Lindsie Chrisley
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
I do. Yeah. Yeah, I do. You guys have probably experienced some of that with other cast members. You guys can probably relate where certain people get more airtime than others and, you know, it's like... okay, I've put in X amount of time, so I should be getting that too.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
I believe it was season five, the producer that I worked with on the show had come to me and my ex-husband, now my ex-husband, he was not my ex-husband at the time, but came to us and asked if we would be willing to take some of the episodes for storyline B. And because they had it set up like storyline A and storyline B for every episode. Really?
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Yeah, that's way different. Actually, I want to talk about that with y'all in just a second. So my dad was not okay with that. He was like, no, we're not going to do that. We're going to continue running things the way that they have been running. And so... it just never felt truly authentic to me because my husband wasn't involved and that was my life at the time.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And so when I'm not showing that part, it almost allowed me to live a double life.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
It perpetrated that in a sense because it was like, I'm doing all of these things without my husband and then I'm going back home and it's a completely different life than what I'm doing on TV.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
what are these intentions are they pure are they not that would like literally that would drive me nuts so for the biggest portion of the show that i participated in was around 20 between 2015 and 2017 i filed for divorce for the first time in 2017 and took my son his name's jackson to nashville and lived with my parents for a little while oh and was still actively filming
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
that did feel most authentic to me because I was there every day. Right. And my parents were walking through what I was going through with me every day.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Or was that... Me telling my parents that I was going to get a divorce? Yes. And then I kind of want to speak on how we did our interviews. And I don't know... Y'all do... What is it called? Like the selfie... We do like diary camps. Diary camps. Which I love y'all's diary camps, by the way. Yeah. We did not do it like that.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
So to answer your question about covering it on the show, they did a scene in my parents' living room with me walking in and telling them that I was getting divorced.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Oh, in the legal stuff? No, I was not involved.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And that was very hard for me because I felt like... Everybody else got to do the fun things on the show that weren't heavy. And then to have me go in and tell my parents that I was getting divorced, it just always felt like I was a part of a heavy story.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
I was not involved in that. It was just them. None of the kids were involved. I mean, involved in the sense of going to trial and stuff. We were all there. But as far as the legalities of the situation, my parents were indicted.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And that just made it really, really hard. So... I always ask production, hey, like when we are doing these heavier scenes, can we please schedule the interviews that are consistent with these scenes that you guys are going to need during that week? Because once that scene is over... emotionally you go through all these emotions and especially with like divorce, right?
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
So I was so back and forth with my ex-husband that I didn't even really know if it's what I wanted. It felt like it was the right thing that I needed to do. And I knew that I needed to make some type of forward progress. Right. So even if it was the wrong choice, at least I was walking through those emotions and it didn't feel permanent because it's like, okay, well, this is just a divorce filing.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
If I really don't want this, I don't have to follow through with it, but I'm going to see how I feel once I file for it. I leave, we're disconnected, all of these things. I go and do this scene and it's not until seven days later that they filmed the interview and I I'm already like, I don't think I want to get divorced.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Yeah. You need to catch it in the moment. Like not. Yeah. Like the diary cam, I feel like would have been great for something like that to kind of follow the, the following days of that instead of doing a sit down interview. And so I get into it with production because I'm like, I'm not in the same place as what I was when I did that scene.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
and therefore this does not feel authentic, and I'm a fraud for coming on here and saying what I am currently saying so that it matches with this scene. Yeah, because now I'm lying. Now I'm lying.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
I don't. I think some of... Just my actions, my mindset, the life that I was living versus what he was living was just not aligning. And do I think that we would be divorced today if I never got into entertainment? No, I don't think we would.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
But I think because I did the TV show. That started separating our lives. He was living a corporate life, doing all of the corporate things. I had a little bit of resentment for that because I'm like, if this TV thing goes away, he has built like all of these years in the corporate world. And then I'm going to have nothing.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Yeah.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
So then there was like resentment that was starting to build there. And I traveled with, my son went with me everywhere for filming the show until it was time for him to start kindergarten. So not only was I filming the show, I was taking him everywhere with me.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And so that's a lot, a lot of resentment that was being built. And then when I started the podcast, it was okay at first because I was home more. Yeah. Um, and I do feel like I had more control over what I was doing, but at the same time, it still was a division of like our lives didn't, they no longer aligned.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
