Lynn
Appearances
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
I just thought you were really silly. Okay. And you were just funny.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
I really liked you. I really liked you. I feel like we met and we was just cutting up behind the bar. We had a blast. Now, we used to be getting so drunk at the club.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
I really liked you. I don't get why people feel like you're so mean or standoffish. You were always pleasant to me.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
So good. I think I want to change mine up now. That's what I just told her. I think I'm ready for a real drink.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
What really be going on? I be all in the bed and everything. You do, you do. Lynn, you be all over the house?
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
People need to be able to take their shoes off. I like taking my shoes off. People need to be able to take their shoes off.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
And see, that's my thing. I don't like to have to do it in the morning, so I just do it before I go to bed.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
I guess I'm a little biased. My friends, if you got a little situation going on, like, whatever. But I personally... Can't date someone that still lives with their parents. That's just not my thing. I want to be able to walk around in my robe. Your mama can't be coming out in the kitchen and we both in the kitchen looking at each other. Yeah. No, for me, I can't do that. Okay.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
I don't know. I'm not judging, but we probably won't date. Yeah. Yeah. I can agree with that for sure. Yeah. For real.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
No back to boy. You better know a little. I am not a fan. It's a no for me. That's why Lynn is my girl.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
It is. And all that dirt gonna rinse out of them. Yeah. Also, you're eating with your hands. Like, you don't look under your nails and see. Don't touch me with those dirty nails. Especially.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
I don't really like any man that gets on the internet and talks too much. Yeah, because why are you saying words? Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
I think it's a gay flag. But I also, I don't want you to be getting your eyebrows waxed. You don't? What if he like it a little cleaner? I guess he could clean it up. Not an arch. Just a little clean up. I kind of like my men rough around the edge. Me too.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
Like, look. We got the same friendship. I would scream and run. I would run.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
The beginning of 2018. Okay. And then funny enough, I thought she was somebody else. She did think I was somebody else. I thought she was somebody else. And I was like, so-and-so's baby mama's working here? Okay. I was like, all right. Cool. So then got to know her and then just fell in love with her. And we've been besties ever since. Just causing chaos and mayhem up there. Causing a rush.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
What about you, Lynn? Galentine's or boo? I mean, if I'm with someone, then I want to spend Valentine's Day with my man. Period. She said forget y'all. But if I'm single, then a Galentine's is nice. Right. I like the Galentine's. I love our Galentine. Yeah, we can have fun on our Galentine. I agree.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
I don't think it's overrated. I think it's one day to have a lot of fun. So... Oh, that's right. I agree. I'm here for the fun. Mm-hmm. Spicy.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
I love to go to the sex store with my guys. It's so much fun. It is fun. I've done that too. It's a time. I don't think I've ever done that. I've done that. We had a time last night. No, we had a time last night.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
I didn't know they had those for, like, the phone. The type that I use, you have to be in, like, close proximity. No, yeah, they have it in the home.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
Okay. See, see, see. I'm crying. You know, I'm really enjoying Push to Start by Tyler. Oh, yeah. That is a good song. I be in the car cutting up to that just a little bit. I like me some Tyler.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
I feel like I always saw the vision. Yeah. I used to tell you that all the time. I mean, I'm not just saying this because I love you guys, but I've just never seen anybody do it like you two. The chemistry is just different. Yeah. And you guys are funny. And so, you know, a lot of the time people do not be funny. They don't.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
Anybody that's okay with going 24 hours without hearing your voice, he's not that into you, so... Sam. I agree.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
Because part of me do feel like, damn, you don't want to see.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
I mean, she's weird for caring, but then the friend is also weird because there's just too many men on the planet. Many men.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
Thank you. That's what I'm like. I would have.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
Like, I'm just saying, though, like, you should just cut the girl off because she's weird.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
They're both weird. It's too long of a story. I'm getting mixed in between. It's just too many niggas out here. Moral of the story.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
And I'm exotic. I'm exotic. Okay, man, cuss it, girl. Oh, my gosh. She was strong. Stop.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
I do. So I do have an AV company. So if you're looking for surveillance, just total home automation or lighting control, anything like that. Just follow advanced underscore environments on Instagram. Or just go to the website. A tech girlie. You in that different bag. Thank you.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Should We Stay Married for the Sake of Our Kids?
So my question is, how do I fully commit to something academically for the first time?
The Dr. John Delony Show
Should We Stay Married for the Sake of Our Kids?
University. But basically, I've just had a lot of trouble with trying to find my career path. You know, I'm 26, and I've kind of started and quit a lot of things. And... I just really want to follow through this time.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Should We Stay Married for the Sake of Our Kids?
Um, I don't know. I've been listening to the show for like a year and I've been waiting to hear someone with a question similar to mine and it hasn't come up, but I have heard spouses of people, um, like me talking and they're complaining about how, um, sort of, uh, you know, their spouse doesn't have any dreams or ambitions and they're just kind of floating.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Should We Stay Married for the Sake of Our Kids?
