Serena Kerrigan
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No, no, for sure. That's going to be the first word. No, I was thinking like all mirrors. Bad bitch. Literally all mirrors and just constantly like it's just crazy to me. And I'm like so stuck on this also because I'm writing a book, which I know we'll talk about. But it's like how is it that with every person in our life that we love – the act of love is nurturing and hyping up.
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But then we just don't do it to ourselves. We're not taught to look in the mirror and do that same thing. So no wonder we're all fucked up and not confident. It's such an easy... And so people, we pay for tons of therapy, which I obviously love. And we do the TikTokification of everything and the Botox and the Ozempic and all that. But when you really... It boils down to it.
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And by the way, I love all those things. But when it boils down to it, the thing that actually will give you... self-love and confidence is literally the reflection of yourself and speaking. And that is free, painless, take five minutes, and if you could do it every day, you will become a different person. So you know when you're like, are you the girl at the party that does that?
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I've literally dragged bitches to the mirror and I'm like, talk to yourself right now, make eye contact right now. But for me, I didn't like the word affirmations because I'm like – I would never say to my best friend, like, you're worthy. You're beautiful. I would be like, you're a fucking bad bitch. Like, you go own that interview today.
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No, I know.
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Like, it's about the dialogue that you're having with your best friend. Yeah. Instead of saying, I am beautiful. No, you. Yeah, yeah. Because there's also this, like, distance that happens. Like, when you look at yourself in the mirror, it's not you. Right. Because I think a lot of the times people – People think when I tell them to do this, they're like, but I don't believe it.
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I'm like, okay, you're not saying it to yourself.
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It is the Serena fucking go. Oh, my God.
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Right. So I went to Duke and then I was a video producer at Refinery29 for three and a half years, which is amazing. And that's how I like – did so much on camera stuff, interviewing, everything. And then I was building my brand in tandem and I was like, you know what? I'm going to go do it. I want to be like the Oprah of confidence. I want to monetize this.
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I want to make people, I really feel like I could, global domination vibes. Like I could figure this out. Like I have a strong message and I want to, And literally like two weeks before lockdown, that's when I quit. And then you quit before lockdown, right before lockdown, like right before. So then I was like stuck in my apartment, Lower East Side.
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And I'm like, so then I started doing the confidence coaching and then I was single and dating and I was just like, fuck it. Like, I'm going to go live on Instagram. Like, I'm just going to go live. And then I was talking about being single and like, what are people supposed to do if they're single during this time? And then it spun into a dating show called Let's Fucking Date.
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I dated 50 men in 2020 on Instagram Live. I did three seasons of the show. Wait, was it via Zoom? All Instagram Live. So, like, people were watching in real time.
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It was me on the couch and the guy on the couch in his house. It was a lockdown. I could just watch you guys. Yeah, it was crazy. It was like you were a fly on the fucking wall. Wait, I remember this.
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Yeah. And it was three seasons like the second season Bumble sponsored it like a month of episodes where, you know, like all the guys were from Bumble. Like it became like a real show. And I think what was important to me is that all the days were blind. So I hired a producer to vet everyone. And I went on. They'd be like, username Zach1352 is ready. And I would accept him.
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Oh, my God. Extremely. I feel like at this point, I've dated enough where I can call myself an expert. Yeah.
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And it was completely real, authentic, not produced. I wanted to do The Bachelor if I was The Bachelorette, the producer, the makeup artist, the gaffer, the lighting, everything. And it was such a great experience. And I think that people were also really into it because... I mean, how often do you really see someone on a first date like that? Where it's so unfiltered. It's live. No, no.
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Like, never.
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I had no idea. Not the first date, the first moment. No, but it's crazy. It's so crazy. And it was like basically blind. It was so weird that that happened. But I think that that really taught me a lot about dating and just like, I think so much, and maybe I can give you a little advice here about it, I'm not sure, but I think that we just go into dates...
