Ollie Sutherland
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No, but it's true because I was thinking about it the other day. I was thinking like, is it the chicken or the egg situation where it's like, I grew up and matured and that helped our relationship or did I grow up and mature because of our relationship? I think it's a...
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a combination of the two like i think i was i don't know though because like being frank and honest i've told you this to your face and i've said it on um i said it during the show on camera i went into perfect match just like vacation few drinks in the sun meet some cool people there'll be beautiful people there like i never ever anticipated coming away with a girlfriend let alone a fiance do you get what i'm saying but i think in a way that speaks
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So, like I said, I said this at a reading. I can't take the full credit for it. I had an amazing team working with me to equally trick you and deceive you. But yeah, it was kind of my idea to do the whole.
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that is testimony to our relationship even more so the fact that I was going in there not expecting something like this and then I met you and I was like again throw the rule book out and let's do this do you get what I'm saying as opposed to like if I'd gone in there like I've got to get a fiance from this and then we were here I think that would almost take away from how special this is if that makes sense
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Someone told you I was going to be there, innit? Someone said, you know that guy, you keep watching his story.
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I'm joking. No one told me you were going to be there either. I genuinely didn't know. But like, weirdly enough, when I saw you there, it wasn't like a big surprise. It's like I had a feeling inside. I was like, do you know what I mean? Yeah. But genuinely, like, I said this to you before when I walked in and there's all these other people like, hey, I'm like, yeah.
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And I just came straight to you like, yeah.
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not in a like disrespectful everyone there is lovely and like i got i enjoy getting to know every single person there and i've still got friends for life from the show but like it was like tunnel vision when i saw you yeah same i was actually i want to talk about this show so bad i know i know i know i know we'll have we'll have that time yeah we'll have that time
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For those of you who didn't know, didn't watch Love is Blind UK. Yeah. I don't know what to say. I'm Oli, I'm from London, come from a big family.
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oh can I be real I didn't apply for the show oh they they approached me okay and then I was kind of just in a mode where I was like bear in mind I've been approached for a lot of shows before and none of them really like popular no I don't know what it is but yeah I've been approached for a lot of shows before and never really well funny enough that's kind of what got me on this one before got me on this got me on this one because they had approached me for the same production team had approached me for a previous show and I kind of started going through the audition process almost just for the fun of it and then last minute so I said nah nah I don't want to do this and then I
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Only if it's going to be a good outcome, which it was. I think it was worth it. Like, I'm not going to trick you for any bad reason. But yeah, I can't promise you there's not further surprises down the line. I haven't planned any yet, but there will undoubtedly be more fun trickery ahead. But yeah, so I came up with the idea to be like, let's pretend there's some perfect match promo going down.
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Bear in mind, I was off all socials at the time. But as it happened, they had my number. So they messaged me like, hey, we approached you for this show previously, but we're now recruiting for this.
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Casting for this show, I should say. Yeah. Would you be interested? I was like, again, we can talk. And...
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I just kept going through the process and was becoming more and more interested in how it worked bear in mind I'd not really watched the show I kind of knew what it was but like not really watched it and then before you know it they're like okay welcome to the cast and I was like oh okay I remember the phone call they were like oh So yeah, welcome to the final cast. I was like, okay, cool.
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Because I thought it meant you're in the finals of like, they're still picking. I was like, okay, cool. And he's like, yeah, so we'll see you in two weeks. I was like, oh, what, for another audition? He's like, no, we'll see you in two weeks. I was like, okay. So it all kind of like came at me quite fast. But I was like, I was in a mode where like,
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I was just like, I've said no to so many things in my life. And it got to where I was like, let's start saying yes to some things. Let's just start seeing what's on the other side of those, like being a bit more daring, being a bit more bold, putting yourself out there.
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And I'm so glad I did it because apart from it being an amazing experience, it obviously brought me to Perfect Match, which brought me to you. So the best thing I ever did.
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fun again I've been honest about this so I've got nothing to hide like I didn't go in there with the most serious mindset and a lot of people would probably want to like you know hang me out to drive for saying that but at least I'm being honest like it's not that I went in there just to like sabotage the process or anything like that but I was I was kind of going into thinking I'm not really going to catch feeling for someone through a wall and you know I was kind of just doing it more as I just looked at it as like I'm either going to meet somebody or have the time of my life and so I probably wasn't as
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mentally prepared for the seriousness of it all, which probably played out in the show itself. But yeah, I've been real about that.
