Steve Weatherford
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We kind of grow up, I guess, in general, you just kind of pick up this message, this idea that you're supposed to think positive, you know, think more positive thoughts. And you may have read about this, but if I, and I will ask crowds this, which do you think is more important? More positive thinking or less negative thinking? And I say, this is not a trick question.
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And I'll let them wrestle with that for a little bit. And for the group that we're talking to today, it's a very provocative question. Which is more important? Where do you get the most mileage? More positive thinking or less negative thinking? And the studies are unequivocal. It's less negative thinking. Now, the thing that gets us tangled up is that
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I guess pretty much all of us think of it as, OK, you've got this linear scale here, you know, and we'll say at the high end, the good end is optimism and the low end is pessimism, negative thinking. Well, studies show that there are actually two different scales. Really? And this is just fascinating to me. You should... Positive thinking is important. You keep it up. Keep it high.
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But if you want to get your real knowledge, just cut down on the negative thinking. Cut it down, cut it down, cut it down. That's the villain voice. That's the critic in your head. That's the demotivator. That's the discounter. That's the one that raises the doubts. And... You can shut it up. It takes practice. It takes some discipline.
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But people say, well, I think I'm aware of my negative thinking. But they're not. About 70% of our negative thinking goes unperceived by us. It is so embedded in our day-to-day behavior. We're not even aware of it. We're not even aware of it. About 70%, it is so much just ingrained in the way we go about living.
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Yes, and so let me tell you how it shows up. I'll talk about the five C's. Okay. Okay, the sneak attack of the five C's. Okay, the first one is complaining. Grapping, grapping, grapping. You know, it's too hot in Dallas. It is, but that's not gonna change if I gripe about it. Okay, so the first one is complaining. The next one's criticizing. Well, the grid went down today in Texas.
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I think a fundamental mistake that a lot of people make is they don't believe in themselves enough and they don't reach high enough. Who is it? Astro Teller, who is the head of Google X, you know, their innovative arm that said 10% can be as hard as 10X. You know, a 10% improvement, not necessarily any improver. Small acquisitions were every bit as difficult to make work as the big ones.
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We had brownouts. My air conditioners, you know, and there's always someone to criticize. So we've got complaining. We've got criticizing. Next one is concern. And I'm not talking about being empathic here and having concern for some other person. I'm talking about garden variety worry. I'm concerned about this. Well, I'm concerned about inflation. Well, I'm concerned about... You know, the news.
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All right. The next one is commiserating. Commiserating. We come in, and I sit down with this person, and they start their C's, their C talk.
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And I say, I get it, man. Yeah, I understand. I'm not doing anybody any good. When I start commiserating, I'm not doing anyone any good. It's... It's destructive to both of us. And then the last one is catastrophizing, which is just when you're really down, you just blow things all out of proportion. But those things sneak in. If you start watching people, watching ourselves, how much we do this.
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And, of course, we're surrounded by so much negativity. You listen to the news. You get on social media. Oh, no, no, no.
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Now, here's what's interesting. So we're talking about making a quantum leap. We're talking about change. And really, if you said, what are you all about, Price? What, you know, your life, where did you point yourself? Well, I just got caught up in positioning people to do more with themselves. There's so much out there, and people have so much potential to do things with themselves.
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let's arm them, let's position them to do what they can do with themselves.
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which is kind of a counterintuitive thought. I mean, normally people don't go out with their mind drifting down that path. But with You Squared, the handbook is, it's kind of based on counterintuitive ideals, kind of things that stop you and kind of, you know, make yourself uncomfortable. You know, that's one of the points. Well, why would I want to do that? You're an athlete.
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If you're not willing to make yourself uncomfortable, you got to get off the field. Absolutely.
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I don't care what direction a person is drawn. They can make quantum leaps in that zone. whatever their strike zone is. But I don't really spend a lot of time, I guess, trying to talk people into making a quantum leap unless they have something inside just- They've got to want it. Knowing at them.
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That want to factor, that's the X factor. And, you know, people talk about willpower. Well, I want to talk about want power. What does that mean? It's want power is how much do you want this thing? Again, you know, how much are you in love with this idea? I do think. that there are times when we're kind of directionless or a person certainly can be.
