Michael McLean
Appearances
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
Yeah, I mean, I've been coaching youth sports for 23 consecutive years. And the term I use similar years is ROI. Show me the ROI. Everybody wants to be led. Everybody likes structure. Everybody likes discipline. Show me the ROI of the other way. So you're right about the shift. There's a shift happening here, but man, oh man, people are responsible for their own.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
And what you're doing for your kids is you're literally stacking the deck, Ryan. You are, I call it putting your kids on the power play. You're putting an extra man on the field. Like my job as a father is to make sure my kid lives her adult life on the fucking power play. Like I don't want to, I want a loaded deck. I want a stacked deck.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
And to do that, guys like us and our wife have to work a long time, but there's no competition. And that's the other thing, the man or woman in the glass, like that was Richard Williams 101 with the Williams sisters where, you know, he didn't let Serena and Venus play in all these tournaments, even though the agents were hanging around.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
And he's like, my kids are going to practice most of the time. And he's like, he kept telling Serena and Venus, they can speak five languages. None of these players are your peers. Your mom and I want you to be artists. We want you to be musicians. We want you to be athletes. We want you to be good people. And if one of these things works out, fantastic.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
But weaponizing your children goes back to what Brene Brown says, which is clear as kind, unclear as unkind. like I could tell you horror stories you wouldn't believe from my hockey, coaching young kids in hockey, power skating, is the COVID kids especially, the China virus kids especially, five to zero, It's a culture of quitters coming.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
Now, I'm not one of these guys who ever used to say, oh, well, the next generation. I'm not saying that at all. The China virus crippled what's coming. So I'll start out, Ryan, with 50 kids in a low-income skating program on a September. By Thanksgiving, I got 25 kids. That means mom and dad let 25 kids quit. I'm not upset that the kids want to quit. Every kid wants to quit.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
I want to quit every day. But the fact that the parents are so soft as fucking shit that they let these kids start quitting when they're 2, 3, 4, and 5... That's a crippling habit. My dad calls it patronizing. So if you want to raise cupcake kids and snowflake kids and poodles, just lie to your kids all the time and patronize them. And eighth place trophies, like you said, is the secret to this.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
Our kids are afraid of failure because of eighth place trophies. Now you're doing the right job where you know what? Bill Parcells said it best. When Bill Parcells, in my opinion, the greatest football coach in history, the scoreboard says who's best. The scoreboard says who's best. And that's the way you can get better when the scoreboard doesn't say you're the best. But you nailed it.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind. So when you have these cupcake parents, they think they're helping their children when actually, Ryan, they're crippling them for life.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
So when I have an elite man, a generous, a driven man come to me, buys my book, he joins my mastermind, whatever the hell he does, the number one thing, and the only thing, like one of your speeches, the only thing that I could, one thing to 10X his life is the first thing I say, Ryan, like whether he was a pro hockey player, pro football player, whether he's a nine-figure entrepreneur, a man without a mission is a man without balls.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
So we don't go any further than that. And I get these men and some brave women in my program, and they think about when they get up in the morning, they pray about their mission. When they go to bed at night, they ask their subconscious to think about their mission. When they go for a walk in the morning for an hour, half an hour outside without their phone, they think about their mission.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
They talk to their kids about their mission. They talk to their wife about their mission. It's all about the mission. Any great leader that you've developed that's gone from a people pleaser or one of these cupcakes or one of these poodles is a man or a woman on a mission. And a man or a woman with no mission, they have no mental balls whatsoever.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
So when a guy like you goes to a barbecue or a ball game or to church and somebody walks up to you, you can instantly tell whether they are a man on a mission. You can see it, Ryan, in their eyes. You can feel it in their voice, their high frequency, their high agency, their body language. They cannot not talk about their mission.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
When they talk to a guy like you, you get chills and they get chills. When they talk about their mission, it's like the hair starts to stand up on the back of our head. And it's contagious. And the leaders that are on a mission, all of a sudden they become magnetic to money. Money quickly becomes no problem. Money loves a man on a mission. They become magnetic to the opposite sex.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
