel like it's no excuse to be out here living risky. Okay, I like how you did that. But yeah, it's no excuse to be out here creating risky behavior and doing risky stuff, putting yourself in scary situations when you can literally prevent it from happening. Yeah. You can prevent it.
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And I think what's scary is too is like a lot of times people don't like getting... Excuse me. They don't like getting tested. They're at-home kids now. You can literally do it with your partner. You can get tested at home for HIV in your home. I get it, though. It be scary.
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You don't got not one song besides Superman that you would listen to in your car. I promise y'all, this is when I had to give up on Eminem. It was around that time where they were doing the BET Cyphers and stuff. Mm-hmm. This man, I don't remember the bar before and I don't remember the bar after, but he said, that's an awfully hot coffee pot. I mean. Okay. You cap. You are so cap.
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Especially when you be... That be the longest 15 minutes of your life.
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But I'll say this. And then don't it seem like every time, every time right before you go get tested or you waiting for some test results, all you see is HIV commercials. Oh, my gosh. Yeah. That little billboard. So I get it. It is scary, but you have to do it. That billboard that's by the cookout. You know what I'm talking about? I hate that damn billboard. I be like, huh? Yes, I'm telling you.
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But it's necessary, though. Like, we're trying to make it a little lighthearted, but for real, though, y'all. Y'all need to go get tested. But also because it's better to know than not because y'all have to realize we are so advanced with the medicines and stuff that are available. People are going undetectable.
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Yeah, so it's like you can live with it, but it's like you have to know before it's too late because once it's too late... It's too late. There's no going back. So I just think that the numbers when I went to this dinner of the statistics of black women who are being exposed to this, who don't know, and it's really sad. It really breaks my heart because as black women, we just go through...
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So much, bruh. It's like the dating is hard for us. Then we have to deal with stuff like this. Then we got to deal with, you know, being single mothers, being the most unwed. It's just like it's so much on us. And I think that's why it ties into all of this. It goes back to loving yourself, protecting yourself. Nobody is going to protect us like us.
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So it's important that we all gather and we have these uncomfortable conversations. Because if we don't have it among us, nobody else is going to protect us. And carry your own condoms. Yes. You know, they be trying to say that you, as a woman, you not supposed to carry your own condoms.
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Men be saying that they, they gonna judge you. Like, if they come to your house and you got your own condoms, they gonna judge you. Honestly, in the way I am right now, like, I'm not in a relationship. Like, I'm cool. Like, I'm not like, oh my gosh, I need to have sex. Like, I'm not finna be out here. Like, I'm not looking for a lady. You know what we call that? What? Gross.
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Yes, because I used to be a whore. Corny. You need that dick, babe. I do. You need that more than the air you breathe. I thought I did, but, you know, I don't know. I'm just so... So, that is real gross. I don't know what got into me. The Holy Ghost. It's the Holy Ghost. I'm telling you, Lord.
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I'm very proud of you. Yes, but I'm not even, like, worried about that. Like, I found so much peace in just being alone. Like, I'm getting everything I ever wanted. Like, I know I keep saying that, but, bro, I'm finna be on TV. Like, this is what I've been fighting for my whole life. Like, I get to go home and go to sleep and I don't... Ain't nobody's son stressing me out.
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I ain't got to cook for nobody. I ain't got to do nothing. Now, don't get it twisted. Do I want partnership one day? Yeah. But when God is ready to send me my man, he's going to send it to me. So it's just like... And not a day late. And not a day late. So I'm not worried about it. I know the woman I am. But like I said, going back to this, I know that... I have to protect myself.
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Nobody's going to protect me. Nobody's going to look out for me. But us, y'all, you have to go get tested. Men, black men out there, stop thinking because she got tested and she don't got nothing that you don't got nothing. It does not work like that. Does that be they favorite line?
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Yeah, but are you? Y'all have to pay attention. If a man is throwing your BV off, stop fucking him immediately. If you wake up and you smell like a fish fry on a Friday night, stop having sex with that man. Hey, we keeping it real now? No, we are. That's why I said, if you gonna be a freaky frog, carry your own condoms.
