Minda Honey
Appearances
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Is marriage worth it? Single women say no.
Okay, so let me explain my response to, is marriage in or out? I feel like it's in because even though I am not married, it's not even currently on the horizon, it is something that I'm still hopeful for and aspire to. And I feel like I'm not necessarily single by choice, but single due to a lack of choices. And I do feel like more women would be getting married if
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Is marriage worth it? Single women say no.
if we felt like there were suitable options for us to do so. But am I willing to get married at the expense of my happiness? Absolutely not. And the reality is that we're living through this cultural schism where we are receiving neither a husband nor a partner because it doesn't align with women's current expectations around equality within relationships. The emotional equality isn't there.
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Is marriage worth it? Single women say no.
And, you know, per Rachel's research, the financial and educational equality is also absent.
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Is marriage worth it? Single women say no.
Absolutely not. So many of the like narratives and scripts that women were given around dating were not successful. They did not serve us. And so now, you know, we're at an age, I just turned 40, where it's like, okay, what we were taught didn't work. So now I need to figure out what does work for me.
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Is marriage worth it? Single women say no.
And oftentimes women are kind of discovering that de-centering romance and dating is what's working for us currently.
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Is marriage worth it? Single women say no.
So I think, you know, it's not necessarily that there's this resurgence of old school dating mindset among men. I think it's more that the mindset is being challenged by women. You know, my mother was 10 years old when the law was passed that women could access credit so that we could get credit cards in our own name, mortgages in our own names.
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Is marriage worth it? Single women say no.
Before that, your father, your brother, your husband... had to sign on your behalf. So we're a part of this first generation of women who were born with the right to credit.
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Is marriage worth it? Single women say no.
So you pair that with a college degree and suddenly we have the financial and social capital to challenge these conservative mindsets and to not tolerate things that we don't want to be a feature in our lives, like this inequality within a relationship and
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Is marriage worth it? Single women say no.
And conversely, that means that the men of our generation, they're the first generation of men who are in a situation in which they are not automatically born into having the upper hand financially in a relationship with women. And so like they're being challenged and they're being vocal about having that assumed power challenged by us.