Lucy Gernon
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
There's always somebody in the group who has been in your shoes and can share their experience or their perspective as well. And that has been an absolute game changer.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
Yeah, I agree with you. I think the word confidence is very overused. But it's for me, confidence is about having certainty in yourself and your ideas and being able to articulate that with a strong, positive energy to your audience. So I feel like that should be a quote. Because that's literally it. It's about confidence comes from within.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
So I wasn't confident, which meant I wasn't certain in myself. It meant I didn't show up and voice an opinion because I was afraid of being judged. Or... I was afraid to, like I had all these different tools and frameworks I had developed myself. And when I started my business, I would have been quoting like Mel Robbins or different people.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
And it was one of my coaches said to me, she said, what about your frameworks? What about all the tools that you've used to achieve your goals, to be a better leader, all that stuff? And I was like, but I haven't done an organizational, behavioral organizational degree. And she said, yeah, but you have life experience. So even just by having that conversation, it really empowered me.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
I have tons of different thought leadership tools that I use with my clients. And by that conversation, I'm certain in them because I know they work. So I think it's about you
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
Having certainty in your ideas, having certainty in who you are and what you bring to the table and realizing that if you're promoting yourself or sharing an idea and the intent behind that is to add value to another person, I believe you should do it. I believe you're doing a disservice to your audience if you're not doing it. So that's what I think confidence means.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
The reason I created it is because there's been such a huge change in the world. The changes over the past decade, Vince, we've obviously had movements like the LGBTQ movement. We've got Me Too. We've had Black Lives Matter. We've had the wars that are going on in the world. We've had COVID. We've had so many different cultural shifts.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
And we have a new generation coming up behind us who, by all accounts, they are not as career focused as maybe my generation, I'm a millennial. In January 2024, Harvard Business Review released a paper on the changes in executive presence between 2012 and today.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
Oh, thank you so much for having me, Vince. I'm so happy to be here with you today.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
And they looked at the differences in executives, what's expected, what executive presence means, because a lot of people, it's an elusive term. They're told they need to work on their executive presence. They don't really understand what it means. So I did a lot of research myself to go, what does it mean? When it comes to executive presence, there's three main pillars. The first one is gravitas.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
The second one is communication. And the third one is appearance. These have been in place for many years. This is what would have been needed to be a strong executive or a strong leader. Some of the biggest changes in executive presence is people are looking for authenticity.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
So in their leaders, they no longer want this kind of idea of a white man in suit being really forceful, like forcefulness would have been a trait under the communication pillar. They don't want that anymore. They want more authenticity. They want more of a listen to learn orientation rather than being forceful. And people want more respect from their leaders. Vision has become more important.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
So for leaders to really stand out, they need to have a really strong vision. And that's become more important between the data for 2020 or 2012, 2022. Also, inclusion is a huge thing. So leaders are expected to be more inclusive. And again, while I believe most people try to do their best, they don't necessarily understand inclusion. They don't understand what it really means.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
They don't understand how to be really emotionally intelligent and how to do all that good stuff. And one of the biggest things, and it has never changed, the top two traits of executive presence are Number one, confidence. And number two, it's decisiveness.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
And when I looked at the corporate world and in particular many women in leadership from my own experience doing private executive coaching with them and also in my membership 360 Leaders Club, I noticed confidence to make decisions was a big challenge for them and also a framework to make decisions.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
So I decided I'd create a course that would basically help them to make decisions, to be more assertive, to build their confidence and charisma, help them to rebrand themselves. So the course walks through there's a whole module on crafting your personal brand as a leader so that you can bring in your values, your strengths, your story. So it's helping them to come up with their stories.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
There's a module on mastering communication and gravitas. You're expected to be able to command a Zoom room now. A lot of leaders haven't really got that down yet because they're used to in-person. And then also inclusion is a really big thing and being more emotionally intelligent. Getting the balance of the masculine and feminine energy right.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
The feedback has been phenomenal, in particular on the confidence and decision-making.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
Lots of twists and turns for sure. Everybody in life. So, yeah. So my name is Lucy Garnon and I am a triple certified multi-award winning executive coach.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