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I'm telling you, if you wake up and you smell... And fish fries be lingering. Like, after you fry some fish in your house, your clothes be smelling like your couch.
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So, yeah, I just want... Fish ain't got no cat feet. Ooh. Yeah. But it was just so eye-opening. I went home. They gave us the little at-home kits. Baby, I went home. I took that test so quick. Is that what these mix? Like, it looks like a kit, like a box that people are unboxing. I was looking at their Instagram. They have some of them where...
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You can get, you got to send in the results and then some of them they have where, you know, you can wait and they, you know, pop up again. The 15-minute test.
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So, but yeah, y'all, just please, just go get tested, especially my black women. It's so many, like literally 99% of our listeners are black women. Y'all, please, these numbers are crazy. Do some more research yourself. Y'all, please go get tested. Yes, y'all. Please protect yourself. Please stop listening to people. And y'all know, this is what we learned at Risky Dinner too.
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Do y'all know they have people creating fake MyCharts for people nowadays?
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Because what? They did her what? What did he laugh at? Javi is crazy. Javi laughed at the most random shit. They're creating... No, I say that because... My chart... Ty had asked what a my chart is. Like, you know, basically when you go online and it shows you your test results. Oh, like, yeah, you go to the doctor. They're copying that? Like, or they're creating fake ones.
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They're photoshopping them. Probably to show that they have negative test results.
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So... Again, ladies, go get tested. Protect yourself. Even in a relationship, protect yourself unless y'all are constantly going to get tested together. There was a lady there who was actually married, and she said, yes, me and my husband, we still go get tested. We go get tested. Like, because you know how many women... Get STDs that are married. From their husbands. From their husbands.
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Yeah, they be doing the business, yeah. No, that's what she said in the movie because she had got HIV from her husband. Yep, yep, yep. And then that's another misconception, too. A lot of people think, oh, it's just high and this and that because of the DL men. That is another thing that's, like, out the window. At the end of the day, it's us. We have the highest right of it.
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You know what I'm saying? It's not like we are only sleeping with DL men. We're sleeping with men of all races, all everything. So... We have to protect yourself. And if you engaging in risky behavior too, make sure that you're like, if you did something crazy last week, definitely go test yourself. But then just always be mindful that you have to test yourself again in 90 days.
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Because your results might not be accurate if you just did something last week. I just thought I would throw that out there. I'm just keeping my thing on lock. I'm keeping my thing on lock for a while. Give it to the Lord. Amen. Let the Lord handle it. All right, item of the week. Per usual, I know y'all see the orange tresses. They have been freaking out about this little hair zoo, girl.
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It's cute. You know what I'm saying? I haven't done color in a long time, so I got this custom unit from richlookhair.com. Shout out to my girl, Dee Dee. It's a custom color. If y'all want this same unit, you just go hit her up. It look like it's coming from the Scout. But also, she has units that are, like, ready-made to go. You can order it. She sends it to your house.
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You just plop it on and go. I think everybody needs to have a wig to throw on their head in between hairstyles. So I'm really trying to grow my hair out right now. So I'm trying the Mary Ruth hair growth multivitamin little juice stuff.
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So I'm going to let y'all know how it goes because I'm going to keep my glueless units on for a while because I want to really try to grow my hair back out and see what it do.
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I have on the Rosé Matte Liquid Lipstick and the Lip Plumper. Period. Pookie. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. Y'all know we have a segment on Poor Minds called Item of the Week. But do you have a product or something that you want to promote and you want it featured on Poor Minds? Your opportunity is here. Period. Period.
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I promise he said that. If you can't get a boo, you suck. Girl! Y'all can get at me in the booth. So, talking about, you know, the Atlanta days. But yes, I used to want to be in Atlanta so bad, but I used to want to be in Houston so bad. So, I was looking at y'all still tipping. You wasn't looking at me.
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We don't discriminate. Any business is welcome. All right, so now it's time to get into the bow. The bow. Bow. Bow, bow, bow, bow. You know... I found this good song. I love TikTok.
