Peter Crone
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Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Like most people just aren't committed in filling the gap, you know, relationships, their health, their career, you know, their their sleep program, whatever it is, like, you know, they're not really committed. And that's not a judgment, it's just an observation for people, maybe even as they listen to that go, holy shit, like, I struggle with that, you know, the absence of commitment in my life.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So athletes who are successful have less accumulated baggage, you know, and ideally combined with a lot more commitment.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Same. Just smart. We're all athletes. We're all performers at the end of the day. You know, you're a mom, you have a show, you have a business, you know, you're a performer, right? And so I work with corporations and I look at the corporate athlete. You know, it's the same thing, right? Like what is your discipline, your dedication, how clear are you on what you're wanting to accomplish?
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
You know, where are your big audacious goals that you're trying to get to? Same with everybody. Yeah.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah, it's quite insidious. And for that reason, it's like kind of fine surgery. You know, Michelangelo was asked, how did you create this beautiful sculpture of David out of a piece of marble? And he said, I didn't. David was already in there. I just chipped away everything that wasn't David, right? Which is beautiful. So I think...
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
You know, early on in life, we take big chunks off the corner, right? You can maybe just see the corner of a shoulder. But what I'm working on is sort of the details around the eyelids and the nostrils, right? So it's very subtle.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So it's sort of brain surgery a little bit, quite literally. Right, literally. So the process is you're a human being, whoever I'm working with, whatever walk of life. And you know you feel some constraints, some resistance, some frustration. There's a degree of you're not fulfilling on your version of potential or life isn't the way you want it.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Or, you know, further down the line of imbalances, you're sick or you have anxiety or depression or addiction, right? Most of my people are pretty robust. They have successful lives. They just want to go to the next level. But it runs the gamut, right? People to the point of like, I've helped people who are suicidal, you know, and help them understand they're actually not.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
That's just a part of their subconscious that is asking to be relinquished. So they don't want to die, part of the software that no longer serves them wants to die. And that distinction alone has saved many lives, right?
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Do you see that? Yeah.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So I can hear it. So to finish the question, so whatever area of life they're being triggered in, and there's normally only a few because of humans, our details are very complex. It's an uncle here and aunt, a wife, a kid, a boss, but it's all the same. It's like we kind of have family stuff. We have health body stuff. We have maybe money stuff. We have career stuff.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And then maybe hobbies and passion. You know, it's like humans don't talk about too many things.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
There's buckets that, you know, we all are basically committed to and attached to. So wherever the people get triggered, I use that as an access point to reverse engineer what is it that that must be revealing about you as a human where you're not okay with something.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So again, one of my quotes I love, one of my favorites is, life will present you with people and circumstances to reveal where you're not free. So meaning that it's the opportunity that life is to be human is that we scurry around doing the best we can thinking we're trying to get somewhere and we get pissed off, upset, triggered, hurt, whatever it is.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And that's where for me, without getting too poetic and esoteric out of the gate, if we're these divine, integrous beings who are timeless and limitless, Meaning there's nothing that we can't handle. There's nothing we can't create.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
But if we get stopped by something, then that's where the subconscious is caught in some pretense or a lie that you're not good enough, or you're not lovable, or you're not safe. So for me, this whole dimension of humanity on planet Earth is because we all came here to break free from the constraints with which we arrived. So that's the process. Basically, where do you get pissed off?
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Where do you get triggered? That's gold. And if you're with someone who knows how to reverse engineer it, then you'll discover why you get triggered. Because again, unless I say, unless it's life-threatening, it's just ego-threatening. And most of the time it's 99.999%, it's ego-threatening. So then that's the gold, right?
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Ego-threatening meaning that something, you got upset by something.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
You know, Jennifer got pissed off because, or she's hurt because, or she's scared because, right? There's some, the way even because we're under the illusion that we're at the effect of life. Oh, why are you upset? Oh, because somebody cut me off in traffic. Well, no, you're not upset because of that. Someone just cut you off in traffic. You're upset because of the way you react to it.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And that's all us. So we become the author of our own experience when you start to realize the power of responsibility. Most people don't want that. They want to point fingers, you know, like I'm pissed off because my husband, dah, dah, dah, or my wife or my kids or my boss. And so then you become a victim. It's sort of a powerless way to live life.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah. So I undo all of that and help people to discover their own authorship. They are the genesis of their own experience.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
It's easy, and they can. And again, it's dependent a little bit on age. The older we are, the more established all of our habits, patterns, neural pathways are.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So working with youngsters, it's sort of like, you know, the, the transformations can be instantaneous and lasting. So you need some time, like anything, like, you know, you're an athlete. So whatever sports you play, I love golf and tennis and skiing. And if someone was looking at my swing, they might have the most beautiful insight about what I'm doing.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And I could maybe feel it when I'm with a coach, but then it's up to me to go and practice it. So it becomes ingrained, no different with the mind. Even it's even more slippery though. It's a bit more subtle.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
But it's the same thing. You know, there's what I call the two main buckets of awareness of your blind spot, bring the unconscious conscious, as Carl Jung said. And then there's a practice of this new set of eyes that you're looking through of like, oh my God, I always thought my mom was da da da, fill in the blank.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And so I've communicated with her like that, but that's based on my history of her and that's not who she is today. So we sustain our images of things and then we perpetuate because the ego wants to be right, even though what it's being right about are limitations, which is insane.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And it's a little bit more slippery than that, because even what generates the I'm so dumb, because by the time you've had a conscious thought or an expression, it's being generated from a subconscious pattern. So that statement, I'm dumb as a way of defacing yourself or mocking ourselves or joking, that only exists because of who you are at a deeper level to even say it in the first place.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yes. Okay.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
This isn't the snicker bar like version.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So think about it this way. So this house that we're in, beautiful house can only exist because of the foundations, but we can't see the foundations, but nonetheless, the house could not exist if it weren't for them, nor could we build a bigger house relative to the size of foundation. Right. So think of the foundations like the subconscious.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So everything that happens in this house is directly commensurate with the foundations that allow for it.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So likewise, someone's personality and their conscious thoughts and the words they say can only exist to the degree that their foundations of their subconscious allow.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Well, you can. You can? Yeah. You can. That's sort of mental emotional excavation, I guess. I guess. Yeah. The re-architecture. But you can because the difference between like, you know, the concrete that's beneath us, this is based in language, which is why words are so important because subconscious constraints are also based in programming.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So, for example, the I'm not enough, which everybody can relate to. Yeah. will manifest differently depending on somebody's circumstances and their proclivities towards whatever it is, focused on relationships, focused on money. It will manifest in that way. But the I'm not enough isn't an inherent truth. It's just a constraint.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
But if it's been there for 40 years, it's very convincing for that person. They'll say, oh, I'm so dumb, or oh, I'm never going to meet anyone, or... Why was I trying to start a business? I'm so stupid to think that I would be successful. Those words make sense for somebody at a deeper foundational level think that they're not enough. So what I would do is hear those things. They're not truths.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
There's no truth in saying I'm dumb or I'm an idiot or I'm a failure. That's not a truth. It's a statement, a declaration that reinforces a deeper narrative. If we can access that... You know, this is what I do in my masterminds or when I'm working with people. It's so revelatory.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
It's so moving because people are like, holy shit, like, I don't even know what I could do now because you're not being confined by anything anymore.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yes.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah, no, I love that. I love your attention to detail.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yes. So one last Saturday in my mastermind, which just started, it's a three and a half month process. We meet every two weeks on a Saturday. It's a long day. I do theory and then I coach people. So one of the women I was coaching, people from all around the world who attend and she's in Holland and she's a mom of two kids.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And she had a question, she struggles with migraines and particularly around her cycle and there's some sort of physiological associations. But really what it came down to her deep subconscious pattern was it's all up to her. That it's not like she's thinking that, It's almost so, well, yeah, I'm a single mom. Of course, it's like, it's so commonplace for her to act that way.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
I mean, it's pretty cool. I'd meet that guy.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
But it started when she was young and she had to drive her dad, who was an alcoholic, you know, when she's a kid, having all of this responsibility put onto her that wasn't hers to have.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So she, from a very young age, developed the idea that lives are in danger. It's not like she's saying this, but these are her care providers and she's young. So for a kid who's really dependent, she had to, it's the energy of resistance. If you have to, you must, you need to. These words carry weight, right? Mm-hmm.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So for a kid, it's like, I literally have to keep my dad alive because he's the one paying or providing food or shelter, right? But then that continued. So now it's perfect. She's fulfilling on the sentence of her subconscious, which we all do. So now she's a single mom. And now she feels like it's incumbent upon her to do everything. I understand the logic of it, but it's not a truth.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So how do I undo that? You know, I take people through an exercise. So for example, I said, you know, if I cut you open, am I going to find a manufacturing label that says, you know, dah, dah, dah, you're from Holland, it's all up to you. And she laughs and said, no, of course not. I'm like, okay, so it's not part of your hardware. So where does it exist? She's like, well, it's what I believe.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Okay, great. So it's software.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
software we can play with right i'm not i can't change the color of your eyes i'm not at that level yet but yes yes exactly stay in the possibility of it but the the language that i could do something with so then i said okay so where does it exist she's like well it's in my mind great what's the format well it's all up to me it's words right okay yeah so if it's just words is it an absolute truth i get your it's how you feel i get it's what you've done but is it a truth that it's all up to you
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And she really got it. She said, no, it's not a truth. You see the shoulders drop, the physiological breathing patterns change. And it was so beautiful. And this will be coming out because we can use it as a podcast episode. And she said, oh, my God, I don't even like I've just been introduced to a world I don't even know how to explore. And it's so profound.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So I sort of generated the moniker just by virtue of what I call, you know, necessity being the mother of invention, right? Meaning that there wasn't any other title that seemed to be sufficiently appropriate. Like I'd been called a spiritual teacher or a performance coach or even once a hitman for the ego, a happiness guru. Oh, I like that one. Those are good. They're okay.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Like that's my response normally is I'm introducing you to a world that you're not familiar with. Because when you've lived in the world from a very young age, you know, we had a few years prior when we're just free and kids and we do whatever and we throw up on people's, we don't know we're doing anything wrong. And then suddenly we learn at one point that being us isn't enough.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Like there's something that kicks in at a very young age, the terrible twos, because we start to hear wrong, bad, don't do this. So it's a very interesting part in the arc of a human being's personality where suddenly we're told that who we are is no longer just unconditionally loved. And then from that point forth, all we're doing is trying to get that back.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah, that's continued because it was so jarring. Sometimes it's really traumatic. I've helped a lot of people who've had some abhorrent things happen to them, you know, the whole world of sexual abuse and...
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Which sadly happens to a lot of kids. And now it's a parent or a child, an adult who's managing real physical sickness, real trauma in relationships, which is still playing out the unreconciled trauma from childhood.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yes.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Well, some of the most common ones are the feeling of inadequacy, like I'm not enough. For women, particularly the feeling of insecurity, like we're not safe, you know, as a woman, because sadly for hundreds of years, the patriarchal has been somewhat abusive, you know, in varying degrees, right? And so, and then some sense of scarcity. They're the three main buckets that everybody has.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
There's something fundamentally wrong with me. I'm not safe in the world. Like I can't just, you know, leave my house open. No worries. Like there's crime out there. The world is dangerous, right?
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And then there's never enough. Like even I've worked with 15, 20 billionaires and they're still in a scarcity mindset because it's part of the human condition.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
it does because they're proof they're trying to prove something to themselves subconsciously that they are enough that they can do it that yeah you know just that they've just are relentless yeah that will be what it takes but you just said it there in your own speaking like they're trying to prove it to themselves yeah so it's me against me right it's my story of inadequacy that i think is because my dad said i'm a loser and i'll never amount to anything but actually that's just one thing that he said that probably took like 10 seconds but i've been carrying for a decade yeah
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
two decades three decades so are you fighting your dad anymore as you're fighting your own belief that you've actually started to own and identify at and that's the the old analogy of driving a car with one foot on the brake and one foot on the accelerator at the same time which is how most people live their lives and why they get sick
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Sure, reference your notes.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah, and it's one of the things I do live events now, and I spoke recently at one of them talking about how it's incredible the amount of energy a human being exerts and puts into trying not to be where they are.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
But I always was fascinated with architecture and particularly if you look at some of these sort of sci-fi type movies, which I love, like Inception and Matrix and Doctor Strange and sort of the architecture of time and space. And really what I recognized what I was actually doing was reorienting people's inner thinking space. So really redesigning who you are for yourself.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
It certainly contributed to it. Social media in and of itself is not doing anything. It's just appealing to these mechanisms of one of the fundamental prisons where we think that the way our life is isn't it, but we're getting there.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
But you can never get there because you're never in the future. There's only the proverbial now that Eckhart Tolle has been talking about for 40 years.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Okay. Right.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
No, I'm going to ask you to be fully present with me, my dear.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
You can, and I'm somebody who's utterly committed to doing the best I can with this lifetime and accessing, realizing my potential. But there's different ways by which we move, right? So most people move because of fear and lack and scarcity, right? So there's something wrong.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And so the person who goes to the gym and signs up at the beginning of the year and pays their 50 to 300 bucks a month or whatever it is, is invariably being driven by something that they are not wanting. So most people's wanting energy of wanting it creates time, right? If I want something, then what I'm actually saying is I don't have it. So now I create time.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So now I've got some sort of future idea of what it is that I feel will fulfill on, in this case, really a sense of accomplishment or peace. Oftentimes wanting is really we just want relief from the suffering that we're in.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
so not wanting is usually the catalyst for wanting so someone doesn't want to be out of shape someone doesn't want to be pre-diabetic somebody doesn't want to be obese and so they're now well what i'm going to do is go to the gym and get a membership and a trainer that's fine they might get some results but invariably they're being informed by what i call the negation the not so that one thing can get results
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
But invariably they will fall by the wayside and they'll not show up after the first month or whatever it is, or they cancel the membership because it's not a creative form of desire. It's a reactive form. And when humans are reactive, we're actually holding onto something we don't want and trying to mitigate it or disprove it.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So that's the, again, the slippery and insidious part of like the ego is it's like it knows relatives to society. Well, I don't look good right now and I want to be loved and accepted. That's one of the primordial imperatives of every human is I want to be loved and accepted because it goes back to that kid who felt they weren't. And so in order to do that, what do I have to do?
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Because I know who I am right now isn't, which isn't that I'm not loved and accepted by society, but I'm not loved and accepted by myself. And so then the exhausting game of trying to become who I think I need to be to garner that from outside, which will never work because you're not trying to get it from outside because everyone's playing the same game.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
If you think about it, it's kind of hilarious.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So the architecture seemed accurate and where was I doing it?
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah. I mean, many people do say that they have to listen to things four or five times to really get it.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Because it is, because it's physics, right? You know, I've been doing this for 30 years. So for me, it's very clear. And I think, excuse me, that's one of the reasons that people are drawn to and enamored with my work, because even if they can't keep track right now, because they've got their own kind of fog of their own ego, they can hear the inherent truth about what I'm saying.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
It's not even my opinion so much as it's just the mechanics of what it is to be human.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
A hundred percent.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah, it's not only mirroring what you see for yourself, it's also mirroring the coping strategies that you've developed.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah, so you've become very astute. If I were to put you in a general consensus, it's like a very easy label people have heard. It's like you're a perfectionist.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
That's where it all starts. Yeah, that's all it starts.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah. So one level, you can look at that as a great asset, like I have the same, right? So I make a distinction between being highly observant and being vigilant. They both carry the capacity to really be very present with your surroundings and be very aware. Like you've got this keen eye where you can notice, as you said, these little subtleties.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
I notice when someone's breathing pattern changes when I'm talking to them, right? So I can see different softness in their face, you know, sometimes when they've sort of let go of a constraint. But being observant, most people are observant, but from a place of previous need to survive. So their powers of observation have got this underlying current of fear, and that's vigilant.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So I would assert, not wrong or right, that much of your capacity to see things was, and maybe still is, informed a little bit by fear. Where you're trying to get everything right, or you're wanting to have things a certain way.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yes. Which, again, control is a behavior. Mm-hmm.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
is where there's an underlying feeling of insecurity where you you don't you got hurt before when things were out of your control so now i'm not going to be hurt again so i'm going to make sure that i control everything that i can which is really just perpetuating the previous hurt as opposed to experiencing the hurt allowing it and then stepping into what is literally a brand new day every day
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No, I don't even like the word. No, because again, I say, please don't become perfect. You'll have no one to relate to.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Right. So that's a adaptation. It's a strategy that the ego will use because the ego doesn't accept itself. I've gotten to a point where I'm just okay being me, you know, and people are going to think whatever they want to think.
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And I'm compassionate. I'm loving. I'm kind. I don't in any way claim to be perfect in every arena of life. I'm sure, you know, I've lost money on the stock market. I could have done better there. You know, like, am I really diligent all the time with my workouts? No, but I'm pretty damn good. You know, there's going to be room for improvement in all areas of my life.