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with such a preconceived notion of who someone is because of the photos, because of who they're following, because of... We have so much information that actually, like, we don't need. And so I would say to people that are dating, like, go on that blind date. Like, what's the worst thing that could happen? Yeah. Like, either it's potential... It's for the plot. You have a great story. Yeah.
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Penis, you know. Or it's practice.
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100%.
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Yeah, I just I just don't do it. Also, like my boyfriend is six years younger than me. First of all, my dating apps were set to like older always. They weren't even my age. I wouldn't even like have skipped through him. I wouldn't even come up. But I think that if I'd known that ahead of time, I would have been like, absolutely not. Right? Yeah, yeah. He's too young or something.
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But he literally acts like he's 40 years old. He's the most mature man I know, literally. So I think it's like, how can you really limit yourself? Because who someone is online is not who they are in real life. And straight men are just obviously notoriously for having horrific social media.
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And I just want to tell them, like, you're hot. Why is your social? Look at that. When, like, a girl is just, when your friend is like, let me see a photo. And you're like, oh, yeah, yeah.
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Like, I have a little bit maybe, like, every once in a while. But, like, no, it's so funny. Have you watched any of them? I don't know. I showed them, like, a recap and stuff like that. It's so funny. I mean, I had, like, bleach blonde Bob. I had tarantula eyelashes. Like, I don't think you understand.
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Like, I thought, like, I bought into that thick eyelash extended thing, like, to a degree that, like, I couldn't see for, like, a couple years. Like, it was, like, heavy on my eye. And... I was a whole different person, but I really think like it taught me so much about dating and dating as an empowered woman and like really being open minded. Truly. Did you get.
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Yeah.
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It's so stupid. By the way, what do you guys think? There's so many people we know that the guy is six years older and people don't fucking say anything. That's what I'm saying.
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Right.
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They treat you like a queen.
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I mean, I don't think about men enough to care. I don't care what men do. But I think that it's great that you're open. And I think, yeah, you miss an entire pool of men if you have a preconceived notion about age. I mean, it really is like we all know men, not just emotionally unavailable, but immature. That like they're so immature if they're older. Yeah.
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They're immature if they're younger or vice versa. So you just have to be open-minded. They're very, very sweet. I like the younger guys. No, I'm telling you, dating a younger guy, the respect they have for you, they admire you.
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Pre-pandemic? Your face just dropped a little bit. I was in my 20s. Yeah. Pre-pandemic, I was fucking. I was a slut. As I should be. By the way, that's what you should be doing in your 20s. Yes. That's what your 20s are for. But post after the dating show. After the dating show, so that was a year, you know, on live and then the world opened up and I'm like, we're not sitting on our couch.
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And you obviously light up every room you walk into.
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We're actually going to go out on dates. But I really cemented my brand as like this dating person and then I really started to do it more on TikTok and like, you know, I would go on a date and then I would go straight to my phone and talk about it and I think that that Became problematic because, like, is my love life, you know, my job or not? And I think that that is a problem.
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Like, that was difficult because I think that when guys would go on dates, they would obviously check my social media and be like, fuck, are you going to talk about me? Are you going to post about me? And I was like, yeah. And then I realized that... was I really ready for a relationship if I'm doing that?
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And then when I met Felix, pretty randomly, I made this really just conscious decision where I'm like, this is my person and I want to protect our relationship. I'm like, I'm not airing it on social media. Although then I hard-launched him a month into dating, but it still doesn't matter.
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So with the dating show, after the first season, literally thousands and thousands of people were tuning in. And relative to my following at the time, it was pretty remarkable. People were watching it with their parents at home, or they were talking about it on Slack the next day with their coworkers. It became a real community thing and aspect because of the comment section.
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So people were like, really, it was just a very interactive show, which I think is hard to reproduce not on social media. And for the second season, obviously people were like, you have to bring it to a Netflix or like a streamer. And I was like, by the time I pitch it and everything like it will be in 2025. Like, yeah, I was like, this is a now thing. But I said I thought I was so interested.
