Kim Scott

Instead, I had been a silent bystander, which is not who I want to be, not how I imagined myself to be. But I had never taken into account the toll that it must take on her to have to show up unfailingly cheerful and pleasant and And every meeting we had ever been in together, even though she had what to be pissed off about at work, as we all do. And so that was realization number one.

I wanted to think about how I could be a better upstander in the future. The second thing that I realized was that not only had I been in denial about what was happening to her, I'd also been in denial about about what was happening to me in the workplace.

I wanted to think about how I could be a better upstander in the future. The second thing that I realized was that not only had I been in denial about what was happening to her, I'd also been in denial about about what was happening to me in the workplace.

I wanted to think about how I could be a better upstander in the future. The second thing that I realized was that not only had I been in denial about what was happening to her, I'd also been in denial about about what was happening to me in the workplace.

Hard for the author of a book called Radical Candor to admit, but I was pretending that a whole host of disrespectful attitudes and behaviors were not happening to me that were actually happening. And by being in denial that way, I was not able to choose a response. I defaulted to silence.

Hard for the author of a book called Radical Candor to admit, but I was pretending that a whole host of disrespectful attitudes and behaviors were not happening to me that were actually happening. And by being in denial that way, I was not able to choose a response. I defaulted to silence.

Hard for the author of a book called Radical Candor to admit, but I was pretending that a whole host of disrespectful attitudes and behaviors were not happening to me that were actually happening. And by being in denial that way, I was not able to choose a response. I defaulted to silence.

Again, not how I want to go through life, but so often I was just pretending that these things were not happening when they were in fact happening. And I think I did that because I never wanted to think of myself as a victim, but even less than wanting to think of myself as a victim that I want to think of myself as the culprit.

Again, not how I want to go through life, but so often I was just pretending that these things were not happening when they were in fact happening. And I think I did that because I never wanted to think of myself as a victim, but even less than wanting to think of myself as a victim that I want to think of myself as the culprit.

Again, not how I want to go through life, but so often I was just pretending that these things were not happening when they were in fact happening. And I think I did that because I never wanted to think of myself as a victim, but even less than wanting to think of myself as a victim that I want to think of myself as the culprit.

So the third thing that I recognized was that I had been most deeply in denial about the times when I was the one who had been disrespectful to my colleagues, making it harder than it needed to be for them to get their work done.

So the third thing that I recognized was that I had been most deeply in denial about the times when I was the one who had been disrespectful to my colleagues, making it harder than it needed to be for them to get their work done.

So the third thing that I recognized was that I had been most deeply in denial about the times when I was the one who had been disrespectful to my colleagues, making it harder than it needed to be for them to get their work done.

And the fourth thing that I realized is that I imagined myself to be this leader who creates these zones where everybody does the best work of their lives and builds the best relationships of their career.

And the fourth thing that I realized is that I imagined myself to be this leader who creates these zones where everybody does the best work of their lives and builds the best relationships of their career.

And the fourth thing that I realized is that I imagined myself to be this leader who creates these zones where everybody does the best work of their lives and builds the best relationships of their career.

But by pretending that these disrespectful attitudes and behaviors were not happening when they were in fact happening, I was not able to live up to the person that I, the kind of leader that I want to be.

But by pretending that these disrespectful attitudes and behaviors were not happening when they were in fact happening, I was not able to live up to the person that I, the kind of leader that I want to be.

But by pretending that these disrespectful attitudes and behaviors were not happening when they were in fact happening, I was not able to live up to the person that I, the kind of leader that I want to be.

So that was a big drink of water, but that was really what made me decide to take a step back and to think about what are the things we can do as leaders, as upstanders, as people who have been on the receiving end of disrespectful attitudes and behaviors, and also as people who have hurt other people inadvertently, I hope, with disrespectful attitudes and behaviors.