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Would I do it any differently? Yeah, in hindsight, because again, not knowing just how seriously it was going to be scrutinized and judged, there's little things where I dropped the ball and little things where I probably wasn't as...
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like aware of how they were going to be perceived does that make sense that would do differently but overall not really because one of the biggest compliments i got was people who know me from like i was five years old or 10 years old or whatever like oh i know we ain't spoken a minute but i watched a show and you're the same guy i grew up with you're the same guy i used to train with you're the same guy do you know what i mean so it's like yeah there were times when i wasn't at my best and there's times where like but this is what i said to somebody else
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When you're doing a show like that, you're seeing yourself in the third person for the first time. Because even at home, when you're taking selfies of yourself, you're very aware of what you're doing or you're setting up the camera. But you do, to a degree, forget that the cameras are there.
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And you're now seeing yourself in this third person in a way you've never seen yourself before, good and bad. So there are moments where I'm like, oh, I come across really well there. I'm really proud of myself for how I handled that conversation. And then there are other times where you're like, oh, I probably should have been more conscious of how that affected this person or whatever. So...
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Get you to the beach. I think I always... Yeah. Yeah. During the long distance relationship, I did some long distance planning.
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It was a learning experience. And again, maybe that did kind of like prepare me for a more serious relationship with you. So I kind of rambled a bit there. I probably forgot what the question is. But you know what I mean? It's like, there's things I would, hindsight's 20-20. We can all say I would do things differently.
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But like, if I could go back in time to last week, I would pick different lottery numbers. But we don't have that superpower. So it's all well and good me saying, oh, I would have handled this conversation differently. But I was doing the best I could. with the limited set of data I had at the time. And I don't think I did anything that wrong.
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A lot of it's been perceived in a certain way, but I think that's down to A, editing and B, people's speculation and projections. There's nothing I'm really that like,
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Yeah. I think a lot of it comes down to, I could go into, I don't want to go into it too much, but like.
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Because, yeah, I think a lot of it came, I don't know.
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There's no way of talking about, yeah. My thing is, is like a lot of it came down to,
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So I said, let's get her to the... I always envision proposing to her at the beach. And whether it be Jamaica or Mexico or...
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a lot of it was lost in culture I think and like even down to almost like difference in dialect for example the American audience seemed to perceive me a lot worse than the English because English banter and English humour is very specific and if you don't know it very well it's easy to like think that I'm being serious when I'm actually I've got quite like a dry humour like for example there was a moment when I said to Demi next time we're around people
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and you're having a good time let your face know about it in other words like smile and I didn't mean it I wasn't being nasty I wasn't being serious that's just and that's the kind of humor that we had and anyone who knows me and even Demi was like oh he's just joking that's just his humor but there were some people like oh my god he's so manipulative he's telling her to fix her face when we're in public and I was like no that's not what I meant at all and even down to like
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There was a moment when she wanted to have a serious conversation. I was like, oh, it's late. Let's go to bed. Again, it was a joke. She knew it was a joke. Maybe it wasn't the right time to make a joke, but it wasn't actually me being avoidant of the conversation. But a lot of people ran with that and were like, oh my God, he's an avoidant, poor communicator. He doesn't want it.
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Like, I was like, no, relax. It's just humour. But it's that and... I don't know, one of the most profound comments that I saw when there was like a back and forth going about me on some video or whatnot, someone said, can someone tell me what Oli actually did wrong without projection and without speculation? And there was no response to that.
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Because it's true, like everything that people said, 99% of what people said negative about me was like, he gives these vibes. I didn't like him from the minute I saw him on my screen. I reckon he did this as soon as he left the show. All of it was projection and speculation. There was no actual... I was like... Give me something concrete. Substantiate these statements. Yeah.
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Qualify your position. They can't. Do you know what I mean? Because there was nothing I actually did that was that bad.
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It was all like, oh, he gives fuckboy vibes. Vibes? We're going by vibes now? Yeah. That's just prejudice.