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I was like, why are people what does it mean to have a TV show? Like, what is the validity of a TV show? Because to me, this is a TV show. And so then for the second season, I was like, OK, we need to up it. Like, I need to get hair and makeup. We're going to do looks. We're going to have a theme song. We're going to do like all these different like interviews after with like the different.
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or like The Bachelors or whatever. And that's when I went to sponsors and I was like, went to Bumble and I'm like, you buy out a month of episodes. I went to like a champagne brand. I'm like, I'm going to drink the champagne on the live. So that was really fun. And I'm obviously like, I love branding. So I really like love the challenge of like, how do we fit a brand into this world?
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Oh yeah, I know. And how's that going for you? Okay.
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And then that second season is when I started the card games. And that's really when it became fun. profitable, for real.
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Literally. I love it. Wait, should we play it a little bit? Yeah, let's play. So the first one's called Let's Fucking Date, which I literally created because when I would go on these live dates, I had to break the ice very fucking quickly. I couldn't be like, so what school did you go to? No, I had to be like, what kind of soup are you? What kind of what? Soup? What kind of soup are you?
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What kind of soup are you?
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Delicious. I love. What would you be? I'd be French onion soup because I have, like, layers. I'm sticky. I'm a performative. Like, I'm just, like, a big performance. You know? But I have layers. I'm, like, sweet and soft on the inside. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. But anyway, so that's basically what happened. And so I was kind of doing a compilation of all these questions.
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Women were messaging me and being like, yo, can you send me some? Like, a lot of them were virtual dating at the time. And I was like, what if there's a way for me to be on dates without physically being there? And so I created this card game. And then it spun into this one that I just gave you, which is Let's Fucking Fuck.
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We also have one that's called Let's Fucking Play that's for masturbation and self-love. Then we have one for Let's Fucking Go for playing with friends. It's platonic.
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Yeah, you can masturbate with your friends.
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You can mix them all up.
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And you have one big night. Okay, how do we do it? We just ask a question? Yes, you can pull one. There's four bases. First base, second base, third base, home run. Wait, I'm obsessed with this. Okay. If you could describe yourself... If you could use one word to describe yourself in bed, what would it be? Adventurous.
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Through the podcast?
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Okay, you pick one.
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Ooh, like anything by SZA. Ooh, yeah. So fucking good. Yeah, yeah. Why can't I think of any of her songs right now? Me neither. It's so good. It's so good. Like I literally put SZA on and that's like a good. Yeah, yeah. What would be yours?
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Oh, yeah. Yeah.
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Once I was with a guy who just did Frank Sinatra and it was so hot. I was in high school. It's up to you.
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Oh, for sure. But there was no intention going into it. I feel like you kind of have to, like, let it happen. You know what I mean? I'm being too desperate? Well, I just don't think you should invite guests if you want to sleep with them. Unless you want to sleep with me, which, like. Yeah. That we're totally going to do. It's a completely different story.
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You will have the best experience of your life if you play this through. I'm just letting you know. Really? People have literally broken beds. They've gotten pregnant, so just use protection. One person proposed to their partner with this game. Give me the card back. This is when are you the most you.
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Happy gray sweatpants season. I'm so happy we're here. Also a backwards baseball cap.
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Like. Whenever I tell Felix to wear one, he's like, you're still into that, like, Duke Lacoste shit. I'm like, no, no, no. He's wearing a little bit. Like, you're like, you're into that frat boy shit. He's like, no. And I'm like, no, no, no. Like, please.
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And my face is on them in case you want it. You just forget who I am. Yes. I'm right here. I'm right there with you.
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As you're fucking. Hope you're having great sex.
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Sometimes you do 20 milligram XR. Okay. That's fine. Yeah. Good. I mean, in this generation, this ADHD, I mean, how could we not? Like, we need something to focus. Yeah. It's more just, like, I always wanted to write and make TV. And, like, I've always wanted to do that. My parents are both in the industry. So, like, I grew up very much wanting to do that.
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March 22nd.