He did.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Okay. Good. He was in full support of me doing the podcast. He was not in support of me doing the TV show at all.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
At all.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Yeah, he did not. It sounds very toxic.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
divorce. My parents divorced whenever I was six years old and they had a very toxic divorce. Like they still hate each other today and they've been divorced for like your biological mom. Yeah. Okay. And I think just like from that and knowing that I wanted, I put so much pressure on myself in my marriage from never wanting to be my parents in that situation. And
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And then watching my marriage like slip away because I'm choosing to be on this show with my family and then wanting to fit in with my family but also wanting to be the wife that I needed to be to my husband, I did feel like pulled both ways.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And I don't necessarily think that they – I don't think if you asked my ex-husband today, do you feel like you were pulling her? He would probably say no. If you asked my parents today, if they felt like they were pulling me, I think they would say no. I think it was an internal struggle that I was dealing with trying to participate in both of those things in my life.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
No.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
No, but I think that they were just in such different life phases than what I was dealing with. So my sister was still in high school. Okay. She did the show until 2022 or 20. Also not that long ago. Yeah. Wow. Yeah.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Wow.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Yeah. I would say known in Atlanta, my dad as a businessman was known. But as far as like thoughts on TV was never, like we never saw that coming.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Yeah. It just went on for a really long time. Wow. Yeah. I mean, yeah. So I think that they were just in completely different life phases. Um, they weren't having to navigate a marriage and it's very different navigating a marriage than it is being in a relationship with someone. Right.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And so when they've had boyfriends and girlfriends that were appearing on the show, that's very different than, um,
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
trying to raise a child in a marriage living in another state yeah right you know so are they so and you said you don't talk to any of them anymore and is that because they like do they what are they blaming you in any kind of way for like pulling out and saying that was or what what's the reason for the estrangement i think that there's just a lot of resentment there was a scandal um that i was involved in that was a sex tape scandal
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
I know. I feel like I haven't seen y'all since New York City like years ago.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And then you watch it and you're like, that was not.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Okay. Yeah. Lay it on me, girl. Lay it on me. The tea. So, yes, when my parents were indicted in 2019, a couple of days after they were indicted, I was contacted at roughly, it was like 4 a.m., 3 a.m. from TMZ. Oh. And they were like, hey, we have a police report that you filed regarding threats for a sex tape.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Because I had been made aware.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
So I went and per my attorney's advice. Yeah. He was like, go and file an informational report in your County. Like you don't need to do anything with it, but if anything does come about this, at least it's documented. So it's not like you're backtracking on something to say, Oh, well I was already knowledgeable about this. Let it be known on paper that you were knowledgeable about it.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
There was no charges that I was trying to press, like nothing like that. It was just strictly like an informational report that I had been made aware of.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Yeah.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Yeah, exactly. Yeah. You're on it. So. I get contacted. I'm assuming that what happened is that once my parents were indicted, they started looking into all kinds of stuff. And people started leaking stuff to media outlets. TMZ got this. And I shit my pants. Yeah. Because I was like, oh, shit. I only filed this as an informational report. Like, I never wanted anybody to know anything about this.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
My dad went to New York Fashion Week and became friends with someone who was in the business of pitching shows for networks.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
While I was separated from... My now ex-husband, I dated a guy who was on The Bachelorette.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Mm-hmm. I spent the night at one of my ex-best friend's house. She had a dog cam in one of the bedrooms. Weird.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Yes. And supposedly was trying to shop a dog cam video of me and him. He had just come off of JoJo Fletcher's season of The Bachelorette. He was the runner-up of that season. And I think because I was still on the show or had just recently been on the show and he had just come off that season that I don't know, somebody maybe thought they were going to make money off of this. Right.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And that's how it came about.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Well, she claims that she never had the video. That's what she told the FBI because we were all interviewed by FBI.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And she became privy to like a lot of family stuff that was going on in the intricacies of the family and the dynamic. And so he was asked if the family would shoot a sizzle reel and had no idea about anything about TV. So he's like, you got to tell me like more about this information. At that time, I was not even in communication with my parents. Oh, okay. How old were you about that time?