I remember when I first started my business, I was coaching some people who would have been at maybe lower levels in the organization who just didn't want to progress, who just didn't have the drive or the ambition. And personally, I found that really frustrating because they were hiring me to help them at the time I was career coaching.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
to figure out their career path, but yet they weren't really willing to take any action. That's absolutely their choice. What I learned from working with my non-IDO clients is who my ideal clients really are. When somebody invests to work with me, I really take it seriously. I want them to get the results.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
And it was super disheartening sometimes to see people not using the tools, not taking the action. But what I learned from that is it's not any of our jobs to fix somebody else. They have got to do the work. And so what that taught me was to really seek out my ideal clients, which would be women who are ambitious, who are driven. who are ready to put in the work for themselves.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
And I know who they are now because I've worked with enough of them to know who are the action takers and who aren't. Because unless you're willing to take action, nothing is going to change.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
And I work with women in leadership roles to support them to achieve their leadership career goals with more confidence without sacrificing work-life balance, work-life harmony, work-life blend, whatever you want to call it, because it really is possible. And the reason I started my business is, like you shared, I'm from Ireland. I studied biotechnology.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
Sure. Yeah, so my ideal client is a woman in senior corporate leadership or a female founder who is scaling her business. So this woman would be maybe at a director, senior director, vice president, senior vice president C-level. And they have big ambitions and big goals and they're very driven to advance their careers.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
And usually the thing that's blocking them is confidence to actually take action. They usually don't like conflict. They usually are in this pick me energy, waiting for opportunities to come and feeling like maybe they're not good enough. They might be doubting themselves in terms of their capabilities and they may be thinking about
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
maybe quit in the corporate world because they feel like they can't make it or they may be feeling super frustrated that their peers are getting ahead and they're still stuck. They want to be the best leaders. They want to be taken seriously. They are impact driven. They really want to make an impact in the world.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
but they don't have all the skills and tools they need to lead their teams effectively. They may lack emotional intelligence, which is all these soft leadership skills are absolutely crucial for career advancement.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
And that's the stuff that I work with them on would be giving them skills and tools to actually be more emotionally intelligent, to lead their teams more effectively, but more importantly, to really lead themselves be able to manage their emotions, to be able to show up with confidence and certainty.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
And so that's my ideal client is somebody who's working towards either a promotion or somebody who's just been promoted and wants to make a huge impact in their industry and in their organization.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
Yeah, great question. So firstly, I'm not threatened by AI at all because from a coaching perspective, I believe it can only actually enhance our services. Harvard actually did an 85 year study where they were trying to really look at what was the most important factor in determining our happiness in life and in our longevity of our life.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
And what they found was they basically followed 700 plus people from adolescence to old age. And they studied, they were trying to study happiness. It's the biggest positive psychology happiness study ever done. And what they found was that the number one thing that made them was the most important factor in determining happiness is actually the quality of our relationships.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
So I don't believe, I know AI will never replace a human relationship, which is why I think coaches don't need to worry because as humans, we're always going to want connection with our human. It's literally hardwired into our DNA. I believe AI can help us. I use AI all of the time. For example, I mentioned I have my coaching frameworks.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
I might have a vision or an idea for a framework and I'll use AI to say, hey, I'm trying to come up with this tool for making a career decision. Here's what I'm thinking. And can you help me make this better? Or can you give me a different word for this? Because I want it to fit into an acronym that's easy to remember.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
I was actually a microbiologist for a long time. I worked in the food and beverage sector for a while. And then I spent the majority of my two decades in American multinationals, primarily in the pharmaceutical industry. And I ran the microbiology department on a sterile manufacturing site. I had a team.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
I believe that AI, working with AI as opposed to working against it, is going to really be super powerful for coaches because we can create content and tools and frameworks that are going to be better, which means you can better serve your clients and your audience in that way.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
You're so welcome. You are so welcome. Thank you so much for having me, Vince.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