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I'm an Aries. You're an Aries. You're the baby of the Zodiac and you're an only child? Wait, I'm the first of the Zodiac. Oh yeah, is that what you mean? You're the baby. Yeah, the baby. Oh, I think of it, that's so Aries. See? I'm the first. See? Yeah, yeah.
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So my boyfriend has a podcast. He, at the time, DM'd me on Instagram and was like, hey, I'd love to have you on. And I was like, yeah, message my publicist. Did you think he was cute? I thought he was cute. I just thought it was like, wow, straight men never invite me on their podcast. Right. I'm not their demo. So I was like, this is good.
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Am I okay? Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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So much pressure on me. Like, I couldn't even die, okay? Like, hello? You can't leave them like that. Absolutely not. So, I mean, for me, the book, Let's Fucking Date, is going to be, I'm writing it right now. Oh, my God. How's that? It's just, it's so great to see that it came from a live Instagram live vaping show, which is why I tell people, like, I think that.
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There's so much fear in starting a new project or a business or something. And I'm like, just start with the idea. I started with going live on Instagram, asking someone's friend to go on a date with me on Instagram Live. And then that became another episode. And then that became a show. And then from there, I was like, you know what?
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I'm going to write all these questions out and put them on a card game. And I'm going to order 250, and we'll see if I can sell them. That became a million-dollar business with four card games. Everything just starts... I think there's this idea of success. It has to be... You have to all figure it out. I never thought I was going to write a book. I mean, I was an English major, so potentially.
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Thank God that degree came to use. Because those degrees usually suck English. So bad. So bad. But I think that for me, I dated so much, and I never felt... I had a lot of imposter syndrome of like... I can't write a book about dating. I don't even, I don't have a part. Am I really the one to get, when you said the dating and sex expert, I'm like, is that me? But I'm like, you know what?
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I've dated a lot, I've fucked a lot, I've gotten fucked over a lot. I really like, I have a lot of experience and knowledge and I genuinely want to give it and pass it on and to help women. And the point of the book is not to tell you like, This is what you should wear. Like, this is how you should, like, text.
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It's really, like, rooted in you are the main fucking character. And if you feel so good about yourself and enjoy dating as a fun thing. Yes. Because every person I talk to are like, oh, dating sucks. It's so hard. I'm like, guess what? Then it's going to suck and it's going to be hard. People say that, like, dating sucks in New York.
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I'm not committing. It is what you make of it.
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It is what you make of it. I know firsthand how shitty it can be. Yes. But if your branding experience is not fun, then it's not going to be fun. And really the book, what it's going to do is it's going to reinvigorate you.
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Like when I pitched it to the publishers, one woman was like, I'm literally married and I deadass want to be single after reading your proposal because you're making it seem so fun. I'm like, because it is.
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So I was just like email my publicist and like, you know, who knows? And then they said, yeah, you should do it. Great. I remember getting ready that morning. I remember this day so well. I got ready that morning and I was about to get on the subway because I knew it was in Brooklyn. And I just get a random text on my phone being like, hey, it's Felix. Like your car is like outside waiting for you.
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It's a big part. It's a big part.
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It's actually the most important part. Yeah. So I'm writing right now and it just feels like such a great extension and elevation of the brand.
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Don't do it. So I just paid 50 grand and got a ghostwriter. I was thinking about going that route, but ultimately I just wanted my own voice. I'm like, Yo, like I need to just spit it and yeah, you know what I found really helpful is just like speaking it out loud Yeah, yeah transcribe.
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For sure, it's a craft.
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I really, well, you just, thank you so much. And what you just said about the fact that you just ripped off, like, you said, girls, Sex and the City, Gossip Girl. When I say, like, when I watch girls, and I was like, I want to make the girls of my generation... Is this that? No. But like it is a starting.
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It's my first foray into filmmaking and show running and like creating a show. And like it's what I've always wanted to do since I was a little girl. And so it's like my first. And the fact that, you know, you enjoyed it, it means so much to me. Like I it's literally always what I wanted to do. You know what I mean?
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Is it surreal? Is it exciting? Is it?