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Okay. She claims that she never had the video and that if she did ever have the video, then it would have been deleted because it was on a puppy cam that she had for her dogs in her house. Um, and that it deleted every like 30 days or something.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Yeah. Yeah, exactly. Um, that story just doesn't math to me.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And so I, I went to the FBI because I was like, Hey, if there is something like this out there, I need to know about it. Like I have a child. I've also now reconciled at this point with my ex-husband. Oh. Oh, gosh.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Yeah, we got back together.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
I don't need this shit.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Him seeing me having sex with someone on a fucking puppy cam video. Right. That's not healthy for anybody. Him, you, your child, your family. Nobody. No. So I go to the FBI and I'm like, hey, this needs to be fully investigated. And if there is a tape. There does not need to be a tape. I never consented to a tape. I never knew that I was being videoed on a tape.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Like, was I having consensual relations? Absolutely. But was I consenting to anybody filming anything? Absolutely not.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
So they kind of called all parties in. Everybody had a very different story. Local law enforcement called multiple people. Multiple people then got attorneys involved, which is very much a red flag.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
When you say you're going to come in for an interview with the police and then the next day you have an attorney call and say your client's not coming in for an interview, that tells me that there maybe was something. Yes.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
So all of that was transpiring. Um, media catches hold of all of this. So my parents have this indictment that's come down and now there's sex tape and this is within days of each other. So, yes, it caused a huge divide in my family and I just wanted absolutely nothing to do with it. I'm like, I just want to do my podcast.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
But you're being paid, so that is a cost that like... comes along with it, right? Yeah. If you were no longer being paid by Teen Mom, would you want it to be a little bit more silent and less people talking? Or would you be okay with people doing the same stuff that they do now with you guys actively on TV?
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
I'm done. Yeah, done with it. And that's how I felt.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
I'm like, if you want to tune in to my podcast because you liked what you saw on Chrisley Knows Best or you followed me because of that show, and I will always give credit to Chrisley Knows Best regardless if I liked it or... I didn't and have mixed feelings about it. There was good that came out of it, right?
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Oh, yeah, that's right. Remember we sat on that porn couch? Yes.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
I would have never had the platform to be able to do the podcast or ever be able to meet Kiel if it wasn't for reality TV. So I will credit reality TV for that and my launching point.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
But it was toxic to me and I would never want to be involved in that ever again. I love the way that you guys film. And I told Kale that from the time that I became friends with her and became aware of how y'all's production is. Yeah. Y'all's crew is so much smaller. Yeah. Yeah. Um, and you guys document it as a docu series style and you also do the diary cams, which I love.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And I think it brings like the reality aspect to reality TV.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
I was in a sophomore in college at that point. So I guess what, like 19, 20 years old. My parents, I grew up in a very religious household, very conservative household. I lived at home for one year, my first year of college. And my dad had made a deal with me that if I got my grades and was able to maintain my college life, aka not drinking and not sleeping around, then they would buy me a condo.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Well, and even, even though it's hard filming a docuseries because there's so much real to that and emotions to that, right? That we kind of, were able to manipulate and avoid in the way that we filmed, at least you're filming actual truth. Right. Right. And it's authentic and you can look back on it and say, you know what? It wasn't my greatest moment, but it was honest. Right.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And it's just what was really happening in my life. Yeah.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
I just went to my local police department.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
I had an attorney at that point because I'd already left Chrisley knows best. So I had to hire an attorney to get out of my contract because they did not want me to be able. I don't know if it was, I don't want to blame anyone on this podcast, but I don't know who was responsible between the production company network family, um,
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
They did not want me to be able to use my last name in anything else business related. That's my last name. Not on the show because they were claiming rights to that last name. And so I had to hire an attorney to fight for me, for me to be able to use my last name on coffee combos.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
That is ridiculous.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
It was from TMZ, right? No. No, because they got the report.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
My dad actually told me.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Yeah. Your dad told you that what? That there's a sex tape out about you? How did he know? That my ex-best friend had reached out to my brother to let him know and tried to sell it to him. To your brother? To your brother? What the fuck? Yeah.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
No, because we were not in contact at that point.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Like, that's mind-blowing. I think with TV, there was always somewhat of issues because it was a blended family. And I think that there's always going to be issues when a family is blended and the work's not done. Okay. When you do that, right? Right. That's actually been a really hard problem with me with dating and being so intentional about people who also have children.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Like, could I put myself in a situation to fully blend this in the way that it needs to be blended for this to be able to work? Because it's not the same as having biological children. Right. Like, you guys have biological children. Yeah. You only have biological children and you are married. Right. It would be different.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And so I think that my parents got divorced when I was six years old and both of my parents were already with someone else by the time their divorce was final.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And there was already a child on the way.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And so... While I don't think, I don't, I don't hold any resentment towards my parents who are doing that because I try to put myself in their shoes and I'm like, you know what? They were just truly trying to like move on and do the best that they could with what they had to do it with at that time. Would I make the same decisions? No, because I haven't.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
But also, would I have made some of the same decisions that they made if I didn't have that trauma from that? Yeah, right. No, exactly.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
To comprehend, like your brain's not developed enough to be able to comprehend what's actually going on. So it was almost like a family was split and then other families were created within that split simultaneously.