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And I literally saw comments like, oh, as soon as this guy appeared on my screen, I didn't like him. He seemed off to me. Again, that's just you judging based on how I've... Their past experience. Exactly. And then it's like... Oh, I don't think he's going to be into her because of this, this, this. Again, you're projecting how I view beauty standards. So yeah, I think there's a lot of that.
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We did, that same week. And it had to be cancelled, but it was well worth cancelling. So I was like, let's get out to the beach, let's pretend it's a promo and then unveil a big surprise. And then obviously have the ring, have the flowers, the candles, all that. Yeah, it was hard. It was hard work. Like, as you know, there was a point when we was out shopping.
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Like no one could really put anything concrete together as to why they didn't like me. It was all like.
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That's what I'm saying. That's why I'm feeling weird to talk about this because that's so, because of where I am with you, I'm not really looking back. I'm looking at the present that we have and the future that we're going to have.
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And yeah, like I have no type other than you. So it's like, it's weird to talk about it, but like, yeah, people completely misjudged what my type would be. And again, they knew my dating history. They're, they're,
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owe me a big apology but it's like again I don't really care that much it's so it's so it's so been and done now to me I don't really care to have to go back and defend myself if people want to judge me that's cool I know where who I am and I'm so thankful for where I am with you and in life generally so it is what it is I can't hear them I can't hear you do you know what I mean I'm in such a good place I can't hear what they're saying yeah um you're so cute um do you feel like
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Yeah. Like we touched on at the reunion, I think I noticed that we were probably like three days into our very early relationship. And I felt like we were already having like quite profound conversations about like, oh, what's your outlook on raising children in this way? Or like, what are your goals for the future? How do you view, like even down to like,
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social and political issues I feel like we're having those conversations early without actually having to sit down and say I want to ask you these questions it kind of we kind of fell into a natural rhythm of doing that and I attribute that to our experiences on the show because you realize that when you haven't got the physical and the like oh let's go on this flashy date and let's go on this vacation and oh look how good you look you have to get down to the like the the deeper questions
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so i think and it makes you realize that half of the stuff that people talk about and do on dates is bullshit and it's not going to hold you in good stead for the future you need to because i know people that have dated people for nine months even a year based on like flashy fun dates and just having good vibes and then a year in they realize they have completely polar opposite views on something really really important like
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Yeah, exactly. Politics, religion, how you want to raise children. And that's going to tear them apart eventually. So it's like having those conversations early stops you from wasting time. And I think we were having those conversations early. And again, when we, in the distance, long distance portion of our relationship, we were being more intentional with our communication, our time. Yeah.
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So I think... I think some of that's just down to us as people anyway. But I think a lot of that was because of Love is Blind.
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I'm so proud of you, by the way. This is amazing.
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Seriously, like seeing it now for myself. You're amazing. You've done so great.
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I was literally on the phone to the set designer. And he was chasing me around. I had to try and pretend I was on the phone to my manager. But yeah, we made it work and it came together beautifully.
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Yeah. I feel like within the first week of, of us, I experienced like a better relationship than I'd experienced in like a year with certain people I dated before. And I really, really mean that. And it's like, sometimes when something shows up in a new relationship, that you were kind of missing previously, it's like so glaringly obvious because you were missing it before.
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Do you get what I'm saying? It's a bit like weird analogy, but like if your current,
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apartment doesn't have something that you're moving into a new apartment it's got when you now find it in that new apartment oh my god like it's so nice having this because i didn't have it before yeah you get what i'm saying i feel like within the first week of being with you there was so much of that it's like that i was missing in previous um relationships that you were showing and i was like this just feels so much this just feels so right do you get what i'm saying
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I don't know I just feel like I felt so comfortable even by day two I was just like I felt so comfortable with you and so attracted to you and I've spoken to you about this before like I didn't think previously that you could have you know like this crazy chemistry of someone where it's like a physical chemistry a sexual chemistry and still view them as a best friend and neither of them
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counterbalance one another I thought you either had someone who was like a best friend to you but you were lacking that chemistry or you had like pure physical attraction but there was no real foundation there whereas with you I've genuinely got both and on top of that I feel like as we've increased each one the other ones got better do you get what I'm saying yeah
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without saying too much but you know what I mean like as I as the physical side of things has got better I felt closer to you as a person and as I've got closer to you as a person and and become even you become even more of my best friend the physical side of things has got better and just do you get what I'm saying yeah so yeah
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Like I wouldn't, yeah. And even just some of the things I've shared with you in terms of like who I am as a person and like, I've told you things genuinely that like even some of my best friends don't really know. And like, I feel like you know me probably better than anyone on this planet, I ain't going to lie.