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it doesn't feel real but it's also kind of like thank fucking god like yeah finally i'm not one of those people and i feel like women have this tendency that we're like oh my god i can't believe this happened to me like it's just like what can't believe my life i'm like i can believe my fucking yeah i mean yeah i'm always like i like i'm always like i thought i would have got podcast like during covid you know exactly like what exactly it was a little late but whatever so it's like for me it's like
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This was three years in the making, and it was definitely, like, uphill. It was an uphill battle. Like, it's not easy to get something on TV, as you know.
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And so it's just, like... For me, it's the beginning, and it was... It's really like, you have this moment where you're like, oh my god, I've always said I wanted to be a writer and write a show, and then you're like, holy fuck, I have to write a show. And it's the same with the book. It's like, okay, now you have to go do it.
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It's so scary, but then it's like, I kept telling myself, if you weren't ready, you wouldn't have the opportunity. There's a reason this is happening now for you. You are ready to do this.
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And everything is just like building onto the next thing. And so I hope now I can like write another show and write a movie. I'm writing a movie right now. I had to put it on a pause for seconds. I have to do the fucking book. But yeah, but you should be in my movie. You should have a look at me in my movie. How's your acting skills?
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100%.
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But I think it's important to have a lot of things going at once. You do the same. You're not just waiting to film again. I feel like it's important to roll. Things take so much time.
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I, like, got in the car, and I remember he, like, had him. I expected my publicist to be waiting outside for me. Like, he wasn't. Like, I was like, why am I hiring you? No shit. But I was like, what? And Felix was outside of the podcast studio, like, on the street with his videographer. So literally the moment we meet is on camera. That's weird. That's weird. It was so weird.
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Absolutely. And it all, like, kind of, like, folds into each one. Like, I was just writing before I came here. And now I'm here and I'm talking to you, like, about certain things. I'm like, wow, this would be great for – that's the thing. Everything kind of – and I think also if you – it also connects to dating, which is why I always say you have to date more than one person at once.
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You have to date three at a time. Three at a time. Three at a time? Because – If not, you put all your eggs in one basket and then you get so much pressure and then you're not even really seeing them for who they are and you're like, it's that scarcity mindset.
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And I think that if you can really have your job but also have the side hustle and maybe you have a sub stack or you're doing TikTok or something else that can just express yourself in that way. And then you never know. As long as you're doing what you love, then the money will come.
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All I want you to do is have faith and trust that it's going to happen for you. That's all I care about. OK. Because you're so beautiful inside and out. And I've gotten I've had the pleasure of knowing you for some time. And I just want you to know the same way that you get everything else in your life. You're going to get this. That's all. I believe you when you say it.
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Let him hear me.
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But you have it now forever. No, I'm obsessed. And then I remember getting to the room, and, like, right before we started, it was just, like, this instant magnetic just, like, pull. And the whole podcast episode, like, we're flirting.
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I have a soft spot for Drake. Like, I think it is a little sus that he's, like, never, I mean, has he really ever been in a relationship? I don't think so. That's sus.
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But I would like for you to go on a date with him. I don't think I'd want to date Aubrey. Okay.
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Okay, so, yes. He's born and bred New Yorker. We love that. Incredible actor. Speaks French. We love. Which, you know, I love a French man. Yes, you do. I say absolutely yes, Timothee, but I think he might be taken. Okay.
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Right? And six minutes in, I basically was, like, dating someone at the time who was, like, super toxic. But at the time, I was moving to L.A. I was done with love. I'd been dating in New York all my 20s. I was single. I'm born and raised in Manhattan. Okay, wow. Maybe I need to switch it up and, like, go somewhere geographically different.
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I'm not sure if we're going the actor route. Right. You know what I mean? Like, I don't know. I don't know about that. Actors are hard. I dated one. Have you ever dated an actor? No comment. Love that. Sometimes I feel like they're chameleons. They're like. Are they? I haven't dated that many. It's just. They're like. They're actors. Like they're very good at becoming other people. Ooh.
