Steve Bartlett
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So going back then to first impressions, how do I make a really bad first impression?
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Yeah, so we'll do the bad first, then we'll do the good. You said one of the worst things one can do is to walk up on their phone, on a device, etc.
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Yeah.
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The triple threat.
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What about when sat at a table like this? Because I sit here for hundreds and hundreds of hours listening to people. And I am. I've never said this before. But I'm always really quite conscious about my body language because I don't want to signal the wrong thing. But because I'm thinking about so many things at once, I'm like doing research while someone's talking. I'm reading my notes.
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I'm writing sometimes. I'm jotting something down. And I'm thinking about the next thing. I'm thinking about the edit. There's a lot going on in my head. I never want them to misconstrue it as like a reflection on them.
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So how would you recommend that I conduct myself, whether it's as a podcaster or in a meeting when you're with a client or whatever, to signal that I'm warm and competent and all the good stuff?
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Interesting.
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Yeah, because I look away. So I'm doing it now. I look away because I'm struggling with my ideas, trying to articulate them. And then once I've got it, I come back to you and make the point like that.
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Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Right? Seven.
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Oh, really?
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Better on the inside than the outside. Okay.
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So first impressions, make sure the conversation doesn't hit a dead end, essentially.
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Yeah, break the script.
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I do this here sometimes. So when a guest comes in, the question that I always ask pretty much everyone that sits down is like, what's front of mind for you at the moment? Is that a good one?
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Is that because it's positive?
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How you been?
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And how would I give you all those things?
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Negative or neutral or it's typically something work related. So they'll say my book tour, I'm trying to get this published. Yeah. And you're bored, aren't you? It's somewhat interesting to me because I write it down and then I'll talk to them about it. But I mean, if it was a social conversation, it wouldn't be interesting.
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feeling like you're making it about yourself though. Because if you said to me, you've got a Cybertruck outside. If you walked in and said, oh, I've got a, just bought a Cybertruck. And I go, I've just bought a Cybertruck.
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That's what you want me to say? Yeah. I wouldn't say it like that though. There is a difference here because I'm British and British people are very like, we're very like, you know what I mean?
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Is that what it is? We're just very, oh yeah, join the club. Could you imagine?
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You would freak out that you're saying that. You like it because it's so weird.
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Is there anything else in the first impressions bucket before we move on to second impressions? And what I mean by that is really like, how do I then cement and invest in that relationship so I can keep it?
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Just in case anybody doesn't know who you are and what you do, you're gonna have to take me back. What is it you do and who are you?
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What about online first impressions? Is there anything that I need to think about if I'm on – because so much of our lives runs on Zoom or Google Hangouts now.
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Okay.
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Bingo.
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You would take it.
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Communicate online and in person?
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And what about then on Zoom and other sort of business professional environments?
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So you raised your hand there.
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How important is it? How pivotal is it and can it be for someone's life if they master the skill of communication, first impressions, and all of the things that you educate us on so articulately?
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It is the same stuff. It's like 80, 90% of the time it's the same stuff. It's the same questions. How are you? Where are you? How's the weather? Traffic?
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What if you like stumble across the same person twice and you don't realize you've hit them with the same story? But I don't talk to the same people again. If we did a couple of Zoom calls and you kept coming on going, are you a that person? Or I'd go, wait a minute.
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Thank you.
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But is it not genetic? You know, like, are we set in our ways?
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Thank you. Thank you.
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Thank you.
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Thank you. Thank you.
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Thank you.
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You're proof.
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I promise. It's almost impossible to believe that you were an awkward person.
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But even beyond a date, right? In a professional context.
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Why is she doing that?
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Yeah. Can I ask a question on that? Yeah. He seemed to bottle it there. He said, we can go get a drink if you want to, if you're interested. Or we can go.
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She rejected him.
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Do you know what I mean? She just stuck her tongue out.
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Was she actually too busy? Or is she scared or something? Because I just don't understand that.
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Do you know what's really wild is... Had they met in a village a hundred years ago, they'd be married.
