Molly McPherson
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So you got dumped... should you post your breakup deets online?
Well, social media nowadays is part of the modern breakup toolkit, if you will. As someone who looks at these case studies online and And I see messy breakups and what they do to a personal reputation. I mean, of course, it wouldn't be advisable every time. However, there's a very compelling reason why Gen Z in particular, I think, likes to do it is it's used as a coping mechanism.
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So you got dumped... should you post your breakup deets online?
It's very hard to keep pain inside. So generationally, where we might do this over crying over drinks with friends, it's the same thing for Gen Z. Their comfort is in their community and sharing it online. So if they can do it in a way that helps them cope and gives them a way to heal through it, then it could be a positive thing. Yeah.
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So you got dumped... should you post your breakup deets online?
Yeah, Rebecca is absolutely right. And she's noting, you know, a time where I noticed the shift where people were noticing, okay, he may have done something, but why are we out to destroy this person's life over it? And then it boomeranged back on the person.
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So you got dumped... should you post your breakup deets online?
So I think the key to sharing your breakup online isn't so much whether or not you should do it, but it's what is your intention for doing it? If you are sharing your breakup because you want to share vulnerability and you're using it to process your grief, because that's what breakup is. It's grief.
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So you got dumped... should you post your breakup deets online?
then that is intentional for a reason, for healing and creating community and possibly helping other people going through the same thing. But when you use it to weaponize, it can cause a lot of harm and people will call you out and the internet will let you know that, no, this is not right.
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So you got dumped... should you post your breakup deets online?
Yeah. And what makes the online breakup sharing unique is its dual nature. So again, not only is it a personal coping mechanism, but you're touching into online outrage and there isn't any critical thinking involved whatsoever. It's all emotional.
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So you got dumped... should you post your breakup deets online?
Almost every single emotion that you express online is going to generate backlash, some level of backlash, except for one. And that's extreme grief and sadness. People will bring you up because people love to bring people down, but people also love to bring people up. There's also divorce, messy breakup, divorce. algorithm that is filled with people who help.
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So you got dumped... should you post your breakup deets online?
I mean, women, the algorithm brings every divorced woman who's ever been scorned or wrong and they lift up that person. So, and they give them tips and tell them what to do. It's a remarkable thing to watch.
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So you got dumped... should you post your breakup deets online?
And exposing the red flags that people didn't even know that they weren't even seeing.
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So you got dumped... should you post your breakup deets online?
It depends. It depends. You know, should you put it online? My rule of thumb is this. If you're comfortable putting your reputation in the hands of others, then you can do it. Holly, I'm clutching my chest. What a sentence that was. Oh, my God. There's a lot of heartbreak involved.
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So you got dumped... should you post your breakup deets online?
And when people are in pain and people are hurting, sometimes the only community they really do have is online or their friends are online or they may have just graduated from college and their friends are all over the country. Recognizing that processing it in a way where it brings your community to you and it helps you heal, then yes.