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I'm just okay with that and I'm doing the best I can. So I embrace my humanity.
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Which actually allows me, I think, to perform even better because I don't have these limiting feelings of inadequacy or judgment and self-pity and woe that a lot of people do where they beat the shit out of themselves because I should have done this. I'm like, no, I'm pretty chill.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Well, I said women more about the insecurities. So men, it tends to be more about performance. So women, obviously the primordial focus is on appearance and beauty, right? These are like deep in DNA, right? The prettiest girl wins the alpha male. So this is how you continue the species, right? This is deep, deep, deep DNA stuff. So for men, it's more around performance, right?
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Not trained. No, no. Like I don't have a certificate on my wall. No.
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Like whether that be sports, sex, business, money, like, you know, that's where men struggle, right? Is that they're scared that they're not going to be doing something well enough. And so those are just big generalizations. But sometimes men can feel scared. I mean, I've helped a lot of guys who their dad was mercurial and really angry. And so they're scared too.
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You know, they tend to cower if it's somebody of status or a boss or same thing. You can still have that same feeling of insecurity. Yeah.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
But again, tracing it back to what is the underlying root narrative in their subconscious, like where did that start? Where was the first time you thought that being you wasn't enough and how you had to compensate was be the best or get the A or whatever it is?
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And so you normally, people can remember, sometimes they forget, but when I'm having a conversation with them, they'll remember, wow, I can... the first time I came home with my sister, my grade card and she got all A's and I got a B and my dad, I could see he was really disappointed, something super benign.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
But nonetheless, at that moment, that child decided that I'm less than my sister or my brother. And so from that moment forward, they've tried to not be less than, which of course reinforces less than. But the way that shows up in behavioral adaptations is hardworking, perfectionist, people pleaser, sort of now they've got adrenal fatigue, it manifests in the physiology over time.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So I would help them go back to that and say, okay, so at that moment, did it really mean that you were less than, or did it mean you got B's and they got A's? And so you start to separate emotion from fact, right? Which is where PTSD, you know, where people associate a moment with how they felt versus allowing the moment to be the moment. My dad went to work and died, right?
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But for years I had a story of loss, which no one would begrudge me. It made sense. But I didn't lose my dad. My dad died. And so the story of loss impacted me. The truth of my dad dying, and I can still have grief. I miss the crap out of him. I know he'd be so proud of what I've accomplished in the world. These are all still legitimate, but I'm not losing anything anymore.
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Otherwise, it's a part of me that's gone, right?
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Reframing and the self-talk is really a dissolution process of self-talk. Like I don't solve problems, I dissolve them is what I tell people. So people's problems sit on top of the narrative that is a confining space. So I reveal the confining space and then the dissolution of that opens them up to a world of pure possibility.
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Yes. That one went crazy. That's like 6.5 million views or something. Really? Yeah.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah. So that was someone in my live event. So I work with people in the crowd, which is really fun. People I've never met before. I don't know what they're going to say. I've had someone who had chronic pain. I showed him he didn't to someone who was a loser and was on heroin and in jail to realize he's not a loser. I mean, really moving stuff. And that woman, yeah, she was lovely.
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Juliana, I think her name is, but she was saying how she was 39 and worried about not finding love again. And she was talking about this one big love of hers when she was 20 and, you know, never feeling like she could ever revisit that. And So I was helping her see that she had collapsed love with the person, which we all do. Like I'm in love with you in that person.
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And then if that person goes away, well, now I'm devastated. And so I just help people see, no, that person is extraordinary and you might have hopefully a lifetime with them, maybe raise a family and it's beautiful, but the love is yours. they might simply be the catalyst and the inspiration for it, just as the anger's yours, but they could be the inspiration for it. Like, you pissed me off.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Well, no, they didn't said what they did, and you had a reaction. So that completely changed her life and apparently millions of others where they're like, holy shit, like people who've just gone through a breakup, they're devastated, they're depressed. Like, what's the point? It's like, oh, no, I had so much love. That's me. I can take that.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
I mean, I went through a lot of my own sort of personal story as a human from a young age. Like I was only child. My mom passed of cancer when I was seven. So that was obviously pretty significant for a little boy. And then so it was me and my dad. And then at 17, so 10 years later, he went to work. He works on the boat. So go between Dover and England, Dover and France and England.
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Now, in theory, you can take it anywhere, but of course you're going to have preferences as the kind of people you want to hang out with.
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And that's the journey of self-revelation and self-realization, is that life is revealing our own potentialities in all regards. It's not just love, although I would assert that's our predominant state. But you get pissed off with someone, see how angry you can get. It's not because of them, it's who you became through and because of them in terms of that energy. But it's still yours.
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And so that then introduces responsibility that most people don't want. Because again, going back to what I said earlier, most people are at the effect of life. Well, no, I'm happy because I got good news from so-and-so. I'm pissed off because of what my wife or husband said. I'm angry because, no, then you're a victim of circumstance.
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You can, but you're going to be left...
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unfulfilled and feeling hopeless because then that's when you become a control person freak whatever word people want to use yeah because you're saying well it's ipso facto right if i feel hurt or happy by my environment i'm going to do everything i can to control the environment so that i manage my emotions that's an exhausting way to try and manage yourself if i can learn to be okay with whatever's happening at peace with life i've won right and you have to i guess you have to practice that
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Awareness and practice, they're the two main buckets, as I said. Most people just aren't aware, so that's why I have compassion. I say you can't be held accountable for that which you're oblivious to. So people are judgmental of someone who's smoking cigarettes. Well, yeah, the world knows cigarettes are bad, but that person's still doing it.
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It's not like they're like, oh, I can't wait to have a cigarette because I know it's great for my vitality. They're still in some form of suffering, and the cigarette is their mechanism of relief, and now it's become a habit. But they're not aware of why because underneath it, they feel like they're a piece of shit or nobody loves them or, you know, that's the suffering.
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That's the real addiction is the idea of our own inadequacy is the addiction. Then whatever shows up on top of that, pick your poison.
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Yeah. But if you can get out of that, then you're free. You can be okay with whatever. That's why my main product is freedom.
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Yes, but they're under the impression freedom will come when they perfect their circumstances.
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Exhausting.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
No, no, no, no, no. No, that's why the quote again, Carl Jung was so beautiful because he said, until you make the unconscious, I call subconscious, conscious, it will drive your life, meaning it's what's informing, but you'll call it fate. So all behavior, like I said earlier, the words that you say, the genesis of them are these blind spots. So we think, oh, it's just bad luck.
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Dover being the southeast part of England. And then Dover and Zeebrugge, which is in Belgium. So they're ferry liners that carry cargo to people with caravans going on vacation, whatever. And that boat capsized. And so sadly he passed. So my dad went to work one day and I never saw him again. So they were both obviously significant. So seven and 17, mom and dad gone. I had a stepmother.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
No, it's the energetic signature that you occupy in the way that you see yourself at the deepest level that creates your energetic way of relating to everything in life. So there's no coincidence.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Everything is frequency and vibration, language, words, and even Tesla said, right? You want to understand the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency, and vibration. Yes.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
By recognizing if they're living in a prison based on linguistic, like what I call prisons, right? You say you have 10 of them too, right? Yes, but it gets more complex and- Oh God. Yeah. Well, because each one has got a shadow side too. So I'll give you an example. So someone who thinks they're not good enough, typically that becomes an adaptive way as a coping strategy.
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So if someone is in an environment where they think they're not good enough, fill in the blank, because one of my baseball players, he could go four for five in a baseball game, which is amazing. He got four hits out of five at bats.
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But he was still miserable in the locker room. People don't understand why, because as a kid, his dad would always tell him, well, what happened to the fifth at bat? So that's still the continuation of that feeling that he still wasn't enough.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So for most people in the realm of I'm not enough at the deepest level, that will inform perfectionism, people pleasing, hard work, A-type drive, you know, that people are trying to compensate for. So if I'm not something, typically the way that the brain reacts to that is I'll try and become something. Do you see? I'm not something because that's something you want that. You want to be good.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So I'm not that. Again, people aren't thinking I'm not good. They're thinking all sorts of things. Why can't I get a raise? Or why am I not making enough money? Or why can't I attract a good mate? That's all on top of the feeling of inadequacy. So then it's the compensations to become good or better. The darker side of I'm not good enough is I am bad.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And that's typically where people have grown up in a little bit more of a harsh environment where they were dismissed or they were really treated like shit or they were around an alcoholic parent and they were beaten.
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And so sadly, although the not good enough can still be really painful and can lead to sickness and disease and dysfunction and all sorts, most people are at least striving to do better. Somebody who's I'm bad tends to really become the addicts and the sort of really self-defeating homeless, eventually maybe like really destructive behaviors because you're saying I am something derogatory.
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And so that's where it becomes, well, fuck it. And the woe and then self-fulfilling prophecy of like, well, who gives a shit anyway? And that's where people can sabotage their lives to a really detrimental level.
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I'm not loved. A lot of people have that one. Really? Yeah, a lot of people.
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It can be either or, you know, words can be very subtle in the way it lands for people, but it's basically the same phenomenon that I'm not accepted for who I am.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Um, so like if you will think about it, well, if someone is not loved, right. So wanting to be loved is, you know, a good thing. But if, if you're not loved, what would be a darker side of that?
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Well, yeah, the darkest side could be still as a, not, I'm not even wanted.
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So not loved, okay, you can stay around as a kid, but you're not getting affection, mum doesn't hold you, dad doesn't tell you love you, doesn't acknowledge you, so that's a horrible feeling.
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But if a parent says, you know, you were a mistake, which kids have heard, you know, or they might even hear the dad over, like I had to, a friend of mine, she's a therapist, and these two kids, girls wanted to go through all the...
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transition bullshit whatever you know and wanted to be boys and she fortunately helped them because they didn't what they had what had happened is they'd overheard their dad one day saying to the mom you know i really wish i'd had boys which was for him a sort of a just who knows the context of their conversation but those girls heard that the interpretation is we're not wanted for who we are but if we become boys we'll be loved if that's how primal it is because if you're not loved you get kicked out of the gang and you don't make it right that's so interesting
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She wasn't married to my dad, but she'd moved in. So she was there for like the last four or five years prior to that. So she came in when I was about 12 or 13 or so. And so, you know, there was a semblance of some sort of adult figure taking care of stuff. But that really forged me into this, you know, more exacerbated form of survival that I saw every human being has.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah, but it still comes down to this primal need as a human being to be wanted, to be loved and accepted, to be safe.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah, I mean, those formative years, because as I said, it gets really subtle. I say these are the constraints with which we arrive, you know, which is just my take. People could argue the other way around, meaning that this dimension of planet Earth being human is we're here to reconcile and transcend these limitations.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So it's not because mom said or dad said, I would assert those souls wanted to have the experience of whatever that feeling of being dismissed or not wanted is so that they could transcend it. But most people don't look at life that way. They just try and get rid of the pain. You know, that's why we have pick your poison, right? Like alcohol, food, sex, prescription drugs, street drugs, whatever.
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Whatever it is, right? And so actually, for me, the opportunity that it is to be human is go, oh, I'm a boundless, limitless, timeless soul incarnated into this three-dimensional Mitsu with a narrative that is based in some sort of limitation. And the game is, can I break free from that? That's the game.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
That to me is the purpose of life, is to break free from the limitations with which we arrived.
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I'm alone and also a big story of loss. Anything that's of value to me is gonna leave. So my very first girlfriend, I was like, I compensated. I was a good guy, but I was the perfect boyfriend.
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But as a compensation, yeah, which eventually it's not gonna work, right? She literally said, I feel suffocated by your love. Right. And I was like, what's the fucking problem? There's so much love. But then when I got it, which is my awakening to my own behaviors, like, holy shit. Like, yeah, it wasn't real. It wasn't authentic. It was real, but it wasn't true, you know?
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Are you in a relationship? I could see that mechanism then. So once you see, again, it's a lie. So these prisons are lies. That's a key part of this conversation. The I'm not enough isn't a truth. It's a lie. The I'm not loved is a lie. I'm not safe. They're all lies.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So that's what I'm doing is I'm helping people see that. So for example, yeah, my live event last few days ago, this girl was wanting me to help her with a business. So just some random girl, she put her hand up. I said, who wants to chat? So I want you to help me in business. Okay, what's going on? And
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It turned out that when she was young, her dad said to her, you're going to turn out to be a loser, just like your mom and your sister. Right. And so she'd held onto that. This is very articulate, successful coach. But I helped her point out that she can't actually help people because she's trying to perfect herself because she thinks she's a loser.
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But you see, if you hold onto a lie and then you're just trying to disprove it, all she keeps reinforcing is the lie. She said in front of everyone, it was comical. She said, she just saved me 12 grand. I was about to do this coaching program. which is another attempt to trying to finally perfect herself. So the lies, so now she felt relief.
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Like we as mammals, our primordial imperative is just to make it. We just want to survive.
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What was so powerful, she came up to me at the end of the, when everyone was breaking chairs and leaving, she came up and said, you're not going to believe this. Show me her phone. She said, there's a client that I've been trying to get since June of last year. They texted me literally as you and I stopped talking. Really? Because now she was available.
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She's not trying to perfect herself behind closed doors before she thinks she's ready for business. I said, one of the greatest qualities you can bring in your business is accept. Because everyone who comes to you has got the feeling that there's something wrong with them too. But you're the authority here who's desperately trying to perfect yourself. Exactly.
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You're a disservice to the people and that's why your business is not working. She was just blown away.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And so mine got obviously heightened at that point, didn't know where I was going to go. I eventually went to college, did very well. I actually skipped a year because my grades all got affected.
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Yeah, live events. Live events. So the Mastermind is more online, people from all around the world, three-month container. The live events are just fun where we're going to grow. People have asked me now to travel around the world and do them. They're just really fun.
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Yeah, we've outgrown the space. It's, uh, I come into LA for it and there's, um, 200 plus people. It's a good, it's a, it's intimate, but it's a good size. But now, you know, we're looking at a bigger theater for 2000 because we sell out within 24 hours. You do? Yeah. Yeah. People are flying from all around the world. There were people from this time.
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There's someone from Australia and all from East coast and yeah, it's really flattering.
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Yeah, I talk a little bit about whatever, and then I just say who wants to chat. So this time it was a girl who wanted me to improve her business. There's another woman who's turning 50 in a week who doesn't have a relationship, but she wants love. And part of our story is she hasn't had many relationships. She's turning 50. So I hear all the data I need, right?
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So immediately I say, what's the significance of you telling me that you're about to turn 50? But there's a story about that as to why she can't have a relationship. So we undo all of that. I want to hear it.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So I'm going to take something you said there because I think it will probably hit a chord with people. You said it's getting harder and harder for people to meet people.
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Because they haven't met themselves.
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Do you get that?
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See, it's harder for people to meet because the more you drift away from your authentic nature, the more of a facade you're carrying and the harder it is to sustain and therefore the harder it is to have intimacy into me see. So this is what, and people really want to watch it. I have a super affordable, my membership program is Freedom. It's 29 bucks a month and all my lives are in there.
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Back in the UK. Back in the UK. So a place called Loughborough, which was renowned more for sort of its athletic prowess, but it was sort of top five, you know, Oxford and Cambridge of the world, equivalent to the Harvards and stuff. And then sort of in the top five, it was a great school. And so that was an amazing, I did three years undergrad. I did a post-grad for a year, stayed on.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
You pay more to go to the live than watching them free recorded. So if someone wants to watch that- And there's a 90 plus hours of other content on anxiety, relationships, freeing your mind, depression, a wisdom library. So all the lives get put in there because not everyone can come. So it was a powerful conversation.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
But she sat there just beaming in joy because she realized being 50 has got nothing to do with anything. The fact that she hasn't had many relationships got nothing to do with anything. And that she stepped into a whole world of possibility where I said, by the time you come here next month, you could have had probably five suitors come up to you if you want.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Because she had at a young age learned to self-soothe because her parents weren't available. And so she'd become fiercely independent. And what was so funny, and people cracked up because for some reason, when I do my lives, I turn more into the comedian. And so she says, it's so funny. She says, I do heart-centered workshops.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So I was taking a piss because of course I'm coming from a loving place. I'm like, I can just see that. Okay, everybody drop into their heart, you know, and like, this is all about love. And then I said, and then you leave and go back to your hotel room and cry by yourself. But that's what she did as a kid. So,
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
she she's so scared to make herself so vulnerable which again is that's why i get it it's scary i have compassion but that's where people haven't met themselves to love themselves same with the girl who's trying to perfect herself before she thinks she's a good enough coach now i'm like you'll be the best coach in the world if you could just accept yourself and tell people to get over themselves that's all they want
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Because it's a magnet. Like you think about if you had this really beautiful gala, everyone's in their like black tie and it's all fancy schmancy and everyone's sipping on their champagne flutes or whatever. And you throw in a four-year-old kid who's running around and he's got shit all over his face. Like it's adorable and people are drawn to that because it's freedom.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
That's why my product's called Freedom.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
you know so for me you know if you want to took the world right now of like just insane amounts of mental health issues the the precursor of all of that is the absence of self-love because then i'm i'm in dis-ease with myself so then that's just going to spill out into the world but i feel like also it's people just besides self-soothing it's destroyed everything is basically a distraction now if people are the mental health as you were just saying anxiety depression suicide
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And then I very soon after that came to the States originally just for an experience. Like they did, you know, exchange programs where they pay 50 bucks a month or something to come and coach entitled kids tennis.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So it's fueling all of these mechanisms where fundamentally someone is just simply not at peace with themselves. So it's this exogenous form of looking for, searching for some reconciliation. If I find the right person, if I have enough money, when I get my body right, when I start my business, when I get the dream home, forget about it. Then I'm going to be awesome.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
But no, because you're awesome now. You're awesome now. Everybody is. Like literally everyone right now, I'd say everyone is a masterpiece and a work in progress. At the same time. Yes.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So can you be completely at peace where you are, no matter the size waste you have or whatever it is you're going through, even as a sickness with whatever your bank account says, however dysfunctional or great your relationship, can you find peace with what is?