I was involved in a lot of managing teams across different time zones and trying to coordinate stakeholders across different time zones and things like that, trying to get projects over the line and run the day-to-day operations as well. And while I absolutely loved what I did for a certain period of time, I always knew I had so much more to give.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
So I always wanted I was even though I was a scientist, my passion was always people. And I've been told like there's a story from when I was seven years old. I'm a Catholic and I remember we have the first Holy Communion where you get dressed up in your pretty white dress and you go up to the altar and all that good stuff.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
And I was asked to do a reading at the ceremony and there was a boy from the other class and he did the first reading and I did the second reading. And I remember even at that time being like, I wanted to do the first reading. Why is it that it's the boy that gets to do the first reading? He was really nervous. And actually, the teacher recruited me to motivate him. He was so nervous.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
He didn't really want to do it. And even from a young age, I always wanted to help other people. So I remember being in my pretty white dress and he was looking at me terrified to go on the altar. And there's a video of me smiling and nodding at him. You can do it. Go do it. And he did it. So from a young age, I always wanted to empower and support other people. But I fell into science.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
So long story short, I spent my career in the pharmaceutical industry and I noticed a few problems when I was there. Number one, a lot of leaders, while they may be very technically competent in their field, there's been a huge change and a huge shift in terms of what's expected today in leadership.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
And there's a lot more expectation of leaders to be inclusive, to be real, to be authentic, to all of this stuff. And I noticed there was a lot of conflict happening There was a lot of women in particular too who weren't really owning their value and they knew inside that they could maybe climb the ladder and get up to those more senior roles.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
But I'd see them people pleasing and playing small in front of certain dominant characters. And then in other meetings, they would be completely different. And I had personally struggled with depression, anxiety. I had been a total people pleaser myself. I didn't want to rock the boat with my superiors.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
I certainly would never have gone on camera or spoken on stages or anything like I do right now. And I had done all of this work myself through going to therapy, working with coaches and all that stuff. So in the end, bringing in all of my corporate experience the challenges that I saw other leaders, other women in leadership facing.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
And knowing I had this gift to inspire people, I had all of these frameworks and tools I had created myself that had helped me along my journey. I decided to basically start my business, which was the scariest thing I ever did in my whole entire life. But it's paid off. So that's it in a nutshell.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
and voted? I suppose I had always had this burning fire inside me that I knew I was capable of more. But of course, we all have inner critics, some people louder than others. And my inner critic was so loud. I didn't think I was good enough. I didn't think I was smart enough. I thought other people knew more than me. And as a result, I played small. And
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
What happened was in July 2020, so this time, literally actually this week, I think it was four years ago, I was in the kitchen with my husband and he got a phone call. I'll never forget to say that his dad had gone into hospital. His dad had like a pain in his shoulder and his dad was a painter. He was 66 years old. He was full of life and vigor and youth, really good fun.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
Somebody you could have a drink with and have a good laugh with and have dinner and stuff like that. And we didn't really think much of it, but it transpired that he actually had an incurable brain tumor. Within six weeks of his diagnosis, he had sadly passed away. And it was in that moment when my father-in-law Richard passed that I realized that I had been living my life to please other people.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
I was afraid to really follow what I wanted to do because I was afraid it wouldn't work. We spoke off air that I've got three children. Jayden is 16. Sarah Mae is 12. Kate is 8. I have a husband and a mortgage, but obviously we're equal partners in the marriage and Trying to make a decision about, I can't start a business. I haven't got an MBA.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
I don't know how to run a business, even though I'd run areas of business in the corporate world. I wasn't sure what to do. It was a huge risk. But when my father-in-law passed away, it really made me realize you only have one life. And you only get one shot to follow your dreams. And I believe each and every one of us are here for a reason.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
We're all here to experience something in this life, to add value, to have an experience, to do something. And what I've learned is that when I always had a desire to start a business, I actually tried to start a business 16 years ago, an event planning business, but I didn't know what I was doing, so it didn't really work. I always had a desire to be an entrepreneur.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
I always wanted to work for myself, but I didn't think it was possible. And I want you to know, anyone who's listening, that anything is possible when you Set your eye on your intention when you get crystal clear on what you want and when you take imperfect action.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
So I'm all about imperfect action, which is we can't wait for the time to write to have the conversation or for the mortgage to be paid off before we do the thing that we really want because tomorrow is not guaranteed. So I believe that you need to tune into your head, heart and gut. Listen to your inner, your soul, your inner calling. Why are you here?
