Queen Naija
Appearances
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Girl. They're like, well, if you got a better life than me, then you got to take some sort of heat.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
you'll respond to the like the negative thing you gonna clap back but then it'll be like a thousand comments like oh you're so beautiful you're so sweet but then they be like bitch yo your lace lifting oh my god i have to really i have to still like really work on it that's a mindset like honestly when i'm about to now when i'm about to respond to someone i'll be like is that very superstar of me no it's not like is that what i'm trying to like
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
No, because then once you do that, it's like you're accessible. You know what I mean? And I'm trying to, I don't want to be that accessible to where people's like, yep, she saw my comment. If you write it, I don't want you to know if I ever saw it.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I've been trying to work on responding to good comments too.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I used to make it funny, too. Like, I used to, like, it would just be, they would write really long paragraphs. And if I say something just stupid and short, like, that's just, or I'll, like, I'll point out something about, like, I remember this girl. I shouldn't even bring that up. Never mind.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I went through your DMs, broke my heart to pieces. Okay, that's it. Ooh, I like that.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Yeah, I think I was looking through all of my requests. Okay, that's probably what it was. I was looking through my requests. And then I went, you know how you can go to the little part where it says verified or something like that? And so I saw it. I was like, oh, my God, how did I miss this? Yes, and I was like, oh, my God. I woke up. I was like, I screenshot it.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
It's not always... The world don't revolve around men all the time.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
And then a lot of times people will come on there and pretend they care about you. Or they'll say, oh, I'm praying for you. And they're not really praying for you. No. Mm-hmm.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
It was so public. Honestly, man, yeah. I didn't want a lot of things to be public, but when guys don't care, they'll do things publicly to embarrass you, and you have no choice but to, like, face it publicly. How did I get through it? I'm the kind of person where I usually don't like get... I don't have to... Well, I only had one bad breakup, obviously. So if I'm...
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I don't have to get through it after the breakup because I already got through it during the breakup. I leave mentally before I actually leave.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
So, yeah, I'm the kind of person that some people, some women will like, you know, leave and then come back and leave and go. I'm the kind of person I'm just going to stay until I don't.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Like, well, because once, yeah, because once I leave, like, so I didn't really have to.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Yeah, I don't really... I didn't really have to heal that much, like, afterwards. I was doing all my healing while I was, like, going through it. No, I'm not going to sit here and lie. I still... I feel like, because after that, you know, I ended up in another relationship rather quickly. It was really quick. So, I'm actually still healing...
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
not just from that relationship, but healing as a woman. We got like, like you said, everything is not about a man. There's like childhood traumas. There's like, yeah, there's like, so just trying to heal as a woman in general while being in a relationship, you know what I'm saying? It's like an everyday process. You don't, I don't think anyone ever completely heals.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
You know, he on the air because he got to do that. Yeah. You know, it's like, I don't know. It's just kind of... You know how, like... Well, I don't know if... Are you guys... You're not parents yet.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
But, like, as a mom, you get used to a baby crying. And then it's just like, you don't hear it. Sometimes you just blur it out. That's the same thing. I'm just, you know... But... I'm not going to say that I'm a very, like, silent sniper in a way. So I'm not going to, like, I'm never going to tell my plans or anything. But I got something. Yeah. I know that's right. Up my sleeve.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Yeah, up my sleeve. I'm not going to lie. We're going to pull out that truth card.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
And that's another thing, too. I was going to say, because the question was, what, do you heal privately or publicly? I have an outlet, and that's my music. So you're going to hear it in my music. Yeah. But sometimes you won't, because, like, I'll just be writing relatable stuff. But, like...
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
The music for me, being able to make it into something so beautiful and then I can watch people also like heal too while they're going through their stuff. It's like, it's so beautiful. Yeah. Sometimes, I'm sorry, this peach ring is just... Girl, that's what I said. She was over there talking about my mom, and I'm like, ooh.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I've had people... And this is so crazy. Like, I can't believe it sometimes. People will literally write me and be like, Queen, you literally... Your music stopped me from committing suicide. Or your music really got me through so many hard things like this breakup. And I was just... I'm like, how did my music... How did my story get you through that?
