Phoenicia
Appearances
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
So I text him, of course, because I'm curious. I want to push the limits a little. And I was like, so one more time, have you ever been arrested? Have you ever been to jail? And he's like, no. And I was like, okay. So I blocked him and I didn't talk to him again.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
No, I don't think it would work. I didn't. I didn't want to toy with that and open a whole pot of worms that I probably wasn't equipped to carry. But I was just like, what the hell?
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
But for the longest time, when I would drive by a canal, I would just look at it and get this eerie feeling. And then for a while, there were bodies that were being found in the canal.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
This was about a year ago. Yes, I did look him up after I made the submission and he pleaded guilty to some of the charges.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
I don't think he is because I did see him on the app last week. Oh, my God.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
Looks good lawyer. I have no clue. Oh, yeah. He's on the apps. That's bad.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
Yikes. Before I got in a relationship last year, my friend did like an extensive background check on the guy. I will say I'm very diligent now and I don't get blindsided by the good looks anymore.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
That is true. Yeah, I always joke that if I did get kidnapped, it's because he had a good car. He was good looking or a puppy. That's how he lured me in. Jax, okay, so I have been freaking out all week. To say that I love you would be an understatement of the year. You've been one of my first crushes. And as I've gotten older and learned more about you, I just fall more in love with you.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
Thank you. Well, I think it's great, the work that you're doing and how you've been vulnerable and sharing your struggles with other people. I used to work as a substance abuse counselor, although I don't have experience firsthand. With addiction, I have seen what it does to people and how it's hard for them to overcome it. So I just love that you're vulnerable enough to share that with people.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
And if I could give one shout out to my kids, please.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
We listen to your show all the time. I vet the episodes. And then once I know they're kid friendly, we listen to them. But I just want to give a shout out to Brody and Liam. My youngest was a little bum that he couldn't be here today. He said, little kids have stories to share, too.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
I think you should. But thank you guys so much. Love you too, Monica. Thank you. All right. Take care. Bye.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
I am in Phoenix, Arizona. Oh. You're not too far away from us.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
Yeah, and on the main roads, there's like tractors and stuff. Yeah. Love it.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
I'm single, and like most singles, I go on dating apps, and I had a match with this guy. I will say I was so taken back by his good looks that all logic went out the window.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
It sure is, especially with the blue eyes. Wow. We matched, we started talking and we quickly moved the conversation to text. And he's like, I'll just call you. And I was like, okay, cool. He calls me, we're on the phone and he's like, hey, how do you pronounce your name? And I said, Phoenicia. And he's like, Phoenicia, Phoenicia. I like how that rolls off my tongue. And I was like, okay.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
It kind of came off as a little weird, but I, again, didn't think anything of it. And so we start talking about where we should go out for our first date. And he's like, well- I want to take you bike riding at night near a canal. And I was like, I don't think that's appropriate for a first date. What? Oh, my God.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
So I was like, no, that's not appropriate for a first date. Let's just meet during the day in public. So we agreed to meet for lunch the next day. Lunch goes well. He's super good looking in person too. After the date, he walks me to my car and he's like, I've Had a good time. I want to see you again.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
And he kind of has me like up against my car because he walked me to my car and he's leaning forward. He's like, we really need to go on that bike ride. And I was like, I don't want to go. He's like, I think we really should go. I was like, I don't even have a bike. He's like, I have a bike for you. We can go. I know of a great spot. You can see the stars. And I was like, I don't think so.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
I don't think I would be here if I ended up on that bike ride. I'm glad you did not do that. So he's like, I'll call you later. I'm like, OK. So I'm driving home and I'm like, oh, crap. I did not ask him the one question I asked guys before I meet them. Have you ever been arrested? And I also looked him up before I go out with them because better safe than sorry.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
I was like, have you ever been arrested? He's like, no. I'm like, okay. So later that night he called me and we're just catching up about our day and he brings up the bike ride again.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
He's like, you have to go. It's so nice. At this point, I was getting really turned off. Yeah. And just didn't understand why he was being so pushy and not respecting my boundaries. So I was like, we ended the conversation. I got home. I looked him up online. And to my shock, that previous month, he had been arrested for assault and battery crime. kidnapping. Oh, disorderly conduct. Oh, my God.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
And I was like, what the hell?
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
I think people might benefit from knowing how you discovered that you can find out a lot about a person with their phone number, which is kind of the scary part. So I had his phone number. I went on one of the websites, just typed it in. His first name, last name came up.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Dated a Criminal
Yes, that did match. And the age, too. And then you take that information and depending on where you live, for us, it's Maricopa County. So like the Maricopa County Superior Court website, that's where you would go. And then you click on criminal and you would just fill in their name. And if they have anything for criminal or even legal or family, it comes right up.