Lewis
Appearances
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Just Found Out I Have a 27-Year-Old Daughter
Not at all. Not at all. What's up, man? So I'll just jump into it. It was a little over two and a half years ago when I last had any significant communication with either one of my parents. And it was about three, four weeks ago now that I got a letter kind of out of the blue from my mom just saying, hey, what have I done? Can...
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Just Found Out I Have a 27-Year-Old Daughter
I want to talk to you, and is it okay if I reach out and talk to your daughter? So it's her granddaughter. I mean, nobody in the family has had any communication with my parents for, like I said, two and a half years. What happened? It was a long time coming. So I was one of the guys that makes you mad when he doesn't stand up to his parents and just kind of is just kind of like,
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Just Found Out I Have a 27-Year-Old Daughter
going along trying to keep everybody happy, letting my wife take the brunt of it. That was me for the first, and I've been married now for a little over 20 years. So she beat up your wife a lot. It was never proving. Oh yeah, it was. I mean, before we even got married, she made the statement, one of these days, um, your wife's going to come between us. Um,
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Just Found Out I Have a 27-Year-Old Daughter
And it was just, it was, it was, it was bad.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Just Found Out I Have a 27-Year-Old Daughter
Yeah. It finally came to a head. So my parents live about 13 hours from us. They'd come down to visit, um, cause they do that every once in a while. So they came down to visit and then, um, we were, they came to a show. Um, my, my wife and my mom, um, at that point in time had almost no communication. Um, my wife would like cordial saying hi.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Just Found Out I Have a 27-Year-Old Daughter
And that was about it because she was sick and tired of being ripped apart. And we were trying to just like get along for the sake of, I don't even know what at this point, but they came down, watched a show, then went to, um, an archery tournament with, um, that my daughter was shooting in. My wife and son were sitting in the bleachers and my mom was cheering for my daughter.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Just Found Out I Have a 27-Year-Old Daughter
Well, the way they shoot archery in this particular event is quiet. Um, So my son just looked over and said, Hey Nana, we don't cheer. It needs to be quiet while they're shooting. So my mom thought my, thought my wife put my son up to saying something and she got mad and she pouted and sulked and just made everything really like awkward. Then the next day we had a soccer game.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Just Found Out I Have a 27-Year-Old Daughter
My son was in and my mom sat on the sidelines, crocheting and knitting for the entire game. Didn't even, didn't even look up once. Game was over. They were getting ready to leave. And my son came off the field and he came off crying. And I'm like, what's wrong? And he said, man, I didn't even pay attention. She doesn't even care. And it was building that my mom played favorites.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Just Found Out I Have a 27-Year-Old Daughter
My daughter was the favorite. And since my son was on the spectrum, man, she couldn't communicate with him comfortably. So she just kind of didn't. Um, and everybody in the family saw it. So, and, and I let it go. So I got on that one. I let it go, but it got, it came to a head that day.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Just Found Out I Have a 27-Year-Old Daughter
And I just walked up to him and I said, before we try and say this goodbye, we got to talk because my son's really upset. And at which point in time, she's like, well, what do we do? And I said, well, this is what happened. And she goes, I don't need this effing crap. Got in the car, slammed the door. Um, and then they drove away.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Just Found Out I Have a 27-Year-Old Daughter
A couple days later, I tried to have a phone conversation with my dad, and all he did was yell at me and tell me how much of a problem my wife is and how horrible of a person I am. So I backed away from that conversation, and I ended up sending him an email saying, listen, if we're going to go forward, we need help. We need to get a professional involved because we can't talk this out on our own.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Just Found Out I Have a 27-Year-Old Daughter
His response was, well, if you can't talk to me, a counselor is not going to do any good because I'm asking you the same questions they are. And I just said, that's what it's got to be. And the last message I got from him was have a good life.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Just Found Out I Have a 27-Year-Old Daughter
I mean, on a positive note, the past two and a half years. They've been amazing, huh? Absolutely freaking amazing. Yeah. I mean, I've been in therapy for a year and a half, and my wife and I, I mean, we're finally building our marriage because her parents aren't any better. We haven't had any communication with them in close to a decade after my father-in-law threatened to kill me.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Just Found Out I Have a 27-Year-Old Daughter
That'd be great, but that call will never come. I can't wait for it. No, I know, I know, I know, I know.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Just Found Out I Have a 27-Year-Old Daughter
It just said, hey, I've been going through feeling like I've lost my son. She did? Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. She did, 100%. But she also wanted to say, I don't know what happened. I don't know what we've done. I've tried to ask your dad and he won't talk about it.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Just Found Out I Have a 27-Year-Old Daughter
I realize that now, yeah. Yeah, well, yeah. I mean, I thought I had a normal childhood, but yeah, a year and a half of therapy is kind of opening my eyes.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Just Found Out I Have a 27-Year-Old Daughter
Same. I talked to my, I talked to my daughter about it and she's like, uh, she's going to have to like apologize to everybody. Before I'm interested in talking to her.