They become magnetic to good fortune. They become magnetic to other people because they're a man or a woman on a mission. But when my guys and gals, when they finally, and I call it something bigger than yourself, because they say to me the same as you, I don't know what my purpose is, Michael. I don't know what God wants for me. And I'm like, God wants you to be a man on a mission.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
And if you'd put the cell phone down and you get off TikTok and you'd stop watching the NFL for nine hours a day, God's trying to tell you, your creator is trying to tell you, This is what I need you to do to serve other people. So my guys, Ryan, gradually, it doesn't happen in one hour, they gradually become a man or a woman on a mission that's based in service. That's the secret.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
Well, I'll break it down. The message from my 91-year-old father who retired. My dad worked until age 85, Ryan, so he's been retired for five years, almost six years. He said to me the other day when we were out on the boat, he said, you know, son, he says, I don't have many regrets in my life. If you met my dad, Ryan, you would think he's 70, not 91. Same with my mom. My mom's 91.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
It's based in service. They literally, for the first time in their life, find something that's bigger than themselves. And you and I are both doing this. Like I haven't had to work since 2017. Here I am, you know, consulting with other men and women because I'm a man on a mission and I've found something bigger than myself. And it took me months to find my latest calling.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
Well, I'll break it down. The message from my 91-year-old father who retired. My dad worked until age 85, Ryan, so he's been retired for five years, almost six years. He said to me the other day when we were out on the boat, he said, you know, son, he says, I don't have many regrets in my life.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
When I bought my first hockey team, my mission was to win a Barkley Cup. When I got in the insurance business, my mission was to become the number one agent in the nation. I sell that. I start a barber shop. The mission was to be the number one. I've been on a mission as a husband for a while, as a father. So some missions are a month. Some missions are 30 years. But you have to be on a mission.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
And it changes everything. And you know this better than anybody. Less than 1% of 1% of 1% of 1% of the people you meet today, whether it's at your kid's school or whether it's at the ballpark, nobody's on a mission. But when you meet that man or woman who's on a mission, You can just feel it. You're magnetic. They cannot not talk about it. It's like me coming on this podcast.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
Like I'm like, I'm going to go talk to Ryan. I don't do podcasts anymore because I like talking to men who are on a mission. If you're not on a mission, I'm not going to talk to you. I'm a man on a mission and nothing comes before the mission. So I don't participate in anti-social media. I don't follow the news. I don't follow politics.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
I built a seven-figure company again without even trying because I'm on a man on a mission. When my marriage is struggling, it's when I'm not a man on a mission. When I was a lousy parent in the first couple of years of my daughter's life, I wasn't a man on a mission. And it's normal to lose your way, but you have to continually bring yourself back to men on a mission.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
When Nick Saban went to Alabama and lost for the first three to four seasons, that's a man on a mission. So now Saban retires and he goes on TV. That's the next mission. You know, wherever Bill Parcells went in the NFL to take over the worst team from the outhouse to the penthouse, man on a mission. Elon Musk is a man on a mission. Like it's costing him billions of dollars. It's costing him.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
He doesn't give a shit. He's a man on a mission. Trump has done the unthinkable. Trump is unreasonable. You can't be president. You'll never win. He's a man on a mission. And as you can see with those guys, Margaret Thatcher was a woman on a mission. Richard Williams, Earl Woods, those were men and women on a mission. And you like you said, it's sports, it's life, whatever.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
But it all starts and ends with the mission. Nothing becomes before that calling.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
She doesn't have any gray hair. He says to me, he goes, I have one regret. He says, I should have worked to 90. And then my dad and I were talking about how this is clearly the greatest time in history to be alive, especially if you're a husband, a father, an entrepreneur, a founder, any of that stuff. my dad started his businesses. He was an entrepreneur for 71 years.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
Well, that goes back to Ryan afraid of winning. Sedating and medicating, now it's in your phone. But here's a big point that I make with my athletes and my students and my daughter. Being passionate about something or curious about something isn't enough. So a guy like you... People would look at you and say, you know, Ryan's really passionate about coaching. And to that, I say, yes, he is.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
But what separates you from everybody else is you found a mission that you're obsessed with. I don't want anything to do with anybody else. that's not obsessed about their mission. So I don't go to lunch. I don't go to dinner. I don't go visit my sister. I don't do anything with people that aren't on a mission.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