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
And that's why I also like... I'm going to take to God. God be putting us through things some... Well...
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Yeah, to be a vessel. Our struggle is not always just for us. It's for other people to see that you can get through it too. For sure. So yeah, that just makes me ultimately happy. I don't regret anything. I have no regrets about nothing.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Guess what, though? I'm doing it backwards because I started young having kids and now I literally have to go back to finding myself while still trying to navigate being the best mom I could be and maybe becoming a wife someday. You know what I'm saying? So still trying to really find myself and grow and see what I like. I'm doing everything backwards. So now I'm like, man, do I want more kids?
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Like, you know, I'm being questioned myself. I've always said, like, I really, really want a girl. But honestly, like, I came to terms that, like, thank you. I came to terms that, like, I think I would be okay if I didn't have any more kids. If my husband ever was like, you know, I want another child, then okay. But I want that to be, like, in my mid-30s. Okay, that's fair.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Left me on read. That's why I agree. I don't believe that girls are really girls' girls.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Yeah, I need a little bit of time to myself. I gotta, yeah, I gotta establish myself more. I gotta put this album out. I gotta do some acting. I gotta, I got plans.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
No, not anymore. So I will take accountability and say the reason why they even say that is because of me. In the past when I was so like, and not to say I'm not in love now, but when you're first in that relationship, you're so head over heels in the first like few years. It's like, I don't know. Like I put a lot of things about marriage in my songs. I talked a lot about marriage in interviews.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
And I am, and it hurts my feelings. Yeah. And it's like, dang, I should pull back or whatever, because I'm just a naturally friendly person. But yeah, that has happened to me actually recently.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
So people's just like, she wants marriage. Give it to her. But I had to sit back and think like, hold on, wait a minute. Yeah. I still need some time for myself because once you become a wife, that's a whole nother... That's a duty. Like, just like as a mom, that's a duty. I had to step back and I just realized this maybe a couple years ago, like... I can wait. I actually can wait, actually.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Like, no, seriously, because it's not like a rush thing. So I think people are taking a lot of old clips and things that I've said. I put my own foot in my mouth. I'm the reason why they do that. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. But they don't know, like I said, the growth that has happened, like, in my mind. And, like, you know, just really doing therapy and, like, being asked those questions.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Like, well, are you ready to be a wife? Is he ready to be a husband? That's the big one. Yeah. Is he ready to be a... Like, do I want to get married to somebody right now who's not ready to be a husband? And I'm not saying he's not, but we are honestly still working on ourselves.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
The best version, yes. And like, who wants to get married? And then it's just like, dang.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I got the ring, but now it's like, no, no. I'd rather, I think... Yeah, I think I'm okay. Yeah. Like, honestly. When the time is right.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Because I've been working on my album, and actually it's almost finished. And I was like, I would love to have you, like, what did I say? I think I said, I would love to have you, but let me know if you're interested. If you're not, it's okay. And I would have been okay if the person would have just been like, no, not interested, or no. Right. Red scene. I said, you know what?
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
You can't. That's another thing. Like, a lot of people be like, you know, well, submit and things like that. The leader of the house is supposed to be led by God. That's how it's God, the husband, the wife, and the kid. Yeah. That's the proper. So if, you know, and I'm on my journey, too. I'm on my path with God, too, just trying to really get close, trying to unlearn a lot of religiosity.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I grew up very religious. Okay. And now with me, it's more so about the relationship with God. And I'm not saying like, oh, yeah, well, I could just do whatever and still. No, but it's like, I have to like really be cultivated and everything like with God and figure out what he wants from me. Does he even want me to be married right now?