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There's several things about goal setting that I think are real key points. If you're shooting, to make this kind of an exponential leap in performance. So then, first, it needs to be a serious stretch goal. You need to scare the horses, you know. It needs to scare you. Yeah.
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That's one thing I really love to go and speak to kids about is my formula for prosperity. And it's real simple. It's identifying what your vision is. And for me, at 14, my vision was to be a pro athlete one day. And right now, my vision is different But I'm just as far away from being where I want to be in this journey as I was when I was 14.
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There's a lot of things that I'm going to need to do before I'm able to realize that. But I've already done it once. I know what it takes. And it's just about maintaining my focus, trusting my plan, and then, you know, working every day and, and being diligent and consistent and, and optimistic and positive because, you know, you, you have your vision and then, okay, that's my vision.
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That's where I want to be. You set your goal. And then after you set your goal, you have to spend some time researching and seeking out advice and wisdom. and humbling yourself to people, providing them value so they want to help you. And then you can put this plan in front of yourself of what you need to do. And that's the third step of the formula for prosperity.
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And then the fourth step is where 90% of people will fail in reaching their full potential or reaching their goal and making that dream become real to them. And it's work. People just... They don't execute. There's dreamers everywhere. This is Los Angeles. There's dreamers everywhere.
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But how many dreamers are consistently making that daily investment, that daily sacrifice that it's going to require in order for those tiny, very small decisions... over time, the compounded interest of sacrificing this to get just that much closer to your goal, people have a real problem choosing what they want 10 years from now to what they want today. And I did that.
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And I was able to be able to experience seeing the manifestation and the culmination of all those sacrifices and all those those times that instead of going out and smoking cigarettes and smoking dope and drinking beers with my buddy, I decided to go to bed and wake up early and put the work in in the weight room. And it's not just about being in the weight room and going through the motions.
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And so for that poor soul, although they might be happy, content, doing fine, really, but they kind of like something to change and be bigger and better and more dramatic or whatever. And so sometimes I think we can maybe find that magical era just by playing with the curiosity or saying yes to random opportunity that just comes smack in front of us. Or maybe...
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It's being committed and being present in that moment and invest in everything you have because that's one of the things that I love about fitness is it's one of the only things in life that you're going to get out exactly what you put in, you know, doesn't lie. You're a really kind person. You're a really generous person.
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You're, you're one of the, the most well-rounded guys that I know, but you're not always going to get what you deserve, man. You know, but if you take that well-roundedness and you funnel that into fitness, a fitness journey, you're going to get, you're going to get what you deserve. Like you can't,
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You can't cheat on a diet and then expect the results of your body to reflect the sacrifice because you didn't make it. So that's one of the things that I don't use my body to compete in athletics anymore. But we were talking about it the other day. There's something I really enjoy and I admire about people when they walk into the room and they're real fit. Not like, oh, he's pretty fit.
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I'm talking about a one-percenter. When a one-percenter walks in, they don't even have to have their shirt off. I'm just talking about somebody's got a t-shirt on, but you can tell they're tuned up. There's several things you can tell about them instantly. You can tell that they practice self-discipline, self-denial, consistency, hard work, having a vision, a work ethic.
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All of those things you can tell about somebody instantly. without them even opening their mouth. And that's one thing that I like about fitness because it says a lot of things about me when I enter a room that I don't even need to tell people. They know I'm a hard worker. They know that I'm goal-oriented. They know that I'm willing to be disciplined and work towards a goal.
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Like you don't, I was going to say arrogant to say, but you can't look that way with genetics. Genetics play a role, but there's no way that you can be A one percenter with just genetics. It's going to take some work. It's going to take some sacrifice. It's going to take consistency. Yeah.
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Recently. Okay, I'm glad you put recently in there. I'm very, very thankful for two people. And I mean this. I'm really, really thankful for you and your willingness to just give, man. Because I don't feel like I have nearly as much to offer you because, you know, I... I'm not good at what you need. I can help you get bigger arms. You know what I mean? I can help you get a six-pack.
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I mean, those are important things to have as part of the full scope of what Lewis House is. Yeah. But you have so much more to offer me, and you've been – I mean, every single time I call, every single time I text, every single time I FaceTime you, and I FaceTime you a lot. I FaceTime Lewis 80% of the time versus a phone call.