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
That's the only way you can move forward to something that you might have as an aspiration, simply for the pure exploration of what life is.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
That was the mind architect, but I spoke to, so part of my background is in Ayurveda, which is a healing arm of yoga. So like Chinese medicine, which itself is fascinating. Fascinating. I use that for, like, I'm still here in a three-dimensional meat suit. You know, there's still things that I do to take care of myself.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Just, but internally my terrain.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah, yeah. Three-dimensional meat suit. People become misidentified. Like they say, I am a certain weight. I am a certain height. No, you're not. Because you're the you that has been consistent even when you were like three foot as a kid and whatever way you had or lost, right? If anything can change and that's not the real you, right?
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So that's an access point to realizing, oh, I've become misidentified with form and then even the subtler form, which is the thoughts in your head. So that's where I'm helping people to disassociate from, to become free from. Like a radio station in your head, just 24-7, usually nonsense, right? But most people believe it.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
I wasn't like a college performing D1 here or whatever you'd call it. I love tennis. I was a good athlete. But I didn't compete for the school. I played different sports for the school, but I didn't play tennis. But I was good enough that I took my certification program so I could teach kids. And so it just brought me to the States. They pay for your flight.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And if you can start to create a bit of space from that, like, you know, I forgot who it was, Aristotle or someone said, it's the mark of an intelligent mind that can entertain a thought without believing it. So you can have the thoughts of like, I'm an idiot. I don't know, am I an idiot? Versus just saying a declaration of fact.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So that's what I'm helping people understand is the power of the words that create the reality and the confines you live within.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
They don't have to, but that would happen. Ideally, it would happen automatically when you realize that what's been driving your behavior isn't a truth. So it's where, again, I say I dissolve problems. Solution-based world that we live in is like, okay, you have anxiety. Well, this is what you have to do. You go and see an expert. Typically, they traffic in the world of behavior, right?
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Don't do this.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
But I don't. I'm not interested. Behavior is a byproduct of your feelings and then your thoughts and then underneath your thoughts, subconscious. So changing behavior, it might work for a while, but if you're human, you know how hard that is to freaking sustain. Yeah.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah, because you're being driven by deeper code that has you think the thoughts you have, feel the way you feel, and then make choices to act.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Especially as you get older because you're not going to have the same sort of level of, you know, like tenacity or cavalier attitude of fuck you or, you know, eventually your dad's going to die and now you've got no one else to make wrong. It's like until you fall flat on your face again. So that's why I want to be informed by love and freedom versus like love and limitation, fear and limitation.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Okay.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
I think they all have a place and people, whatever journey they're on and wherever they're at and the people they draw into their life, it might be appropriate. You know, I think things like breath work, I think psychedelics help because that's going to get deeper, right? Breathwork can be transformative. You can have a powerful moment, especially if you're doing deep, heliotropic breathing.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
It is hard, but a lot of people go into the crepitus and they have these epiphanies, and that's great. But oftentimes, anything that we're doing, it's too late. What I'm interested in, just my own modality, is revealing these deep subconscious constraints for what they are, which is lies. When you see it for what it is, a lie, then you're never going to be the same person. As an analogy, right?
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
For 2,000 years, we have said the world is a globe. And I guess still people arguing that it's not, which is fine. That's a whole different conversation. But let's just go with it. We're on a sphere, right? But prior to that, prior to Galileo, I think he decided or he saw that it's a sphere. Everyone thought it was flat. So that is the prison, right? The flat, because it's a lie.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
But in that prison, it's appropriate for what? The fear of falling off the edge. Do you see that fear is commensurate with the perspective. So you could say, okay, well, what's your gadget for stopping people falling off? That's a solution, right? If I was Elon Musk back in the day and I had a laser bracelet that would detect how far the horizon was, I'd be a multi-billionaire.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
They put you in a bunk with these obnoxious teammates.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
But it would all be within a lie because now I've worked with NBA guys. I tell an NBA, try and fall off the planet. They jump high. Give it four seconds, they're right back. So that you start to realize. So then when you reveal the lie, the previous fear associated with it disappears. Do you see? So does that as an analogy help you understand?
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So if someone thinks they're not enough, and as a byproduct of that, they had Hashimoto's, which is down the line of them trying to be a perfectionist and working too hard. And I could say, well, what you need to do is some breath work, meditation as a solution, but they're still being driven by the deeper code that they're not enough.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yes, that was quite fun. The kids have, you know, the parents have booted them out of Manhattan. It was in upstate New York. It was beautiful. Yeah. So it was a great introduction to the States, made some great friends. And then that led to one thing that then I came to California originally and stayed with a friend of mine that I'd met at the camp. He was trying to make a movie.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Once they see that for what it is, oh, my dad said da-da-da, my sister and my brother was the athlete or whatever the justification was. So does that mean like truly you're not enough? No, it's made up. Holy shit. If I'm not enough, what becomes, then I say in the absence of that constraint, like literally stepping out of prison, how would you feel? What become available? Oh my God.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
I that's when the shoulders drop. I, I do anything. That's a new world. There's no, then I don't need to tell them what to do. They start to look through new eyes, which will generate different behavior.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
It's like going to a different planet, like Wakanda or whatever it was in Black Panther. So you go through a portal. In this case, the portal is dissolving your constraint. You suddenly enter this world of pure love and freedom and possibility. You don't know how to navigate it, like the girl from Holland, which is cool. She's like, I don't even know what to do here. I'm like, no, I know.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
That's what I say to people, even in my mastermind. I'm introducing you to a world with which you're not familiar. But at least you're out of fucking hell. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. Now we can start to explore who could you be if you're not trying to disprove some feeling of inadequacy? Who could you be if you're not always worried about whether you're going to make it or be safe?
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
I don't know. I'd be so free. I'd start my business. I'd take better care of myself. I'd probably sleep like a baby. And there's all these different experiences that now become available in this new dimension.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
For sure. I mean, I don't keep track of the thousands of people, but you know, for people who are committed to my work, most of them for sure are going to have glimpses, you know, myself included. I'm at the bow of the boat of this whole work, at least in my way of sharing and teaching it.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So I can still, you know, have, you know, an old feeling of whatever it is, very short lived now, but yeah, it takes practice and also it takes community. It takes environment, right? Community is a big one.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Because if you're in a world where you're constantly being reminded of everybody's shortcomings or you even hear your friends complaining about their marriages and their kids or their business, you're in the mire of like derogatory negative comments, right? Versus in part of my freedom membership, there's a community where people support each other with the same kind of conversation.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So that itself can be uplifting. Yeah. So yes, you need practice, you need time, you need support, you need reinforcement, and there's many layers to it. So even if somebody in my mastermind, like this woman, realizes it's all up to her and now realizes it's not, it's just not up to her. Okay, maybe the predominant onus is on her, but as a choice, not like a have to. It's a very different energy.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
She gets to be a mom. She loves to be a mom. Do you see the difference between it's all up to me and I have to do it? That's creating suffering and resistance. So it's a choice, and when you introduce choice, you now have freedom.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
I got involved with him, made the movie. It was, you know, a great experience, but a terrible business. You know, three 24 year olds doing the best they could. Oh, wow. How old are you now? Now I'm 55.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
It can do, yes.
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Yeah.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
It is. And if it's done that way where his spiritual counselor is telling him to, then it's just another thing for him to do, which is only going to create more pressure.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah, it's instructional. So there's a difference between what I call instruction and inspiration. If he's saying, no, you have to do, you have to say, well, it's still, I have to, it's still the same energy.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
I can't wait to do the dishes.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Again, you want to be careful that it doesn't become too fastidious in terms of, we're human, right? We're all doing the best we can. And that's why I think we can make space for
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
a bit of comedy, a bit of compassion of like, these are good things to understand so that you can have a deeper reference point of like, oh, okay, yeah, at times my kids have been a pain in my ass and I'm just going to put them to time out or bed. You know, you're human, you're a mom, you're doing the best you can. Right.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
But if you can at least revert back to at some point in your evening or the next day and go, okay, that was an emotional reaction, totally appropriate as a human. I don't want to live from there because it's tiring. I also don't want to be that person for my kids. And maybe there's an opportunity for a conversation where they can garner a bit more responsibility about the way they behave.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
You want to just come back to it. Otherwise, it's a cumulative over time.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
It's no either or like the brain thinks in terms of duality, good, bad, right, wrong. You know, and that's why people tend to go well, if a relationship doesn't work, it's like, fuck it. You know, it's like, everything tends to be a bit too reactionary.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And what about if it could just be both recognize that we're frequency based beings, you know, and that our energy does have like that girl who's talking to me in a live her phones off. She turns her phone off at the end, sees what time we finish, and woo-woo, you know, hey, presto, abracadabra, this fucking client who she's been trying to get for seven months shows up. There's something in that.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
No, thank you.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah. So she now energetically has stepped into a different iteration of herself that isn't in this world of there's something wrong with me and I have to constantly perfect myself. So the way I would phrase it, she became more available to life, which is where life then met her at a different vibration. Mm-hmm. Now, can she just sit around and go, oh, I'm at this new vibration?
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
No, she has to reply to the person and say, great to hear from you. I'd love to work with you. And then whatever the next steps would be for this new type of person, she also has to be proactive.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah. No, my, my, thank you. I appreciate that. I play tennis still with kids who are half my age. I'm still the quickest on the court.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
My friend in college, he had a great expression. Because I started all of this philosophizing at a very young age. And he and I would sit under a tree and talk about consciousness. And it was fun as 18, 19 year old punk kids. But he would say, you know, believe in Allah, but tie up your camels.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So that to me kind of captures it, right? Like, you know, yeah, whether you call it God or Jesus or Muhammad or whoever or fucking Buddha, that's great. Have your dogmas. I'm not going to poo-poo you for it. And, you know, be as responsible you can be as a co-creator in life. Yes.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So that's where the woman who's, okay, she's a single mom, but she has community and an ex and parents, you know, she's not fully alone, but she could also say, okay, maybe life will bring me some unexpected lover or a friend or a neighbor who loves kids in the next three or four weeks, you know, be open to the miracles too. We tend to default to, it's all up to us.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And for that reason, you know, fuck life and woe is me. You know, it's like, I think we can make room for both.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah. You know? No, no. But you're not so woo-woo.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Super down to earth. To me, you know, again, going back to the monikers at the beginning, a spiritual teacher, I'm actually more of a physicist, right? But my physicist lens incorporates code, right? So I'm more of a tech guy also, but even with your mind, right? Because it's programming. So that's not woo-woo, because if you're living in a world where you think that you're not enough...
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That's a physical piece of code.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So I could then attribute what people might think is woo-woo as to why do they keep attracting a partner who's emotionally unavailable or maybe even a little abusive. That's not woo-woo. They just need to move to a better city or something. Well, no. To me, it's more, no, it makes sense.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Energetically, if the way they view themselves is less than, they're going to attract, woo-woo, people who will mirror that.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So I'm, yeah, I'm not, I understand the whole world of vibration and quantum physics and all of that. But to me, it's very practical.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
It seems like miracles, like that that girl got this text or, you know, the other things that have transpired with the myriad of people that I've helped, like some woman had stage four endometriosis, gone a couple of months after the end of the mastermind. That's not woo-woo, that's freaking science.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Because she grew up as a kid where her needs weren't met. She wasn't given any attention. Right. So especially as a woman, then her system shutting down, her needs don't matter. Whatever she wants is really irrelevant.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And she attracted boyfriends who would never pay her the time of day or were abusive. And eventually it shows up physiologically. Yeah. The mind and body connection is not so much a connection as it's a continuum.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So if you're living in a state of stress, I mean, you talk to any like real, like far, like scientist, scientist who's like, no, no, unless there's actual evidence and, you know, a documented study, they're still going to say stress is the number one cause of death, right? Or disease.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So what's stress? It's the way you're relating to your environment, which is based on perception. Yeah. So if you can change the eyes with which you view the world, then you're going to change your physiological response to it. That's not woo-woo, that's physics.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
He said, you know, when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
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Hold on. Is it because they change or is it because I have a new view?
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Physics talks about the observer effect. The split, the electron test with the two split tests, like whether it's a wave or it's particles, all of it. This is all physics. So if you're the observer in a particular environment, you're going to see the way that you see.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And then you're going to therefore impose your particular vantage point on a circumstance while someone else would have seen something completely different. Yet it's the same environment. Ramana Maharshi, one of the greatest spiritual teachers or in terms of legacy, he would say people come to his ashram for satsang, which is where they come and listen and ask questions.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And he'd sit there and do his best to answer it. And he said, it's like people arrive with a palm full of gunpowder. Some people's gunpowder is completely submerged with water. And for some other people, it's damp. And for some other people, it's really bone dry. And he says, I'm saying the same thing to the whole group.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
But depending on their capacity to hear, it will elicit the kind of response they have. The person who's got completely submerged might go, ah, it's kind of interesting. I didn't get much from it. They did, but they're not aware of it yet. The person with bone dry gum powder has the biggest epiphany.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Same thing, but depending on the readiness of someone's consciousness, you're going to interact with life at that level.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah, so that's the beauty of whether we call it karma or whatever this incarnation is about, that you're going to have to revisit the different arenas of life, those buckets we talked about. Why does a girl continue to attract a guy that's not emotionally available or is a bit abusive? She's the consistent theme. Maybe, just maybe, she's got some story of she's not lovable or she's trash.
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That's where I started actually.
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And so she keeps attracting guys and circumstances to reflect that until she transcends that. She goes to a different timeline. Because she's now viewing herself differently, feeling differently. And as a result, life will present new circumstances.
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Yeah, so it's common knowledge, so I can say it, but I was Tom Cruise's trainer for a few years. You were? Yeah, for Mission, festivals, and yeah, Moulin Rouge with Nicole in Australia and stuff like that, yeah.
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That's physics.
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Yes. And then most people live the other way around where they think, I want to change my circumstances before I'll change. Right.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Exactly. Right. And that's called seeing is believing, which I say is also called waiting.
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It's also called waiting.
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You do that all the time, huh? All the time, because it helps people understand something that's kind of otherwise a little bit over their head. Like you said, you've got to really focus when you're talking to me.
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I mean, they run the gamut, as you said, usually in the arena of relationships, something to do with, you know, I mean, relationships, health and wealth, you know, they're the big buckets, right? They're the real main three.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
um health tends to be specific to whatever someone's dealing with right so you know why have i created or why do i have this particular sickness and so i love to make the correlation for people between dis-ease and disease so disease being the physical manifestation over time of dis-ease, which is the absence of ease.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Meaning if my system's not at peace, then just again, biologically, I'm going to be in the sympathetic part of my autonomic nervous system, meaning I'm in fight or flight because I'm not at ease. When we're at peace, we're in the parasympathetic, which is rest and digest and rejuvenate, right? So that's just physics again.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
But if the way I perceive my environment is I'm scared or I'm under stress, then my biology has to follow that. So then dis-ease, absence of ease. So just even understanding that cascade, regardless of what you're dealing with.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
can help people to be more responsible about okay in ways that i don't know how they have to manage it whether they get out of a narcissistic horrible relationship or they leave a toxic job or they just need to learn to take time and breathe and have a better sleep routine or meditate just to imbibe ease more in your system and see what your body does that's one yeah relationships again are going to be the reflection of your relationship with yourself so if you're in a place where you think
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you're not safe, then you're always going to see something your partner does as potentially threatening. If you think that you're not enough, you're always going to see something your partner does as a judgment of you. So it's all a mirror. The whole life and the dimension of time and space and people is all just a mirror. So again, that's the good news.