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
The stuff that they be pointing people out, they go through it, like you said, behind closed doors.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
They be taking their men back and everything for doing a bunch of stuff, and then you'll be called dumb for doing it. Okay. In public. But, like, come on, man.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I got to prepare myself to go off on you. I just seen your last one with Julian. You're like, y'all are beautiful. Y'all are, y'all are. Yeah. Thank you.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
A lot of trial and error, you know. I'm actually just now stepping into... more of the boss era. And I've always been a very, like, humble person. So I used to think, like, oh, I don't want to say boss because I don't want to feel like I'm being too uppity or whatever. Or braggy. But I had, like, it's very heartbreaking sometimes when you got to, like, take the lead in certain things.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
It's a learning journey. I'm not going to say I'm all the way there yet. Yeah, like, I'm just, I think, It comes with just really saying how you feel without holding back. Yes. Without holding back. That was my problem. Like, holding back because I don't want to hurt people's feelings. And like you said, in the business, you can't worry about feelings. Like, you can't take things personal.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
So I'm still actively learning, okay, like... You know, I can't just not do something because I feel like I'm talking in circles. I just can't not do something because I don't want to hurt someone's feelings, you know? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
You kind of have to do that as a woman sometimes. Oh, absolutely. Yeah, because like you said, they won't take you as serious.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
They should already have that, like, courtesy if not.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
That's why I feel like team building is, like, so important and, like, just having those genuine people around you. And, like, when people are genuine, too, they won't.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Yeah, they won't take advantage of you. But, you know, sometimes people do get comfortable and you have to, like, just tell them.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Yeah, that's embarrassing. Everything hurt my feelings. I was like, ooh, like, ouch.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
That's the thing, I just won't. Yeah. Like, yeah, I just won't. Actually, I'm good.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Anyone... Oh, I hate to say this. Anyone below me.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
But for some reason, I hate to say it like that, but the people that are just not in my shoes or like... They look at me like that. But I have been acknowledged by the greats.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Yeah, I have been in, like... I've had conversation with greats and people that have started from the bottom and made it here. And they speak into me and they believe in me, you know? So, honestly, I don't... Anyone, yeah, anyone who says, oh, but she's just a YouTuber. No one has ever done that to me that, like... That matters. That just hasn't been in the comments. Yeah. Mm-hmm.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Yeah, I hope they don't take that wrong. No, I mean, but it's the truth. Yeah, like, yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I think that's what's going to happen with me. Even as I'm, like, approaching my 30s, like, I just, I don't know where the switch came. But, like, something's changing.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
And then, I mean, the person just should be able to know how to answer the question and be like, you know what? I don't really want to.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
See, I pick and choose with, I'm more serious and stern about certain things than other things. Like, when it comes to my music, I am so, like, I don't play. Like, I really don't play when it comes to, like, production credits, all of that stuff. I don't, I don't. But it's really the things that I truly care about.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
No, that was people assuming, taking small clips. I was... I was fine. I was fine. I came there to work. Yeah. The thing was, like, DG was like, pull up, we gonna make a song together. Mm-hmm. And I don't usually go on, like, people's streams or anything like that. I'm used to coming on, like, podcasts or whatever, but not streams. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Where, like, it's a bunch of different people, like, pulling up. I was just there to work, and, like, I was just vibing out, like... I don't know. If I look serious, it's because I was focused on, like, the music. Like, I wasn't there to be drinking and partying and having, like, you know. Yeah. And that's what I was there for. So you weren't upset or anything? No, I wasn't upset.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I wasn't upset, but it was like... People, like, read my faces wrong. Yeah. They read me wrong a lot. I'm very misunderstood. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I was just focused. And I didn't have an issue with a bunch of people being in the room. I just, of course, I do get a little bit more reserved. Because when it's people that I don't know, I'm just more reserved. But, like, when I know you, it's not like that. I'm actually probably going to start my own Twitch. Okay. I think that would be a good idea. Yeah, Twitch is the wave right now.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I'll probably be able to do that more on my Twitch. But going into someone else's territory is different. Like, I could be in my room doing real crazy stuff alone or with my friends. But, like, to do it there, like, it's a little... You don't know people.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Bobby. Yeah. And I'm a little bit, like, different around, like, artists, especially when it's a bunch of men in the room, too. Yes. I'm not about to be just out here, like, moving my body around.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