And I'm way, way too far gone to spend time with beta males and gamma males who talk about the weather or talk about Elon Musk or talk about, I'm like, tell me about your mission. So obsession, my dad said to me, so I walk into my dad, my dad says, you know, you're interested in taking over the family insurance business. And this is way back in the day, 20 years ago.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
He said, he goes, I started my business with the yellow pages. He said, you have the worldwide web, you have AI, you have the greatest time in history to be alive. And this is the message that I'm telling my 12 year old daughter all the time. You know, she has her own podcast. She makes her own money, that kind of stuff. But,
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
He said, don't you even think of buying this business unless you're gonna take this to the next level 10X and this becomes your obsession. Don't buy it if you're passionate about it. Don't buy it if you're curious about it and don't buy this agency If you want to drive a nice car, you better be obsessed or before you start, do something else. So number one in the nation.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
Didn't take long because I was a man on a mission. Then I walk into my dad's office five years later. I said, Dad, I'm going to take over this bankrupt junior hockey team. Nobody can win in a small community. He says, the only question you have to answer is, are you on a mission? Will this be your next mission? I said, absolutely. He goes by it.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
So this is the same thing is we just have to keep asking our creator, what's the next calling? What's the next purpose? And I'm sorry, but passion doesn't work. Passion isn't enough. When I won a Berkeley Cup with my hockey team in 2019, you want to talk about a force, a powerhouse, but we couldn't win for six straight years. We always lost in the finals, in game six and game seven.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
I walk into my dad's office. I said, Dad, I don't know what it is, but we just can't win that championship. And he said, you need to fill that locker room with 23 young men that are on a mission. He said, you got a few guys in there that are, you know, they're curious about winning. They're, you know, they've got some passion.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
But he said, you need to fill that locker room with trainers, with coaches, and with athletes that are sick to their stomach when they come up short. And he said, when you lost last night, you know, he said, how many people in there were beyond, how many people in there were suffering physically, suffering mentally?
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
He says, anybody that wasn't sick to their stomach when they lost, you need to upgrade and replace. And that goes back to obsession. So you're a man on a mission. I can tell it in your voice. I can tell when I talk to you. I can tell when I watch a video, but you're not passionate about it. You are passionate, but you're obsessed. And you're talking about going to speak. Nobody wants to fly.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
Nobody wants to go to the airport. Nobody wants to live in a hotel. Giving the speech is the 90 minutes of fun. But what gets you through all that other horseshit is the fact that you're obsessed with what you're doing and you're a man on a mission. And this stuff is so contagious in your home. Nothing drives me crazier than life balance talk. Are you kidding me?
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
I grew up at a kitchen table where my dad and mom sat down and they talked about winning. They talked about losing. They talked about the markets. They talked about marketing. They talked about money. They talked about, there was no doors in our house. There was no, okay, we're gonna now family. There's no such thing, life balance, seamless living. So your kids can feel your obsession.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
The men and women that I work with, they spend way, way, way too much time on rat poison platforms like the news, like politics is rat poison, and anti-social media. I mean, it's okay to be on there for a little bit, but... If you think that times are tough in 2025, you're in the wrong echo chamber. You need to get around better people. You need to get around people who have actually won.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
Your wife can feel your obsession. And I tell my guys when they come to me looking for life balance, I'm like, you don't need life balance. You need to become a man on a mission where there's no longer any doors in your life. There's no work life. There's no personal life. It's just all one life.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
And that's building your badass world where you build your business around your life, not your life around your business. But you can smell obsession and you can smell a man or woman who's on a mission.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
People ask me what my business is now that I'm semi-retired. I said my business is the same as when I was in the hockey business, the insurance business, being a husband, being a father. I'm in the winning business. That doesn't mean I win all the time. It means I lose a lot. But, I mean, there has never, ever been a better time. And my dad's only regret is he said I should have worked to 90.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
can engage in this and we are such a blessing to be put here I just don't get it it boggles my mind well it goes back to mission like you anybody that comes to me or you Ryan who has a problem with alcohol a problem with drugs a problem with pornography a problem with gambling a problem with their marriage All you have to do is ask that man or woman, what's the mission?