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No. No, not at all. No.
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It's the good news and the bad news because most people don't want to be that responsible. They're like, yeah, but I'd rather blame my husband.
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Yeah, exactly. Seems that, but in the long term, it's not because you're actually slowly killing yourself. That's what I thought was really funny. The Dutch girl, the woman, you know, she said, holy shit, when she realized her mechanism for survival, which is it's all up to me, which is the white knuckling of I've got to take care of everything.
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She said, I realized the way that I'm surviving is actually what's killing me.
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Everyone. But it was just beautiful that she could see it unprompted by me. You know, that's what happens when the lights go on in the back room. You're like, holy shit, I've been doing this since I was a kid. And so she thinks that she's doing something from a, you know, a smart place of like, well, it's all up to me. So I'm going to push through. But actually, that's a lie.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yes, that was after I had left at the time. And a lot of the stuff was, but I wasn't. And a lot of stuff weren't, you know, but I guess he changed that afterwards.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And the mechanism she's using is what's actually her her oncoming mechanism.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
yeah you know it's funny it's like that's a blind spot though right like it is right because usually your best quality tends to also be your worst quality yes they're two sides of the same coin and that's why i said we can't be hard accountable for that which we're oblivious to that's where compassion comes in right because people can be very self-righteous when they see what's going on and that doesn't help you know it's about just being kind and realizing everyone's doing the best they can within limits of their awareness but yeah
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So then for the wealth, for the other bucket to finish the answer to your question, you know, most people, I'll give one example. I was talking to someone I met briefly and she's a single mom too. And she's like trying to, she said, I'm in a great place with my kids and my energy and I feel really good with my health and her choices around food and dah, dah, dah.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And she said, now I'm ready to create abundance. which all sounds beautiful, you know, and that fits into the whole world of spirituality. And I said, well, therein lies your problem. She said, what do you mean? I said, you don't create abundance. You reveal it. Abundance is.
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So what we want to do is actually, instead of trying to create it, we want to dissolve what is your illusion that you can't access it.
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Some of them are. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I don't, I mean, I'm on a show with you. I want to obviously give as much, you know, content that it's valuable to your listeners. No, I think it's amazing. But I shoot the shit. I play golf and tennis. You're like a normal dude. You talk about normal things too. Of course, of course. But I also understand the mechanics of how life works.
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And so it's fun because then I get to create and make shit up and play in the world that is this rich tapestry called, you know, planet Earth.
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There were a lot. I was with him for five years.
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Maybe not in this regard, but they have their own levels of expertise. I have friends who are great musicians or great playwrights and, you know, like everyone's got their own different qualities. Yeah, of course. I'm kind of teasing you, but, you know.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah, I get it and I appreciate the compliment, but I guess I have a unique ability to understand the power of language and to, you know, discern in a very precise way, you know, making things that are otherwise profound palatable for people or not so palatable. Or not palatable.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Correct. So you're under the illusion that something's missing, right? Isn't it subtle? Yes. It's so subtle, but it's so profound. Like often people will say my stuff, God, it's so simple, but it's really not easy. Yeah.
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Exactly.
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You're awesome. No, I can tell. And I could guess, you know, you're in the same bucket of a lot of my clientele who are high-end performers, but there's usually just this unnecessary pressure, you know, the world of have to, like your friend will be, perhaps not in that arena. If I get to, I could see that you would perhaps, you know, take that with a pinch of salt.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And I'm obsessed with them. These were early. I don't know if it was the very first one, but it was a couple. After we were two and three, we did a couple together. Moulin Rouge with Nicole. We did The Others. We did Minority Report. I can't remember. We did The Blue Room in London and New York, which was a Broadway show that Nicole had done. Yeah, it was amazing. I lost track of all the movies.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
You know, the feeling of you have to like, you know, you put a lot of pressure on yourself. And there might be just a little bit more room for Jennifer to have a bit more freedom, a bit more joy, not take life so seriously, you know, and to just have a bit more ease about you and allow life to contribute to you as much as I'm sure you contribute to others.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah. And I'm guessing just because of who you are, the majority of your audience is probably women. They're probably very small women. They're probably, as you said, high EQ. They're movements and shakers, they probably have families, but they also have businesses, whether they're really committed or it's a hobby, whatever, but they're dynamic women, extraordinary women.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And typically in that realm, what I see is where there's become a little bit of an exaggeration of the masculine qualities of being a little bit too driven, which can start to infiltrate the relationship. So maybe they've even attracted a man who perhaps isn't so much of a man and he's become an extension of their children, you know, in the way that they have to manage or take care of them.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So they maybe haven't made room for the softness of the feminine, you know, without getting into goddess language or any of that.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
it can bleed into being too mad into masculine energy which then is kind of like a turnoff if you're trying to like attract yes a very alpha type of man yeah and so the bat it's a very delicate balance it is it's tough yeah really and i feel for both men and women because men oftentimes the little boy syndrome that's out there you know they're trying to do the best they can to compensate which is really not being a man at all being more of a man is like yeah i struggle in this arena you know and just owning owning it right
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah, no, I see it. And there's no simple answer, right? It comes back to choice. For a woman who's driven, who's intelligent, who sees the world of possibility, and this world has become so much more accessible for all of us, right? Whether it's travel or business or startups or investments, it's fun to be able to, but
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
It's how can you maintain that sense of enthusiasm and drive while simultaneously embodying the softness, the approachability, and the nurturance of a woman, right? And I'm not saying that's easy. Equally for men who can now also be more sensitive. Like, I make my own skincare products. Like, I make a sugar scrub. Like, I love... Who does? I do. You do? Yeah.
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Because I like to take care of myself, right? But I'm also like, I like to be a fucking man's man. And I want to be with a woman who's not, you know, trying to outperform me or something.
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Yeah.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yep. And that's, again, coming from fear. It's coming from fear. And ironically, the means by which we're trying to garner attractivity, you know, becoming attractive to somebody, is the obstacle to it, right? So the woman oftentimes felt the need to become strong because she felt either inadequate or insecure, not safe.
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Jerry Maguire was on the back of that. He was just finishing that. She had done Peacemaker with George Clooney. Yeah, so it was five years. But anyway.
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And so, okay, well, if I'm going to make it, I need to make sure I'm financially independent and all of these things. Nothing wrong with that method, but it makes you unavailable, right? Because now you've actually strengthened the independence as opposed to creating, you know, some sort of companionship or a partnership.
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And then the boy or the man, you know, who's now trying to disprove he's like weak or trying to become the alpha, trying to become strong is really constantly reinforcing that he's not, which is equally unattractive to a woman. A hundred percent.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
whatever you have you know it's very difficult it's a very delicate balance yeah interesting times yeah so again it comes down to awareness it comes down to patience it comes down to compassion with each other yeah you know like hey i've got this strong tendency to be driven and independent as a woman and i know that's going to be both unattractive to you but also maybe at times challenging
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
No, but I think it's where we can have more patience and compassion with ourselves and others that we're all doing the best we can with the limits of our awareness. And just to be aware even of your tendencies and share those. That's a form of intimacy. Totally. To be able to say, hey, you know, I have this particular idiosyncrasy and I know that could be a turn off, but I at least want to be open.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And that softens it immediately once you can talk about it.
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Within the next two weeks. But I come back and forth. I wasn't based here, but I still come in and out of LA. So I was up in the Tahoe region, as mentioned. But I come in and do my live events. So if anyone wants to come to one of those, they can find that on my website.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
It's fun. Yeah, yeah. It'll help put it into perspective.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
It makes sense. Because then you experience it vicariously. A number of people who come up to see me often are like, oh my God, I could see myself in all three or four of the people you spoke to.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
You know, it comes down to how you define words. I would say he was passionate. I wouldn't say he was intense. I would say he's the ardent professional. I learned a lot from him. I have nothing but good words to say about my experience with them. He was the quintessential professional. I mean, he did everything so well with such integrity. And that was really inspiring to see.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Seems that way. It's certainly the people that come up to me or, you know, stop me on the streets or send messages. It's very, very flattering and humbling. So yeah, I'll keep at it. Yeah, please.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
I think you're onto something. Removing ending human suffering. Yeah. Okay.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah, on social Peter Krohn. And then my website, if they want to join freedom or maybe a mastermind in the future, that's just peterkrohn.com. Yeah.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Thank you. Pleasure to be with you, fellow Virgo.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
No, no. It was a unique setup and that was a big part of my history, so I'm not sure it's so relevant today.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah. No, it definitely for a kid who had been orphaned in England and didn't come from wealth or anything like I didn't wasn't left a penny. It actually went to my then stepmother. So I came to the States with about 200 bucks. Right. which was tough. And I was sleeping on a very stained and not pleasantly smelling rent-controlled apartment carpet in a living room with buddies.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And so that was very humbling, but in a way that it's really made me appreciate everything that I have. And so to your point, yes, when I was then in this environment with the jets and everything that you could imagine, it's sort of like you soak a piece of meat in whatever marinade, it's going to absorb it, right? So through the process of osmosis, I was starting to
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
imbibe my own higher frequencies of what becomes possible. So whilst I was a small cog in a big machine and very grateful for the experience, it did open my eyes to different ways of looking at life. And of course, then people, you know, there was press clips and things of what I was doing.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And so there's a little bit of notoriety that came with it that then afforded me to work with other people who were high performers. So it did start a new trajectory. And that's why I'm, as I said, I'm super grateful for the experience.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
Yeah, so when I left, much to the chagrin of kind of both of them, which was nice because they really enjoyed my company and we had great results together. But I just recognized that as much as I could transform a body, which was... Somewhat child's play, meaning because I'd studied exercise physiology, human biology as my undergrad.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
I kind of knew the ins and outs of anatomy to physiology and biomechanics. So that was relatively easy. And I got the job with them because I was a trainer originally and I was getting such incredible results. So my name was thrown in a hat for a possible replacement for their old trainer. So, but what I recognized was that takes time, right?
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
In the world of matter, you need time and space in order to make true, you know, significant transformation. And I had already been fascinated with philosophy, the mind, why do humans do what they do? I was also a ski instructor for a while. And I can remember distinct moments where I would be watching two people I was helping, same age, same experience, same sort of seemingly athletic ability.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
But one was sort of had this trepidation and scared and the other one went for it. And I'm like, it's got nothing to do with equipment anymore, right? It's about perception. So that really opened up this whole line of coaching at the time. I just was sort of doing friends and family to start, you know, seeing if I actually had, you know, anything decent to say.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And then it really took off very quickly when I got some professional athletes who started to triple winnings and things like that, you know, on a professional level where they were changing nothing but their mindset and, you know, golf and then baseball. And so that kind of really, that accelerated my career very quickly then.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
I don't know if there's one thing. I mean, what's come through me, the uniqueness and sort of proprietary nature of my work is I've delineated these 10 prisons of the subconscious that we all have. So you could argue that actually somebody's constraint becomes the impetus for their success. Like somebody like a Kobe, he thrived on making people wrong.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
I would say it's a limited way of actually becoming accomplished because you're being defined by a negative, if that makes sense.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So even though it can get people a long way, it typically is being driven by the energy of fear. So with my athletes, there's the myriad of like, I'm not good enough, I'm a failure, you know, whatever it is that holds any human being back.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
So they could have all the talent in the world, just like you probably have friends and family who are brilliant, and they have a lot of potential, but they don't know why they can't access a loving relationship, nine, 10 figure business or whatever they want, or health in their body. So it's these sort of blind spots that hold people back, which is sort of my area of expertise to reveal.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
And as Carl Jung said, he had a beautiful quote. He said, until you make the unconscious conscious, it will drive your life and you'll call it fate.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
i have yeah i don't know what you probably know because you've listened to some of my stuff but i tend to download in quotes so i have a quote to that point about intelligence where i said being smart doesn't make you any happier it just makes your reasons why you're not way more convincing
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
The people who have the IQs, the EQs, you know, they're able to discern and to justify, rationalize why things won't work. So, you know, I could say if there was one catch-all for your question about what is the one thing that holds people back, oftentimes it's really, it's the accumulation of disappointment or failure.