So yeah, that's kind of how I feel, how I am right now.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Should We Stay Married for the Sake of Our Kids?
Yeah, that's also kind of a big fear and why I haven't really started anything yet.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Should We Stay Married for the Sake of Our Kids?
Kids. I've been a nanny for six years.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Should We Stay Married for the Sake of Our Kids?
And so I'm planning on taking child studies. And there's quite a few things I can do with that. I think it's just more the fear of
The Dr. John Delony Show
Should We Stay Married for the Sake of Our Kids?
school and um why don't you want to be a nanny anymore um i really enjoy it um i think it's just the economy right now is kind of making it tough i can't really find and keep a job okay at this point you can't find a job or you can't keep you mean you're you keep not showing up or doing a good job or people have to let you go because they don't have the money to keep paying a nanny
The Dr. John Delony Show
Should We Stay Married for the Sake of Our Kids?
No, I've been doing a great job. I've just been let go three times this year. So time to move on.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Should We Stay Married for the Sake of Our Kids?
I don't know. I've never like growing up. I never saw myself going to college university. It's not really something that anybody in my family ever really had money for. And I, Yeah, I never, you know, when kids in high school were talking about it, I just never pictured myself there.
The Dr. John Delony Show
Should We Stay Married for the Sake of Our Kids?
Yeah, I think I'm just lacking the confidence for some reason.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Picture My Husband With Other Women
Hi, Dr. John. Thanks for taking my call.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Picture My Husband With Other Women
Well, my question is, you know, my parents lived on our property and they've been with us for about a year. How exactly do I navigate setting a boundary with them to move off of our property and also kind of maintain the integrity of our relationship as it can get a little rocky with my mom at times?
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Picture My Husband With Other Women
Gotcha. Because it's kind of what's happening. I set the boundary about a week ago and I expressed to them... You know, my husband and I, the last few years has been really rough. You know, we were taking care of my husband's dad for a while who had chronic, you know, he had kidney problems and we're doing dialysis for him for two years. And then he passed, unfortunately, in the home.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Picture My Husband With Other Women
And then a couple months after that, my husband's mother got really sick. I quit my job, took care of her for four months in the home. And then she started doing better. Thank God, miraculously, she's back doing so much better. Um, but then my mom and stepdad show up and he, you know, my dad needed to have some medical procedures done to take care of some things.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Picture My Husband With Other Women
And we told them, yes, it's absolutely fine. You can stay in the RV on our property, um, until you get everything taken care of. Well, that time has passed and it's been about a year now and my husband and I really just need a break. We need our space. Um, And I just can't emotionally cater to my mom like I used to when I was a kid.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Picture My Husband With Other Women
She's literally the only person on the face of the planet I have a hard time setting a boundary with.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Picture My Husband With Other Women
Well, you know, I expressed why. And they said that they understood and the conversation seemed like it went really well. I think the hardest thing I'm struggling with is my mom's reaction because she can be extremely childish. And she decided to take a picture of my stepdad while I guess he was in bed, I guess upset about me asking them to leave.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Picture My Husband With Other Women
And she sent me a picture and then she said, you broke his heart. Like a few hours after we'd had the conversation, which I had thought had gone really well and was very understood.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Picture My Husband With Other Women
Yeah, I think I did respond, and I said, you know, it was never intended to be that way, and I'm really sorry.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Picture My Husband With Other Women
I told them that, you know, we wanted to have within the next month, you know, our own space and have you guys have a plan. But I know that, you know, they live full time in their RV. They are in very limited income. So they do have to save up a little bit and prep for where they're going to go.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Picture My Husband With Other Women
And that was the biggest thing for me asking them to leave is because I know that they really and truly don't have another home base to go to. But I just it's just not really I was getting to the point where I was feeling like this isn't my responsibility because you're in dire straits financially. Like I've helped out as much as I can. But at some point, like there's just an end to that.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Picture My Husband With Other Women
And I just can't keep doing it for them because it's been like this off and on, even in my previous marriages. The same thing kind of happened, you know, eight years ago.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Picture My Husband With Other Women
My stepdad is 70. My mom is 61. Yeah.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Picture My Husband With Other Women
Yeah. And that's the thing I've offered that. And, you know, she has got a lot of like, and this is the thing that she likes to throw on my head to make me feel sorry for her. And I hate saying it like that, but it's where it comes from. Well, it comes off from her is, is that, you know, she's had a really traumatic life and gone through a lot of things.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Picture My Husband With Other Women
And so she just states, like, I have social anxiety. I'm absolutely incapable of, she can't go to the grocery store by herself. Like she just, but she won't go to therapy. And, you know, it's been a round and round circle to where she clings to my stepdad. And like, he can't even leave the room without her, like wondering where he's at, needing him to be right there. She definitely needs a lot of,
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Picture My Husband With Other Women
like help, you know, therapy wise, but she just hasn't made that a priority for herself. She likes to use it as the, the whole world hates me. Everyone's against me and I'm going to sit in that.
