Melanie Lynskey

Yeah, that's true.

It is.

Can I show you a video? Oh my gosh, please. Rita's got this today.

Oh, thank you. A lot.

It's so wild.

It is weird. It's like something slowly being revealed. So initially you're like, it just seems like a baby or something. And then even when you see other babies, you start to realize like, oh... no, that's actually only something that our daughter does or whatever. And then as they get older, you realize that, yeah, it was kind of always there. Wow.

Yeah, exactly.

But it is nice when they start being able to use their words and then, you know, as soon as our daughter could say cat, we knew that she was obsessed with cats and she's been obsessed with cats for forever.

Oh my God.

Yeah. Yeah.

We put on our latex as soon as we get home. No, of course.

We missed the last three, I think.

I don't know. I mean, we've always, we always liked it. There's just so many shows. There's so many great shows. And we got sucked into some of the Netflix dating shows and, and the traders.

Yeah.

Whenever we start it, we get sucked in and we're in for a whole season. We've never like jumped off mid-season.

Try to send me home now. I just told you the most tragic story in the world.

Thank you.

Thank you.

Thank you.

Thank you. Thank you.

I know.

I know. She's so still, though. She's like a queen. I keep on studying her because she's so powerful.

Oh, whoa.

Oh, yeah. In person.

Absolutely. I think she allows... I feel like I meet someone and I'm like, how can I show you that I'm not a threat? And she's just like... Hello. You know, she has like, she doesn't matter what you think of her. She is very like in her body, which is cool. I don't need to talk to feel awkward. Exactly. That's a you problem.

Exactly. I wish I had that.

come around being kind of calm or what are there any Housewives franchises you guys enjoy these days that's the main one that's the only one we really watch I also I'm like you I'm for Kyle I'm kind of like she can do no wrong that's what I'm like with Kyle too yeah I just think she's at least trying and she's honest and she's trying to bring people together.

And not that she's like never made any mistakes, but I just, I feel like she's a good person at heart.

Do you think they like, you know there's that cartoon with the wolf and the sheepdog and they clock out at the end of the day and they fight all day and then they're like, morning, Fred.

But sometimes it's so mean that, like, how can you can be like, that was too far.

Right.

Intense.

Yeah.

I mean, I guess that also at the same time, you can't, you know, have a show just be like, everything's pretty good. We've done a lot of work on ourselves. Feeling healthy?

I also just like what she unlocks in Kyle. Like... kyle was having so much fun with her and like feeling i don't know just feeling i don't know i i can't even yeah who knows what she's getting the tattoos she's like it's like fun and like life affirming and and sweet and uh and leave kyle alone it's her

Yeah.

And he just doesn't stop having sex with these temptresses.

So are the tempters and temptresses just looking to mess up a relationship or are they singles looking to be with someone?

They humanize them in a good way. So they're not just there to be like, let me see if I can.

Wow.

I do feel like some people in this world have to learn life lessons by going on a reality show and having the internet go. No, that's not. Yeah. Like I, I sometimes, and maybe sometimes that doesn't even work, but, uh, Yeah, I think you would have to look at yourself as, like, universally there was, like, one response. It wasn't like, oh, there's, like, split.

Like, everyone's like, this is not a thing.

It's been around... It was on Fox and it's jumped around from...

Like real thoughtful.

And then you're like, wait, wait, what show am I watching? That's like the Jerry Springer effect. I remember I used to like watch that show and just be like, oh, and then at the end he'd be like, you know what guys, listen, be kind to each other. And I always had like a Jerry's final thoughts and they were like pretty profound. What did that Jerry through, you know? Yeah, exactly.

You didn't stop any of those fights, but, but you're right, Jerry.

Like if, if in the context of,

Probably only one. Yeah, yeah. But her name is Alexa.

Okay, I didn't understand. So you're talking about someone who talks about themselves in the third person.

When they say it, like right when they meet someone, they're like, you're just so my type.

And they're like, oh, thank you so much.

Yeah, exactly. Wow, we're really connecting, but different hair colors. I'm just more of a... So strange to me.

Chante.

Yeah. I mean, yeah. I think also sometimes like you can, you get to know somebody and you know their story and you know what, what trials and tribulations they came through. And so then you make excuses for the behavior that comes from that. Cause you're like, Oh, but I know I see their little, You know, like I see who what's going on, but there's no expectation to have them grow or be better.

You're just you're not sort of seeing that daily. You're getting this behavior towards you. Yeah. And I also think sometimes it's easier to have a clear bad guy in the relationship. If you're both really trying, then you're both going to be the bad guy at different times. And that's uncomfortable for people. It's much easier for some people to go meet with their friends and complain.

Yeah.

Yeah, I mean, it's definitely I think, you know, we both want to make it work. And when we first got together, there's sort of an element of spontaneity that That you can just sort of do like, oh, I have a job and it's over in this country. So, you know, yeah. And it become and you can even do that for the first couple of years with your child.

But once they get into school, we had a sense that when our daughter started kindergarten that we wanted a little bit more stability and stability.

She came back all the time.

Yeah.

She definitely. I didn't notice it at first, but then all of a sudden I heard you say something and I was like, oh my gosh, that's how...

Thank you. That's very nice. Yeah, I feel very lucky. Are you going to cry?

No. Yes. No.

I cry all the time. I do cry all the time. No, I think it's... Yeah, I mean, we talk about all the time how, you know, we... It's so it's a lot of work and it's a lot of fun, but it's also a lot. And so, you know, you would you would want the luckiest thing would be to be with someone who also wants to be a parent as much as you do like that.

What?

Yeah, I never wanted something like you want me to be there tonight.

Oh, right. Yeah, that's, yeah, exactly. There's definitely a difference. I never thought about it until I was a dad.

Yeah. You don't want someone like if I was like, oh, you know, her daughter. Yeah. So bizarre.

It is funny to see the reactions to a single dad at the park versus a... There's always like a...

Yeah. You know, I... we we try to limit it but she also i think i think the key is that like we talk about it with her and you know um it's not just like she's not just sort of zoned out and also she still loves going outside and going to the park and if there was ever a moment where it was like tantrum because i just need more ipad then i would feel like oh we've gone too far

I don't know.

Fridays, yeah.

Right? Yeah. And then Matlock is on Thursdays, but not these next two Thursdays. There's three episodes left starting on April 3rd, and it's like they're three really great ones.

It's so good. It's such a good show. It's so much fun. I'm having a great time.

Thank you.

It's like ghost town.

Just like pop-pop.

That's true.

You...

Mm-hmm.

I'm learning too much on the show. Where is HR? The trauma.