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
Because all that shit goes away. Anybody that's distracted doesn't have a mission. Because, I mean, I haven't had a drink in four years. And the only reason I stopped drinking is because of my latest mission. I didn't have a meeting with myself. I didn't read a book about it. Alcohol is not congruent with my latest mission. And I didn't give up anything.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
It's just not congruent with my mission as a husband, as a father, whatever. But everybody, like you just talked about the quiet desperation. That's 99.9% now. It's not 1%. It's 99. So if you and I meet 100 people today, 99.9% of them are living a life of quiet desperation. They're afraid of losing, afraid of winning, but they don't have a mission.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
But when people come to me with all these vices and these distractions, I'm like, you don't lack time or discipline. You just aren't a man or a woman on a mission. When they get that mission right, then everything else falls into place. And the big part of the mission they don't know, Ryan, is it's about building a legacy of service. So I don't care who you are.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
You won't be remembered in three generations. I don't care if you're Elon Musk. In three generations, the way things are going, they won't even know who he is. Nobody knows who Thomas Edison was. Nobody really knows what Reagan did. Nobody knows other than a couple things. So get over yourself with the people-pleasing.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
Your great grandkids won't know anything about you unless you educate them on it. But if you want any legacy beyond 15 minutes after your funeral, you need to live a life of significance. And a life of significance is a man or woman on a mission serving other people.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
He said I would give one of my arms to be in the environment that you're in now. So that's my mindset every day that I get up. I'm like – and my dad mentioned on the boat the other day, he said, Michael, he says – If you can't make it in 2025, you can't make it. And, you know, that's the message that we need to be sending to leaders. That's what you do.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
And if you do not serve other people, whether it's coaching baseball or helping men or helping women or helping the Rotary Club, you'll be forgotten 15 minutes after your funeral. Maybe your wife, maybe your kids will be teary-eyed for a couple days, but there's no legacy. So for my guys, it's all back to significance. How can you serve more people?
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
And it's interesting when you plant the seed in a person's head and they sleep on it and they walk about and they journal and they think about it. All of a sudden, that mission will gradually come to them. This is the next mission. And the mission can be writing a book. It could be publishing some of your music. It could be feeding starving children in the third world.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
It could be winning a Super Bowl. The mission can be anything. But a guy like you can't give a person a mission. It has to be authentic. Maybe you want to be the best husband and father in the world. Whatever it is, it has to be that person's mission. And then once that happens, the quiet desperation vanishes.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
My guys come to me anxious, depressed, medicated, sedated, living a life of quiet desperation. The second they find their mission, they are completely transformed as husbands, fathers. And it's amazing because like you do, their kids want to hear the stories about the mission at the kitchen table. Their wife wants to hear about the mission. They're getting in better shape. Their sex life improves.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
Everything improves because a man on a mission is the most magnetic person on earth.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
You work with some of the top leaders, unreasonable outcomes. But man, oh man, talk about the greatest environment in history to be in. And when I say greatest environment, there's three things that really stick out. Number one, we are awash in wealth, trillions of dollars every single day. Go stand in the river. Go stand in the river. Secondly, abundance like never before.