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But I guarantee if you hadn't intervened in this situation and this wasn't, if you weren't sort of coercing them to like, to hang around with each other, they'd never see each other again.
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Yeah, they left together, I heard.
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I imagine. Imagine if they... But I've been thinking about this a lot lately. We were talking about it as a team. I was saying, one of the issues I think people have these days is we just have too many options.
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Do you know the jam study?
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Yeah.
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And this is going on in dating at the moment. Do you know what it was? A friend of mine, we were having a debate actually in the room over there a couple of days ago, and they were saying to me, I just need to meet more guys. And I'm sat there thinking, your actual job is networking. Like, you get paid to meet people. You know more people than anyone I know.
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I could say right now, I could say to this person, I need a chiropractor in Las Vegas. And this person should go... I know the guy. Oh, wow. So I was saying, like, the issue might be that you have too many options. Too much jam. Too much jam.
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You must meet people, though, that they've been on like 100 dates and they tell you that they just can't find the person. And you go 100 dates like 100 years ago, you wouldn't even know 100 people.
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And you'd be happily married.
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Checklists?
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So many people write into the show or speak to me in the street. And it's so surprising that the thing, even if they live in these, you know, densely populated cities, the sort of most pressing issue on their mind is, I don't know how to make a friend. And it's funny because sometimes they sell it to me in a gym and I'm like, there's 300 people surrounding us right now.
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So she was judging him based on his personality.
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So you're trying to get through the list.
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Do you think there's also an element that we've got more and more ambivalent with... The more and more we date, the more it becomes transactional, the more we show up without passion or interest or curiosity?
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And not knowing how to walk up and say hello or introduce yourself.
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I was just thinking that about something someone said to me a couple of days ago, which links to what you're saying. Someone said to me that much of the
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of the incel culture is these young men spend lots of time playing video games and the video games gives them the sense of accomplishment the sense of building it also gives them the like dopamine hit when you like win a sword or some coins or something and so I was just also thinking about that in the context of being like a workaholic like if I'm working all day every day on a screen and I'm constant which is what I do when it comes to like going out and meeting people and networking for me it's like hell and I'm wondering if there's a link there I'm like maybe if I wasn't on the screen or for like
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12 hours a day i'd have more dopamine left over to go speak to somebody
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My computer has never energized me, but these conversations always do.
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Do you think I'm at control? In what context would you think I'm at control in?
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Ask me the questions.
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Probably.
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Yeah, probably. It's all context dependent because when you said control freak, I was like, well, I don't have any control in that part of my life. That's like a democracy. But typically in business, I think that I'm a control freak.
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I think if you asked my team, they'd say, yeah, he's a control freak. Am I a control freak?
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He's laughing.
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You will. I'm not a control freak. No, I am.
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I do struggle. I really struggle with like going to networking events and stuff. I really struggle with that stuff.
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I guess there's different types of leaders that struggle with different things, but how do great leaders communicate? What do they do well?
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So this kind of actually pulls us to another conversation you had in our fake date scenario.
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If you click on the first link there with the gentleman whose name is... Tim. Oh, yeah, Tim. I found it really fascinating watching you help Tim introduce his profession.
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Self-honesty.
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The first clip of Tim there I thought was fascinating. That one there, yeah.
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Vanessa, yesterday you and my team did some matchmaking.
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I have to say, I don't think he should call himself a code monkey. Yeah.
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Like I didn't even really know what it was. I was like, what? It sounds kind of, her reaction was telling. She went, oh no.
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Yeah, but I think he has responsibility there because he shouldn't describe himself as a code, a monkey anything. Yeah. You sound like you are a, like a, involuntary slave to something against your will. Totally. If I said I was a podcast monkey, you wouldn't think, oh, amazing, I'm so happy for you, would you? No. I'd be like, weird. Exactly.
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And how do I figure out what my core friendship values are?
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It's the word monkey that they're adding that makes it seem painful.
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What's a great answer then? Give me an example of a great answer. So if I'm the CEO of a media company, what's a great answer? If someone says, what do you do?
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And I heard you say that using the word because as a leader is important to getting people to come with you.
