Megan Falley
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Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley
And by the time that they left, like the second day, they came with us, I think, to Andrea's first radiation session ever. And then they left from there and we were crying and telling them we love them and it couldn't have been more true. So even that whole process was... just like you said, Amanda, it was like a double love story happening at all at the times.
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Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley
And they would fly in every three weeks and stay with us for three days at a time, which is actually really interesting because Andrea's chemo cycle is also every three weeks. And we'd kind of been in a
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Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley
habitual pattern of is a little bit of dread with you know finding out in those three weeks the status of the cancer but then our new friends were coming that were making this project with together and it was like the joy of having them come was eclipsing that other sort of dreaded cycle
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Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley
I just really like to be here. I live here now.
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Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley
You know, I was telling Ryan in the green room the other day, it was after a third time we had seen the movie and it was the first time that I felt like I was objectively able to be like, okay, this is good. Because the first time you watch it, you're just like, what? You're just watching yourself and it's not like you're acting.
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And you don't know what lines you're going to say because they've only taken 1% of your life and you just have no idea. And it was the most surreal experience to watch it the first time. I just had no concept. But by the third time, I'm like, that is a beautiful film. And I said to Ryan backstage, you know, I've never really... considered myself to be an interesting subject before I saw this.
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And the way I view Andrea is like, Andrea is so dynamic. They are material and they have every feeling in the whole spectrum and they're funny and they're weird. And so I was always sort of able to see Andrea as like, you would be great in a documentary, but I didn't I didn't feel that in myself necessarily until I witnessed myself through another person's eye.
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Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley
And yeah, so I don't think I could have pitched it myself and been like, here's why I'm interesting and you should film me. I didn't inherently have that. And I do probably think that there is a slice of everyone in their life that could make a beautiful film with the right eye and attention and knowing what to notice.
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Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley
But what I will say that perhaps I know documentaries don't typically happen in a year. And Ryan had told us that usually the first day is a total wash. And it was so awkward that first day. Yeah, I just, I wasn't used to it. I didn't know what to do. We were eating dinner and I was like so aware, like, chew with your mouth closed. Make sure this is really important. Don't say anything stupid.
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Yeah. It was just an awkward, you know, sort of an awkward silence. We were having dinner with our friend Steph and what they actually ended up capturing that night ends up being in the film. It's one of the funniest scenes in the film, but it quickly pivots to tears and sadness.
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I think that their team was in no way expecting that we would immediately go as like vulnerable, real, deep, exposed as we did the first day. And so maybe there's something about approaching poets who are
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Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley
more predisposed I guess to vulnerability that made us good subjects in this way there wasn't pretense we weren't rehearsing what we were going to say it's all incredibly authentic and Brandon our cinematographer our director of photography who we absolutely fell in love with he was so, it never felt like there was this big camera in our face.
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He just, he was always doing something handheld and he was just like close and intimate. He said in an interview that he wanted the camera to feel like a fourth dog, which was so brilliant. But there was just such an ease around them. I mean, I think the first night Andrea invited them into the sauna and Andrea was like weightlifting with no shirt in the sauna.
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Like there was just instant vulnerability. And I think that you can feel that through the film.
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Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley
I wonder if maybe with a different crew of people, I might have had that sensation, but I can honestly say I didn't have that sensation one second. Wow. Yeah. I felt, well, they were so instantly our friends that we just felt like, why haven't we been doing this with our friends here? And since then... Our friend Heather is in the film. She's an ex-girlfriend of Andrea's.
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Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley
She's also Andrea's manager. And since the making of the documentary, Heather's come with us now to every single chemo. And she comes to most of our appointments with us because their presence helped us realize the importance of roping in more community to it, for sure.