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So it's a song called Ordinary. It's about this guy. His name is Alex Warren. It's a good pop ballad.
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They're making a comeback. And it's just a love song. And what it is is the reason this song is so intriguing to me is because his actual wife is in the video. And, like, there's a trend on TikTok right now of everybody showing themselves in relationships or they're showing, like, hey...
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I'm made of love and this is why I'm so patient because I know that one day I'm going to find a man that can write a song like this about me. It's such a beautiful song. Oh my gosh. I haven't heard a good love ballad like this in a long time. Really? It kind of gives me like, you know how like white people's church music sounds? Okay. You know what I'm saying?
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I don't know if that's making me want to go leasing. But no, white people be getting down in the church. They do. They be having a little white boy on the piano and it's like, ah, God is good. You know? I thought she was more so talking about, ah, man. I'm talking about the... That's what I thought she was talking about. No, no, no, no, no.
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I'm not... You talking about the... You getting into the Catholic. I'm talking about the white Baptist church. They get down a little bit now. Okay, okay. It is giving... I'm telling y'all, it is such a good song. If y'all listen to Alex Warren, Ordinary, it sounds like a church song, like a white church song, but he is singing down. You know what? That's fair, though.
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My mama be listening to, I think it's 99.3 KSBJ. Okay. In Houston. My mama listen to that station all the time, y'all. And it's a gospel station, but all they play is like white contemporary Christian music. And it sounds good. And it do be some bop from there. I'm telling you. I will not lie. That's what I'm saying. I wasn't being funny. It sounds like white.
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I wouldn't say it's black because, you know, black church music is soulful. It's not a soulful song. Let me make sure I said the right radio. But it's a beautiful ballad, and I'm ready to get back. Not a beautiful ballad. It's a beautiful ballad. Let's get back to the love songs. I'm tired of, like I said in the past, I don't want to wet the block up. I don't want to beat that pussy up no more.
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Because you know how every station got their theme. They be like, 89.3 FM, KSBJ. That's how I go. So anyways, my mama be listening to this station.
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Amen. Amen. So my bop, because now we about to get into some heathen music.
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But Real Sisters dropped my lifetime. Real Sisters was about, My Savages was about peacoats, about, I mean, I could really keep going because I was really in my future back in them days. But anyways, I was listening to My Savages earlier today and I was just like, wow. Now, this is hood gospel.
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Yeah. A preacher is a deacon. A deacon to our community. And he really said some profound words in that song. I said, wow. Yeah. Especially my spirit. Because I felt that. Because that's how I feel about, you know, my friends. That lady had him on the phone screaming. What?
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Young and reckless. Life was good. It was. Now we still old and reckless. Older. Older. We're not old. We older. But we still a little reckless. A little bit of reckless. You know what I'm saying? So now we're getting into our favorite segment of the week. If you want your question answered on the show, make sure you email us at askpoorminds at gmail.com.
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I've been with my girlfriend for a few years now and we have a baby together. Everything was good until about six months ago when I logged on to social media and saw a picture of my child on her ex's page with him claiming the baby as his. I confronted her and she swore he was just being spiteful, trying to ruin our relationship.
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She even offered a DNA test, but I'm scared to take it because I don't believe things like these happen by coincidence. So, as two women, what do y'all think? Am I overthinking or is there something I need to do? I think you need to confirm, was that a picture that he took off of her social media or was it a picture he took? Of him holding the baby. Right.
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Because if she brought the baby around him and it's a picture that he took, you need to get that DNA test. Well, I feel like I would get the DNA test either way. If she offering, if she like, oh, we can get a DNA test, I would take her up on the offer and get the DNA test. Why does he feel so comfortable doing that? Are they still having conversations? Are they still talking?
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Because I couldn't imagine just somebody out the blue just posting a random baby from a random ex and being like, oh... This is my baby. And I just, I don't know. I think in situations like that, if I was presented with that type of information, if I was a man and I was presented with that type of information, for my own peace of mind now, I just need to know. Yeah.