You would have got up and hit a little twerk. Oh, Queen doing it. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
No. So I get it. And then my man was with me too there because him and DDG, we're all mutual friends. Okay. Yeah, they're friends. I'm friends. And then, yeah, so... I was actually glad, because I didn't want to be in there with that many.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I was just working. Man, I hate that. I got to loosen up a little bit. But I think it's... Like I said, it's just gross. Like, I'm not... People expect me to be that, like, um... Turning up and... I don't know. I was... I'm still goofy, but I'm not like the way I used to... I used to be super reckless. Yeah. But you're getting older. It comes with age. Yeah, I can't help it.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Like, I'm just the old you, queen. Why don't you know I'm still... I've grown. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Yeah, and I'm not like that 24-7. I have my moments where I'm just chill.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
All right now. They kept saying I was clutching my purse, putting it to my side. But no. No, no. It's the story behind that. So the reason why I had to make sure I do that, because I lose a lot of things.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I have lost my purse. I have left things behind. And, like, I was just trying to be conscious. Like, queen, don't leave your stuff everywhere. I have left my purse in an airport bathroom. Oh, Lord. Oh, Lord. St. Martin, like, crying, running around the airport. So, it was just really me, like, okay, just make sure you know where your stuff is.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I didn't think nobody was going to steal. It's just, you know.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I haven't had... Well, I... When I first, like, started out, I did have, like, a media training session or two. But I don't know. I just don't... I haven't had in a while. I don't know. I just don't like the media training thing.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Why not? Because I want to be... Like, unapologetically mean. Yeah. And also, though, like, as you grow and do more and more interviews, like, you'll know what to bob and weave with. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
And honestly, just like when a guy, this might be a lot too, but when a guy releases into a woman, regardless if you're trying to have kids or not, That alone is very aesthetic. Yes. It throws ours off. You know what I'm saying? So sometimes they be just want to do that. And it's like, well, no, but you're going to mess me up. If we not procreating, don't play like this.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I don't have that problem, though. See, all right, it's a little different for me.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Mm-hmm. I don't, because I've been in a relationship for a long time.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Yeah, he know what you like. Yeah, there's nothing going on like bed. Yeah. I think what I would like for men to understand in general is that, oh my God, is that sex starts outside the bedroom.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
it's not just like it's not just like a switch it's like okay yeah you horny let's do it no like it starts with the in the morning when you're helping me with the kids girl this is me I say this in the morning it starts in the morning like it like it when you're helping me throughout the day or when you just come in and giving me little kisses on the cheek or whatever like that's where it starts it's just don't like oh yeah I did this all right come on let's just have sex like oh like
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
if I'm not being romanced, if I'm not... And then men also don't understand like a little something could just go a very long way.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
When you treat a woman right or like... It's true. It really don't take much for us.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
He'll be like, you know what, yeah, he getting something tonight. Or a little cupcake, your favorite dessert.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
It's just straight, like, they just, it has a lot of stones.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I'm going to get a little bit spiritual. I feel like men, too, need to realize, like, the roster thing, I get it. But when you're laying with these different people, you're also picking up their spirits as well.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
So you're not, yeah, so I wish that men would think like that sometimes, but a lot of men are not, like, you know, in tune like that.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
But, like, when you're laying with all these different women, even women, too, like, when you're laying with these different men. Mm-hmm. you are picking up their spirits and their demons and the things. And then you wonder why, like, is something going on with you?