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The only time I don't FaceTime you is when I don't have very good service. And I've already tried to FaceTime you, and then it won't go through, so then I'll call. But your willingness to just be transparent with me and honest, too. You're like, Steve, I don't think you're doing it right. You know? Mm-hmm. And you're not arrogant with it. You're not boastful. You know what I mean?
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You've built something that's impressive on a multitude of levels, but you've remained incredibly humble and willing to, like, you want to rise the tide. You want it to rise not to just bring your boat up, But all of the boats that are in your vicinity, you want them to come with you. And it's very rare. You don't belong in Los Angeles, man. You know what I mean?
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I think you're like an evangelist out here for how people should live their life. I appreciate that. You belong in Ohio, man.
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So to finish your question, because you said most recently. Now, if you would have said, what are you most thankful for? Real easy to say my wife and kids because they're going to be with me for the rest of my life and they were my life goal and they're my life purpose. Uh, but most recently you, uh, and my, my partner, Michael Martucci, he, uh, he's a very good balance for me.
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He's actually very similar to my wife. Um, he's very, very good at what I'm not good at. And dude, he's 21 year old kid, but he's a hard worker and, uh, and he's receptive and, Um, he gets a little grumpy at times. He's sitting here smiling at me right now, but I'm very thankful for him because he is helping me fulfill my dream. And I, I couldn't do what I'm doing right now without his, his help.
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And it's kind of weird, but I mean, he's given me guidance too, because, you know, a lot of that, you know, the, the knowledge that that I need is in books. Right. Guess what?
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I don't get along with books, dude, unless it's on an audio book or a podcast while I'm running, I'm not going to garner that knowledge. So, uh, most recently, that's what I'm thankful for. Appreciate that. Thank you.
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What are your three truths? Steve Weatherford, you're a Super Bowl champion. You've got four kids. You've been on countless fitness magazine covers, but they're all gone. Exactly. So what are three things, what are three truths that you want to share with the world that you know to be true before you die? You got it. Is that it? That's it. You got it.
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This is episode 356, and you're here with Steve. Three truths. Um, you're going to die. That's one of them. Um, but it's, it's not that that's going to happen. It's like, what are you going to do in between the moment that you realize that that, that is going to happen.
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deciding well i'm going to muscle up one of my superpowers let me sort of really get into that because i have fun with that and i'm good at it so those are things i think that one can can play with when they're they're they're not um just the direction yeah yeah yeah and it sounds like once we
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And now, you know, I mean, it's, it's a heavy thing to think about that, you know, as hard as you're, you're working hard as I'm working when we die, um, We can't take that with us, you know? But, like, what are you going to do in between now and when you die that's going to impact people? Because that's why I'm retiring from the National Football League, is I want to have a legacy.
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I want to have an impact. You know, it's, like, cool to have a Super Bowl record, but, dude, in 10 years, nobody's going to care. Nobody will probably even remember my name, you know? But they'll remember...
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if i impact their life you know i don't want to be remembered for entertaining somebody you know yeah um although i felt very blessed to do that it was so much fun yeah but i just i didn't feel like i was making an impact anymore yeah um so that's that's one of them you're gonna die okay uh the second one is you're always going to get out of life what you put in
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Because even if you don't get the tangible return, knowing that your investment was the best that you could make, your return is knowing that you did your best. So that's one thing that helped me mentally with like performance anxiety before games. Like you're going, oh, I'm playing in the Super Bowl tomorrow. There's going to be 79 million people watching. If you make a mistake, guess what?
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They're all going to see it.
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But. One thing that helped me to be able to get that negativity out of my mind is I knew I did everything up until that point to prepare myself for that moment to be my best. And so all I needed to do was go out there and let that be shown, play for the audience of one, because I knew that I was ready. And if I do my best and I fail, I'm okay with that.
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And it took me a while to be able to kind of embrace, but just giving your best in life, you're gonna get that in return. If you don't get it in the return of your goal or a Super Bowl trophy or a million dollars, you're gonna get that in a return of the fulfilling feeling of knowing I gave it everything that I had. What is my third truth?