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I need to know so I can sleep well at night because it's always going to be, I feel like if you don't get the DNA test, it's still going to always be something that's lingering in the back of your mind as this child is growing up. You're going to always feel like, oh, it's a possibility that this might not be my baby. Just do it for your own peace of mind.
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And hopefully, we gonna pray that it's your baby. But even if it's not, at least now you know. You know what I mean? At least now you know. And you can say good riddance to that bitch. Because like I said, she's offering a DNA test. I think you need that DNA test for peace of mind. I know you're afraid, but there's nothing better than peace of mind. I agree. All right.
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Hey, ladies, I'm 27 and I need advice from my big homies because maybe I'm tripping. I was dating this guy for three months. The first two, he was checking all my boxes. But in month three, I started noticing red flags, his views on women, lack of accountability, etc., I was already debating cutting him off. Then one day on FaceTime, I responded with a little sass.
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And he said, it sound like you want to get headbutted. Instantly, I felt uneasy since I've been in abusive relationships before, which he knew. I asked him to repeat it. He refused and tried to play it off, laughed and called me crazy. Instead, I was making him the villain. Then he admitted I heard right but claimed it was a joke and I was overreacting.
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I hung up, texted him how I felt, and he never responded. Did I dodge a bullet or am I projecting because of my past? Love y'all deep. What have he say? As fuck. Yeah, because I just feel like you don't joke like that.
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To me, that's not... Like, if you say something like that, I am under the impression that you will actually do it one day. Yeah. Why? You don't... You shouldn't even play like that. Do you want to get headbutted? Especially with somebody who has been in an abusive relationship. Abusive relationship. But even period.
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Even if she wasn't in an abusive relationship, you just shouldn't even play with no woman like that saying something like that. Well, the reason I say, especially because she's been in an abusive relationship before, because she's told you, and that's a trigger for her. So instead of you being, hey, understanding, I am so sorry. I won't joke like that. I didn't mean it like that.
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I wasn't thinking. You're saying that she's over... You're gaslighting her. I hate when people tell somebody how something made them feel, and you're like, well, you're being stupid. You can't tell people how to feel about something that you said to them and how it makes them feel. That's crazy to me. So, you're not wrong. You dodged a bullet.
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Because, like I said, I think if somebody was joking, laughing, like that, he said his first reaction went through his mind. Ain't nothing funny about being physical. To me, joking about domestic violence, nothing is funny about it. I have never, like, like, I'll just use my, like, my last relationship. He ain't never said nothing like, yeah, I'll choke your ass. What? No. No. That's crazy.
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Unless it's during sex. That's a little different. All right. That's a little different. No, I like a little choke. Okay.
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That's the only... What? Was this a different CBD drink? Say what? That's the only appropriate time to say that. All right, y'all make sure y'all check out Travel Queens on BET. Y'all make sure y'all check out Love Lex P. Every Monday, 10 a.m., we talk about all the hot topics and all the reality TV shows. We're doing Real Housewives of Atlanta right now, and the tea is hot. Joanne?
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Oh, yes, of course. Make sure y'all shop Muse. Why did you make that face? Because you cutting up. MuseBeautyCollection.com. Also, make sure you follow my YouTube channel, Dre and Nicole with three E's. I drop videos every week. It's either always going to be a vlog or something beauty lifestyle related. Period. All right, y'all. We'll see y'all next week. Bye, y'all.
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Y'all make sure y'all share the content, like, subscribe, follow, all that good stuff. And let me say this before we close out. Y'all, there is one Twitter account that is connected to poor minds. It's P-O-U-R underscore M-I-N-D-S. Y'all are tagging the wrong Poor Minds page. If you see at Poor Minds with no underscore, that is a fake page. Do not follow that page, okay?
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They blocked me, Andrea, and the Poor Minds page on both. So we only have one Instagram left. one twitter one tiktok it is p-o-u-r underscore m-i-n-d-s all right and we got a hell of fake facebook page oh the facebook pages it's the our face the crazy thing is our facebook page actually have the least amount of followers so if you're on facebook the one that's ours
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Got the least amount of followers. The one that's not us got like 250,000 followers. But y'all know it's fake if you actually look at the content because the caption is like whoever it is don't speak English. Because their captions are like Should men pay bill?