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Because you know the side of me that I probably wouldn't want to tell my mom about because she wouldn't want to hear about it. But then you also know the side of me that my boys don't know about because I've probably been too embarrassed to share. You get what I'm saying? So you... I feel like you know... Yeah, I feel like you probably know me better than anyone.
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And it's weird because there'll be times I'm like...
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I'm gonna tell her this now she might run but like I feel like every time I've opened up to you it's just got us closer and closer and vice versa like I feel like you told me things that you probably thought I was gonna be like I'm sorry nah I just love this girl even more I feel like we're both so well everyone's multifaceted no one's just like this one dimensional type of person yeah and then the more we've just opened up and shared it's just like not only is it encouraged me to open up and share with you more I've just I don't know I just feel close to you every time we do that yeah
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As in like we had started it before you came. Well, before the second time you came to London.
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So we had to kind of get the Zoom calls and the phone calls in before you came because there was going to be no hiding from you when you literally stayed in my apartment. But yeah, we made it happen.
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I mean, even previously to the point where I was like, I need to put a ring on it. Like, what made me fall for you? Do you know what? Genuinely, as you know, there's so many things. To pin it down to just one or even two things is difficult. I think for me, even to this day, my favorite thing about you probably is...
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And it sounds like such a cop-out answer because it just sounds so like cliche and like easy. But it is, I think I said this before, I think it's just your warm smile in that A, it's just such a beautiful smile and it just like lights up a room and lights up my day. But it's more about what it represents. It represents your openness, your warmth as a person, your kindness, your optimism.
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I think that I'm kind of saying more than one thing, but it's all in the same context. category it's like your positivity your warmth and your kindness yeah and that is all encapsulated by your smile in my opinion like I've spoken to you I'm gonna embarrass you now like I'll never forget when there was this time when you were going, we was in London.
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You were going into Camden to get your nails done. You was going to meet someone last minute. They couldn't make it. So you was going on your own. You got your nails done and then you decided to take yourself to the, anyone knows Camden that is famous for like the little markets and what you guys would call like flea markets, maybe that kind of thing.
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And you was like, I think my phone, I was, I was loving having a day off to myself. I can't lie. We've been together for like three weeks. I was like, yeah, I'm going to sit at home, watch my murder documentaries, which you don't let me watch in front of you.
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and then I think my phone rang like every 15 minutes and you're like babe I've just found this market selling these little things and I'm like oh that's great babe like and you're like oh my god babe I've just found this mural of Amy Winehouse and did it like and it was the simplest things that were like lighting up your day and and
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remember that being one of the i mean i already loved you before then but i remember that kind of like illustrates me just how you see the beauty and the the amazement in the little things that other people be like who cares these are like five pound or five dollar rings and bracelets who cares but you came home with like a hundred of them and you were so happy and excited and you were taking pictures of these like this wall art and graffiti and stuff like the the fact that you
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sort of beauty and the amazement in those little things I'm like how can I ever have a boring day with someone who or a boring life with someone who is able to be have that kind of outlook on life not just that like when I come back to like your warmth and your kindness like I've never met anyone who doesn't love you I've never met anyone who doesn't like run to you and give you the biggest smile and even when I've not been with you
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people who talk about you like oh my god yeah she's amazing we love her and that's testimony to how you approach life and how you approach people and it's rubbed off on me like I'm happier from having met you but yeah same question to you what was the question don't pretend you didn't you don't know the question I'm just like in love over here I can't have like googly eyes I know you do so yeah what made you what made you fall for me or yeah
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Yeah, and I had to pretend I didn't know what it was. What? What's all this? Promo? You're having a laugh.
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I'm really hungry. So I want to go get some lunch after this. But more long term. We've got a wedding to plan.
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We do. Are we telling people or not? No. Okay.
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That's true. Do you want to tell them what it's based on or not?
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Okay. Well, you've got a date that's important to us and we want to get married on that date, right?
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We'll let people speculate on what that is. But yeah, we've got a date in mind. I think it's achievable.