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And then it's, I always say kids are collateral damage in a divorce, right? Because Parents are going to move on, right? Like you get divorced inevitably. You're eventually going to move on, might not be immediate, but you're going to move on and you've got the kids there that are stuck between those parents. Yeah. And that's hard.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Not at all.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
No.
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I did. I have a very different relationship with her because she did not raise me and she was not in my everyday life. That was my question.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
So I kept up my end of the deal, go into my sophomore year, parents buy me a condo, and I started letting my boyfriend sleep over. And my dad found out about it. And he was like, that's not going to happen. So I made the decision for my own life. I'm an adult. Yeah. I'm doing this on my own. I went to school completely on scholarship. My parents paid nothing for that.
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So she was in my life pretty consistently until I was in fifth grade. And we're originally from South Carolina. So my dad relocated to Atlanta. And at that point, I hardly ever saw her. If it was, it was like on random weekend. So he had primary custody. And it was just like we were like this whole new family, right? Wow. And that's very hard.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
I think that my brother probably turned to substances when he got older because he could not deal with the trauma. Maybe that was his coping way. Yeah. Not to excuse it.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Oh, there was.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
There was a custody battle. I don't know if you guys are familiar with custody situations, but there was something called a guardian ad litem that was hired. Yep. And ultimately they decided that my dad's home was the better home for us to be at.
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So I don't know the complexities of that situation. Again, I was only six, seven. A tiny little child. Yeah. So I don't really know what was going on. I only remember like this woman coming to both of my parents' houses and watching my parents individually like interact with us. Hmm.
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And then we would go off with her and she would, you know, like ask us questions or like take us to get ice cream or whatever. And it was, it felt like a long period of time, but I don't really know if I understood the length of time at that point. So it could have been like a month. I don't know. Um, but then ultimately it was decided that we were going to live. With my dad.
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Yeah. So when I finally was able to fully address it with her, because I never wanted to address it with her until I was ready to do that. I was not willing to have conversations. That's your right. That's your right. frustrated and mad and hurt. Yeah. Because I think every child wants to be with their mother.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
That's actually why I loved y'all's story on Teen Mom with Carly because I just feel like that's such a healthy decision as hard as that decision is to make. If you cannot raise children in a healthy environment and you're not ready to do so, it is best for them to go somewhere where they can be fully healthy and whole.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Yeah, she very much stepped away, I think, and accepted defeat.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And that was hard for me to come to the realization whenever I did. And I didn't until I was like 20 years old. Wow. I don't know if it was that I didn't want to know it or I just like wasn't ready to accept it or maybe not ready to address it.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And I think that a lot of people.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
I could never imagine being in that situation now that I am a mother, but I also give her a little grace just knowing the dynamic of the situation with her and my dad. And I feel like she has done her time in the sense of dealing with the trauma that I have and my brother has. She's had to deal with that in very different ways. Oh, I bet.
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Um, some legal issues, but not substance. Okay. So he's sober as far as I know, he's sober, but there have, there have just been things like that she has missed out on so much in life. And I had to accept through therapy that because she missed out on those things, she can never get them back.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
No, there was no.
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And relationship that I think that she longs for today is something that she forewent then.
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And those are just things that once it's gone, the time's gone. You know, it's like I'm never going to be seven again. Right. Right. Never going to be 13 and starting my period.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
No money for school. I was the first child in my family. Actually, I was a first generation college student. Oh, wow. Good for you.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
I was and she was a very good stepmother and she stepped in in the ways that my dad allowed her. But I do hold a little resentment towards my dad for him not allowing her to be the mother to me that she could have been because he definitely had parameters.
