Mel Robbins

Being smart doesn't mean you're actually smart about how you live your life.

I think that was Gabor Mate that talked about the connection before.

It can also, to Sean's point, it can also be a trauma response, that there's this freeze.

I was tracking.

The highly intelligent here can track to what Sean's saying.

I think, like, the demeaning him is a way that you deflected.

Thank you, Mel.

You're welcome, John.

Well, so to the point on ADHD is super interesting.

The majority of women today, because women and men and boys and girls experience ADHD at the exact same levels, but women and girls go profoundly underdiagnosed because when it was discovered in the 1970s, they only studied boys.

Oh, really?

Yes.

This is going to explain marriages.

This is going to explain your sisters.

Just buckle up because this is one of those things that every time I explain it,

People go, holy fuck, that's me or that's my wife.

Holy.

And so here's the short backstory.

So they only study boys.

And when boys have ADHD, which is like a structural thing that's not working in the switching mechanism of your brain, you can focus.