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
right so you think about a young mind in whatever regards whether it's walking tasting something going up to a girl for the first time you know there's a certain innate cavalier part of being human where we're just curious but then when you've had disappointments and and trials and tribulations the more you've accumulated then the more your brain uses that as evidence as to why it's not going to work so again one of my quotes i say past hurts informs future fear so the the greater the hurt then
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Episode 441: Peter Crone on Breaking Mental Prisons + How To Dissolve Limiting Beliefs in Seconds
sort of the commensurate energy that comes with that is now fear. So kind of the younger you are, which with a lot of my pro athletes, most of them are, then there's this sort of more fuck it kind of attitude, you know, so, um, which to me is really representative of one of my favorite qualities, which is commitment.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
People really are under the impression that the life they have is not the life they want. The thing that we're really up against is all our own perspective. That's it. We could just be perpetually chasing our tail, trying to perfect everything around us under the illusion that when I get everything exactly the way that my current perspective thinks it should be, then I'm going to experience peace.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I don't take care of myself. I've settled in a relationship that isn't passionate, whatever it is. And then it's like, now you see a new opportunity. So it's literally creating a new arena, which is then pulling you through inspiration to become literally a better version of yourself. So that's the cascade of the evolution. We shed these skins, hopefully continually.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
We do it physiologically, just showering every day. You're getting rid of dead cells. But why I love what I get to do is because people just, they don't upgrade their software usually, oftentimes in an entire lifetime. So to keep dying to the version of yourself that no longer serves you is a form of being truly alive.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
which is why the subject of death is one of my favorites because to truly be alive, you have to constantly dive to the part of you that is redundant.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Yeah, I think, you know, I often talk about the three main buckets, which sort of are a catch-all for the different ways that people perceive themselves. And it's not even, as I said, it's not a limiting belief. The way I phrase it, it's the you that you are for yourself, right? Which might seem like a weird statement, but it's accurate, right? The you that you are for yourself.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So it's not that you think or have a belief that you're not enough. It's that who you are for yourself is you're not enough. And so that informs, that is the view of life that you look through.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
so i talk about like some sense of inadequacy some sense of insecurity and some sense of scarcity as being the three main catch-alls right that everyone can relate to inadequacy is normally about ourselves that i'm not enough i'm not loved i'm not valuable insecurity is how i relate to my environment so there's a fundamental feeling of like we're not safe and particularly for the feminine sadly because of this patriarchal world we live in and that they've been abused for centuries right so a woman walking to her car at night
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
has a totally different experience than a guy walking to his car at night, right? You know, just because of the way that this society is sadly set up. So the not safe really is the feeling of insecurity for the way it manifests in a masculine. It might be insecurity in performance, right? So I've worked with high-end executives who are super well-informed about their industry.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
They've worked in a company for decades, but they're still scared shitless to get on stage and present, right? So insecurity. And then scarcity is like where people have this misnomer that there isn't enough as it relates to the material world, right? So there's a relationship to ourself, there's a relationship to others, and there's a relationship to the material world.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And so they tend to be the default factory settings of the subconscious that we look through. Something wrong with me, I'm not fundamentally loved and accepted by society, and I don't have enough. And then it's like slap on the ass and go figure it out, have fun. Become who you think you should be as a compensation for your inadequacy.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Do whatever you have to as a strategy to win love and favor from your fellow species. And then accumulate as much as you can to compensate for the scarcity. And those three right there, you start to see the idiosyncrasies that people deal with, right? People are exhausted. They are living in a pretense. They're trying to be who they think they should be in order to be loved and accepted.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
They are doing whatever they can as a strategy to compensate for their own shortcomings, whether they work harder, they become people-pleasers, perfectionists. The social media game is obviously where this is replete with the attempts through filters and posters and positions and lights to look good.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And then the hoarding mentality that it is to be human, the holding onto things as though anything exogenous to us has any value at all. It just doesn't. So when you really start to see that, it's like, holy shit, no wonder people are just sick and tired. They're playing this quintessential hamster wheel game of really trying to overcome their own blind spots of lies.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
When you really see it, there's so much compassion. That's why, again, I love what I get to do, because as I tell people, I can't give you something you don't already have. I'm just helping you see what's in the way of you realizing that. And it's a dissolution process, right? And we live in a very solved world. a solution-oriented society.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Which is why I love Ayurveda. And when I became a practitioner of that, there were so many correlates between what I already intuitively understood in my own work and what the science of 5,000, 6,000 years old was pointing to physiologically. And there's something called Samprapti, which is the six stages of disease. And it really talks about the physiology and the doshas, right?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
If you have too much pitta or vata or kapha, these different energies, then you eventually get sickness. And the first stage of disease is accumulation. And yet here we live psychologically in a world of scarcity, and so the impulse is to accumulate.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So it's just so ironic that the very thing that's driving us to try and find some sense of solace from the deprogramming that there's not enough is itself the first stage to sickness. And so it's this vicious cycle where until you realize that you are what you're looking for, like the seeker is the sort, the place we're looking from is the place we're looking for, right?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
It's just so stunning when you get it because we're playing this game of illusion, right? That there's something missing, something wrong. And now I'm going to play this compensatory role where actually the means by which I'm trying to find that which I am is creating the obstacle and the sickness that then I have to deal with. Yeah. It's nuts. Yeah, I know.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Why do white people fucking drink so much?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Yeah, it's a lot. I know it's a lot to process. It's so obvious to me, and I just spit it out. People are like, wait, I think he said something profound, but I don't know what the fuck he said.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Yeah, the sort of Russian doll effect. I mean, I think they're all commensurate. They all sort of reinforce one another, but they all overlap, right? So somebody who thinks they're not enough could equally relate to somebody that they're over here talking about the fact that they can't find a good mate in Los Angeles, right?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
It's like, it's not necessarily I'm not enough, but it's sort of a correlate to I'm not lovable, which is what the other person's experience might be. So they all overlap. I mean, it's not a distinct science in the way that I've created it. But it really speaks to, that's why those three main buckets, I think, kind of capture the human experience that everyone can relate to.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Somebody out there, no matter how accomplished they are, could probably feel like, oh, I can see that sometimes I think I'm not enough or that there's a feeling of inadequacy. So I think they all, it's sort of like a domino effect. Like once you start to see one, for what it is, which is this sort of linguistic fortress, as I call it. So literally you're in a prison based on words or sound.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Once you see that, then whatever else it is that you come across, even if it's a blind spot, there's a deeper knowing now, no sis, it's not mind oriented, but like really systemic oriented where it's like, Oh, hang on a minute. Whatever I'm feeling, I now know is self-referral based on the way that I have some perceived limitation. It's no longer circumstantial based, right?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Most people think that they're a victim of circumstance if fill in the blank, right? Obviously, the number one is usually if I had more money, I'd be fine. Then it usually defers to something in the family. If my wife, my husband were nicer, if my parents appreciated me, then I'd be fine. If my workplace was nicer, like you can fill in the blank of the things that people complain about.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
But that's the trap, right? If I think that I'm a victim of circumstance, then we lead into the world that we see, which is control, manipulation, domination. Because people are trying to manipulate the things around them under the illusion that that's what's going to garner my greatest sense of joy. But that's not how it works. I mean, talk to a billionaire, right?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
It's like I've worked with, I don't know, a couple of dozen of them. They don't have white light shooting out their genitals and they're not like loving life, right? They didn't crack the code. They're still usually trying to accumulate more because that's where they're still caught in the same rat race as most people that it's out there somewhere.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I mean, I don't know if it's so much a definition. I like to use analogies. I think it helps people to understand things that perhaps aren't so palatable. But if you imagine the building we're in right now, it's going to be commensurate with the foundations, right? So this existence that we live in as a space, or you live in as your home, It has to have the pillars that support it.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So I think the overlap is good to see, the cascade of one to the next is good to see, but really it's the fundamentals of what is it we're up against. That's the thing to see is that, you know, as I said earlier, albeit in that sort of rapid download, we are what we're looking for. It's just we're looking through a lens of illusion that has us feel inadequate, insecure, scarce.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And so once you understand the mechanism of suffering, Because otherwise it becomes sort of like the allopathic world, right? You go and see a gastroenterologist, a neurologist, a cardiologist. It's all this world of separation.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So someone could go to see a therapist or a psychiatrist or a spiritual teacher or a priest for some sort of counsel, and they're going to talk about the different arenas of their life, right? And so you could go from department to department of your life. Okay, there's something to do in my relationships, of which there are many, romantic, friends, family. I could look in the arena of my wealth.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So it could be my literal bank accounts. It could be my career. I could look in the arena of my body and my health. And so... We could just be perpetually chasing our tail, trying to perfect everything around us under the illusion that when I get everything exactly the way that my current perspective thinks it should be, then I'm going to experience peace. But you don't because guess what?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
The next day you're scrolling on Instagram and you saw the latest thing that you're supposed to be doing with your body now. And you're like, fuck, I just thought I'd reached the crescendo of my physiological radiance. And now it's like there's something else or there's a new fashion or there's a new thing to try.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So that's where I want people to understand that the thing that we're really up against is all our own perspective. That's it. That's it. Then the world can be as it is. And it's not to say that it's ideal. And it's not to in any way dismiss that people have very challenging circumstances. They have families to raise with maybe, you know, shortcomings in their income.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And they have certainly right now with whatever happened in LA and people's houses have been burned to the ground. Like there's stuff to deal with. There's shit to handle. But the means by which we do it is what I'm interested in. There's what we do, and then there's the how. We all do shit every day. I'm a busy guy, but am I doing it from a place of obligation, suffering, a feeling of lack?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I'm trying to get away from something I'm trying to fix, or am I doing it for the pure joy of creation and being alive? Clearly, I'm doing the first one. Fucking miserable. Yeah. Yeah, no, so that's a long-winded answer to your question, as is often the case with me. But it's just recognizing, listen, you're not up against circumstances. You're just not.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And we want to make space for the challenges that it is to be human, right? Like this three-dimensional carbon suit I take care of, right? It needs to sleep. It needs food. It needs to get rid of waste products. There's things that it needs in order for me to have this interface with you and everybody else. But that's not my challenge. My challenge isn't what's going on in life. It just isn't.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
None of that. That is the reflection. That is the mirror through which I can start to really investigate what am I really up against, which is the limitations of my own perspective. Crack that code. Forget about it.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So any building, any identity that we become associated with, in this case, our own personality, has got its own foundation. So for me, the subconscious represents that. So the things that we're aware of, it's really just as the word implies, that which is beneath, which is conscious, right? So it's just below. So we become oblivious to it, but nonetheless, it informs everything.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
That's great. And I think just to address one quote, you know, like, so I actually say you can't be held accountable for that which you're oblivious to. So, because you really understand this in a way that you live it, I think, is we are responsible. It's just we might not know. And so that's what then breeds the compassion, right? You go and see experts and they're like, you shouldn't do this.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
But you don't. When you live that way for decades, you also now have the accumulative effect of that perspective. The toxicity in the brain, the toxicity in the body, the toxicity in your relationships, the absence of abundance in your finances. My role is to help people discover what's beneath their woe.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
It's sort of this more lecturing high school, like, derogatory way that people can be spoken to. So I think there's room for compassion. But the responsibility part is where the power lies, right? If I'm fully responsible for my life, even in the ways that I don't fully understand some of my behavior, I'm no longer a victim of circumstance. So that's the first thing for people to look at.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
In terms of the questions they can ask themselves, it really comes down to the predominant emotional state that people are in, which is fear. So whatever anyone is dealing with, as best as you can, look at the circumstance, whatever it is, rent that can't be paid, a relationship that's seemingly coming to an end, a parent that is about to die.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Wherever they're suffering, there's going to be some form of resistance. One of the biggest lenses that is illusory that people look through is that they're under the impression that the life they have right now just isn't it.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And when you really understand the amount of energy and time that people put into trying not to be where they are, you start to see the futility of that particular perspective, right? Because it's completely logical. But when you see it, it's so insidious, right? People really are under the impression that the life they have is not the life they want.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And I understand that psychologically and emotionally, but it's futile because it is the life you have. So the degree to which you resist that is the degree to which you're saying that I'm not where I'm supposed to be, which is going to be based on some deeper feeling of inadequacy or insecurity. Inadequacy that I haven't fulfilled on my potential.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
You know, when I was a kid, everyone was like, oh, you're going to be pretty, or you're going to be amazing, or you're going to be so successful.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And so these deep programs that got instilled from parents and family members that haven't become realized because you're in a middle management position and you live in a city in an apartment and you thought you'd be in the suburbs driving a Mercedes or whatever it is, there's nothing inherently wrong with your life.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
What you're fighting is the life you have relative to the life you either think you're supposed to have, you want, or you should have. So I would, to investigate suffering, where are you in resistance to yourself and life? What is it that you're saying about who you are and what you have that you're under the impression isn't right? And when you can really see that, it's like, holy shit.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So that when we're thinking about things, we're in the shower, we're going to bed, we're driving our car, whatever it is that you are aware of as a conscious thought, to me is generated from a much deeper and at times more insidious, doesn't have to be bad, but it's a much more well-formed idea.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I am in a constant, mild to severe state of fight or flight with the circumstances of my life, which in of themselves aren't threatening. There's one of my more favorite quotes, I say, it's either life-threatening or it's ego-threatening. For the most part, hopefully most people's lives, there isn't much life-threatening ever, occasionally.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
But for the most part, it's all your own perspective that's being threatened. So fear is that precursor to resistance. I'm not going to be okay. This isn't the way it should be. What do people think about me? So to tap into that is where people can start to investigate, okay, what is the deeper concern? What is it that I say about myself?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
What is it that I'm saying about my relationship to other people? What is it I'm saying about my relationship to the material world? That according to my subconscious program, because it's not a conscious process, It's based on some sort of, you know, imprints from childhood, or I would say the constraints with which we arrived, because otherwise it's, you know, becomes accusatory, right?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
It's because my dad said that I'm a loser, that I'm a loser. No, you arrived as a loser, as a potentiality, emotional epigenetics, right? Not literally, but your persona. I'm just cutting that out. Yeah. Peter Krohn, you arrived as a loser. You are a loser. Let's just call it what it is. You arrive with the perspective that that's who you are for yourself.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And then you curated the events that helped to trigger that, right? So that is your opportunity as a soul to be able to transcend, to discover your true divine nature. So whilst we tend to blame people for the things that we struggle with today, that just leaves us powerless, right? And there's nothing then we can do other than to continue to try and manipulate our circumstances.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
you know, the really, the gift that it is to be able to see other peoples, right? Because I've had to go through it myself. I often say, you know, heaven is a place on earth, but you have to go through hell to get there, right? And so I've definitely been through hell.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I think one of the first ones that we may have even talked about on your first podcast that we did together was my story of loss, which obviously is part of the fabric of what it is to be human, right? People talking about, I've lost my home, I've lost my possessions. And so what I recognize is that's also a story. There's no loss.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And so whilst people know, for example, that they shouldn't smoke cigarettes or maybe they shouldn't drink so much alcohol, that's a conscious awareness. but they don't know why they still do it because of the subconscious foundation that supports the habit. So that's why it's so beautiful to be able to access because really it informs everything else.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Like in the world of energy that we live in, it's all just transferred, right? It's all conserved. It just goes from one form to the next. And so my parents dying, my mom dying when I was seven of cancer and my dad going to work when I was 17 and went, he worked on the boats and the boats capsized and he was one of close to 200 people that died.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So I, in ways that I didn't know, my oblivious state was because I'm hearing, oh, my gosh, loss and loss and loss and loss. I lost my parents. And for years, in a really well-intended way, I was hearing that from people. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Oh, that must have been so hard to lose your parents at such a young age. And so that narrative continues to get reinforced.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So it wasn't until 14 years after or 13 years after my dad died that I fell in love as best as I knew at the ripe age of 29 and my very limited understanding of what love was. And so my who I was for myself is who I am is somebody that loses things of value. I'm not walking around saying that. That's a bizarre thing to say, but my energetic signature is that.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And so the way I related to this new girl was from the compensatory space of, well, I don't want to lose you because my way of relating to you is that I love you and you're amazing. So I'm going to compensate by being the perfect boyfriend, right? So people can understand that.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
But I didn't believe it because it's my blind spot. Yeah, yeah. Like subconscious identity belief, right? Exactly. So it's just who I was for myself is that anything of particular value, especially in the realm of relationships, is going to disappear because that's my trauma. That's my experience, right? So that's my only frame of reference. So here now is somebody who, for the first time,
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Dated other girls, but didn't have the same significant connection. So but here, this is wall, this is strong, this is love, right? So now we get this energetic, these tender hooks that get into her, you know, my means of making sure that I don't experience the hurt that I actually haven't transmuted yet that I'm still propagating. is to make sure I don't lose her because that's too painful.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Not realizing, because this is all happening beneath the surface, that I just still haven't reconciled the hurt that was my parents dying. And it's being reinforced by the narrative of loss, which I didn't lose them, they died, right? So eventually I got to the post of, I didn't lose anything, my parents died. That's part of the human experience. That might sound cold or callous.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I still miss the shit out of my dad. I mean, I think he would be blown away by what I've accomplished. And, you know, there's a sense of pride that I know he just adored me as an only child, right? And especially as for 10 years after he'd lost his own wife, you know, his mom, my mama died and his wife had gone. You know, I was his entire world, right?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So there's times where I just really feel like I would love to just sit down and get to know him, you know, because as a 17 year old, we're all so self-preoccupied. But anyway, so in that relationship, I got to the point where, as I tell people, fear will break its own heart, right?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So I didn't know, but my fear of loss did eventually fulfill on itself, that self-fulfilling prophecy where my behavior, because albeit well-intended, and I really was a great fucking boyfriend, but my efforts were somewhat disingenuous, Their underlying intent was pure, which is, I love this person.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
It's sort of that which is tucked away in the wings, but it's the genesis of everything that we're aware of that we think about that then creates all of our emotions and our actions and then consequently our results. So that's why for me, I love delving into that because it's the only thing that's really going to make lasting change.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I want to show up, whether it be poetry, flowers, kindness, attention, safety, all the things that you would assume any woman would just die for.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
were nonetheless tainted with this little bit of inauthenticity because the energetic way that it's being represented is from fear and even on the receiving end in ways that we probably couldn't articulate or she couldn't she's her body her somatic experience is feeling the texture of the energy in which things are being given from right and she could feel it to the point that that's what she articulated when she left right because i thought we were in such a great place
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And we had, you know, like any couple, we had things to work on and communications to clear up. But there was so much joy and love between us. But when she did eventually say she's leaving, she said, your love is suffocating. And even in the moment she said that, it still didn't register because I didn't know what I was up to.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
But it's like, you know, when you catch a kid and you can tell as a parent, like they just did something, you know, what are you up to? Nothing. You know, there's something going on systemically, energetically at the subtlest level of who we be that we're oblivious to. But you're up to something, right? And in this case, what I was up to was doing everything I could to avoid her leaving me.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
which was got nothing to do with her. It had everything to do with the hurt that had not yet been mitigated in my system because of the passing of my parents. So once I saw that, I mean, there was, she left and there was, it was probably seven, eight weeks where she wasn't in my life.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
The first two or three were communicating this, you know, whatever logistics, she left this or this or how you, you know, we're, staying in touch for a while. And I was at that point still hoping that there was an opportunity to reconcile where, you know, she'd come back or desperate and doing desperate things. I was talking to all my buddies and, you know, what can I do? What can I say?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
How did I fuck this up? All the normal stuff that humans go through. And then there was a period of about six or seven weeks, maybe five or six weeks, where there was no communication. So I hadn't heard a word from her. And my brain, because of this subconscious foundation of fear and loss, the conscious thoughts were, based in that scarcity and lack, right? Where is she?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Is she dating someone else, which would help to reinforce my feeling of inadequacy? Will I see her again, which is the fear of like my life not working out? And so all of these questions kept ruminating around, you know, to the point of like, I woke up one night in the middle of the night and I actually screamed, shut up. I said, shut up, because my mind just would not stop.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
It is an addiction, right? When we come from that place of suffering. So it was very humbling for me because back then I wasn't doing what I do now. I was just, you know, not just, but I was training people. So it will be a transformative and it was beautiful. It didn't have this level of impact.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So I sat there and then, you know, one day I was just sitting at my desk and these same questions were still, you know, permeating the corners of my skull. And I got the answer to all the questions. They were like, where is she? Is she dating someone? Will I see her again? And will I find love like that? It was three words, which is, I don't know.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I mean, you go and see an expert of any kind, they're going to dabble in the realm of behavior, right? Like you see someone who teaches you tennis or someone who teaches you yoga or someone who's a nutritionist, most of the conversation is going to be in the realm of action. Like do this, don't do that. But to me, that's way too far down the cascade of how things come into creation.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And the peace and freedom that cascaded through my body, I'd never had before. and to me if there was a satori moment some sort of moksha or enlightenment that was it that was it i realized at that moment all of it right in terms of my experience which is I'd never known what the fuck was going to happen. None of us do. I didn't know I was going to have this conversation with you today.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
But the irony or the paradox of the human brain, which is designed to predict and protect, because the imperative of every organism is to survive. And so we've got this incredible piece of equipment that's always trying to calculate what's going to happen for its own self-preservation, which is handy. We all want to stick around. But I realize it's futile.