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
And follow the path that it's trying to lead you on. And I think I'm living testament to the fact that fast forward a couple of years into my business, we had won, we had been nominated for 17 different business awards. We won four, including Best Startup of the Year in 2022. I've been featured all over the media, including big publications like Forbes.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
I have a full host of different Fortune 500 companies that I work with, Google and Pfizer and women from all the big brand names. And I've created something. I have a team of seven people supporting me too, part time. And I've created something that was beyond my wildest dreams that I really wanted but didn't think was possible.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
In terms of my move, it wasn't an overnight decision. In my story, I probably made it sound like I quit. It was very strategic. So I would advise anybody who is thinking about quitting, there's a few things you need to know. The first one is you need to be highly driven. I'm a highly driven person. And if I set my mind to achieve something, I achieve it. I've always been that way.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
And I think if you've got that kind of mindset of I have grit, I have resilience. I didn't have resilience, by the way. I think you need to be very resilient if you're going to step into entrepreneurship because you hear a lot of no's. There's a lot of setbacks. But I think it's really important that you have a drive and that you have a vision and a mission that are bigger than you.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
I had a vision of a world where there were more women in senior leadership, where there were more women at those big, those board meetings, those C-level meetings, making decisions in tech companies and STEM industry and pharma and all the big financial companies that rule our economy, honestly. And a lot of those decisions are still being made by a board of white men in suits.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
I saw a lot of leadership teams. really working in silos, creating awful toxic workplaces for their employees. When they're dealing with different time zones, a lot of people are dialing into calls at 1am to accommodate time zones and nobody has the
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
I think we haven't been taught skills and tools, Vince, to handle conflict, to set boundaries, to collaborate, to say no, but also to support your colleague. I'm really good at conflict management, leadership, all of that. I started small, so I started as a side hustle. So I said, right, in September 2020, I started coaching and I did the course and I started coaching straight away.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
And then for the next 18 months, No, sorry, for the next 13 months, I started doing it on the side. So I was coaching in the evenings. I was coaching at the weekend. I was testing the waters to see, was there a market there? Was there actually a demand? Could I actually get paid to do this kind of work? I did a lot of market research. I did a lot of business courses.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
So I really upskilled myself while I was still working in the corporate world. I saved some money. I didn't have a lot of money, but I knew I got to a point in October 2021 when I just couldn't do it anymore. I knew I could make it work. I had enough kind of social proof behind me. I had testimonials and things.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
And then I left at Christmas that year and I went full time in my business in January 2022. So it was a journey to get to that place. And you can absolutely do it once you have a strategy. And the best thing I ever did was invest in coaches and mentors to support me. So I invested heavily, like I've invested, I think, over the last couple of years.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
I'm afraid to even say the figure, but I've really upskilled myself in investing in mentorship, coaching and different courses. to get me where I want to be faster. So I think if anyone is considering a career change, I think don't be afraid to invest in yourself. Smart people hire other people who are where they want to be to show them the fastest, easiest, quickest way to get there possible.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
Because if I can get a shortcut and I can pay somebody to do it, that's what I'm all about. So that's my advice.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
Great question. So I've invested heavily in different coaches and mentors, and each of my different coaches has taught me something different. When you want to undergo a coaching certification, you change. So I always say there's Lucy before coaching and there's Lucy after coaching. And the biggest thing I learned from my very first coaching course
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
was to love myself, was that I had a lot of limiting beliefs from childhood that were holding me back. My childhood conditioning was the reason that I didn't feel good enough, that I didn't feel smart enough. And I was able to learn tools to overcome that.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
I specialize in mindset work as well, so a big part of what I do with my old clients is it's motivation, it's mindset, it's the confidence to actually take the action. Because without having, without my coaches, there's no way I'd be where I am today. They helped me, they gave me the encouragement, the motivation and the tools to move forward.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
And then the other thing I did was I had my coaches and mentors, but I also joined like mastermind groups.
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#177 Lucy Gernon: Why Confidence Isn’t About Being Loud (Or Quoting Oprah)
and memberships so I've been in a number of different peer-cured groups of other female entrepreneurs who are either at my level in business or they're a little below me or they're earning multi-millions and through being in those communities it's been a game changer because you're around like-minded people who really understand the challenges you're facing