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
You got to really be careful with that because when you, you know, you become one like that.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
a lot of stuff that you said that you were when you were younger oh my god it's like I look back at a lot of things and like I cringe but yeah but it's like at the same time that's what growth is about I feel like a lot of people in this just new social media world they don't appreciate growth they don't understand it if like you said something years ago they're gonna look at you as that same person and yeah they just don't understand growth I don't know but I agree
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
It's crazy that a lot of men don't know that. That's really crazy.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Or not just penetration alone. You got to do a little bit of both.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I mean, hey, like, all you can do is really just apologize and move on.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Not an interview. It was more so back in my YouTube days. I think everybody know, like, you know, everybody knows... Do y'all know? I know. Yeah. I think I do, too. I think I do, too. Everybody knows. But, like, it was one of those things where, like, I just was... When you're doing YouTube and you're so just personable, it's like you're talking to people like they're in the room with you. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
They do say that for men, like, in business, being married really, like, upsets you. It elevates you.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Okay. Give us a little scoop. We might have a little something.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
So, okay, I can't tell every collaboration. Okay. Because, you know, I want my fans to be, like, surprised. But... There she goes.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
But... I do know that people have seen a picture of me and Mariah The Scientist together. Oh, man.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
But what you guys can expect from this new album, I'm so excited. A lot of my stuff was like super traditional R&B. And I know a lot of people was like, bring R&B back, da-da-da. But honestly, I feel like I've made my mark with R&B. And I really want it to be a little bit more universal. Okay. So I got some more upbeat things on there and things that could sound... Like, it can go overseas. Okay.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Like, we're trying to go bigger. I'm never going to turn my back on the people who love R&B, but, like, I really want people... Like, it's definitely growth. You're going to be able to hear the growth in the production. And just me experimenting with different... Sounds and tempos. I've always wanted to do... I'm not a dancer. I suck, actually. But I want to make a dance record.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
So I want to make like a... And then it's always relatable. My music is always relatable. But yeah, I think you guys are really, really, really going to like it. I love it. I was just bopping to it. You were?
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Okay, so this is what I'm going to say. When I think about legend... I think of the greats. I think of the people that's been here for a while. Upcoming legends, yes. You know, because we still got a lot of work to do. But I've already worked with a legend before, Babyface. Yeah. His last album. I did on my latest EP, well, two years ago. I worked with Monica.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Yeah. But I would say they're, like, we're, like, upcoming legends. We're still... Because we still got a lot to... Right, right.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
That... Like, that's not no light thing to say. That's what I'm saying. Because that was the album that he did with everybody on it.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
Like, for her to share the stage with me. That is. That's why when you said, like, do people still disrespect you and say you're just a YouTube... I don't even care because Mary J. Shea... Look what I did. Yeah, like, that...
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I think I did a... No, that was the other one. I did a SWV tribute. Oh, no. I probably presented at the Soul Train Award. Oh, I did perform. Yes, you performed.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I know. I forgot. But I'm saying so. No, I just been... I've been very low at MIA, so I do forget.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I've learned that, like, it's okay to not be for everybody. I'm not going to be for everybody. But the ones who really love me. They know. I see them in the room. Yeah, so that's all that matters. I see a lot of people when they come, like, I just can't get with her music. I just can't.
Pour Minds Podcast
Blame It On Brenda FT. Queen Naija
I'll be 30 soon. But, yeah, I was really young. Sometimes we just say things, especially on cameras, like, I don't know. And I always say this.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Oh, I love jelly blushes. Me too. I love the blush.
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And I don't feel like the lip gloss these days. Yes, I can't wait. I'm going to send y'all a little... Yes, a little one, a little one.
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I do. But I can't reveal it. Okay. Because I want to do it, like, in a very, like... Strategic way. Strategic way. Like, I want my fans to engage and interact.
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But I do have an album. I'll give y'all a hint. This hurt. Okay. Okay, I'll take that.
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And do we have a drop date? Or around the time? We don't have a date yet. But we're definitely dropping...
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2025 okay okay that's good enough for me yeah i really hope to drop in the summer i really do i hope but sometimes the label be like well we gotta push this back but um yeah so it's coming though like it's done my album's done everything is up to the production now yes okay that's good it's close oh yeah yeah yeah i know yeah but either way like i'm still gonna put out singles before that so yeah i still will get new queen music can you give us can you tell us what the single gonna
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I don't know yet, actually. You don't know yet? We got to pick which one is that, you know, they really want to go behind.
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I'm so happy that people are even still here just anticipating.
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That's my thing, too. I want to make music that's memorable and not just some little microwavable music. Like, okay, we'll get over this. I want people to just, like, I want to be classy.
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I feel like a lot of people don't make classic... Like, a lot of people don't make... They don't.