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Because it doesn't matter how much you sit and try and think about what's going to happen. At best, you can speculate. I mean, people do it on the stock market. They do it with human behavior a little bit. But you still don't know. So that's where that pattern, to me, got revealed. And the truth was just so self-evident that it was undeniable and I never looked back, which is, I didn't know.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I didn't know where she was. I didn't know who she's dating. I didn't know if I'd see her again. And the powerful part was not only the reconciliation of the futility of trying to work out life, but the actual nature of life is uncertainty. But then secondly, for the first time in my life, I was totally okay with it. And that was peace. That to me was true success.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
There was nothing more to figure out. There was nothing to control. There was nothing to manipulate or try and win or hold. It was complete surrender. And because I know you love physics and the subtler bodies of this paradigm we're in. What was so profound for me is within 15 minutes of me having that revelation, my phone rings. And at this point, it was a landline showing my age.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
But I pick it up and it's her. And I haven't spoken to her for about six weeks. And the last time I spoke to her, I'm the desperate one, like trying to get her back, right? And now she's crying, saying, I miss you so much. I want to come back. I mean, again, tingles now, right? Because what I got at that moment was... in physics entanglement theory, right? But the unification of everything.
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And she was literally on the other side of the planet. She couldn't physically have been further. She was in New Zealand, right? And this isn't a knowing, right? This is an energetic resonance that I would assert at that moment I had become available for the first time in my life. Because I wasn't available. Most people in relationships aren't available. I know that's a bold statement to make.
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But because you're fighting your own feelings of constraint, and then your partner is the mirror for hopefully for those things to obviously get transmuted. But at that moment, I no longer had anything to prove. I didn't need to hold on to her. I understood what love was. I recognized what freedom was.
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So prior to what we're aware of and we think about are these subconscious thoughts, and then we can access the realm of being and freedom.
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And albeit, of course, over the last two plus decades, you know, there's been moments where I've still tried to figure shit out, but it wasn't from a place of fear. It wasn't from a place of worry. It wasn't from a place of, you know, desperation. So that was the insight that could not be unseen.
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It's such a beautiful question. And I feel so blessed that I got to see that, right? Because at one level, it could be embarrassing, right? But again, like I say, you can't be held accountable for that, which you're oblivious to. So I didn't know any better. I was a great boyfriend. I was a great boyfriend.
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But I was nonetheless more in relationship with my fears and my constraints than I was with her. You know, when people really get that, it hurts, you know, it stings because there was love. And thankfully, she came back around many years later.
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She's married happily and, you know, found me on Instagram and is like still super grateful for everything we went through, which is, for me, peace in the way that, you know, it was a beautiful experience together. But nonetheless, to answer your question, what I really got was that Most people don't relate to other people.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
They're relating to other people through the lens of their own identity in the way that it serves them, for good or bad. It's the madness of the ego. You fight for your limitations, they're yours, right? So sometimes we attract circumstances, professionally, romantically, that help us to be right about the fact that we think that we're a horrible person or that we're not good enough.
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But at that moment, I really got... I think the greatest gift you can give another human being, which is, who can I be where I'm absent? The me that is me is absent. And that I'm so with you, it's almost as though I'm truly you. Like, that to me is the gift of real listening.
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To get someone's reality, and it doesn't mean you have to agree with it, condone with it, or go by whatever they're asking of you. But to really get their reality, to me, is the greatest gift of love you can afford somebody. And I got it. I was like, holy shit, I just wanted to be with her.
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No agenda, no intention, no Peter Crone in the way, no fear of loss, no little boy that needed reassuring, none of that. And there's something so beautiful about it because it's almost like by virtue of truly being with another being, human being, you get to see another facet of consciousness itself. It's almost like we're all different parts of an eight billion faceted diamond, right?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And we all have a slightly different perspective. And so in the absence of the I, you're left with the they. And it's beautiful for two reasons, because it's both liberating, because in the absence of the me, which tends to be founded in constraints, I feel free, But then it's the gift of presence to be with someone. And we see this with kids and parents, right?
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Like the number one thing that I ask or I hear from parents is, you know, how can I both help my kids to become better humans, but how can I get my kids to listen because they don't listen? And it's to teach them this, that you're not with them. You're superimposing your view of who they should be, who you'd like them to be.
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Oftentimes, you're preoccupied with a device or cooking or doing something, which is understandable. But the kid doesn't have any of that. The kid is so present. And so it's the tugging of the pant legs for the 20th time. Mommy, mommy, daddy, daddy, daddy, daddy. They don't yet feel heard or seen or held.
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And so in the absence of the idea of oneself, which I know can sound very esoteric, but it's a literal experience. you get to truly be, fully be with another person. And that to me is true intimacy. That's the beautiful, pure line of connection that is always there underneath the static that is our egos trying to be right or connect.
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And that's what I experienced was the opportunity to be fully present with another being.
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No, it's beautiful because I think it also appeals to the fact that, again, without sounding too poetic, that our nature is to love. And so when we see a part of us that's not doing that, it hurts because we're in denial of our true self. It's like we're disappointed in who we know we are, who we can be. But it's such a magical mechanism to discover more love, in this case of self-love, right?
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So compassion to self of like, oh, even though I was playing the role of the perfect boyfriend, which was my way of strategizing to not lose something that was of value to me, It was so well intended and innocent, you know, even to the point where sometimes, okay, there's really horrific things that happen in relationships that I don't condone.
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I mean, people go through horrible forms of harm and abuse. But, you know, underneath it all, I really feel there's just a little boy or a little girl that just wants to connect. You know, I always talk about these three qualities I feel every human being wants, which is to be seen, heard, and held. And in the absence of the idea of ourself, we get to...
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join in union there, which ironically is not to join, but really to reveal, right? Like I often joke with friends, as you know, because I can be a bit of a smart ass, but when people say, oh, wow, dude, I really connected with this chick. I'm like, well, no shit. You're already connected. You just got rid of the illusion that you're not.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So it's really just, it's that dissolution process again, right? It's the revelation of the fact that there is nothing but love and unity, but we have this sort of preconceived idea that has us think that we're in this dangerous world where we have to present ourself in a way so that we get loved and accepted. And it's so convoluted and exhausting.
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And in the absence of all of that, you just get to truly be with another human.
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of who they are you know and that's why i feel so lucky that i get to do what i do because even now my live events which are growing and i'm going to do more around the world you know you're in a room with 200 and 300 people in this case and somebody's sharing something that's so vulnerable and so intimate to them but for whatever reasons but based on everything i just shared they feel that they can
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Because it's okay. And this is why having best friends, and I think women do this so well, there's the absence of judgment. So we could say in a sort of negatory way, love is really the absence of judgment. It's allowing someone to be fully who they are in this moment, knowing that everything's in constant flux anyway.
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Yeah, that's sort of the audacious perspective of the human, right? So in the absence of you, there is just whatever's going on for them, which is why I was saying earlier, like to truly relate is to truly be in their reality without the condoning of it, without the accepting of it, without that having to adhere to it, but it's just to get it, just really get it.
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Like, wow, it's a gift both ways, right? Because to understand someone's perspective on life, not only can be informative, it can be inspiring, it could be educational, but it's the ultimate form of generosity. Which is why I feel so blessed because people talk to me about everything.
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I mean, the number of times I've been on an airplane and sat next to a stranger who at the end of the flight is like, I don't know who you are, but I hadn't even told my wife that. And so it's sort of to go back to that, what you're talking about with a girlfriend that I had, she could feel like, okay, there's this efforting that I'm trying to be a perfect boyfriend. It's a bit inauthentic.
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People feel the presence of safety where there is no judgment. There is listening. There is the ability to hear what they're saying and repeat it back so they know that they can trust that you're paying attention, that you care, all of these things. Whereas most people, and I've seen this with some friends of late, where we were talking about the energy of actual communication, how people speak.
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And she recognized one of her tendencies was to interrupt a lot. And she didn't even know she was doing it, right? But it's a form of like trying to get attention or, oh, look, I also know or whatever it is, right? Which is on the top of the deeper foundation of feeling inadequate or not loved.
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Is that how you see it? Yeah, I mean, that's the realm that I traffic in. That's what I'm always looking for. And, you know, in the book that I've been writing for like the last 78 years, I've That's eventually going to come out. Older than you. It just feels like it's been there for a minute. I know, it has been.
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And so when she saw that, it was both embarrassing, but also to our point earlier, like it denies the fact that she just wants to love and be part of something. And she went home and she's like, oh my God, like I had dinner, you know, my parents and sibling. And it's insane. Everybody's just sort of basically screaming at each other. Like no one's listening to anything.
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Like you hear what people say and there's some sort of semblance of response, but really it's like, well, you just said something. I'm going to take time to say something. And for me, that's just sort of this, again, this accumulation, the remnants of a child that never actually got heard, seen or held. That's still, it's still trying to get, just love me, you know?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And that's where we see often in the world, it's just a bit of a desperate energy where people are trying to be seen, you know, and whatever means we do from, surgery at the extremes to clothing and makeup and stuff, you know, and it's all okay. It's all okay. We have compassion for it, but it's exhausting.
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So to really relate is to ironically, you know, not be there in terms of the idea of yourself so that you could really be with whoever's in front of you, you know.
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I mean, only to reiterate what I said, which I think is the greatest gift we can afford ourselves and the person we're listening to, right? Because it's truly reciprocated in the way that I step aside the idea of myself that has any agenda.
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has any concern about how I occur to you, like that I want to look, you know, favorable, good, loved, cool, whatever it is, like that all of that's put to one side. And I really get to just be with you and to hear what's going on without any judgment. It really is the demonstration of generosity in both directions, right? I'm going to hold space for you in a way that
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Because then you start to see that everything that anyone deals with as a problem exists only in perspective. People do end relationships. They leave careers because they realize that it wasn't actually an extension of their greatest self, because it's the freedom from the idea of one's self, which immediately, instantaneously, at the same time, gives an experience of newfound love for what is.
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is generous, but you're going to, for that reason, feel safe enough that you can express yourself fully, vulnerably, without any fear of judgment. And so that's equally a form of generosity, right? Because that's intimacy, intimacy. I've often said, albeit in a crass example, I'd much rather someone come up to me and say, hey, I think you're a bit of an asshole and your work is bullshit.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I delineate these 10 primal prisons that to me are the foundation of the personality. So they sit in the subconscious. So that is when I'm working with anyone and you've seen me coach people. Even better than that, I've seen you coach myself. Exactly, you've experienced it. Peter, help me. Yeah, it's so, I just feel very fortunate that for whatever reasons I'm able to
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And we can have a conversation about it versus somebody coming up to me and say, oh my God, you're amazing. And then they walk away and they tell their friend, you know, out of my earshot, that guy's just such a dick, you know, like there's no relationship there. Right.
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Well, we've cleared it up since then. We're good now. Because it's... Do you want to truly connect and relate to somebody and really have that feeling of intimacy and affinity? Yeah. Or do you want to just keep dancing in the pretense and the facades of everything? It's like there's no depth. There's no fulfillment there. There's no gratification.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
It's every relationship that to me is worth its salt or... has got some sort of inspirational story associated with it, is littered with trials and tribulations that those people went through. I once had this, because I always love to work on myself, so I worked with a coach about relationships, and she said, I don't trust any romantic relationship that hasn't been to the edge of annihilation.
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You know, and it really hit me as like, there's so much beauty in that, right? Like, because if everything has been so above, you know, the world of drama and heartache and suffering, because you kept it all together, That's just not real. It's just not human. You want to get into the dirt of a relationship and really feel what it is to be fully exposed.
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As scary as that is and as embarrassing as that can be, that's to relate. You know, otherwise it's all just facade and everything's like, you know, what is that movie, The Stepford Wives or whatever? It's like everything's just perfect, you know, and it's not.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Yeah, that's the self-preservation lens, right? That's the survival instinct. It's where everything is perceived as a threat, which again, if you can just default to, even if it's the one thing you remember from this, if it's not life-threatening, it's just ego-threatening. And if it's ego-threatening, that's a gift, right?
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Because on the other side of that, there's freedom waiting to be discovered.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And I make analogies again, or it's akin to me like a magician, right? Who's in a form of entertainment, helping somebody see something that in this case could be miraculous or inspiring or entertaining. And so for me, when I'm hearing somebody's issues or whatever their problems are,
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Yeah, and it's really slippery. Yeah. Yeah, it really is like new ammunition for the constraint, right? Yeah, no, I've seen that. I've seen that in myself. And that's why I go back to those three words that I discovered, you know, when you asked me to give an insight of my own life, which is, you know, I don't know. And so that to me is also the beauty of the game. It's the paradox, right?
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Which is that we want to survive and therefore we want to know, which is really, I'm going to be okay, but we don't know that. But it's also what creates the magic that is life, which is the curiosity. that it is to be here. Even this conversation, to me, sits in the realm of fascination.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
People tuning in right now, hoping that they're gonna garner some insight, some inspiration that they wouldn't have known otherwise. That's the exploration that it is to be human. And one of my favorite distinctions that hit me very early on is the difference between searching and exploring. And what I recognize is that the ego's predominant energy is searching.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Would you say seeking is around the same energy? Seeking to a certain degree. Seeking is sort of like the highfalutin form of searching that is associated with spiritual people. It's a rebrand of searching. It just sounds cool. I'm a seeker. No, you're not.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
seeking searching but to me when it's it's shifted into exploring there's a joy and a playfulness that comes with the same pursuit right so the adventurous spirit that is our nature we see that just everywhere with children right like what is the number one word that most children use when they when they start to use language is why right like why daddy why mummy
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And so that to me speaks to one of the inherent qualities of the soul, which is curiosity. And so the smarter we become, the more successful we become, the more status that we develop in society, the more we tend to think we know shit, which ironically is a form of decay, right? Because you've lost that fascination, that exploration, that adventure.
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It closes the possibility of you exploring more. The knowing mind, you know, it's limited, right? And so for me, I often joked early on in my career, I'm like, you know, I have all of these incredible humans around the world that seek my counsel from sports to entertainment and business, you know, and I'm the first person to say, I don't know. That'll be a lot of money.
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Because I know these primal prisons that everybody's identity is built upon, I can hear and reverse engineer, okay, if someone's dealing with fill in the blank. So my role is to sort of through often compassion, kindness, and patience, and a lot of love, help people discover what's beneath their woes, right? So that is that reverse engineering.
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Yeah, and they're like, oh my God, that's amazing. Obviously, there's a certain degree of knowing in there, but to have that underlying current of curiosity, fascination, adventure, and exploration is to me the feeling of aliveness that we see in children. That to me is the vitality that is often lost when people start to know what's often not possible anymore, right? It's the loss of
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The imagination, because you've got one too many forms of evidence as to why something's not going to work anymore. You know, the old adage of what is it dance like no one's watching and love like you've never been hurt before, right? Like these expressions resonate with people because it really appeals to that.
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Well, we've become resigned and cynical to life because we've got evidence that we're holding on to that now sort of squashes what was otherwise there beforehand, which was it's just sheer fucking pure possibility.
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It has to be because it has no ground to stand on. There's no actual evidence other than the story. So that's why the self-righteousness is so pervasive because that's the ammunition that sustains the illusion, right?
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If I can find evidence for the fact that I'm undesirable as a person in a city because I don't have a partner or because I don't get paid enough money confirms the fact that I'm worthless, like, we're going to seek the evidence to keep alive the illusion of ourselves because it's a pretense. It's made up. Truth doesn't need evidence.
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And so that's why we're always fighting for those limitations because otherwise it's just a death.
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That's the blind spot. Yeah, that's where the compassion comes in. I, being the perfect boyfriend in my story to this girl who loved me and adored me, she didn't need me to be anything. She loved me, right? I was in a relationship with my own identity, which is what most people have. Most relationships don't work.
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So that was me, unbeknownst to myself, trying to overcome that which I thought I was, which I wasn't, right? So I'm looking for evidence, you know, for whatever it is, reinforcement, reassurance, like, oh, I'm a great boyfriend, right? It's like, okay, that would appease the hurt of feeling that I'm not enough somehow. So that's the addiction. Again, I love quotes.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I say, there's no greater addiction than one's idea of oneself. That's the ultimate addiction. It's not the substance. It's not the behavior. It's the feeling of inadequacy, insecurity, or scarcity. We're addicted to that because that's where we have become so familiar to ourselves, and then we have all the evidence to support it, for good or bad.
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You know, I work with a lot of athletes. I can remember even with Tiger Woods when he wasn't a client, but I worked with a lot of people on the tour.
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Because then you start to see that everything that anyone deals with as a problem is really exists only in perspective. And so when you shift that, as Wayne Dyer said, you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change, right? So really, that's why I love what I get to do, because I don't necessarily need to know how to resolve problems.
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Even if he was, say, five, six, seven shots back on a Sunday, the last day, he had created a personality that the millions of viewers behind TV screens and then the thousands of people watching at a golf course, their view of him was he's going to come back and win. So in that case, it was sort of perhaps a, you know,
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a more positive form of identity that could pull his behavior in a way that would make him show up. But he'd created that. He'd built that foundation until such time he couldn't sustain it, and then he fell apart too because the pressure's too much. But for the most part, people are reinforcing some limiting view of themselves. See, I told you that was too good to be true.