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So she was never allowed to discipline us. So if we ever did anything like... Let's say we were out shopping or something and she had all of the kids. If I did something, then it was a required call to him or for him to address it. Whenever I got home, she was never allowed to take that on, which made me automatically... And I don't think he did it. I think he felt like, okay...
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these are my children and I want to be the one doing that. But I don't think that he realized during that time, because I think he was still growing. I mean, he was 21 whenever I was born. I think he was still growing just like I was a growing kid. Right.
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And so I think if he did it differently now, he would be like, I would have allowed her to do that because then Lindsay would have felt like she was a part of the other kids. But when she's reprimanding her birth children and then not me.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And so it was very important to me. And I moved in with my boyfriend at the time, which then became my husband.
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And then I have to go home and then deal with my dad. It just felt like a divide.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Like, damn, you know, it's like everybody says from the South, wait until dad gets home. Yeah. Yeah. like there is no worse fear yeah other than the fear of god right right then dad coming home my dad's name's todd i always say the fear of god and fear of todd like yeah okay so how many um uh between your you know your biological mom and your and your dad how many kids do they have together
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
So wait, so your dad kicked you out of the condo also? Or did you just decide to leave? I decided to leave. I knew that that was coming because I was not going to change my lifestyle or anything that I was doing. So inevitably that was going to happen. Yeah. So I just, I guess probably that was me trying to control my own destiny, I guess. Which I get, yeah. Right, of course.
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Just me and my brother.
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The other three are with my dad and my stepmom, but I don't really know. Like she's my adoptive mother. I know. Even though she is my stepmom, she, she did adopt me.
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Or is that a hard thing for you? It is a hard thing. I felt the need to do it. I didn't do that and make that decision to get adopted until I was an adult.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
I was 19 years old whenever I did that.
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Because I don't believe that my biological mom would have ever agreed to that outside of me being an adult to make that decision on my own. Yeah. And it felt at the time that I did it, it felt like I was for the first time in control of something in my life and made me feel like if I do this on paper, my birth certificate will be destroyed. So all of my stuff will look exactly like the other kids.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And we will all be just one. Right. But it never, nothing ever really changed from that. Which is why I think I now hold the mentality of I don't have to ever be married again because what does the paper mean to me?
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
It didn't change anything.
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Did you ever express that to him? Um, no.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
And my dad would probably say today, Lindsay handled the divorce much differently. My brother's name is Kyle. Lindsay handled the divorce much differently than Kyle. You could tell all of the issues that Kyle was having because they were outwardly expressed, like whether it be an anger or trouble in school or substance or like whatever those things were.
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I just kind of sucked it up and was like, this is my life and I'm just supposed to accept it. And as long as I don't have feelings about it and I don't say anything about it, then it just like won't be real. That is so sad.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
It is an identity.
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It is very heavy, and I don't think that I realized the heaviness until I became a mother myself.
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And I was like... Well... He's gonna make me leave anyway... So... I'm gonna just go ahead and fucking go... Yeah... So I had two vehicles at the time... Put the keys on the... Counter... Left all the contents of the... Condo... Just took my personal items... Went to my boyfriend's house...
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She did.
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I don't think that it was necessarily aware of the complexities of the things that were going on. I think it was the defeat. And I think once it's an out of sight, out of mind situation, some people can do that, right? I would never be able to understand it because I'm a mom now, you know?
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Yeah.
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I don't know how I could ever. And it's hard to give grace in those situations when you can't understand it. Right. Yeah. It's like, it's really hard. I can't understand ever doing that. So I don't know how to give forgiveness in a situation that I can't understand.
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It is. And it's hard to have empathy in those situations because you know that it's just something that you never could imagine yourself doing. And so that's definitely something that I struggled with as a child knowing that I couldn't imagine. And I just know as a mother in a co-parenting situation where I'm sharing 50, 50 custody, right?
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stayed there for the rest of college um got married my last semester of school and got pregnant within six months of being married wow yeah how long were you with your boyfriend before like graduating how long were you with him in total before you guys well i had this great idea whenever i was going to school that i was just going to be a sorority girl like i was just going to live up this like college experience and i was just going to go to school and party when i wasn't going to school yeah
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I know that my child sometimes longs for me and it literally breaks my heart, but there's nothing that I can do about it. And I know that I'm just going to give him as much love as I possibly can when I get him next. Yeah. I could not imagine like my mom moving across the country and only seeing us on like holidays. Yeah. Oh, I would literally go insane.