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I should have written these down because every time that I listen to this show, I always ask myself, what would my three truths be? You get the chance now. Man, what would the third truth be? I mean, to me, I feel like when I ask myself that question,
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it, the one thing that always, I think in my mind is that you just, you have one, one life to live and grow, you know, grow because every mistake that you make, every failure that you have, like to me, my mindset is I'm going to win or I'm going to learn. So when I live my life, I don't, I don't spend any time
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thinking about uh when i fail because i that's an opportunity for me to grow and that's also another another thing that as an athlete um was athletics taught me that athletics taught me that you know you are going to win and lose on a scoreboard but in order to evolve as a person and then you know on a smaller scale in order to evolve as an athlete you need to learn from those mistakes and so
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I just encourage people that I guess to sum that truth up is you're never going to lose. You're never going to fail. You're going to win or you're going to learn. So don't let the fear of failure paralyze you from trying. Because when I was 14 years old, I'd never touched a football in my life. And the high school football coach comes over.
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to the soccer coach, and he's like, hey, we don't have a kicker or a punter. Do you have anybody that, you know, you think would be, that has a strong leg that could do it? And I was 108 pounds, and the soccer coach points over, he goes, that kid over there, he might not look like much, but he's got a good leg, you know, and he's a cocky little wiry bastard, you know? Right, right.
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And so the coach walks up to me, he's like, do you want to be our kicker? And I had never touched a football in my life. And I'm so thankful that I had the courage and the bravery to try something new and not try something new and not try to fail. Try something new and give it everything you have. Don't be afraid to fail because you're either going to be really good at it or you're going to learn.
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So don't let the fear of failure paralyze you. I like that one. Don't let the fear of failure stop you from achieving your greatness. Boom. Boom. This has been Steve Weatherford on episode 356, The School of Greatness.
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So I am on Snapchat every single minute of every single day. And in addition, what is it?
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It's at Weatherford five, which is also my Instagram, which is also my Twitter. And I'm on Facebook as well. And that's Steve Weatherford. But I monitor all of them pretty much all day, every day, because that is the most direct way for me to kind of like bridge my gap in between myself and the people who are supporting me. I'll never call them followers because to me, a follower is behind you.
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I want them right next to me. I want to push them. I want to push them along as I go along. Like when I grow and I learn, I want them to get that same experience.
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And, you know, I feel like I do, I try to do my best and also sharing my failures because I'm not losing when I fail, you know, I'm learning, you know, as we talked about earlier, you know, I'll share the Superbowl stories and all that, but I'm also, I try my best to share the shortcomings and the failures in my life and how I'm, I'm learning from those. So I love social media.
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I don't think you'll probably have somebody on the show that's more active on those platforms than I am because. that's the easiest and most efficient way for me to share my journey and share things that I learned from amazing people in my life like you. So I want to thank you, man.
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It's been a lot of fun to be on this show, but it's been a really special relationship that I've had with you because you came into my life at a time where I needed that guidance. You know, I'm transitioning from one career into another and I don't want to say I was lost because I knew where I wanted to go, but you need somebody in your life to show you the roadmap to get there.
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You've been incredibly helpful and generous and thoughtful and transparent with everything that you've learned from the people that you've had in your life that have mentored you. Muchos gracias, man.
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Is there a website for this that's going to be coming out? The story of it is, to me, what makes it most exciting. I'm going to give you a 90-second condensed version of how I kind of stumbled upon this journey. My whole life I've been into fitness. At 14 years old, I had to change my body in order to pursue my dream.
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And one thing that had always bothered me, beyond these different fitness magazine covers, but one thing that always bothered me is I always had small arms by comparison to the rest of my body. And so once I decided that my football career was going to be over,
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january 1st i wrote down my new year's resolutions and the first three or four of them were you know i want to be a better communicator with my wife i want to you know be more present with my family and you know put my phone away when i get home and and be be more in the moment and the last goal that i that i wrote down for 2016 is Within 90 days, I want to have 19-inch arms.
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And the day that I wrote those down, it was 16.75 inches. And it took me 104 days, but I went from 16.75 to 19 inches, which is 2.25 inches. And I'm not taking some of the vitamins that other people do to be able to make that growth. So it's something I'm super proud of because as much time as I had spent in the gym, that was one thing that had eluded me for the past 19 years in the gym.