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I knew that wouldn't last.
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right these statements that are just you know tossed around like every day are nonetheless they've got they've got some insidious evidence behind them that is really reinforcing that you're not just this extraordinary timeless boundless being who's divinely gifted to tap into this extraordinary experience that it is to be alive no no that's not for me that's you know you know
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Yeah, yeah.
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It's the number one thing I hear whenever I work with anyone, and it just happened last weekend because it was module one of my mastermind. Every single person I work with says I feel lighter. As soon as they see something that was a constraint because it pulls energy, as you said, to sustain an identity requires resources because it's fictitious.
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So even in the realm of addictions, and I get what you're saying, like we, you know, we live around people and we know people who've, you know, struggled and it's hurtful and it can destroy lives and relationships. And so there is a sensitivity to that. But, you know, to be categorically honest, no one's a fucking addict. No one is.
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You know, the addiction is to the idea of yourself that's not you. So in the absence of that, it comes back to, you know, know thyself. I am. That's about as far as we can go. I am. The consciousness that is self-aware is about as far as I can go. Anything on top of that is a delineation in any way and language that I am Peter. It's not a truth. I mean, it's convenient.
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I'm helping people see they don't have any, right? And that doesn't mean that circumstances aren't challenging. There's a lot of shit out there that people deal with, myself included. But it's to remove the suffering that's associated with the challenges and circumstances of life, right?
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But I mean, I might as well be Tim. You know, it doesn't really matter. It's a sound. It just locates me in time and space in this dimension that we're in. So it's helpful. But to be able to disassociate from that which is not true is where the liberation lies. And that's where the absence of addiction occurs, because the addiction is to the identity.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
The identity then has its behaviors that can lead to substance.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
But if I just know that I am and anything after that is not a truth, it's a story, convenient, helpful, may even be inspiring at levels, you know, like I'm the greatest, like Muhammad Ali, you know, like, I mean, the guy was like awesome, you know, but none of it was true, but he fulfilled on that because he believed it to the degree that he was able to actually manifest it.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
But equally, someone can say, oh, you know, I'll never meet anyone. Okay, well, you know, it's Henry Ford, right? Whether you believe you can or you can't, you're right. So that's the power of magic. This is why I love words and abracadabra as I speak, so I create.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
But we get to play with, co-create in this dimension where we're all artists and the form, the medium in which we get to express ourselves and create these masterpieces for good or bad is through vibration and words.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And that, to me, is because of these subconscious constraints that we look through that inform the way that we perceive the world, that we're coming from a perspective, as a very benign example everyone can relate to, is that we feel we're not enough. Where is that? It's not part of your genome, right? That's software. And so I'm really like a coder.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And it's so beautiful. And that's why I say life is revelatory, right? Those qualities that get listed there very articulately, they're there. So someone might hear that list that you just read and they're like, I want that. Well, now you're fucked. The wanting of that, yeah. The I that you think you are that doesn't have that is the suffering, is the barrier to those qualities that already exist.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Like I tell people, freedom is there. Like I really, really just connected with someone recently on Instagram. We're having some great conversations and she's in this like really beautiful transition in her life. becoming a single mom or she is a single mom and wanting to find more stability financially.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And so the way she said is like, you know, I'm really finding my divinity, my goddess nature, and I'm wanting to create abundance. Which all sounds beautiful, right? And I said, if I could just, you know, help you with language, you can't create abundance. What that shows me is that you're reinforcing the fact that you're what you're dealing with, which is what she shared is she doesn't have it.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So it's like, oh, I don't have it holding onto the scarcity, but I'm going to create it. That's the work. That's the exhaustion. No, abundance is... So it reveals itself in the absence of the idea of me as somebody who doesn't deserve it, doesn't know how to get it, has never had it. Money grows on trees. Whatever it is, it doesn't grow on trees.
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Whatever people have as a form of programming, which is the obstacle to the richness of all of these qualities and characteristics that are already there. One of the things that I really loved that I discovered in my work that I see is ever present. First of all, the breathing thing is one of the things that I will always say when I'm working with someone and say, that was a nice breath.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
They're like, oh, I just felt my whole system soften, right? So you've come out of this excitory sort of fight or flight state where you're like vigilante to like, oh, There's nothing to worry about. So immediately the physiology starts to mirror that. The absence of ease is dis-ease, right? So dis-ease eventually cascades into the physiology.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I'm helping people see that the identity that you have become misidentified with is based solely in language. It's just words. It's really stopping people. And when you see that, it's both liberating, but it's also almost comical to see that the things that you so crave are really on the other side of vibration and sound, that you think that you're not valuable, you're not loved.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
This is why I'll always tell people it's a bold statement. You cannot be healthy. No matter what you buy, hyperbarics, cryogenic chambers, red lights, all the peptides in the fucking world, unless you free your mind. You have to do that first if you want to access vitality. Because you're always then perpetuating a state of dis-ease everywhere you go. You are in a prison.
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And if you're in a prison, you can't access what it means to be radiant. You are in a world of survival. And if you're in survival, then you have to be in a mild to severe state of tension, fight or flight. You're not going to digest food properly.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
You can't have the radiance that is available in connection with people because you're too busy trying to survive or not upset people or not get into trouble. All of the mechanisms that we talked about, right? Mm-hmm. But that list is so beautiful because that's what happens in the absence of you. You know, and this is where it's become so, it's so hard to articulate in language, right?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
The paradox of like, okay, well, the you that you're looking for is in the absence of the you that you think you are, you know, and it gets kind of complex, right? But it's really not because when you start to see the illusion of how you've delineated yourself as some form of limitation in any arena, your worth, you know, your capacity to love or be loved,
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your value your safety whatever it is when all of that's gone all of these qualities emerge because they've always been there so for this girl she really appreciated this woman saying oh my god i never looked at it like that you're right if i'm trying to create abundance I'm saying, one, I don't have it. So then my form of resistance to life right now is creating suffering.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I'm creating time, right? Because it means something I have to do. That's the whole world of manifestation. It's incumbent upon me to do something to get what I want, which creates time, which creates stress. I'm not where I want to be. That creates urgency versus no, it's all there. And in the absence of me, it becomes revealed effortlessly.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And my work, there's three main qualities that I always see. Freedom, that's, as you know, my main product, because it's the freedom from the idea of oneself, which is really relative in terms of time to history. We're letting go of that which has been, which has created the idea of myself, which is illusory. So it's freedom from everything that is my baggage.
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Which immediately, instantaneously, at the same time, gives an experience of newfound love for what is. Myself, my life, my family, my circumstances, even if they're not ideal. And simultaneously, that's the present state. As it relates to my future, I see nothing but pure possibility.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
so it's it's it is both yes and like we do live in this realm of duality and yet it's also we we are uh we can recognize the non-dual state of our being and that's the compassion part right because to begin with my self-righteousness when i saw this was like it was so self-evident i was like like the smartest guy in the room all of a sudden right i had all the answers until i realized no that denied the fact that i previously didn't right so i wasn't making space for compassion so i tell people there's always somewhere to get to until you realize there isn't
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
It's not a truth, right? And so that's why that reverse engineering process is so profound. I mean, I just work with someone as part of a free event to show people what they might experience in my mastermind program. And this guy, there's like 8,000 people signed up to witness this free, you know, sort of expose in terms of my philosophy and my work.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And they're both appropriate, right? Because as long as you think there's someone to get to, that's where you're currently at. And you can't force not getting somewhere because that would be the ego still trying to do it, you know, to look good in terms of like being spiritual or whatever. It's like, oh, no, no, kumbaya and I fucking meditate and I'm vegan raw or whatever.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
You know, that could be the ego's way of just like trying to still garner love that that person never felt as a child. It's still an addiction to some sort of constraint. So the compassion is to let everyone be comes back to listening and love exactly where they're at right now. As I said before, not knowing your path is your path right now.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
But there's a suffering that comes with like, no, but I should, or what's my purpose, or what's my dharma? I don't know. Where are you at just right now? And can you be sufficiently big enough as a being to allow your current form of human iteration to be where it's at? I've had moments where I really feel like I don't want to do anything. I just can't be bothered.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I don't think anyone listening to this right now would be like, oh my God, he's the only person that's ever felt that way. So that's space for my humanity too. And the more that I kept making space for my imperfections, the less they impeded my joy and my freedom.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Working with so many athletes as I have, Jack Nicklaus to me still had one of the greatest quotes as it relates to accessing performance, which is he said, one of the most important parts of winning is being okay losing. He didn't say I want to lose. He didn't say that I wouldn't be upset if I lose, but he's okay with it.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And so the irony is as soon as we make space for the things that we don't want, they no longer impede what we do want. Because we've incorporated that. One of my athletes, a golfer, he tripled his winnings. And one of the things that really resonated, and I said, if you're okay with every outcome, you've got nothing to fear. which is another way of saying what Jack said, right?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
If you're okay losing, which is going to happen, especially my baseball players, I mean, the best in the world are still failing seven out of 10 times. So you really start to just recognize what it is to be a big enough human being that you're allowing for what it is to be a human being, which is to fuck up.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I mean, my greatest athlete in terms of the longevity of our relationship, 15 plus years, seven All-Stars, he won the most valuable player, MVP of the National League. There's only one person who does that, and then one in the American League. So it's the biggest accolade you can get as an individual athlete in a team sport. And he won.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And at the beginning of the season, you would think that this was completely counterintuitive to him becoming the best player, which is, I said, you have the capacity to suck. Like that, you have that available to you because he was getting really upset that he kept striking out. And I said, again, the best in the world.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So he knows these things mentally, but he hadn't allowed that to be part of the fabric of his humanity plus his being an athlete, even though he's paid millions of dollars to perform. You know, well, I can't do that because there's an expectation. But as soon as he allowed his system to relax and go, oh yeah, I can strike out many games in a row. Like... he no longer worried about it.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And for that reason, his performance became so much more effortless because he wasn't trying to avoid something. And in the absence of either holding or avoiding, which is the way that we predominantly relate to time, past and future, right? Most people are holding onto a history they haven't yet accepted.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And they're trying to avoid usually the replication of that in their future, which creates fear and stress and anxiety. In the absence of both of those, you're left with what is always there, which is presence. So even the whole adage of, you know, be present or be in the now, it's a becoming instruction, which is reinforcing that you're not.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And I work with a guy I've never met before, 46, 48 year old guy from India. And he'd submitted a question like a lot of people and I just randomly picked. And he was struggling with self-esteem, anxiety, and a lot of anger, particularly towards his loved ones, which tends to be, you know, sadly the case when people struggle with that.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So my method of working with people in terms of flow state is like, I'm not interested in you being in the present. That'll happen if we just clear out all the shit that you're carrying and all the stuff you're worried about. Then you're just here.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And you could see, like even for me, the fatigue in his face, like the dark circles under his eyes, the sadness, the fatigue that is upon him knowing he's a good guy and he doesn't want to hurt people that he loves. He even said that he'd just blown up at his oldest son and almost said to his son, I hope you don't grow up to be like me. You know, you can feel like the shame in that, right?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Yeah. No, it's well said. And I've seen it in you for a while. And I think just because you alluded to earlier, you know, when I helped you with your relationship, that was the same trap you were in. Right? Like the superimposition of who you were relative to your girlfriend and who you thought she should be. That's, you weren't related, right? Because you weren't related to her.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
You were related to your spiritual ego's view of who she should be or the things she's supposed to do, right? So I've seen that in you. I've had it myself, right? Like, so the way I said is spirituality has developed a face, right? It's developed a face. It's developed a face. Spirituality now has a face. Yeah, yeah. We know what spiritual looks like.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
If you meditate, you do yoga, you wear some fucking yoga pants, and you definitely eat at some sort of raw vegan place, then you've got to be spiritual, right? But it goes back to what we said earlier. You can't try and become free. You've just got to be free. Yeah. So even the, it's preposterous, right?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Like if we had to think about it right now, and if I was to ask you, okay, if you could imagine everybody dead or alive as human beings on the planet, who would you say is the most spiritual person you know? As an actual question. Oh, for me?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And simultaneously, that's the present state. As it relates to my future, I see nothing but pure possibility.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So there's the knowing, right? But like, really feel it, like as a human game, right? Because that's a good answer.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Yeah, exactly. And that's how most people would see it. And that's part of the face. And there's a degree of truth to it, right? There's things that people say. There's an energy that they emit.
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is palpable and there's something that is enticing about that that's authentically attractive not because it's created to be attractive but it's like wow there's there's something that appeals to me in that person right maybe why again people open up to me on an airplane or whatever there's a the absence of pretense that allows them to feel safe so it's a good answer what i want you to consider which will help you because i know you and i love you is that the most spiritual people i know are children
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
There's a guy who wants to be a good dad, but he doesn't even know why he blows up. And so to be able to reverse engineer that and help him see that he fundamentally thought who he was was bad. Like, he's not walking around going, I'm bad. He's walking around going, I'm an asshole of a father because I just blew up on my kids, right?
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And why I say that is because I feel sometimes with you, in the attempt to garner the attraction, the appearance, especially as your brand grows, like it's something that I had to deal with, Peter Crone, the mind architect. I mean, God forbid when I fucking date somebody, I don't stand a chance, right? It's because I can't have any problems. It's so preposterous.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Exactly. Exactly. So that's why I said even earlier, I know I'm not Peter. I've gotten to the point that I know none of the shit that I talk about is me. I'm just a space. I'm a perspective. And it's helpful. And it seems to bring a lot more joy to people. So I'll keep doing it as long as I do it.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
But for me, what's missing for you sometimes is a little bit more joy, a little bit more silliness, which we have great humor. I mean, we were in Cancun. We had a blast, right? But I think maybe why you were with your previous girlfriend is there was a playfulness about her that's really... balancing for you because you're more the structure, which is oftentimes the masculine.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
The feminine is the self-expressed, the handbags and the fucking emotions and the shoes. I want to do it all. And the guy's like, well, I'll keep the fucking everything straight. And so for you, that spiritual facade, I think it reinforces the rigidity of trying to get shit right and look a certain way versus just being more childlike. And that means also
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And again, I'm jumping around here, but you'll keep track. I remember a girlfriend of mine said, you know, she hadn't been to yoga for years. And so she's practicing a lot at home before she goes to class. I'm like, wait, what? She's like, well, yeah, it's kind of embarrassing. I'm like, do you even hear what you're saying? I mean, that's the opposite of fucking yoga.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I mean, you're so disconnected. It's like, whereas a kid, like they love trying to balance on one leg and they're falling over and laughing. Like they don't have to get it perfect, right? So that's where I think for you, just recognizing with compassion again, that yes, you've got the look, you've got the brand. It's all beautiful. Your conversations are inspiring.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
They're touching people's lives and you're a fucking human, you know? And in lay terms, it's like your sticks, your shit still stinks. You know, it's like just to feel like- You haven't smelled my shit, Peter. But I'm such a good friend that I would. It's like, that's where the real juice of life lives, right?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
But the I'm bad was the foundation that allows that behavior to be perpetuated through every arena of his life. So once we... Then we investigate the validity of that. Like, where did that come from? When he was slapped as a kid in a very traditional Indian family where he was sort of, you know, seen and not heard and scolded and shamed and all the things he did was wrong. And...
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Yeah, which itself is beautiful to admit, because I know you do. And so that you can even having the question, I'm so proud of you that you can have the courage to ask this on air on your own brand. Because everyone right now, I promise you, is loving the shit out of you even more.
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Because you could come across as a little bit intimidating to people because you're smart, you're good looking, you're articulate, you've got a successful brand. Keep going, keep going. Yeah. just as i'm annihilating the ego let's build it back up um so it's it's it's but the beauty again i quote myself all the time i say please never become perfect you'll have no one to relate to
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And I think you, because I can relate to someone who's a couple of years older, like, you know, my residual perfectionist self, you know, as a recovering, like wanting to get it all right, I can see in you, you know? And it's so beautiful when you can soften and go, no, I struggle with fill in the blank, you know?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Like, I know for me in my relationships, one of the biggest things I had to learn is that that my partner, particularly romantically, as much as a teacher as I am, even though in the world, you know, they might be like, oh my God, you're Peter Crane.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And like, I'm pleased don't relate to me like that because as it relates to us as a couple, I'm as fallible, as imperfect, as available to contribution as you are. I might have a, fancier way of articulating it and be a little bit more eloquent with language. But as it relates to the heartfelt human flaws, I'm with you. And I think if you could embody more of that,
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
The irony is all the things that you hold so dear to you in terms of your appearance and your brand and your business would 10x because it's so much more relatable. It's human, you know, and yeah, it's beautiful. So I get it. And the perfectionist tendency can be applied to anything, right? My athletes, my guy who became the MVP, he was trying to be the perfect baseball player. You can't do it.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
My golfers, you as a spiritual figure now, an iconic, you know, podcaster who's got a big audience. Again, that would be the addiction that would be your downfall, right? Because you can't sustain it.