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Like I don't go insane.
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I think that I probably subconsciously did, but I don't think that I consciously did. I think that I was just doing every day. I think it's, um, I think you were trying to survive. Yeah. I think kid. Yeah. I think that's probably what it was. And I don't want to say that my, my dad did anything intentionally. I think he also was trying to survive in that situation.
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And I think he had good intentions. I think he's like, okay, this is a good woman and she's pregnant. And now we have kids and we're going to be like this one happy family. And it's like these rose colored glasses. And because I saw him doing that, I never wanted to bring issue to anything. It's just like, okay, this is what we're doing. And
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Maybe was it before COVID? Yes.
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I saw something about that yesterday and it was talking about how you only know your parents as parents, right? Your whole life, they have been your parents, but they had a life before you and their whole life. They were not parents, right? Right.
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Yeah. And so I just feel like through therapy, I've been able to under, not that I can understand. I think understands the wrong word. I can give grace to that situation because my parents were just kids raising kids.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Yeah. And not that it excuses certain things and not that it did not give me childhood traumas, but it's okay.
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Because it doesn't affect me every day like it once did.
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I didn't start going to therapy until after the whole sex tape scandal.
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Um, I laid in bed for Kristen. I was like not well for, was it like six months? Yeah. Yeah. It was like six to eight months that I would literally wake up, take my child to school, get him off, act like happy mom.
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Come back home. If I had to podcast, I would podcast. I would take a bath and I would go to bed. Wow.
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Yes. You were depressed. I was. Yeah. And I didn't even know what depression was.
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Yeah. That's how I felt when I tell you that all of this stuff went down in July, August. And I woke up sometime. I felt like I woke up from July, August and October. Okay. And my now ex-husband was like, you have to get help.
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Um, I started school in August and I met him in September and then we like never broke up. So I had a boyfriend all through college and then ended up marrying him. Him and my dad did not get along at all. Really? Okay. Definitely cut from different cloths for sure.
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I don't think he wanted to hurt my feelings. It's exactly what it is. Yeah.
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Okay. I was self-aware that it was going on. I don't think I was self-aware of how much I was staying in my room and how much I was sleeping, but I was self-aware of what I was feeling. Which was? Defeat. Alone. Like I would feel if I was around people, I would still feel alone. Like I could be in a crowded room and feel like I was by myself.
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Yeah, I've always had anxiety. Yeah.
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on the podcast to know I was depressed and I had not even identified that it was depression. Like I didn't know what it was. And so Kristen, it hasn't been too long since I even identified that it was actually depression.
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Like a very new revelation and I can feel it. Um, and myself sometimes like creep back in and I'm like, okay, whoa, like I need to, I need to go to a therapy session or I need to like figure out what it get to the bottom of what's exactly going on because I never want to be back in that place that I once was.
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I think that they just came from very different... Like views and stuff? I would not necessarily say views. I think it was more so like my boyfriend was on the baseball team. My dad was not into athletics. He was a businessman. He thought that... my boyfriend in college should have been on a job.
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Mm-hmm. But I so much want to advocate for people who see somebody that is going through that to not be afraid to like help them because I can never thank my ex-husband enough for getting me help and finding my therapist because I was not able to do that for myself.
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Because y'all were at, were y'all at something for Teen Mom? We were probably there for a year. Yeah, we were there for a year. Yeah, something. Yeah. But it was years, years ago. That was so long ago.
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And I didn't realize until I was well out of like the patterns of the things that I was doing.
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like I would think crazy shit. Like I'm going to be driving down the road. Like this is no joke. And I would look at the shoulder of the road and see how close I could get to like that white line. If I was on a two, like cars going that way. Yeah.
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The first time I ever took my son to the movie theater... I walked to see from the top of the theater to the bottom where the exit doors were and timed myself on my phone to see how fast I could get out of there if someone shot the place up. I have interesting thoughts like that all the time. Crazy anxiety shit that is just...
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I mean, I guess it is sad that our world has come to some of these things. Right. And it's probably like not really that realistic or the chances of something like that happening. It's it's very intrusive.