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So are they really. Are you acting? Also like. This is a thing. Like. It's so hard when you're acting in a love movie or story to not fall in love with your co-star. Oh really? Yeah. It's like a thing. Did you fall in love with your co-star in your new series? I did. Yeah. It's really hard to not.
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I don't know if you and a cartoon would really match. How would the sex be? I've had men tell me that I'm a real life cartoon. That's a question in my card game. If you were to fuck a cartoon character, who would it be? This is my favorite question.
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And I was really leaning towards L.A., which I don't even think was a good idea. Bad idea for dating. And I can't drive. So, like, I don't really know where I was. But I just, like, I think that I had made peace with, like, my partner person isn't in New York. And you know when they say, like, it happens when you least expect it. It's so annoying. I'm so sick of that. I'm so sick of it.
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Love you. Oh, no. Oh, no.
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Can't wait.
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It feels so wrong. Like, it just does. Really? Yeah. And in some ways, that makes it feel right. Does that make sense? Yeah, yeah, yeah. It feels so wrong. Like, it's so wrong. It's just like, oh, my God.
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Bye, thank you.
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But it's so true. But, like, look what happened. Like, I had no intention. No. I just was there to do a podcast. And so I was dating a person at the time who was super toxic. It was an actor. Slash SoulCycle instructor. Like, he was horrible to me. Horrible. But, like, I don't want to offend my boyfriend. But, like, he was good in some areas. But he was, like, super toxic.
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And when I went on the podcast with Felix, I felt so comfortable. And I was like, okay, I need to talk to you about this. Like, I was asking for advice. And I basically was saying, like, I'm struggling with love because I think that I'm too much.
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And he said, for the right person, you'll be the perfect amount. I literally got wet. I literally, yeah, that. And I literally just go, are you hitting on me? I'm down. And he was like, no. And I was like, oh, okay. Wait, he wasn't hitting on you?
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A hundred percent. He was like, I'm just, let's keep it professional. I was like, yeah, for sure, for sure. You're like... Hello. And then at the end of the podcast, I was like, he was like, you're so big on manifesting. I was like, for sure. Like in two years, I'll definitely be in a relationship. And he was like, yeah, with who? And I was like, I don't know. I guess we'll have to see.
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I'll bring him to the podcast. And he was like, yeah. And like it was him, which is so crazy. Three weeks later, we were official.
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Crazy.
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I manifested it. I think that I manifest everything I want. I really do. It's actually kind of like voodoo and crazy. But it's not because people are like, what are your manifesting techniques? I'm like, write it down. Say it out loud. Vision board. Yeah. I think that people, especially women, are afraid to say what they want out of fear that people will judge. Right.
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And it's like about taking up space. It's like if I say I'm going to win an Oscar, who gives a fuck if you don't think I'm going to win an Oscar?
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Also, who cares if I don't even win one? Although we know I will. But it's like, if you just say things enough and you really believe them with the same intensity that you do that, like, my name is Serena. I'm going to meet my partner. I'm going to be successful. If you believe that and you keep saying that out loud.
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So that's the thing. Like, yes with love. It's just, I think that.
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You just said it. So you're saying not with love. So you just created the manifestation that it's not going to happen for you. Yeah. And your words become your reality. So it is going to happen with love. It just hasn't happened yet because for whatever reason, you're not ready. Yeah, yeah. The universe is going to, it's going to happen when it's supposed to happen. Yes.
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Perfect. So that needs to be applied with your love life. Oh. That's it. You're just like, I'm going to find my person. The reason I have it is because I have all this other shit to do.
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And I have to work on myself. Okay. Yeah. I need to find – You're not going to be – I'm sorry. Like respectfully, you're not going to be the one bitch that doesn't find their person. Yeah, yeah. You're too beautiful, successful, and smart. Sorry.
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So sorry.
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She does.
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It's up to you. What do you want? I want to get married. So then that's what you're going to say that you're going to.
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You got to ring because I want a fatty. I want a big ass rock. Save up. Start saving. Yeah, I need to save up.
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Yes, go Devils.