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I mean, Brandon is the one, the DP, director of photography, who came into most of the more intimate appointments with us because we couldn't really bring everybody in. So he was there with his camera. And Brandon and I would have a lot of conversations throughout like about he reads novels and we would talk about books and we would just, I think to have
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a third person present whose experience wasn't only Andrea cancer opened up our peripheral vision, which was so important during times like this to not just be inward, to have somebody else there to ask questions about their life and get their perspective and learn something new. And I think it just took us in some ways out of ourselves. And as soon as a third person is in, I can't help it.
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I want to make that person laugh. And so when Heather's there too now, Andrew is constantly having to like shush us because they're like, remember, this is a serious place. And there's just so much laughter when we invite another person in. Yeah. So I didn't feel territorial. It felt only like a gift to us.
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Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley
I think mostly I felt that not so much when they were here and doing the filming because we were just living our lives, but through the editing and our editor is Berenice Chavez. And I don't know how somebody does that job who sits with, hours and hours and hours of footage. Some of it's monotonous and mundane and connects it all together to tell a story in 90 minutes. I cannot fathom it.
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So I don't know if I felt anything epic in the day to day, but when I saw it all collected, what I mostly felt was Thank God I have something that I can show people so that they understand what it's been. Because you can tell people what the ups and downs feel like. You can try to put it into words, but it's really just an approximation of the thing. Yeah.
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And you can say, no, we've actually, don't worry too much about us. We've been really joyful. We've been dancing in our kitchen. We've been like loving and laughing. But when you actually, you see it, you see us get hard news and then laughing in bed. You see us, you know, have a difficult day and then dance or however it is, it felt like oh my God, I get to, people get to understand now.
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And I'm a writer. You know, I, my whole life I'm trying to write my experience in a way that people will understand and like what you said, Glenn, and like find something true enough.
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But to see it, to have the actual images and like really invite people into our home in that way without having to constantly have people in our home, I cannot wait to share it with more people, but especially the people close to me.
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I think that there's a tension in our differences that in a good way, but there's a juxtaposition of like Andrea says in the film, I am not a big worrier. I really try to just be with the moment in front of me. And my head is very rarely on the future outcome. So that's not to say if the moment in front of me is really hard, I'll have a hard time in that moment.
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But I tend not to be having a hard time in a future that doesn't exist yet, which I think is probably healthy. But that it's also extremely uncommon. And so I think
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there's just this push and pull of experience so Andrea is really good at like feeling all of the feelings through in real time like every one and it's fast and they're you know just it's a whirlwind and I am more a bit more level I think and and steady and there's something about
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Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley
So Come See Me in the Good Light is a documentary and it focuses on the last year of Andrea, my partner's cancer journey. And what has been incredible is that that sounds like just a pretty sad log line for sure. But when you watch the movie, TIG has compared it to a Will Ferrell movie because there is so much laughter. And of course, there's tears. Of course, there's hardship.
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I guess the relationship as its own wholeness or its own person and then pulled apart, I think there's something in that too. And of course, I've had my own journey with my body through Andrea's diagnosis as well that I've spoken about, but how having someone face an incurable cancer diagnosis and the threat of
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potentially not having a body anymore soon through cold water on the face of me having body image issues and how I don't want to say that small because it's not. Because it's lifelong and something I've held and carried since I was a kid and somebody told me to and a culture reinforced it. But it made the discrepancy of not that this thing is small, but that this thing should be small.
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And I think I was glad that they weaved my story in.
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about that into it side by side in case other folks and I'm sure all of us have our whatever insecurities and I hope that the telling of that could illuminate something for other people watching who weren't necessarily facing a health scare but some other issue and we all have them of living in the bodies we're living in I think about it once a day in the film like that piece of it of
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Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
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Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley
It follows us through doctor's appointments and scans and good news and bad news and Radiation, but also it's followed us through our everyday life, which includes a lot of tiny dogs, a lot of working together as artists and. a lot of love and a lot of troubles with our mailbox and just the everyday parts of life. And I do think that it's sort of impossible to write the synopsis of it.