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But why was I thinking these things? What the hell was going on?
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And his parents were like, as long as you keep your grades and you're eligible to play baseball, that's the only job that you have to have. And so I think that my dad just wanted me to be with somebody who was a working man. Like him?
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be like uh hurt their feelings yeah or be like what's something's wrong with you it's like it doesn't have to be like that Tyler I would literally get my child up and put on like this whole show like fix a breakfast do all this stuff like mom of the year drive him to school come back if I had to record I would record if I did not I would take a bath put on a new pair of pajamas and get in my bed and sleep until it was time to get him out of school wow
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Yeah. And I just, I'm like, maybe was that God, because this was after we had gotten back together. I was like, was that God saving my life? Because what if I went through this and I was alone? Right.
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And who was it that was talking about therapy? Someone was in this room last night, and they were talking about therapy and in marriages that you should start therapy before it gets bad. It's so true. It was Macy. She was talking about do it before it gets bad because once it gets bad, it's too late. Yeah. Right? And it's so hard to go back. Yeah. It's so, so hard.
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And I wish that I would have done that in my marriage before it got too late. But unfortunately, I wasn't even in personal therapy for myself. And I'm a big advocate for... being in personal therapy for yourself because when you are the best you, you can be the best you for someone else.
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But some people, like this old school mentality of people thinking that depression is not a real thing. It's like I... Dude. It's disgusting. Yeah. Like, oh, just get over it. You're fine. No. Sorry. Well, if it was that easy and I could just get over it, then do you think I wouldn't be fucking over it? Right. I would definitely do that. Yeah.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Do you think I would be in this cave? Yeah, exactly.
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No one would accept it. And saying you're weak.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
But look at how much growth has come in us just talking about it because I think about my grandparents' generation. no one talked about therapy. Like that was not a thing. It was like, you just be better.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Yeah.
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Yeah, so he owned an asset management company that was a liaison between when foreclosures happen, like the bank and then the new buyer. And so that's what his company did. They acted as the liaison to liquidate those assets. So he was very, very successful in that. And then...
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So look at us just being out here.
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I've learned a lot of things about you. Do y'all have Instagram? Like, Oh yeah. I mean, obviously like your personal Instagrams.
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Yeah. Perfect. Well, thanks for having me. Thanks. I appreciate it.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
um he was approached for the sizzle reel yeah and he was like i mean i guess we're gonna do it and of course you guys know tv y'all are veterans so i don't need to tell you anything they sell you this dream right oh yeah it's like oh you're only investing like seven days of your time something might come about something might not but it's just seven days which that part is true like they don't even know if you know the higher-ups are gonna like the sizzle reel and so then it's like
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It is. And you don't know what to expect, right? No, you don't. And so you walk into this situation and you're like, what the fuck even is this?
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
There's mics and all these cameras around and no one knows what the hell's going on and we don't know what's actually going to happen. So my dad had already been in this mindset of this show was going to get picked up. I don't think that he knew...
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
how it was going to happen I don't think he could see that far into it because he didn't know TV in that way but I think that he knew that there was enough dynamic there that someone would be interested yeah so he immediately already went into producer mode and he was like you need to take off your wedding ring because you're not going to know you're married To who?
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Um, wow. There's just been so much change since then. Um, I left reality TV. Okay. Um.
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To you?
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Yeah. So he immediately- For what reason though?
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Because he wanted it for season one. So if it got picked up, it would be storyline for season one. So he was like, take off the wedding ring. No one's going to know that you're married. You need to wear loose clothing, like loose dresses. Nobody's going to know that you're pregnant. So for this entire seven days of filming the sizzle reel, no one knew that I was married.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
No one knew that I was pregnant.
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Well, I walked from the sizzle reel.
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Well, yeah, it was a little more than that, but yeah.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Like, yeah, it was a big deal because I was now a part of four or five days of the sizzle reel. And then I walk on like day six or seven. And then I'm being threatened by this production company that they're going to sue me for $40,000. Mind you, I am just coming out of college. I am newly married, pregnant.