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Yeah. And... Obviously, the other thing is... It's not just an engagement. Obviously, a lot of people don't... Because a lot of people are going, okay, so are you moving to London or am I moving to Charlotte? And it's kind of neither of those.
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That's it. So we got to do some apartment hunting as well, which I'm very excited about. You're stressed about it, but like...
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please it's gonna get done it's gonna get done when i don't know we're gonna be in a box i swear we're gonna be living on set listen that's your bed listen fine but it's gonna happen you need to manage your standards a little bit better i think see we're not gonna get a jacuzzi in the room and that's where we this is where we differ yes this is where we differ but you're talking like i want to sleep in a bar and i don't i'm just saying like
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There's a middle ground between what you want and what I want. Between what you want, sorry, and like sleeping on the streets. Do you know what I mean?
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Do you know how much luxury costs in LA? That's what I'm saying. That's what I'm saying.
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Like we ain't in Charlotte no more or Boston. You get me? So yeah, no, I get it. We'll find, listen, I genuinely think we'll find something that's going to tick all our boxes. I'm going to be very happy. So yeah, it's crazy because it's not just like I'm moving to LA and I'm looking for a place to stay. It's like we are looking for our first home. So there's that. Finding that first home.
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Obviously, this is a big move for me. I'm very excited about it. Planning a wedding.
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Two weddings. Are you going to tell them why?
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Okay, so I want to get married here in the States so that obviously your family can be there and share on the experience. And then some of my people will still come, but then for those who can't, I want a big thing in the UK as well so that those who could make it to the stateside one can make it to the UK one. Plus it gives us an excuse to have two big ceremonies, which I'm looking forward to.
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One ring. I'm just letting you know now in advance, like that's... That stays like that. And then, who knows, maybe we'll be starting a family at some point. No?
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Yeah. Don't make it like I'm an Ennis on my own.
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That's the natural progression of things. I mean, we both want kids. I mean, some people don't, but we both want kids.
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I'm exhausted. It's not funny. Yeah.
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I mean I can't speak for everyone I can only speak for myself and to be fair maybe there is a small contingent of people that go on these shows for the wrong reasons and I kind of openly said that whilst I went on for the right reasons I probably wasn't as ready as I should have been but like I say hindsight is 20-20 but we are testimony to the fact that you can find
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real genuine love on these shows and again we took a very unorthodox route because the show that we were sort of expected to find love on didn't quite get there and then we went on a show that probably respectfully isn't taken as seriously in terms of like finding long-term yeah love we went and found it there yeah but i think it goes to show that like even if it wasn't on that particular show people that go into these experiences are
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very very um open to finding real love and we were and we did and so there you go but yeah it took me by surprise because I didn't think it was going to be on private mat so yeah mad but yeah in the best way like yeah now like I say I get why people think these things are fake and I get why people have like their skepticism about it
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But yeah, I mean, we've got other married couples from previous seasons and then here we are about to be adding to the numbers.
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Well, that was the plan. That was the plan. But it wasn't my fault. You came and blew my mind and like flipped the script. Like I say, I wasn't going in there expecting to come out with, like I say, even a girlfriend, let alone a girlfriend that was going to eventually become my fiance. So yeah, it knocked me for six, but in the best way. Like I'm, yeah, I'm still in shock about it.
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I ain't gonna lie. I was like, I just thought it was going to be a vacation and beach cocktails. Cool. Done. And by the way, to touch upon what you said earlier, I was this close to not doing it, you know, like, yeah, I was very close to just being like, do I really want to do this? I've just like, cause bear in mind when I was about to embark on it,
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My show was still basically, had just come out.
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It was actually like a week or two after the reunion for my show came out, for Lovers Behind UK came out, that I was then leaving for this one. I was like, this is too much. Do you know what I mean? And I remember one of my boys at my house, he's like, you know what I'm talking about when I do that.
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He's like, bro, if you, like, you're going, like, from Birmingham, by the way, that's where the accent is. He's like, bro, I'll come pick you up from the airport myself. I'll grab you myself. You're going. I was like, all right, all right, all right. I'll go. He's like, yeah, I'll drive you there myself, bro. You're going. I was like, all right. I ain't got a choice.