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Yeah. I love that you had that epiphany of like, I'm fucking tired of being spiritual.
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But then to see that it's not a truth, right? That's what you went through. And it's hard for a kid. And I can understand why you thought you're a bad kid, but it's not an actual truth. And to see his face on the other side of that, realizing, as I ask everybody, is it true, whatever the constraint is, like in his case, is it true that you're bad? And he really got it. It's not a truth.
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It's much more relatable, which is beautiful because that's love, right? It's when someone's becoming too perfect because of a persona that they're trying to create or portray, they're not actually attainable. Like, you can't connect with someone. It reminds me, years ago, I was on a TV show called Relationship Rehab. And... It was funny. There's these three, I think it's three or four experts.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So they had one girl was a dating coach. One had a dating business, you know, matchmaking. And then the other one wrote a column about dating for Elle magazine or something. And I worked with her. So they, The premise of the show is that these dating experts who don't have relationships, which is perfect. And so I can remember walking in. It was it was here in Los Angeles.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And this girl was so put together. Right. Because it's a TV show, first of all. Right. So and of course, I mean, I mean, I brush my teeth and make sure I looked at least presentable. But she was like to the point of like it was so perfect. Right.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So anyway, she opens the door and, you know, you've got the camera action and you walk in and like, oh, nice to meet you and all the bullshit or whatever. And so we sit down and we say our hi's and I said, you know, wow, you look like a porcelain doll. And she said, oh, thank you. I said, it wasn't a compliment.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
i have yet to meet a porcelain doll that i want to cuddle with yeah you might have just discovered one of the obstacles to you having a relationship and so i think that's so again yeah i don't fuck around right but i i just also but i'm real right so instead of being perfect or being spiritual i think what what life is giving you and hopefully i'm reinforcing is the opportunity just to be real you know it it's
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I've dated now a couple of women who are mothers because they obviously have had a kid or two or whatever and they've moved on. But there's something beautiful about being particularly with the feminine. Feminine generally because... They are self-expressive. They have different biology. You know, it's like they go through these cycles. They become different people by virtue of their hormones.
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But it becomes so part of him, it's not even a thought. People talk about limiting beliefs. That's also not it. It's a subconscious foundation of his whole identity. And when you pull that from beneath someone, I mean, the joy that was on his face was palpable.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
You know, it's like it's the gamut of all expressions. So they have a lot more self-acceptance because of that amongst themselves, a better listener, whereas guys are a little bit more, you know, we're more, we represent perusia, consciousness, more stable, it's more consistent, but we become fucking rigid, right? And so when I've dated these mothers...
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
What I love about it in ways that I can't comprehend, but I'm definitely committed to learning is they see it all, right? I mean, from freaking childbirth to shit and puke and fucking everything, right? And so they have a much bigger bandwidth as it relates to acceptance.
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Like the kid that comes in who in the middle of the night is scared or who shit the bed literally, you know, it's like they just deal with it. And I think for you and I, and particularly you being younger and a man and not married and not having kids, there's just a whole world of mess that is waiting for you to explore. And I just hope you get to step in the shit, literally and figuratively.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Oh, for sure. Yeah, and I know you'd be an amazing dad, but I think this might be the precursor to you becoming a dad now prior to the event. which is as a role model, as a father figure, to be so generous in your capacity to let people be who they are, is to me what it means to be a true leader and a parent.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
You know, like often when I work with corporations, I say good leaders don't make people wrong, they make them better. You know, and we have such a patriarchal world that is so finger pointing in its nature of like, don't do this, do this. And what people want is actually just to be embraced. They want to be held. The ego doesn't want to be healed. It wants to be held, as I've often said, right?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And it's making space for the fact that we're all fucked up. Right. That to me is real love. People talk about self-love and I get that asked a lot of me. What is self-love? It's not pampering with like, you know, rose petal bathtubs and massages and manicures. It's learning to realize that as a human being, you by design are fucked up.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
can you find enough love for that part of you that's self-love that we're all imperfect the nature of being human is to be flawed self-love isn't trying to perfect that human it's making space for it as part of the fabric of what it is to be here so welcome to self-love buddy yeah embrace the part of you that even wants to be spiritual and look cool.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
There wasn't a dry eye on the Zoom, you know, because people could feel, they can relate to like, wow, like he spent 40-something years thinking that who he is as a person is bad. And that's, you know, that's how most people go through life. And then they have the myriad of forms of escape, right? Some street drugs to medication to food to, you know, whatever it is that impacts their life. So...
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
One of the things that might help, in a funny way, now that you talk about some of these tendencies, you really do remind me of my athlete, which is a compliment because he's extraordinary. Yeah. One of the things I find most people lack that they need to work on is discipline, right?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
When people say they don't have the life they want, they don't have the results they want, they don't have the body they want, invariably, as a very practical reflection, they just lack discipline. That discipline lacking is usually an extension of lack of self-worth and deeper subconscious patterns which need to be addressed.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
But for you, the irony like him is his discipline that he needed was to not be so disciplined. Yeah. It seems kind of intuitive. But so for you, you know, I'm guessing from the smile, it resonates, right? So one of the things that I find so admirable about you that you've inspired me with and many is your discipline.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
But I think your discipline has become, you know, your own sort of self-created prison, right? Where you've become so attached to it that you've lost the flexibility of what it is to be flawed and to be human. So I would invite you to just expand your understanding of discipline, which is to incorporate what it is just to be Andre when he doesn't want to do shit. You know, it's okay.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
You know? Yeah, that's an extension. That's, you know, that's the expansion that we're really committed to that I think you are really talking to. It's not the expansion of you, the spiritual brand who has a great podcast.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
It's the expansion that can include that, but also now is making room for the guy that just wants to fucking sleep all day and do nothing or the guy that wants to look disheveled or doesn't give a shit or can get angry with somebody. You know, it's, it's, It's making room for all of it. Like you've heard me say before, can I be with this, right?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
It's one of my questions for myself, whatever it is, can I be with this? Like whatever it is, like even the devastation that happens in the world doesn't mean we don't take action. It doesn't mean we don't have compassion, but I'm not going to be in a reactive state to it as though I can't handle it.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
It's, um, it's, that's real power. That's real freedom. That's real love. It's all okay.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
out of love versus fear. Like what I see in you and so many people, even who are very disciplined, is that they're being driven by an underlying energy of fear. That I've got to get it right. It's about how I care to people. It's about being the good boy, not upsetting parents. Like fill in the blank of whatever it is that we feel we have to do.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And it has that energy of must need, which is a resistant energy. Versus it's a choice. It's out of pure joy and exploration. It's out of the sheer...
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Yes, that's why I like what I get to do. If you're into freedom and not having suffering, yeah.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
like love of being alive to have the feelings to have the curiosity to explore versus just trying to get it right yeah and they're very distinct worlds you know and i think you obviously dabble in both but it feels like now okay great you're making room for the one that is more based in spontaneity and and exploration as opposed to just like this is where it has to be because this is where i've always done it
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
i'm excited i'm excited for you because i love you and i i can see it and it's subtle and i know your silliness and playfulness when we're you know whether we're on camera or not like i i hope there's no difference right we can be playful but i can see you have a role you're playing a job you know you've got a job you're doing an incredible um role as a host as you always do your questions are impeccable your listening is great all of that but there's just a little bit more room for the for the silly a little bit more room for the
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
freedom of self-expression. It doesn't have to look a certain way. As soon as we get caught up with the appearance of something, we're missing the point.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And the way I distinguish it, which might resonate based on what you just shared to everyone and even for yourself, is the difference between being self-conscious and self-expressed. So people who get caught up in the how is this coming across or they're shy or embarrassed or anxious, they're self-conscious. They're aware of self versus just being self-expressed.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
One has got the governor on like the brake and the accelerator and the other one is just take it as it is.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
they like they're they're both valuable you know there's there's a reality by agreement that is cultural that is religious that is national you know um people become so associated with like these traditions that that's now collapsed like people really think they are a religion right i am christian i am jewish like and to just give that up just because you recognize it's not an actual truth that
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
that comes with consequences for a lot of people you know and that can that can impinge on that sense of family and belonging that is really primal to the human experience so i'm not saying that you throw it all away it's just to recognize that none of it's true
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
know it's it's i tell people it's all real it's just not true yeah that's an important distinction you know because it helps us not bypass or deny our experience or existence but it also helps us see the illusoriness of something yeah and that's where the freedom comes in otherwise we're just fighting over illusions right like my god is better than yours or whatever it is my particular label or my status is better than yours and it's no it's all made up
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And it's okay. You can still play the role. You don't have to emancipate yourself from your belongings, but emancipate yourself from the person who thinks they need them. It's just a deeper level. I love to have all the trappings and all the toys. It's fun, but I'm not attached. I love to experience companionship and intimacy and relationships, but I do the best I can not to be attached.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Love is allowing for all of it to come and go and to be in the flow and not to be so...
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
easily upset you know or to be so rigid in the way that things have to occur to us it's like no i'm in the dance i'm in the the trust of life the things are always and all for all of us to our to our benefit to our evolution and we're here to transcend the constraints with which we arrived and this brilliant paradigm has got exactly the circumstances you need for that to eventuate it reminds me earlier you know when we were reflecting on um
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Yeah. And... Yeah. It's so slippery. And the good news is it's all unavoidable. Right? You know, people are like, well, what should I do? I'm like, just keep living.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Something more subtle, something more refined, yeah. And I think we're so far away from what it is if we were to put it in the word of what is our potential, right? Like, you know, potential is something that gets actualized over time. It's not like you could realize your potential, like it's a finite thing. It's never ending, which is why this is such an extraordinary game, right?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
The mountain without a top. For as much as I've garnered and learned and realized and let go of and shared and reconciled and mitigated, like it's, okay, there's something that happened last month that I'm like, oh shit, I didn't even see that too, you know? And it's just beautiful because it's like, It's like a sport. Like I love golf, right?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Like there's no one in the world at the best of the best. They don't get it perfect. You know, Ben Hogan, one of the greatest, he said, you know, in his best round of golf, he hit four perfect shots. You know, it's like it's the consistent exploration of what it is to be us. And there's a joy to that. Like, you know, it's at times it can be a pain in the ass because it's never ending.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
But that's also part of the gift that it is to be alive, to taste it all, to feel it all and to explore it all.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I watched a clip recently on the gram and this guy, I don't know who it was, just came up in my feed. And he was talking about how he, because of a really bad accident, he couldn't feel anything, right? Like sort of a form of paralysis, right? And it was so beautiful because he said, when I got back and I started to heal, it took months, he said, I really enjoyed pain.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Not because pain is good, but because I got to feel. And I really think that's one of, if we were to look at this through some bigger lens of the universe that we talked about right at the beginning, that gods have sent us to this particular dimension of planet Earth, I really feel that the ultimate intention of what it is to be human is just to feel. fill in the blank. It doesn't matter.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
It doesn't have to be joy and like, you know, euphoria and orgasm. It could be like fucking heartache. I mean, I love the fact that I love my dad so much. It hurt that he died. You know, it's all, it's all an expression of love, right? In a, in different, different ways. Like, and that to me is the gift that it is to be human.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And so whenever we deny ourselves feeling something, you're cutting off what it is to be alive and vital. And we're so programmed to like, well, we only want the good shit, right? Like, don't want the bad stuff. And it's like, no, there's joy in all of it underneath. It's just the capacity to feel itself is the opportunity that it is to be human.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I just don't even like this guy. I can't keep making up nice things about him.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I really got that. That hit hard. Thank you. That means a lot. I mean, we What I'm left with as you say that is we just need to play more. Let's play more together. Let's spend more time together. It's always a joy to be on here.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
You're one of my favorite hosts, just not only because you're a friend, but just because of your intelligence, your awareness, your brilliance, and your genuine care for asking questions and wanting to make your host feel seen and heard. And I've always felt that. I hope today was impactful for people.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And I hope your words, you know, as I say, from your mouth to God's ears, and it feels like things are going well. And it's definitely very humbling to see the impact my words seem to be having on people out there. And I can't think of a life that's more fulfilling than one that makes a difference. And having you as a friend is part of that.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
No, I mean, just the usual places. I mean, I'd love for people to explore Freedom, the platform, because I think that's my legacy that I'm most proud of because it's like now 90 plus hours. It's got all my live events that people can't attend. People do fly around the world, which is still humbling to come to an evening event and we're going to eventually go around the world.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
But if you miss out on that and you want to watch them, they're all housed in Freedom and
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
we wanted to make it super affordable at just 29 bucks a month so that's something that if people are looking for support they're looking for insight they're looking to free their mind and that's all in there so but otherwise i'll just keep doing what i can uh help bring freedom to the masses and check out peter's youtube channel which you guys have recently activated and i love seeing it's it's an important platform i think and i'm glad you guys are starting to post on there yeah yeah we realized that that was an avenue we weren't exploring too much so thank you
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I still think at its core, it's still words. It's still sound, right? Like we live in a vibratory universe. Tessa said you want to understand the universe in terms of energy, frequency, and vibration, right? So in the beginning was the word. No matter what sort of tenets you pull from, everything to me still comes back to that vibratory state that is what it is to have life.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And so over time, because of the way that we perceive ourselves, like this 46-year-old that I'm working with in this free workshop, He's got four plus decades of that particular form of conditioning. So there is more associated with it because of the accumulation over time, right?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So the type of job he would have curated, the type of wife he would have attracted, even the way that he takes care or doesn't take care of his physiology, which then over time is going to accumulate whatever derogatory energies that he feels about himself, the dismissive energies he's accumulated with friends or loved ones, exes, the type of foods and things that he's drawn to.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
If he thinks he's a bad person, he's probably not being pulled towards the most clean, fresh, organic food because his value proposition of his own idea of himself doesn't afford that. So that's on top of, right? So in Ayurveda, we talk about these sort of three stages, which is you first have to remove the root cause of whatever it is that is the precursor to the pathology or the sickness.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Then you want to balance the effects of the previous root cause, and then the third stage is you create a new paradigm for existence. So in his case, the root cause is, I would still assert based in vibration and language, I'm bad. And there were other ones, like there's something wrong with him because he was a pretty boy when he was young. He had very pretty eyes.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
And so as a little boy, he was told, oh, you look like a girl. Now, it's an innocent almost compliment, really, because he's got these beautiful eyes. But the way he interpreted it is that there was something wrong with him. So that was another part of his constraint. So he's bad. There's something wrong with him. And then most people's relationship to the future is based in worst case scenario.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So that's the lens constraint of I'm not going to be okay. It's a survival proposition. So you had all three going, right? So those three to me are still the foundation that create the suffering. When you live that way for decades, then you also now have the accumulative effect of that perspective.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Yeah, he's one of my favorites. He's great. Reminding you can't take life too seriously, darling. Yeah. Am I your only three-peat?
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So the toxicity in the brain, the toxicity in the body, the toxicity in your relationships, the absence of abundance in your finances, the kind of environment you live in,
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
Yeah. So that's where we get to be right about the perspective, right? Which is why humans are, you know, so preoccupied with self-righteousness because it's a way that ego can perpetuate itself.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So once he saw that he's not bad, he's still going to be left with, you know, the adrenal fatigue, right, that I could see based on the dark circles under his eyes, which is a reflection of somebody who's in fight or flight for the majority of their day. So that now has to be balanced, right? So the previous root cause removed, which is awesome.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
But like someone who's been an alcoholic, for example, they got psoriasis of the liver, right? You've got to Just because you stopped drinking, your liver isn't now functioning like a brand new baby. It's clean. So you've got to balance the effects of living that way. So there is some practical things to do, too, once I work with people.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
They also may find that they're in a toxic relationship that served their previous identity, but no longer is in alignment with their newfound sense of self-worth. Which can be, you know, that can be tough. People, you know, do end relationships. They leave careers because they realize that it wasn't actually an extension of their greatest self.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
It was really what was sustaining their limited idea of themselves. So there's a lot to it. Just removing the blanket is one thing, and the liberation and the freedom that people experience is just awe-inspiring, even to witness, let alone the euphoria they feel. It's palpable to watch, right? Because as human beings, we can relate to all of these constraints. We all have them.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
I'm so upset.
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E134 - Peter Crone: Finding Freedom From Ego & Subconscious Limiting Beliefs
So it's why my mastermind is so beautiful, because people, even if I'm not working with them directly, they're vicariously getting whatever liberation they need through somebody else's trauma and story. Then we'd be responsible for like, holy shit, I've lived in the world of I'm not good enough for 40 years. And as a result, I have kept myself small. I don't pursue the projects I want.