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And they're like, now that you've been a part of these five days or whatever, this is what we're pitching. So what we're pitching has to be consistent with what's going to be on TV potentially. Whoa. What? So I did not want to do the deal at all. I don't blame you. I was the last child to sign the contract.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
I just made the choice personally for myself to step away from that. It wasn't serving my marriage well, which ultimately ended anyway. Okay. Oh, okay. My child was getting ready to start school, and I didn't want him filmed. There was no pay for my child on that show. Oh, yeah, no. And so that just accompanied with my parents having some legal issues that were going on.
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Five. Okay. Wow.
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Yeah. So it was, it was all of us like as a collective. And I was told by the production company that it was basically all of us signed the contract or like it's a no deal situation. Oh, wow. So all of you were none of it.
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But I wasn't even a big part of the show and that's what's so crazy about it. I think that they liked the dynamic of the fact that there was always... From the time that they started filming us, there was conflict with me and my dad and we did not see eye to eye on a lot of things. So I think that they liked that dynamic.
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I have a brother that's 15 months younger than me that also deals with substance issues and pretty much always has for as long as I can remember. And so they liked that dynamic too because obviously they like filming that kind of stuff. It adds a different view, right, of things. And then three children that were still in the home. Yeah.
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Yeah. High school, two high schoolers and then an elementary school child at the time. So this is like one like older kid. Yeah. Wow. Holy shit. Yeah.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
So I ultimately ended up signing the contract and I said, I do not want this ever to change. Like there was already issues. And I said, I don't want it to ever like make any issues worse because this is now being televised. Right. Yes. So they send the sizzle reel out to who the hell knows. And I believe it was like eight networks or nine networks and we got eight offers. Wow.
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And so, um, I think Oprah's network was who came back and was the highest bidder, but there was more marketing budget with USA from what I was told. Okay. And so that's where we landed with reruns on Bravo and Eve.
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So actually it was found out before the sizzle was even done. Because again, when you aren't familiar with being on TV, when you're wearing mics around, right?
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You forget that you're wearing mics. Right. And you just speak like how you normally would. So I'm sitting in a makeup chair, getting hair and makeup. And my dad and I are having a conversation and production is listening to what's on the mic. Right. And they find out I'm pregnant and I'm married. Wow. Yeah. So it like blew up the whole spot. I did not love being on reality TV.
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And that's why Kale and I decided to start the pot. When I left reality TV, I kind of sat out six months and I was like, I need to truly decide like what it is that I wanted to do. I very much had a very traditional role in my marriage where I could stay at home.
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And I took care of my son and he went to work and came home like a very traditional life. Right. And I loved that. I did not love the idea of, I knew that it would catch up with my child at some point with him starting kindergarten. I wanted him to be out of the TV world before kindergarten ever started just because kids are, they talk, you know? Yeah.
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they say things and I watched it happen my son started kindergarten when my parents had just been indicted oh great and so little girls on the playground saying my mom knows you know who your grandparents are and we see them on the news and like all of these things so I wanted to try to remove that but I still wanted to stay somewhat in the space because I do like entertainment yeah
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But I was not okay with the idea of having a production team tell me what the actual narrative of something was that wasn't. And that's why I love podcasts.
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They went to trial, were convicted, and are both in federal prison now.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Well, and it's hard because after you have filmed something and you guys know this all too well, you film something and it's cut and sliced to benefit whatever might not even be your producer, but it is an exec that's at the network. That's like, Hey, this is what we're going to use. And it's like a snippet of a conversation and not the full picture.
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And that's why I like the podcast world because you have actual control to share everything that you want to share and it's not twisted and it's not turned and it's straight from your voice.
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Yeah, I was on it, yeah, for five seasons.
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Very minimally. He got a job straight out of college and worked nine to five. And so you guys know with a production schedule. And then my parents lived in Georgia when the show started and then ended up moving to Tennessee, to Nashville. And so then that required travel for the show. So it became very hard because I'm not there every single day. So then it became very...
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Yes.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
But she did adopt me.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Structured and storyline of this is what you're participating in instead of it being actual real life. So it never felt.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
Real. Yeah. Right. Because it's like, okay, well, you're coming here for these dinner scenes and for this play date and for this sleepover. And it just didn't feel, it wasn't authentic.
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Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley
From all of my siblings, I am. I just think that that, and it's nothing negative against them. I think that we can live in the same space in entertainment. My sister also has a podcast. Oh, okay. We can live in the same space doing the same things and not necessarily agree or align. And it's no hate. It's no ill will. It's just we don't serve each other in each other's lives.