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Block, block. Booyah, booyah, booyah. Like, that's literally what the captions are. I like that DDG's Bamba Claude. Bamba Claude.
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My savages, my savages, my savages. I'm always dressing fresher than a mannequin. I grew up in a ruthless environment. I'm on the phone with y'all, I ask them how the trial went. 35 racks is how my day was spent. I got a cocky back, that's how my day was get. I be thinking all these bitches are artificial. The way you acting, you must don't respect a real nigga. I'm gonna pour some syrup up.
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Well, in her defense though, back then being a video girl wasn't a big deal. No, it was because I was like, oh my God. I was. I was like, oh, my God, that is so crazy. I don't got no famous people in my family. She was famous. I don't got no famous. I did. I did think she was famous. I was like, I don't have no famous people in my family. You got to think about it, though.
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They tried to infiltrate us and then betrayed us. I told you way before what happened, they was hating on us. Hating on us.
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She hit me down when I was broke. I got us to infinity. I'm finna young. I'm finna young. I'm finna young. I'm finna young. I'm finna young.
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Say I'm Illuminati. They trying to make me catch a body. I don't know when I'm a flip nigga.
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Being a video girl during those times was iconic. It was. Somebody had posted a clip of Big Boy's video, I Like The Way You Move. No, no. Yes. And do y'all remember the girl that was standing with him and she had the bikini on? And I've never, I didn't, her name is Ka Toy. Of course, y'all know I Google everything. But I just remember she had these legs.
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You could tell she worked out in this bubble butt and this small waist. And it was like, oh my God. Now she was the original. She was.
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We got 50 more minutes. I'm going to make it through today. The devil, you will not win. No, but for real though, the video girls did used to be fine. I mean, they still be looking cute. No, they don't. They don't. They do be cute these days. They be all right. I think the problem is that everybody looks alike.
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He knew talent when he saw it. I mean, he was on to something. The funny thing is, do you really think about that type of stuff, though? Like, Zero could tell people I had Lex P in my video before she was Lex P. I know. Like, when you get your Oscar, you could be like, I had Lex P in my video. I promise I'm going to shout Zero out. I'm going to be like, yeah, Zero. Gave me my first break.
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Gave me my first big break. That was the first time I was, like, on, not on camera, but, like, on a professional camera. Yeah. Yeah. Thanks. Shout out to the people that believed in us before we believed in ourselves. You know what I'm saying? Humble beginnings. Humble beginnings. Not really, though. Because it's humble beginnings being in a zero video.
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Like, humble beginnings is when people be starting off in videos for, like, artists that don't have no name. Yeah. I don't want to say somebody's name, but I don't want to offend people. Who was you going to say? When I think of like humble beginnings, I think of like... If you were in my video. Yeah. Like if you had a song... You did have a song.
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Lex had a song. So, like, if I would have been in Lex's music video, that would have been Humble Beginnings. I was saying, like, Humble Beginnings, I mean, it's just like being a video girl is a humble beginning, period. It doesn't matter who video you in. That's a humble beginning. I don't know. Starting off in Big Pimpin' don't sound that bad. That's a humble beginning, though.
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Imagine if you were in Big Pimpin' video and you go off to be an Oscar award winning actress. That's a humble beginning because you used to just be on a yacht, bopping pussy. You see what I'm saying? That's a humble beginning. I don't care who video it is. You gonna be the first. I think... Because I don't think it was anybody that was in it. I think somebody did videos before.
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And they won an Oscar? Yeah. I think we'll have to look into it. I'm pretty sure we can see Viola Davis somewhere doing something. I doubt it. Still tipping. I highly doubt... Let me stop. I love Viola Davis. I highly doubt that that lady was still tipping anywhere... Maybe. Why would you say that? I don't know.
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I don't know because I love her so much, so I hope nobody sends that to her because it would break my heart. I would never want to offend her. I'm serious.
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No, I'm not because I said that because everybody was young once and was outside.
