Stevie
Appearances
The Oprah Podcast
You’re WORTHY of the Life You Want
Yes. So friendships are a little challenging for me right now. I'm in my 30s. I'm surrounded by a lot of community and a lot of people. But I really am more focused on quality of friendships than quantity. I'm hoping that I can have more valuable, intimate relationships and friendships at this stage in my life. I'm a wife and a mom now, but things kind of feel high stakes for me in my life.
The Oprah Podcast
You’re WORTHY of the Life You Want
And I am a bit of a perfectionist. So that can kind of be debilitating for me at times with new friendships, because I'm afraid I'm not going to show up for them the way that they need or I'm going to feel at them. So that's been a bit of a stumbling block.
The Oprah Podcast
You’re WORTHY of the Life You Want
And, you know, growing up, I saw so many Black friendships on television, Black women who would kiki together and have a good time and then cry on each other's shoulders and... I don't really feel like I have a working framework for that in real life. What that looks like to be, to fall apart, to be vulnerable, to be there in those challenging times. I'm kind of listening to you too, Dr. Tama.
The Oprah Podcast
You’re WORTHY of the Life You Want
My mother passed when I was 16. So some of those formative moments weren't there. So I never got to see that in person. So yeah, I think that's where I am right now. You have a question? My question is kind of how do I reconcile this when I want to nurse the friendships and show up for my friends that I currently have and meeting new people at this stage in my life?