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Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley
Thank you. Thank you.
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Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley
Thank you.
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You know, a poet with incurable cancer, it just doesn't sound like what it is. We've noticed that a surprising community that's really responding it seems to be the bros. I know. Like frat brother feeling people. And I was trying to figure out why. And I think it has a really sort of YOLO message. And I think frat boys tend to gravitate in this direction.
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Thank you. Thank you.
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Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley
A political film. It's a love story. We happen to be queer. Andrea happens to be non-binary, but the focus isn't on that. It's such a human story and such a love story. And I think anyone could watch it and see that. they have way more in common with us than they have differences.
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And rather than get it from like a free solo or a surfing movie or something, they're seeing it in two different
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Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley
And I think that's sort of something that's most important because you can invite these two people into your home via a streaming service that you probably wouldn't necessarily maybe invite into your home, you know, if you're on the other side of things and realize the commonality and the shared humanity.
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Let Our Sundance-Winning Film Remind You What Love Is with Megan Falley
And I actually think for that reason, it's so important that it gets to a larger streaming service or to more people, because I think it can bridge what we imagine as our differences and show that this, you know,
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mortality cancer death but it's not a two-party system it will happen to us all and we all have love and yeah i i think that this is the time for a movie like this to come out damn that's the way to end it that was some good language megan good language
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I mean, I think you summed it up. No, from our perspective, our friend Steph Willen approached us about wanting to do a documentary. And Steph, we're so close to Steph. And apparently she had... withheld approaching us for a year. She'd had this idea for a very long time and didn't know how we would respond.
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I have no idea why she thought she didn't know if we'd be upset or offended or just not want that kind of attention. But her partner convinced her. She was like, no, just ask. It's a good idea. And she brought it to our attention. And like you all, I think it took about 30 seconds for us to think, do we want to do this?
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Do we want to invite cameras into our homes, into doctor's offices with us, into hospitals? all of these ups and downs of moments that we were experiencing mostly alone. And it was such a clear yes so quickly, I think for a few reasons. I think we'd already done two years of cancer treatment just as us. So that so far hadn't been working.
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I mean, it worked for us emotionally, but why not add another element? And the other thing was that it was so important to us during that time. There's this quote, don't waste the suffering. We wanted to not waste the suffering. We wanted to be making a gift or a lesson or learning of this time for ourselves and
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And the introduction of the camera and knowing that we would be in an active process of turning this into art just felt like such a natural yes for us. And so they gave us a list of directors and Ryan White and Jess Hargrave were on that list. We had months earlier watched Pamela, A Love Story, which was their documentary about Pamela Anderson, which is one of those films where
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It's my favorite kind of film. You have a preconceived notion of somebody and then you learn the story of their life and then you fall in love with them and you reflect what the hell is wrong with me. Yeah. That I had those thoughts, that that was my perspective. It's my favorite kind of film. And so when we saw they were on the list, we're like, damn, we want them. We want them.
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Yeah. And they came, they flew into our driveway and we met them there. They didn't fly into our driveway. I wouldn't be surprised. I was like, wow, they're high rollers more than I thought. Yeah. They flew into the god-awful Denver International Airport and then, you know, found themselves here in their Ubers. But we met them out there and just gave them hugs. And Andrea said...
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I guess you all are going to be here when I die. Welcome to my home. And I think that, I mean, speaks to who and how Andrew is, which is immediately vulnerable, skip right past the small talk, just calm. Go for it. Small talk, allergic, probably. And they said to us, you know, one percent of we'll shoot forever and one percent gets used. So just, you know, don't think too much about it.
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One thing that was really funny is we took a walk and they were filming us on a walk and we went with Steph as well. And she had sort of forgot that Andrea and I were mic'd. And she came up to us and she goes, oh, thank God, I really like them. I was worried. And then we would just start laughing because we can see them in the distance laughing. But it felt so immediately connective.