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I'm 33 now, 19 years in the gym, and I wrote this program down. I was never planning on turning it into an e-book, but I wrote my news resolutions down. I put them on Instagram because, to me, if I make those resolutions and I share them with everybody on Instagram, they're going to keep me honest.
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So if I knew I put it to a timeline of 90 days and 90 days went by and I didn't have 19-inch arms, the people that support me on Instagram and Facebook and Snapchat, they're going to be like, What are you doing? Your arms look the same. So I shared that journey. And after about six or seven weeks, I started to get questions like, dude, your arms are getting huge. What like what are you doing?
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I don't think you will necessarily know. I think you make a decision. One of the chapters in the U Squared Handbook is make your move before you're ready. I'll tell you where big dreams go to die. Tell me. They go to the planning place. getting ready place, preparing myself. And it's the biggest con job we work on ourselves.
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And it was about like the eight week mark. I had I had like another month to go. And I decided I wanted to put it into an e-book and share it because it was working so well for me. And it was something that I always struggled with.
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So if I can ask all of the listeners, all 1.3 million that downloaded it this month, what would I ask them?
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You need to form it like that, Lewis. Okay, this is what I want all 1.3 million people out there to do in their own life. They have the three gratitudes in the morning. I want to encourage people to look at their schedule for the day. whatever it may be, you know, picking the kids up from school. It could be a board meeting. It could be a delivery they have to make.
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I want them every single morning out loud, not in your head. I want you to speak out loud, whether it's while you're drinking your cup of coffee or you're having your green juice or you're in the shower. I want you to positive self-talk your way through the perfect day. And I want you to do that every single day for 30 days.
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And I want you to tweet or Snapchat at Lewis house or at Lewis underscore house on Snapchat. And I want you to tell him or me or both of us how your life has made a massive change because I know that it will. If you stay consistent with,
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to the routine of the positive self-talk a perfect day waking up every single morning say today is going to be a great day and this is why because i have this and it's going to go like this and then i have to go here and it's going to go like this when you can visualize your day going perfect and i'm not talking about waking up and oh the sun will be shining no no i'm talking about
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detail how your day is gonna go I'm gonna go into this board meeting today and I've got this presentation and it's gonna go so well that my boss is gonna come up to me in the hallway after and he's gonna tell me that was the greatest presentation anybody has ever given you completely
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paralyzed the entire room because they were so focused on the material that you were covering with the passion that you were delivering it i want you to go into great detail on how not just oh i'm gonna have this meeting that's gonna go good go into detail and tell me why it's gonna be so great if you will commit yourself to a habit of doing that you can see yourself giving a presentation like that or or leading a team like that and how you're going to lead the team
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your life will change, I guarantee it.
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There are so many bones of big dreams in that graveyard where people, it's always something that there's always going to be a set of reasons to wait. And It's like Gilda Radner, that line of hers on Saturday Night Live, you know, it's always something. Well, it is. And so when are you going to take the risk?
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You pick 10 people at random, and I'll bet $100 that we can find quantum leaps in every one of them. Really? Yeah. Oh, yeah. And if you stop and think about it, everybody's made quantum leaps before they reach school age. Because you come into this world naked. You can't speak. You can't feed yourself. You can't get around. And by the age of three, you're doing all three of those things.
The School of Greatness
How To Set Goals & Magnetize Your 2025 Vision To You
There needs to be some, there needs to be, but secondly, it needs to be a goal that, it needs to be a love story around that goal, I think. Because when you go for a big goal, any goal of,
The School of Greatness
How To Set Goals & Magnetize Your 2025 Vision To You
That's true. That's pretty incredible. Now, go and look at what that child did They were willing to fail. Over and over and over again. Over and over and over again. They had no methodology. They just knew what they wanted. And they were willing to make mistakes to show them the way there.
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How To Set Goals & Magnetize Your 2025 Vision To You
And it's the same thing when they learn to ride a bicycle, when they learn to swim, when they learn to run as opposed to walk. And so those are all That's not an incremental thing. You can't crawl fast enough to become a walker. You know, you got to change the game. It's a totally different game. Wading is W-A-D-I-N-G. And the water is you can't wade fast enough to swim. And so it's that.