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If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
One of the sayings I have written on my home gym wall is, when the king does not rise, the kingdom dies. And that goes back, of course, Ryan to mission. When the king does not rise, the kingdom dies. So I'll say to my guys that are struggling at home, maybe they've got no passion in their marriage. Maybe they're disconnected from their kids or grandkids.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
When you walk in that door every night, are you a high frequency man or are you a low frequency poodle? And the majority of guys that are having struggles in their home are The king is no longer rising. And when you walk in there as a high-frequency man with the body language, the breathing, the attitude, the storytelling, you make yourself magnetic to the opposite sex.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
You make yourself magnetic to your children, your grandchildren. You make yourself magnetic to money. And the opposite, everything you just discussed, is what repels winning like nothing else. One word. neediness. I call it men in diapers, men in diapers. So 99.9% of men are scared little boys in 2025, men in diapers showing up as scared little boys. And they're needy, needy, needy.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
Their body language, their breathing, their mentality, the cell phone use, the porn, the drugs, the alcohol, what you do. They're men in diapers. So all you have to do is rise as a king. And how do you rise as a king? You get on a mission that'll never end, and everything else trickles downhill from there. My younger brother, David, founded his own law practice.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
I mean, I pack up my family for half the year and I get to live in the greatest country in the world, America, in the greatest city in the world, Naples, Florida. And then for the other six months, I get to return and live on the lake in the second greatest country in the world, which is Canada. Like the abundance is unbelievable.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
Well, guess what my younger brother deals with from time to time? Divorce. So I'll never forget at my stag 20 years ago, I was lying there in bed one morning, I said to my brother, I said, what's the real reason that marriages end 50% of the time or more now? And he said, well, he says, I'm gonna surprise you. He says, number one, which you know is money.
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If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
People fight about money problems, that's why it ends. But he says, number two, you'll never believe. And I said, what is it? He says, He says, the man stops growing. And he's a Tony Robbins guy. He's like, the man is no longer dangerous, as Dr. Peterson would say. He's no longer weaponized. He's now a needy little bitch. And he's literally repelled his wife or girlfriend from him.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
Because neediness repels money, winning, luck, the opposite sex like nothing else. And that's what men in diapers are. They're needy little men. So like you said, you can instantly become a king. You can literally decide to walk through the door at 6 p.m. at night, a high-frequency man. A high frequency man. And you can start to work on your health. You can start to work on your language.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
You can start to work on all this stuff. And gradually you just rise a little more and a little more. And when my marriage has struggled, my wife literally stops me, Ryan, at the island in the kitchen when I start to, you know, not be a man on the mission from time to time. And she always looks me in the face and says, just remember, I married a king.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
If you're not going to be a king, there's going to be lots of problems. And this is where I become a needy little guy. And I'm like, I'm going to spend more time with you guys. Let's do this. And she goes, we don't need it. We need to be led by a king. And my wife is the queen. But we don't need any of that stuff. We just need you to be a man on the mission. Share your mission with us.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
Include us in your mission. And when the king rises, the kingdom rises as well. But that's exactly who you deal with. That's exactly who I deal with. When the king does not rise, the kingdom dies.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
And then, of course, what I mentioned, the opportunity, like literally the World Wide Web, artificial intelligence, whatever you want to talk about it. But man, oh, man, my dad said it the other day, best Ryan. He says the good old days are now.
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
Join my daily email, which I include a video. It's just me out walking in the morning. Admittedly, my videos are not everybody's cup of whiskey, but brassballsvideos.com, Ryan. That's brassballsvideos.com. That's pretty self-explanatory. That's my email list, and I shot a video every day for two years. I'm going to get back at it again, but
The Ryan Hanley Show
If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)
it's my unvarnished morning walk around Naples or on the, in the lake in Canada. And I talk about different things that are on my mind that day. It's almost like a walking Rush Limbaugh or, uh, uh, you know, some time with Michael Jordan ideas, but mental toughness, everything that you and I talked about today, I mean, uh, you help leaders achieve unreasonable outcomes.
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I let, I, I help elite men get their balls back. And, uh, You know, guys watch my videos every day or read my emails. They say, you know, I really needed that mental kick in the pants. So, you know, there's nothing to buy brass balls, videos.com. But if I think every King, I think everybody that's on a mission needs those mental kick in the pants every day.
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Um, guys like you are serious students and that's because you understand that that force is against you. Gravity is against you in 2025. And if you want to be that top 1% of 1%, you got to be very smart with the inputs that you're putting into your body and your mind. So if you, uh, if you're in a situation where you need to rise in your family and your business, brass balls, uh, videos.com.
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Michael, appreciate you. Thank you so much. Thank you, Ryan.
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They're scared of winning. When I was coaching minor pro hockey, I owned a couple of my own teams. Then I got into the insurance business as the number one agent in the nation. I've run barber shops, all this kind of stuff, tennis camps, hockey schools. And Ryan, when I was younger, I used to think that most people were afraid of losing.