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How are either of them supposed to know if the other person is attracted to them?
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So how do I signal that I like someone and how do I know if they like me?
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Okay, yeah.
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He was the first guy.
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We don't tell people, do we?
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We don't tell people. I was just thinking about a meeting I had last week and I was thinking, God, if I'd started that meeting just by telling the person what I thought of them, a really positive thing, it would have completely probably made them feel good.
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It goes back to your point about giving them serotonin or... And it makes you more likable.
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Personal responsibility is a big one for me, I think.
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What if you're not funny? Because a lot of people, we've sort of categorized ourselves as being a funny person or a not funny person. So is there a way if you're not funny to be funny?
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Just like it's a deep belief that you are in control of your life and you are in control of your outcomes. Because then it's like almost the antithesis of victimhood. Totally. And you don't want to be dealing with a friend who's chronically engaged in victimhood. You want heroes. And how many people have you taught this skill? of better communication and better connections to in the last decade?
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He's just passing on other people's funny.
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But that does make him funny because he knows how to select funny. Because I've got a friend who sends like the worst GIFs.
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They're like the never funny ones. But doesn't it make you laugh? What do you mean? The GIFs are so strange. Oh my God, what a sad soul. I've got one friend, my friend Ash, he sends fire GIFs. But I've got this other friend who I shan't name.
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No, just in case everyone's listening.
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We've all got a friend that sends, like, the bad meme, and they drop it in the chat, and everyone's like... Thumbs up. You know?
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I love them, but I think, could they improve their meme game? Yeah, like, I wouldn't take the risk. I haven't hit any fire emojis in a long time. I wouldn't be, by conviction.
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Do you think you can learn to be funny? Yeah.
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And touch. Is that a cue of interest?
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Only you can pull off high fives.
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Like, I don't know whether this is a British thing or not, but if I started high fiving people in meetings, people would think I was very strange. Yeah.
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No, I think people have like a model of you. Okay, okay. I think they understand like the upper limits of your enthusiasm when you're excited, you know, your playfulness. I think high-fiving. It's outside your bubble. Jemima. Do you know Jemima out there? Of course. She could high-five. She'd get away with it. Of course.
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There you go.
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400,000 students? Yes.
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Jack.
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They do. Yeah, yeah. I still like steel jokes from British movies.
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And what is like the essence of what they're trying to get? Because obviously a skill is a path to something that they want. What is the thing that they want?
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Micro expressions. Yes. Okay. I feel like when I ask you a question, every question is your favorite question.
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Okay, good.
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Why?
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Can you make me a master communicator?
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Let's do it then.
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The first place I want to start is with first impressions and how one can make a great first impression. Because first impressions are like, I make them all day, every day. When I meet people on the podcast, in business... in the street, at the gym. Someone might listen to the show, they come up to me. So I'm constantly trying to think about how to make a better first impression.
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Vanessa Van Edwards, welcome back. The first place I want to start is can we change who we are?
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Thank you.
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Thank you.
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Because from the work that I've read of yours, they really matter, right? They really matter. They really matter. How much?
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It builds though, doesn't it, with relationships? Do you think there's any turning back? Because people will think about the people they know in their lives and there'll be some relationships where they've kind of built up contempt over time. So the minute you see this person again, you're already kind of on edge. You're probably already smirking, eye rolling, whatever.
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Can we change? I guess this is a question that a lot of people... Well, it's quite foundational to learning from you and listening to you is this deep belief that we can change who we are. Because so many of us think that we're kind of stuck in our personalities and that they are rigid and that they come from our trauma, our childhood, our genetics.
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But as it relates to my personality, I guess, what is a personality? And can I change my personality? Should I change my personality?
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Can you give me the definition of those five?
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Jack just said I was a control freak, though.
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So in terms of finding a partner?
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What would you be looking for?
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Okay, so someone who is spontaneous, wants to try new things, new experiences, versus someone who just wants to sit at home and do the same old things, go to the same restaurant.
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I love risking it for the best.
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No, not me.
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Do you think if I'm building a company, I should look for people that are equal in openness to me or should I look for counterbalances? That's it. Okay. God, they're going to frustrate me.