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Yeah, listen, the streets has nothing for me. And you know this, like, and I've spoken to you about this before, like, there's genuinely nothing.
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in what would be my single life that I'm missing or wishing I was experiencing genuinely like I've never been happier than I am now I've never felt I said it in my proposal I've never felt as happy or as complete as I have since I've met you so yeah I'm so glad that like it's crazy so much of it does feel like fate so much of it does feel like it was meant to happen because you were about to go on another show I was genuinely this close to not doing the perfect match and then we met and the rest is history
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It was so, listen, that was one of the most frustrating parts was trying to get you to take it seriously without telling you what it was.
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I was like, maybe, maybe envision this being one of the most important days of your life. I mean, it's just promo, but maybe just pretend it's like going to be one of the most memorable moments of your life. No pressure though. And then you was like, yeah, I might get a dress. I'm like...
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Meanwhile, I'm being passed the ring. All part of the plan. Because if I'd had the ring on me, it'd have been too bulky in my beige linen pants in it. So I was like, yeah, it was, it was, it came together. I love it when a plan comes together. It was very A-team.
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We made it work. Like, and it's funny because one of the producers pulled me and says like, do you really think she has no idea? I was like, I genuinely think she has no clue.
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That just made it even more perfect. Like if you'd, bear in mind for months she'd been like,
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Thanks for having me. It's nice to meet you at last.
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I don't know if you did, to be honest. I think I kind of just took your like hysteria as a yes. I kind of just like...
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I just remember being like I didn't want to formalize it like they do on the planes like we're gonna need a verbal yes I was like nah that'll do I'll take it do you want this ring or not and then yeah there we go I think eventually I said yes yeah I think when we were in the car on the way home but I don't forget you said I don't know I have to look back at the footage but you was just screaming and jumping and I was like steady on but nah I think you did enough positive body language to make me think it's probably a yes
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Good. A little bit nervous. It's like our first time.
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I don't think it could have gone any better. Like as in, I love the fact that we was able to, it was a beautiful location. We had the sun setting. You looked amazing. It just felt really, really right. And like, I could tell as soon as like, as soon as I could tell that you knew the way your face lit up, I was like, okay, I've done this right. Do you know what I mean?
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Showing out and being us publicly at last. But yeah, now I'm excited.
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I knew I'd done it at the right time in the right location. And it was beautiful that we were able to have the team of us, like part of the team that you started this whole journey with there to share it with. Because bear in mind, I've been on my knee. I barely got off one knee and then she runs to the producer to celebrate with her, I'm like,
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you haven't actually said yes, but cool, do your thing, come back to me. But yeah, that was beautiful. Cause like, do you know what I mean? Technically speaking, you've known her longer than me. So it makes sense that you're going to want to celebrate with her and share with her. Even like, you know, again, I won't name her, but the mic lady, do you get what I'm saying?
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So it's like, it was actually really, really beautiful the way able to not have the video crew there, not only so that we have it in 4K now,
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immortalize forever for us to look back on wherever whenever we want but also share with people that we started both our journeys with because obviously i know a lot of them from perfect match as well so yeah yeah you did good i'm really proud of you so yeah thanks once again to the team because i couldn't i mean i could have done it without them but not nowhere near as as elaborate and as beautiful as that so i'm very very grateful that um i had their support and their help
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Best decision I ever made. As you know, we already discussed this.
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But then I'll blast myself as well.
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Should I do this now? Do I want to do this now? No, go ahead. Put me on blast. Yeah, let's do this now. So, all right, cool. Two things.
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It's not crazy. It's not crazy, but I was never going to tell you I knew this unless we were on camera because I thought it would be funny in it, yeah? I saw you watching my stories way back when, you know. Yeah, she was checking me out from time ago. From time ago. I remember like, this is like, I don't even think the season has started, you know. I think this was just the cast announcement.
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And I'm going through my, because these times I didn't have that many followers. So I can see who's watching. And I'm like, hmm?
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The whole time. The whole time. I felt so intrigued. I was like, oh yeah. I probably still got a screenshot. Because I was excited, I can't lie.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm putting out my story at some point. You know, you know. When your TV crush is watching your story. I love that.
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Okay, this brings me on to my second point, yeah? So, you know when we was going through the, like, Wait, hold that.
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There's no defending this. No, because. You was feeling the void. Don't try it.