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Because people are looking... The labels are looking for them TikToks. Yes. Oh, it sucks. Oh, oh. But we got to do it. Yeah. Because that's how people engage. I'm sorry. No, go ahead. It's okay. I'm just saying that's how people engage, like, with the TikToks.
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My son finds a lot of songs from TikTok. And I'm like, ooh, this is good.
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Y'all remember when they got rid of TikTok for a little bit? They was mad at me for what I said. What'd you say? Ooh, I'm about to trap myself again.
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They was mad at me too, girl. No, because all I said was... All I said was, what did I say? I think I was like, okay, well, now we can have a little bit, because I thought it was really going to be... Don't get me wrong, I love TikTok too, but... Yeah, me too. I wasn't thinking about the people that make money off of TikTok when I said this, so keep that in mind. I was thinking about music.
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I was like, well, maybe it'll give people that make real, real music. Yeah. A little chance again, because now I feel like, like you said, people are just looking forward to TikTok. Right. So I was thinking like, oh, well, maybe like, but it offended a lot of people. Like, well, the people on TikTok are real artists.
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Yeah, but I love TikTok. I do. I love TikTok. They hate me, though.
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I like you. I'll be like... I swear, they do that to me in clearance. I know, I know. They be like, she is so ready. Oh, he cannot stand her. He look at me, he hates her. But people also don't understand, too. Like, bro, we're real people. So even if we do get an attitude, okay, like... But then, too, sometimes it's this, like, me and Lex...
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Yes, and a lot of things that people like that we may have said or whatever, a lot of people be thinking it.
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But that's relationships in general. But it don't mean I hate her.
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He's still my man. Hello. Real. You know what I'm saying? He do get on my nerves.
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They say that about everybody. They say that about everybody. They say that about every friendship and every relationship. That's what made me feel better. Once I went, when I went on Shade Room and I'm like, it's someone that I was like, oh my God, she is wild. When I look in the comments, even that person that I think is so wild, nothing but negative stuff about them.
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They hate it when she was doing her natural hairline.
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It's two different types of people on the internet. So we got the creators that are making a bag and showing themselves. And then you got the comments that are usually negative. The only people that are not negative are the people that follow me and love me. But anyone outside of that, I don't expect for them to even like me at all.
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I need to get back on my content creating stuff.
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I be trying to be better. I don't really want to get on that. It's hard. It's hard.
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It's hard for me to take a picture of my food before I eat it. I'm hungry. Yeah, I just want to eat it. Setting the camera up before you get in the car.
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Yeah. Or if you get a real good moment, but the camera turned off or something.
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What was the last two, what was the questions that she had?
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Oh, ooh. That is a good one. It is. That's deep. Yeah.
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Yes, ma'am. What do you think, Queen? She said, how do you keep showing up for yourself? Okay. I think a lot of people feel like showing up means every day you go full force.
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As long as you just try every day, try to do your best. Showing up don't look the same every day. Right. You know what I'm saying? And you also got to understand a lot of people. I'll just use myself as an example. I have ADHD really bad. So if I don't get like everything done, I used to get nothing done.
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But I had to learn, like, even if I just, if I don't clean this whole kitchen, as an example, if I could just sweep this floor or if I could just, like, just get all the trash, put the trash in the trash can, put the dishes in the sink, I'm still showing up. I still did it.
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You accomplished. Yeah, you still accomplished. And to the fact that no one claps for it, like she said, you have to do it for yourself. A lot of people forget to confide in God and ask him and cast all your cares upon him. Come on. You got to cast all your cares upon God because we cannot do it alone. Right. And you have to really, really ask for discernment on when do I rest?
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Because we need to rest. A lot of people overwork themselves just trying to like show up, show up, show up. Some days you got to rest. Yeah. So like you said, give yourself, like she said, give yourself grace. And know that even a small win is still a win. Mm-hmm. And what was the second question?
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That one was deep. I'm going to tell you like my therapist would tell me. Everything's not your responsibility.
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And that's a tough call, especially when you want to bring everybody with you. Yeah. And everyone's... Everyone's, like, success... Well, your success is not everyone else's success. Like, people will say, well, I ain't make it like you because, you know, you made it up here. But, like, success can be just right here for them. You know what I mean?