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That's what I'm saying. We need to stop playing with that lady like that. Because that ain't funny. It's not funny, but it's real. People had lives before you saw them be these great people. You know what I'm saying?
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What's up, y'all? It's your girl Lex P. And it's your girl Dre Nicole. And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Minds. Where a drunk mind speaks sober thoughts. We ain't got no guests today. We ain't got no guests today. You know, we usually do a good job of coordinating. We didn't today. Not the bankhead bounce. We ain't in bankhead, but we close. We in the same city. Yeah.
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Like, I lived a lot of lives. Y'all don't know about it, though. Snapchat got it, though, for a lot of my stuff. Snapchat do got it, for sure. Snapchat got it.
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Oh, my gosh. So, real quick, side note. So, Ellen Pompeo just did Call Her Daddy. Yes. Oh, she did? Yes. Shout out to Meredith Grey. Oh, my gosh. And it was so funny because the reason I said, like, people have lies because she was talking about Serena and Cordell from Love Island.
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And she was like, oh, they're my people because it's like, you don't think that these people be tuned in and knowing what's going on. So that's why I said it's very possible that Viola Davis possibly did a music video. Not necessarily a rap video. It could have been jazz and blues. Classical. They have music videos. They do? Yes. They do. B.B. King had videos? B.B. King definitely had videos.
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I saw one. What was he doing in the video? Playing the flute. He don't even play the flute.
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B.B. King definitely had music videos, though. I think it was more so like... Barry White did. Ooh.
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That's what he did in the song. Chopped and screwed, baby. And he had that good hair.
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Like, I think. It takes so much effort to even try and get people to care about black stories in general, and especially black girls. There's always a reason to turn it on their fault. They're over-sexualized at a young age because their bodies develop faster, so then it turns into them being grown or... The boy was a thug.
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Like there's always an excuse to why the black person doesn't deserve justice. And white people always kind of get that benefit of the doubt. Like, oh, well, he just needs mental issues. He's got he needs help. You know what I'm saying? But nobody's offering that help or those resources to the black people or even that sympathy. And so it's absolutely a thing.
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I would say, I think TikTok is It's the Google.
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But, like, it definitely gives a way for people to push their stuff out there in a much bigger sense than we had the ability to do in the 90s, even the early 2000s. Like, MySpace, even if you make a post, it's only going to your friends. TikTok has the opportunity to go viral in the early 2000s and stuff. So it's definitely a resource we didn't have back then.
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I don't think we've handled it yet because right now we cover finished cases. Right, okay. We tell the case from beginning to end. So for somebody to say, can you tell this story, it doesn't necessarily fit our format.
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But I do like to, like, if somebody comes to me and says, hey, bring awareness to this black girl missing, I'd be like, you should go to Black Girl Wrong where she's highlighting, she's got people focusing on black girl missing, and that's, like, a better platform for you to use. You know what I mean? Yeah. Sorry, y'all.
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They'll even post for each other. There was a time where somebody's family member went missing, and they found them.
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How we met? Mm-hmm. Mariah and I went to high school together. Okay. And... We didn't like each other because Taz was trying to steal my man. Oh! That's the story that she told.
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It was just so interesting. I think the Chicago one, we did K.I. I don't think that's the closest that we've been. And people were like, they was like, I don't know if y'all should be covering this story.
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It is. So much. And like, when we covered that case, I had to get a board. And I was writing, okay, so he mad at him for this. So then he retaliated to them. So that was her cousin. So now she in it.
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Most of them weren't gang-related. I feel like the only reason... One, when you hear a lot about a gang-related body, it's not usually black women. It's usually black men. Yeah, yeah. So I think that narrows our pool a lot. And I think this one was also sensationalized. There's a lot of coverage out there already.
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No. I had been going to that school since ninth grade, but Mariah didn't get there until tenth grade. Uh-huh. And in ninth grade, I had made a best friend. Okay. And then she started dating my best friend. Oh!
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And so we just going to, like, these people said, and these people trying to be careful about it. But I don't know that we necessarily get the opportunity to even dive into that. Right. Thank you.