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Specifically. So hot. They're so hot. Yeah, yeah. Favorite. But that you went to. Can I just say that, like, none of the class pairs, like, wanted to hook up with me. And, like, fast forward, like, five years later. Are they all sliding into your LinkedIn?
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No, I run into a couple of them, and I'm like, you peaked. At school. Sorry, T. Yeah, yeah.
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Botox, yeah.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, I called myself Serena fucking Kerrigan when I walked into Duke. I told everyone I legally changed my name, which, like, I'm surprised people bought it. I thought they were... Like the bursar's office you told? Okay, maybe not that, but I just, like, told everyone. But I really... Today, actually, someone asked me on my Instagram stories.
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They were like, I feel like if I start my business, I'm going to get judged. Everyone's going to be judging me. And I'm just like, I remember that feeling of that self-consciousness all the time. Social media wasn't even much of a thing when we were in college. But just always feeling like if I don't look a certain way, if I don't say the right thing, then people are going to judge me.
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And that in and of itself is such a horrible way to live. It's so paralyzing. And guess what? No one gives a fuck about you.
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No, actually, like, think about the last three Instagram stories you watched yesterday. Like, riddle them off to me. I don't know. See? Yeah. Like, we're so obsessed with, like, the sharpness of our image and how smooth our skin. No one gives a fuck about the content that we're posting. No. People are really obsessed with themselves.
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And we have people, and I'm sure your listeners do, too, that have people in their life that, like, if we do fuck up, if we do something that's extremely cringy that maybe we should rethink about, they're going to, like. Exactly, yeah. People that tell me. if I'm an asshole or not. Of course.
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You've got your people. Yeah, they keep me in check. And also, you might make a mistake and you take accountability and move on. And then that's it. Exactly. So for me, it was like, how do I build this persona or just this character, like a Lady Gaga, Sasha Fierce, like something where I can just be like, you're SFK, you're a bad bitch, let's fucking go, no one gives a fuck.
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And that persona really helped me and then when I graduated college and left and started building a brand, I realized that this idea can really be a money-making machine. But more than that, I really felt like I could help people. I really felt like if this worked for me, this is gonna work for everyone else.
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literally coach 150 women in 2020 who like were paying to Zoom with me and like it was amazing like I coached from ages 14 to 60 and every single woman thought that their insecurity and their sense of self was so unique to them and that there was something wrong with them and I'm like no everyone is born with confidence we just get so infected by
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society our peers just like this person that we're supposed to be that we don't feel worthy enough and like I think it's being an adult is about unlearning that and disinfecting that wound and going back to who you really are which is like a bad bitch yeah so you are oh my god I feel like a bad bitch when you tell me that right you are and I think that the one thing you can do
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to continuously remind yourself of that is look in the mirror and talk to yourself like you're best friend.
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And hype yourself up because we're so fucking critical to ourselves. Yeah, it's horrible. But we're... If I said to you, like, I feel ugly right now, you'd be like... Fuck you, you look so hot. There you go. But if you felt that about yourself, you would spiral over and over again and you'd just say it. And that's the key. That's that switch.
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The Queen of Confidence is an amazing brand that I, like, literally created as an Instagram bio in, like, 2018. I think that there's this confusion that, like, because I call myself that and it's my brand, that I must be, like, this confident girl, like, looking down at, you know, the peasants being like, no. It's more like I found tools to make me feel empowered and good about myself.
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Hi, my queen.
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And I'm on the top of the hill. And the view is so good that I'm like, yo, guys, come up, come up. So that's what it is. Like, it's really, like, from a place of, like, pulling people up. And, of course, I feel like shit all the time. But it's about, like... being kind and nurturing to myself the way I would if you said to me, I don't feel good. I had to wear different pants. My love life.
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All the things that you just said to me, I'm immediately like, I know what to say to you. But it's like, how can you literally just regurgitate that back to yourself? Right, back to yourself. All the time. Do you want to have kids? Yes.
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Oh my God. Jesus Christ.
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For the nursery, I want to have all mirrors.