The Ramsey Show
You Have to Know Where You Are Financially to Know Where You're Going
Hi, guys. I do need your help.
The Ramsey Show
You Have to Know Where You Are Financially to Know Where You're Going
Yeah, I'm hoping to get a dispute settled.
The Ramsey Show
You Have to Know Where You Are Financially to Know Where You're Going
He's not. He's not. I wish he were.
The Ramsey Show
You Have to Know Where You Are Financially to Know Where You're Going
Okay. All right. Well, the question is, I want to know if I'm a Ramsey Solutions hypocrite.
The Ramsey Show
You Have to Know Where You Are Financially to Know Where You're Going
All right. This is a second marriage for both of us. We were just married this past December.
The Ramsey Show
You Have to Know Where You Are Financially to Know Where You're Going
I'm age 58. Okay. He's age 54. We have a total of four adult children, two on each side. Okay. And I think a key thing for me was I was a single mom for 17 years. So my kids were two and three when I was divorced. And I paid maintenance and I paid child support. I carried the health care and I paid for all the incidental for my kids. I found Ramsey Solutions after a layoff. me to death.
The Ramsey Show
You Have to Know Where You Are Financially to Know Where You're Going
So the stress left me, you know, in not a great place. And I, I dug into the Ramsey plan. I bought in, I listened, I did a financial peace university and I started with a net worth of 170,000. Um, my life insurance was more than my net worth. So coming into the marriage, um, I was baby step seven with a net worth of 1.9 million. Hey, way to go Lynn.
The Ramsey Show
You Have to Know Where You Are Financially to Know Where You're Going
It was a lot of small vacations at the local park.
The Ramsey Show
You Have to Know Where You Are Financially to Know Where You're Going
Thank you. It was hard work, but it was worth it because now here I am. Right. So baby step seven. And now my husband, he came to the marriage with a net worth of $150,000. Oh, okay. Yeah. And he was one of those guys who never found that he didn't like. He had car loans. He had a boat loan. He had credit cards. He kind of had everything.
The Ramsey Show
You Have to Know Where You Are Financially to Know Where You're Going
And obviously, since we're married, we financially got into the same place. So I introduced him to Ramsey Solutions, gave him Financial Peace University. We went through that. And he's, he's come aboard. So we've eliminated the credit card debt, the car loan, um, got rid of everything. Um, I wanted going into the marriage, I wanted a prenup and this is where the dispute came.
The Ramsey Show
You Have to Know Where You Are Financially to Know Where You're Going
And I wanted the, the prenup to state that if we divorced, I wanted to the 625,000 that I was putting into paying off our residents accounted for. Now, that was if we divorced. I also asked for a death clause that states that should I die, he gets the house in the entirety. And there's no splitting it with my estate or anything like that value. There would be his, um, so it's just a divorce.
The Ramsey Show
You Have to Know Where You Are Financially to Know Where You're Going
If there was a divorce, I wanted that accounted for. And then anything above and beyond that would be split equitably. Um, and it, and it's our intent that our retirement account would remain separate. So the principle of our retirement accounts would remain separate.
The Ramsey Show
You Have to Know Where You Are Financially to Know Where You're Going
If we draw anything out to pay for things for us, that's all commingled and everything that all my, all the other cash, everything would be split.
The Ramsey Show
You Have to Know Where You Are Financially to Know Where You're Going
all of those things. He's like, absolutely. This is ridiculous. I can't believe that you're going to have, you're going to be asking for a prenup once we're married, we're married and everything should be equal. I'm like, well, it is equal.
The Ramsey Show
You Have to Know Where You Are Financially to Know Where You're Going
I'm just saying if we get divorced because I've been divorced before and I'm now 58, if I split half, which Wisconsin is a 50 50 state, I don't, I don't have time to recoup that again.
The Ramsey Show
You Have to Know Where You Are Financially to Know Where You're Going
No, we have the document now. We have it now.
The Ramsey Show
You Have to Know Where You Are Financially to Know Where You're Going
Yep, we got it drawn up. We got to a place where those were the things we agreed on. I was trying to explain like, hey, we're sharing all bank accounts. We're sharing everything. No, no, I get all that. I get all that.
The Ramsey Show
You Have to Know Where You Are Financially to Know Where You're Going
It's signed. The prenup was signed before our wedding.
The Ramsey Show
You Have to Know Where You Are Financially to Know Where You're Going
No, no, I'm still a hypocrite. Oh, were those his words? I'm not truly into the Ramsey solutions.
Wait Wait... Don't Tell Me!
WWDTM: Jim Gaffigan
Hi, Peter. This is Lynn calling from Minnetonka, Minnesota.
Wait Wait... Don't Tell Me!
WWDTM: Jim Gaffigan
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