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It doesn't mean that, like, you didn't bring them with you and so, like, you left them out in the dirt or whatever. I just really... Like you said, survival skill is really real. It is. And I had to, like... I'm still working through that too.
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But yeah, it's not your... Everyone's not your responsibility. We all like have... We are responsible for our own lives. And you know, you can't like... Everyone makes their own decisions and... Either rewards or consequences come from that. And you can't blame yourself for that. That's too much. That's too much to put on yourself.
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Being an entrepreneur is not meant for everybody.
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We still need the people that will work tonight.
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That's not everybody's story, you know. And just because... It doesn't mean that they're, like, any less special.
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You know? Like, everybody is just not for everyone.
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But you want to know what I was going to say? Like, it was very easy for us back in the day to say things about celebrities because, like, now being known, like, you know how it is, especially me, like, being, like, known or being in the public eye It's different. A lot of things that people say about celebrities now, they don't know what goes on with those people's lives or whatever.
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For sure. Yes, ma'am. Mm-hmm. I was trying to lift, too, and it was like, you're doing it wrong. Well, lifting is hard. Well, girl, you come show me then.
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Because every day, I don't... When you don't want to, that's the best time.
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You know, but I go. Yeah. You know? And that's what God see. And that's what, like you said, it's only him that judges.
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Y'all can just find me on all platforms at QueenNija. Yes, that's my real name. Q-U-E-E-N-N-A-I-J-A on everything. Oh, yeah. Go on my Snapchat, too, because I'll be showing my real self. Oh, okay. Oh, yeah. Well, thank you. This was fun. Thank you.
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So now I'm being able to be on the other side, too. And a bunch of people talk stuff about me, too. So it's like, man, y'all don't even know what I'm going through. And so that was us back in the day. We don't know how it is on the other side.
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Whatever it is that you do when you do what you're doing. Don't show me up now. It's a feeling that I don't want to stay.
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I lose all control, and something takes over me. In the days, it is so amazing. It's not a phase.
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Stay with me. By my side, I swallow my pride. Your love is so sweet.
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Time after time after time, I try to fight it.
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But your loving strong, it keeps on holding on.
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I try hard to fight it. No way can I deny it. It knocks me off my feet. I get so weak in the knees. I can hardly speak. I lose all control.
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They pick and choose. on who they want to, who they be. I feel like they did it a lot to me because I would show a lot of reaction and they like it. Yeah, but when I got off of Twitter, my app deleted right now. To be honest with you, once you stop showing that you're bothered, the joke is kind of like... It's not funny no more.
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It don't hit. It's not funny at all, honestly. Like,
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I'm not going to lie. Twitter, at a point, I had to really take a break from Twitter because, and this is not now, but, like, Twitter one day had me in a chokehold. It had me in tears. Like, for real. Like, that stuff will really mess with you. It will. We're not really supposed to see all those people's opinions about us. Yeah, we're not supposed to.
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It's not even like... That's not how it's supposed to be.
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I feel like the people that take the time out to write mean things like that... I feel like they're truly unhappy. Oh, yeah. Because I think about myself. I'm like, I'm not going to say I'm happy every day, but on the inside, like, I'm just not a very miserable person.
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I will never go and write, even if I'm thinking something, I will never go and write something under somebody's stuff for them to see. It's going to keep scrolling if I don't like it or miss them or whatever. To want to really have to write... But I feel like a lot of them do it too for laughs.
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They want to feel validated by a bunch of people. They want to read to laugh at their... Yeah. They want to be the comedian.
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Yeah, they want to go viral. And that's what fuels them. That's what makes them feel so important. Yeah. So they have to say these mean things because like... I mean, a lot of celebrities and known people, we notice the negative stuff a little bit more, so they have to put negative things, like, to really stand out.
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I swear, that happens to me so much. That happened to me. I had responded one time to a girl in her DM, and she was like, oh, my God, let me just erase that. I'm sorry, queen. I love you. I just want you to make some music and... But she was talking so much stuff about my art story.