Mary Grabinski
Appearances
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
When I first talked to the prosecutors, they said that they didn't have enough evidence to pursue a case against him. They didn't want to do anything? No, not at first. It wasn't until they got a police report stating his version, saying that I was the aggressor,
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
It almost felt ritualistic. I knew I was not his first, but I wanted to make sure I was the last.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
Pretty much my will to live. But that was just the beginning for me.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
The worst part was his defense coming at me and picking me and my story apart. Talking about what happened to me wasn't hard. Having someone, you know, question who I am as a person, question my integrity, that was hard.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
He brought a cane and came in with a limp, and neither of the other two hearings that we had did he pretend as if he was injured. You know, he walked fine.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
He did sentence a fine. He had to attend a sex offender rehabilitation program. He had to register as a sex offender for 15 years.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
He tried to sue all the prosecutors involved. He ended up suing me. He was saying that because he had to register as a sex offender, it was hard for him to get dates, and... employment opportunities.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
Fear that I, you know, the litigation could go his way and I have to pay him millions of dollars.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
It's heartbreaking because I should have been the last one. It should have ended with me.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
He went from charming to a monster in a heartbeat. Stop ignoring me! I wondered if he was going to kill me in that basement.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
And he just said, you know, we could potentially use your input on a case. I said, by all means, you know, anything I can do to help.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
The hair, the teeth, and especially, like, the fingers, the hands. I remember those hands. According to the British press, he wasn't fooling anyone.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
That was a really good moment for me. We celebrated because Nick is really good at lying. So any time that somebody sees through and them being able to call out the truth was a huge win for me because the gig was up, right?
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
It feels like a circus almost at this point, because it's just... Weird drama turn after weird drama turn.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
He's in custody. I've waited years to see him in custody, so it's going to be very sweet for me.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
It shows you how you have the power to change things. For me, it's heartbreaking because I should have been the last one. There shouldn't have been Utah women. It should have ended with me.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
While we were waiting for the hearing to start, I made myself known to the prosecution who I was, my experience with Nick. They knew immediately who I was. But I let them know, if there's anything you need, character witness, any kind of statements, to please let me know because I know Nick. I know some of the worst parts of Nick.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
Seeing him behind bars with the Utah County emblem back behind was extremely satisfying and it made me happy to see him there because he can't hurt anybody while he's there.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
I mean, we're all different, but we all have a common thread between us, right? That Nick changed our lives. It's been years. I still won't go to a restaurant with my back to the door. You know, I'm always just kind of vigilant. Who's around me? But at the end of the day, I am stronger than him. I am better than him.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
I was 19 years old. I was in my first quarter of college. I was just starting life.
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The Man of Many Faces
He told me that he was new to the area and he wanted to have friends in the area.
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The Man of Many Faces
He was extremely friendly. We hit it off and he was charming. He was so easy to talk to. He was a good listener. We had a good time. Yeah.
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The Man of Many Faces
So when he took me into the basement, I didn't think anything weird of it.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
There were a couple of times I wondered if he was going to kill me in that basement.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
He pins me up against the wall and he starts both hands going up my shirt. And what are you saying to him? I'm saying, hey, can you please get off me? I need to go to my class. Did he stop? No. He had his hands up my shirt. I just couldn't push him off me.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
He went from, you know, touching my shirt to, you know, taking my pants off and yeah. Oh, he's pulling your pants down. Yeah, he's touching himself.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
I thought for sure he was going to rape me, but I did. There were a couple of times I wondered if, you know, he was going to kill me in that basement.
Dateline NBC
The Man of Many Faces
He was begging me at that point not to press charges or to tell anybody what had happened.