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How To Set Goals & Magnetize Your 2025 Vision To You
It's that process of being willing to take new risks, change your modus operandi, fail your way to success.
The School of Greatness
How To Set Goals & Magnetize Your 2025 Vision To You
much significance you're going to have some setbacks you're going to have some obstacles that come along you're going to get kind of banged up and bruised up maybe and you need to care enough you know the heart is what sustains you through that and so there you know people talk about a passion for this for this goal and I think well
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How To Set Goals & Magnetize Your 2025 Vision To You
It's a killer question. Well, you get to choose how you behave. To heck with your thinking. Let's say your thinking is what it is and it's riddled with doubt. You're ravaged with doubt. You still get to choose how you behave. And you can You can act like you've got what it takes. You can't.
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How To Set Goals & Magnetize Your 2025 Vision To You
It's not easy. And you can feel like I'm faking this. Oh, am I ever faking this?
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How To Set Goals & Magnetize Your 2025 Vision To You
Well, if we said George Burns or someone that said something about, I won't get this precise, but it's something like authenticity is the key. If you can fake that, you got it made. Right. Right, right, right. But so that's one thing. And just go against everything that's going on inside you because most people are not going to know. But there's another thing.
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How To Set Goals & Magnetize Your 2025 Vision To You
Yeah, what you go back and what you dwell on. Yeah. When you go back over the years, I mean, I can go back just like that. I can think something, and I can pull up again and again and again. All these times that I've been embarrassed, I've been humiliated, I've failed, dropped the ball, you know, I can dwell on that if I want to. But I can also go back in the times that I pulled it off.
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How To Set Goals & Magnetize Your 2025 Vision To You
The times I did it right. I surprised myself. How good it felt when I was good to somebody else. You know, on and on and on. So you get to dwell on whatever you want to dwell on. And we're too indiscriminate. It's kind of like these two voices we've got in our head. We've got a hero voice and we've got a villain voice. You know? And who are you going to give airtime to?
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How To Set Goals & Magnetize Your 2025 Vision To You
People talk about having a coach. Well, the coach that is closest to you is the voices inside your head. You're coaching yourself all the time. And you get to decide which voice you want to hand the mic to. And the villain voice is very compelling. And he's a con artist because so much of the time he's like, I'm here to protect you, buddy. I'm on your side. I'm going to keep you from screwing up.
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How To Set Goals & Magnetize Your 2025 Vision To You
I don't want you to fail. I don't want you to embarrass yourself. You know, just listen to me. And so he focuses on mistakes, on your weaker points, and all the why nots. Your Hebrew voice focuses on your strengths, your accomplishments, and so on and so on. They say we have some 50,000 thoughts a day. I don't know if that's right.
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How To Set Goals & Magnetize Your 2025 Vision To You
That's a fine word and it fits, but some people say, well, I just don't have that passion. Well, you just need to care for it or at least be committed enough to it that you say, I'm gonna stay the course. I will put myself out there. And I think that it needs to be your goal, not somebody else's goal for you. Not a should or ought to goal.
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How To Set Goals & Magnetize Your 2025 Vision To You
But, you know, let's just say that's the realm that we have some 50,000 thoughts a day. this kind of takes us into this whole conversation, which I think is the interesting thing to kick around, which is this whole thing about optimism versus pessimism.
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How To Set Goals & Magnetize Your 2025 Vision To You
That's kind of what, if we want to give big labels to what we're talking about here, if you ask people, and I've asked this of crowds, keynote after keynote after keynote, training sessions and so on, how many of you in the room would say you're an optimist? I know you would say. Absolutely. Your hand would be up. Well, 78% of the people in America label themselves optimists.
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How To Set Goals & Magnetize Your 2025 Vision To You
17% say, yeah, I'm pessimist. And maybe they're kind of even proud of it. But then there's a few percentages missing. And invariably, you'll have someone, particularly if it's a small enough group, and they'll speak up. They'll say, well, you know, I consider myself
The School of Greatness
How To Set Goals & Magnetize Your 2025 Vision To You
objective right you know i i'm not really optimistic well they're pessimistic they're the pessimists in wolf's closing typically but the split really in the united states is 50 50. and so you've got 50 to 78 you got 18 of the people that are being a little generous with themselves and so