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True.
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That's very true. That's so interesting.
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Yeah, you've lost me.
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Yeah.
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I mean, all the things you just described, I'm absolutely none of those things.
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But I like detail in work. Like I like work to be great and like us to care about details, but I'm not like organized in the way that you described.
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No.
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I wish I was more like that.
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Yes.
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So I'm sat there looking like a loser.
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Is there an element of neurodivergence here as well? Because I'm thinking if someone has ADHD or...
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Are you like this off camera? Like if I asked your husband what you're like, if I said to your husband, do an impression of Vanessa, show me what that impression would look like. Vanessa at home.
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How many episodes have we got to do before you do the frozen soundtrack?
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High extroverts. Yeah. Yeah. What am I? You're middle.
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Hmm.
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I think if I was more extroverted, I would be a better leader. I think my business would be more successful.
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Because I think you'd find it easier to form new relationships.
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Yeah, I know those people.
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Yeah.
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Yeah. I tend to find someone that's very agreeable. They, especially in the context of business, when you're trying to figure out what the correct answer is, you have a problem and you're trying to pass out what the correct answer is. You never end up going to them because they will say either what they think you want to hear, or they'll just take whatever your idea was.
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You never get good feedback from an agreeable person.
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Never get honesty. Exactly.
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You don't want your CFO to be agreeable.
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Is there a gender stereotype here?
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So women are typically higher in worrying.
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And yes, people. And people pleasing.
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And men are typically lower in worrying and less likely to care about people pleasing.
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So if I'm sat listening to this conversation right now and I'm sat next to somebody and I'm like, I think they might be a narcissist. Oh, no. Yes. And I'll turn to them now. So if you're sat next to somebody who thinks they're narcissists, just turn to them and say, hey, we should do this personality test on Vanessa's website.
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What score on the personality test would I be looking for to spot a narcissist? Oh, goodness.
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Someone did a study on that?
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And you said at the start of the conversation, certain personality traits correlate with longevity.
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Well, I'd say if you're high conscientious, Then you're going to live pretty long. Number one. Because you're not going to take many risks. You're not going to fuck up health.
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I'm going to say high extroversion because you make more friends. That's it. You have a partner.
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Extroverts live longer.
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You tell me.
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It's like, I know people like that. I feel sorry for them.
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What about optimism and pessimism?
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Okay.
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Did you hear about that study? A study in 2015 where they looked at the blood test results of extroverts found that they had stronger immune responses than introverts.
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I was reading about something a couple of years ago as well that showed that if you have stronger social connections, it's like an insulator of stress. Yes. So if you're lonely and you experience stress, you physiologically feel it worse.
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Okay, so for anyone that can't see you, you've got both of your hands out and your chin resting in the middle of them.
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Yeah.
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Which means?
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Is it important for me to know someone else's personality type when I meet them?
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I'm, like, overthinking it now. He, like, didn't shake my hand. I was, like, overthinking it because I was going to do something. What were you going to do? Don't do anything crazy. Okay, okay.
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I usually do this as well, so sometimes I do this.
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That's a really interesting thing. Like you get a vibe of people when you meet them.
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Yeah, it's so real, isn't it?
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This is so true. I did something the other night actually with the team. Do you remember that thing we did the other night? I probably shouldn't say it. But I went to a place which I'm like really uncomfortable in. Oh, why'd you do that? Because they told me I had to go.
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I hated every minute of it.
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And I looked at myself in the photos after. I was like, fucking hell, you're having a terrible time.
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You really don't want to be.
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Yeah, it's so important. You can't fake it very easily, can you?
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And there's one way that I kind of understand what I think about a person is my vibe. Because it's so interesting doing this podcast. I've met hundreds and hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of people. And within the first five seconds, I can feel them. Yes.
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And I don't know how to explain it other than, it's almost funny because I sit in my little room doing my research and then I'll come out, I walk around the corner and within like three to five seconds, I know whether we're good to go and we're ready and we're calm or if there's something off.
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Yeah.
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That's something off.