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I... I did, but I didn't want to... I knew it! I knew it! I knew it! This is your first time admitting this. Well, I don't know that you've ever asked me, but I think there's always probably been... There was something there, but I never wanted to go there because I didn't want to ruin the friendship. I love to ruin the friendship. That's very noble of you.
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And then he ruins the friendship on his own.
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I was like, I know your business and I shouldn't know your business.
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I think Mariah has been telling me we need to start a podcast. Okay. Since probably 2014. So you the leagues. Yeah.
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We just need to be documented. Well, we couldn't find it. And then a pandemic hit. And Mariah was door dashing. And she was listening to a lot of. True crime while door dashing like podcasts. And I was watching documentaries like Unabomber, everything. And so, you know, usually during the day you talk about what you've been doing, but ain't nobody doing that in a pandemic. Right, right.
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So we was talking about, oh, this is the case I heard. This is the case I heard. And we was like, you know what? This is it. Yeah. This is the podcast.
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But you have to learn how to control your emotions. You have to. Like, you not being able to control your emotions is a lack of skill that you, the parents ain't teach you whatever reason. I think there's like this point in adulthood where you got to be responsible for, you know, all the things that the parents miss. We're not going to get it all.
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Like, even as best as the next parent might try, this is going to fuck the kid up or that's going to fuck the kid. You got to learn how to fill those spaces without taking somebody's life.
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But if you're in your 30s, mid-30s, I'm like... And you still that mad that you taking, like... I'm not.
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And I'm not saying that it's okay. Some people will gladly go behind belts and shit.
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I have... Before you get... You might need a while without y'all.
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I don't think anything's ever became too much drama. Right. The next week, another episode dropped. Yeah.
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That's the work. They want to be in that world. They want to feel like somebody caring about them.
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It's also very much, I'm not going to tell you anything real about me. Yes. Like, this is a fantasy. We are in this fantasy. Yes. You play along, I'll play along, but this is fantasy. They draw that line.
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It's so common. Google, when Google hit, they started the internet at two years old. You know?
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There are. I say majority of our fan base is black women.
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I don't think for a karma passion, both people have to be... You don't. You know, like, for him, it was passion. For him, that was hers, you know? And he's jealous of all these other people and other things. And so if he's doing it out of the love that he has for her, it doesn't matter if it's reciprocated. That's still why he did it.
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It could be a mother and a daughter. It could be a mother and a daughter.
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But don't you think crimes of passion are when people hit that mental break?
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Yeah. I wouldn't say a lot, but I'm not going to say that it's never happened. Right, right, right.
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A couple of weeks ago, somebody in the discussion group made a comment saying, uh-oh, not my two favorite black true crime podcasts doing the same case in the same week. And she was like, that was disappointing, but I'm going to listen anyways. I was kind of feeling away about it. Listen.
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She like, no, bitch, I was for real. Keep this for real. I don't know. I feel like... And my sisters, like, there's one sister, I have to ask permission to tell her about a case. Like, just to see if she can hold it. The other one would be like, I don't know how you do this scary stuff. And I was like, it's not scary. It's just a story.
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And I don't know. You know what else I think? I think I've always been scared of something. Like, my biggest fear growing up was being kidnapped. Girl, me too. Like, I used to sleep in the middle of my sisters, so if they came from either side, they would get somebody first. Not to a sedentary. I feel like as soon as I became self-aware, there was a fear of mine. All the time. So I feel like...
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I've always had this mindset. I don't feel like paranoia, like, on the cases. I'm already on the lookout.
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dedicated to consuming it but usually it's just having a clear mind going into it I think it's also just knowing that even if somebody's heard the case they've never heard it how we tell it you know what I mean like We approached this when we were building a format for the show. I was like, I want it to be these phone conversations. So nobody is telling it this relaxed.
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Nobody is going off on tangents where they're relating and you start to sympathize with them. Nobody's telling it in that perspective. So I think even if we did tell JonBenet Ramsey, we'd have that other perspective that nobody else is talking about or afraid to mention because we're towing closer to that line.
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Because we're being more relaxed about it.
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Let's really get to know her before we start to judge her.