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And then as I matured and worked with the peak, peak men and women in the world, I realized what stops most people from getting moving is they're afraid of winning. And that was a light bulb moment for me because the thing is, is sure, we're all afraid of losing. We don't want to lose. You should be sick to your stomach when you do lose. And nothing is more valuable than losing.
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I tell my 12 year old daughter, I'm like, are you kidding me? You don't win. You don't learn anything from winning. You win everything from being taken behind the woodshed and taught a lesson in sports, business, and life. That's where all the learning happens. But I find most people that I work with, Ryan, they're afraid of winning in their subconscious or their conscious mind.
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If I do write the book and it's a smash success, what will other people think? If I start traveling and speaking like you do, what will my friends think? And this all goes back to the way we're hardwired into people pleasing. Like we need to be men and women on a mission. We don't need to be people pleasers.
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So when I run into people that are afraid of losing, but more importantly, they're afraid of winning. They sedate and they medicate by spending their time in these places where they watch other people live. See, you're living. You're a man on a mission. I know your deal. You're a man on a mission.
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But there's so many people that watch you instead of doing their own thing because they're afraid of winning. I would love to be like Ryan. But what if I became like Ryan and chase my mission? What would my wife think? What would my friends from high school think? What would my fuck all friends from college think?
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And it gets down to that fundamental where if a person cannot escape that mindset of people pleasing, if they can't, that is the number one crippling thing in sports life and business. If you are a people pleaser instead of a man or a woman on a mission, you have no chance to live the life of your dreams. Why aren't we taught this?
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Well, I mean, there's a lot of reasons that it's not taught in school and it's not, you don't run into it a lot is because, I mean, the education system as an example, I mean, we homeschool our daughter because I don't want her in the old factory industrial age, put up your hand to use the bathroom school. So I'm raising an entrepreneur. I'm raising a president, not a poodle.
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I'm raising a president, not a princess. So we focus on entrepreneurship in our home, whether she decides to be a vet or decides. I don't care long as she runs the show for herself. Because I think in 2025 and looking down the road in five or 10 years, there's no place for anybody but the founder and the entrepreneur.
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You're going to have a hard time commuting to work and sitting in a cubicle once AI gets going here. We're preaching freedom. I just believe the education system and society is set up in the hundred year old. We need workers. We need people to, you know, work in the factories. We need people to sit in the cubicles. But unfortunately, those days are all gone.
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So in my daughter's particular case, she has six hours of private tutors a day. And we accomplish more in six hours than she would in six years. But it's interesting because I hired the number one math teacher in America and here in Naples. And what do they start every day with? They start every day with fitness and movement.
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skipping rope push-ups all this she's been doing this since she was five years old so they get the body moving because the body is before the mind then ryan she does old school mathematics like she's 12 years old but she's at a college level of mathematics because what is math mac is the ultimate problem solving it's black and white it's not opinion based it's hard and it's difficult
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And then she does cursive writing. She writes out the best advertisements in history. So she'll write out a Gary Halbert ad. She'll write out an Ogilvy ad. So that's cursive plus copywriting. And then the other thing that she does after that is she'll do something entrepreneurial, whether it's a lemonade stand or writing her book or whatever.
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But the reason that this isn't taught is because they don't want it taught. They don't want a world of top one percenters or top five percenters. They want followers. So what you do is the exact opposite of what the one percenters. What does the world need more? You know this better than anybody. We need more leaders. There's such a leadership vacuum.
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I always say to my daughter, I'm like, I'm with Dana White on this. If your kids, and you have two of them, if they even have a speck of badass in them, They're going to own this world. Yeah. And like I say to my daughter, I look at the other kids her age and I say, these are not your peers. These are not your peers. And that's the biggest thing.
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So just the fact like it's what happens at the kitchen table and in your home is more important than anything that happens in the White House. But that goes back to my initial thing about this is the greatest time in history because a guy like you is raising a couple of badass entrepreneurs who Who are going to run over people because they're going to be equipped for the new age world.