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You're making this less special than it was five minutes ago.
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We'll find it somewhere. It's in the archive somewhere.
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It was like we were meant to be together, really.
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Probably, because you kept watching my stories. So I was like, I might as well. I was like, I'm going in. I like what you see, do you? Yeah. I'm surprised you weren't liking my pics to be fair, but yeah.
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Might as well have been. Watching stories is enough for me. Yeah. All the way across the pond.
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That's what I wanted to talk about as well though. Like one thing I've loved about our journey so far is that we've like, you know how some people will just say things.
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From jump, like again, without giving too much away, like during the show, we were like, You said, I'm going to come to London. I was like, cool, come to London. I'll clear a whole two weeks for you. And he's like, really? And I was like, yeah. And then obviously you were coming around the time of your birthday. And I said, I'll tell you what, if you come, I'll get us tickets to Paris.
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And both of those things happened within like three weeks of leaving the show. Do you get what I'm saying? Like you said you're going to come to London. I was like, cool, I'll put the tickets to Paris. And we've done that consistently.
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even down to like coming to LA we've always just said we should do this okay we'll do this and then like again I'm kind of jumping around timeline wise but we can come back to whatever you're the boss but um ooh say that part again no just here but like um
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When we were talking about... When we were doing the long distance part and I said, oh, we should do like FaceTime dates and we started doing FaceTime dates. I was like, oh, we should write to each other. We wrote to each other. Do you get what I'm saying?
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Like, I love the fact that we've kind of made plans for ourselves and stuck to them because it just shows... I just like the fact that we don't mess around when it comes to that. And also...
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do you want to go on a date at like six o'clock and it's like five hours you know yeah but later for you yeah we need to talk about that as well because bear in mind obviously apart from having like three four thousand miles of ocean between us we also had five hours of the time difference between us so i'd be asking you on a facetime date at 9 10 p.m or whatever and these times it's like 3 a.m for me
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Nah, neither did I apparently. By the end of it, I was living on Charlotte time regardless. I was going to bed at like 6 a.m. just to stay up with you. So it was ridiculous, but it was all worth it. I mean, it's like, yeah, the distance was hard. It's funny because you... Okay, so...
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We were both in different places before we started the long distance portion because you were in a state of mind where like, oh, this is going to be easy. And I was like, this is going to be impossible.
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Yeah. I feel like, but it's, I don't think either of us underestimated it to a point where it was like to our detriment. It's not like I ever thought this is going to be so hard that it's not worth attempting or it's not going to work. I was just like, this is going to be so, so tough. Like I've never entertained the idea of doing long distance before I met you. I ain't going to lie.
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They have to just tune in for Perfect Match.
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three hours away my idea of long distance is someone who lives on the other side of London I ain't gonna lie like someone bear in mind okay so for those of you who know the UK Birmingham's like the next city over it's like two hours away if someone from Birmingham's like hey I'd be like nope forget it I ain't doing long distance Manchester forget it but here I am entertaining
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A long distance relationship with someone who doesn't only live in another city, not only another country, but another continent.
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But we can talk about the rest of it.
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It's crazy, but it just goes to show that when... That I got that juice. Huh?
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Oh gosh. Anyway, it just goes to show that when someone comes along that's like...
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blows your mind so to speak it kind of you end up breaking the rules yeah do you know what I mean like previously I would never have done long distance but I was like do you know what for her it's worth it and I think we I think we approached it in the best way we possibly could have done and the proof's in the pudding because here we are but like yeah it was it was like I say I thought it was gonna be way tougher than it was
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But it just goes through, like communication is key. And we discussed that from early, like we spoke every day. And even if it was a thing where, even if I was waking up and I knew you were still asleep, I'm still going to send you a good morning text and vice versa. When you're going to bed and you know I'm asleep, you're still going to send that good night text.
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And then we're going to make time to have like random FaceTimes throughout the day when I might be driving or you might be cooking. But then those intentional times when we carve out an hour or two to sit down and have proper conversations and not just like, Do you know what I mean? And then being open and transparent with what we're doing throughout the day.
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So it's like, if I'm not going to be available for three hours, I'm going to let you know in advance. Like all that kind of stuff. And like being with you really helped improve my communication. But obviously, yeah. Stop smiling at me.