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Okay, so let me show you some profile photos. I would love to see. And you tell me what they're giving. Oh, right. Okay. What is this giving?
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We have a closing tradition, as you know, on this podcast, where the last guest leaves a question for the next, not knowing who they're leaving it for. And the question that's been left for you is, what are you doing on a daily basis to improve the life of someone else? And how can you serve others better?
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Vanessa. You are an extremely rare force in this art form.
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You really are. It's so funny on the podcast when I love the conversation I have with somebody and I walk away with it feeling like I need to watch it back again and take notes because there's so many new concepts that feel so valuable to me. But then to see the way that the world reacted to you.
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Unbelievable. It was insane.
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It's the most downloaded audio episode we've ever had of all time. So it means that's probably another six or seven million people or something.
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You deserve it.
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It's a special gift. Thanks. It's blown my mind how desperate and hungry people are for this information. Yes. Vanessa, thank you so much for being here again. I really appreciate you. And thank you for the, you had a profound impact on our show. You brought millions of new people to our show that had never listened before. So we owe you tremendously. And thank you for what you're doing.
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You're a very unique person. You have all the right balance of like wisdom, articulation. You're challenging, but in the best possible way. So, and you're weird and you know you are, and you own it, which makes it,
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admirable endearing and a force for for change because so many other people out there are struggling to step into their own sort of weird authentic selves Vanessa thank you so much for being so generous with your time it's wonderful to see you again thank you thank you for the from the gazillions of people that stopped me in the streets and in the gyms and everywhere I went and sent me messages and just like overwhelmed me with this like wave of appreciation because of that episode and shared it with their friends like crazy thank you on behalf of all of them too please keep doing what you're doing okay yeah I will thank you
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The hardest conversations are often the ones we avoid. But what if you had the right question to start them with? Every single guest on the Diary of a CEO has left behind a question in this diary. And it's a question designed to challenge, to connect and to go deeper with the next guest. And these are all the questions that I have here in my hand.
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On one side, you've got the question that was asked, the name of the person who wrote it. And on the other side, if you scan that, you can watch the person who came after who answered it. 51 questions split across three different levels, the warm-up level, the open-up level and the deep level. So you decide how deep the conversation goes.
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And people play these conversation cards in boardrooms at work, in bedrooms, alone at night. and on first dates, and everywhere in between. I'll put a link to the conversation cards in the description below. You can get yours at thediary.com.
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Correct.
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What about this guy? Profile photo.
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What about this chap? All right. This is a dating app profile photo.
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Dee, what do you think?
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Does that apply to real life too, the sunglasses point? Like, does it disconnect us from people?
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Yes.
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Yeah, like they can.
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There's no question. So... If he was involved in 35 murders, as the FBI suggests, do you think he was better off behind bars? What I'm getting at here really is if they framed him, was it a net benefit to society that they framed him?
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But it wasn't the case that you only killed your own.
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You've never talked about having to kill someone, have you? No. Why is that?
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I was wondering, because when I read that, I thought maybe it's because, you know, there might be legal retribution. Maybe it's because, you know, it's not nice for people to hear about. Maybe it's because there's still some kind of like rule where you can't say anything. But I wondered why. Maybe it's all of the above. I don't know.
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Some people do. I know. Not me. You got closer to the Mafia when your father was sent down. And this was the point where you decided not to go to school. The boss of the Colombo family brings you close, brings you under his wing. Do you have to do some kind of training or something to join the Mafia? Or is there any? Oh, you do?
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Why did you say that? Because you said the menial and then you said it's a violent life. Are you saying that in that sort of probationary two years, you had to do both of those things? You had to be involved in the violence and do the menial stuff?
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Yeah. When they made you pledge that if your mother was dying and you were at her bedside and they called you and asked you to do something, you'd leave, would you have left if your mother was dying?
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Yeah, other than that one. Nothing after that, but... What did it teach you about... people skills? Because you're around these bosses, these very talented men, you're seeing how they conduct themselves, do business, influence people, win friends. What did that phase of your life teach you about how to be a motivator slash manipulator of people?